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    I found this on a website for a club in Souix Falls and thought everyone might enjoy it. I will be posting it at my club's chatroom next
    The Basic Nature of Dancers:

    While dancers have the same likes and dislikes as regular women they are the thoroughbreds of women. They always look sexier and smell better than non-dancers. Combine that with their open-mindedness and you have someone who is fun to be around.


    Dancers are there to make your club experience more pleasurable. They are beautiful, intelligent and alluring. Treat these gals with respect. Communicating with a diverse group of men is not an easy job, as most of us are insensitive pigs.


    Yes, dancers can be high maintenance. In the real world she could have the pick of any of us, but at this moment she is choosing to spend some time with you. If you keep her happy; she will keep you happy.


    A dancer gets "Hit On" by 300 guys a night. If the club happens to be full of insensitive pigs, she might have a shorter fuse than a night where the guys are all charming and fun loving.


    Not all dancers are created equal. If one dancer doesn't trip your trigger another might. As with any relationship, a club relationship will either mesh or it won't. When they mesh you will leave the club at the end of the night with a big smile. As with any woman, if you say something really stupid chances are she will leave you cold. If you are "On A Roll" and are fun yourself, she can be the best companion for fun around. Just remember she is working and makes her living by being the life of everyone's party.


    Something you will want to remember, she is not a hooker she is an Exotic Dancer. If she wanted to be a prostitute chances are she would not be working in OUR Gentlemen's Club.



    Club Do's:

    A Gentlemen's Club is where you put on a high roller attitude. The reason we call it a Gentlemen's Club is you are expected to act like a gentleman when in the club. Yes, you can just come in and drink, but our entertainment and excellent atmosphere are provided by the dancers. Our door charge doesn't cover the dancer's income; you share in that expense through tipping. Please take care of them.


    Tip the wait staff and bartenders, a Gentlemen's Club is no place to act cheap. If someone provides a service like making change or serving you, show your gratitude with a tip.


    Always be charming and on your best behavior.


    While we don't have a strict dress code and all are welcome, try and dress upscale. A little hint: All dancers prefer you shave that five o'clock shadow.


    If you are going to sit at the tipping rail around the stage please have some bills available to tip the stage dancers. Have them out, don't make her wait for you to pull them out! Expect to pay at least $1.00 per song while sitting at the rail. That means with three song sets you will spend $3.00 per dancer to be entertained. If you really enjoy a particular dancer feel free to tip multiple bills. That is a very reasonable amount for the quality of entertainment.


    Feel free to mention to your favorite dancer that you would be interested in a couch dance after her set. It is usually best to agree to meet at the couch room door. Don't keep her waiting and don't make her have to find you, it is much easier for you to spot her.


    A Gentlemen's Club is a great place to entertain out of town clients. Quite often you will be still discussing business while at the club. When a dancer visits your table it is customary to explain you are in the middle of a business discussion, hand her a dollar each and ask her to return shortly when it is obvious that business discussions are completed. She will understand and no feelings will get hurt.


    Usually once or twice a night the flower girl will come through the bar. Feel free to impress a lady with a rose. I know very few women who don't enjoy flowers. Don't over-do it, she would rather have couches than five dozen roses. It adds a nice touch to those six couches to buy the lady a drink and a rose.


    Extra tipping after a couch dance issue... Quite often if a guy buys a $20.00 couch and she does a really good job you might want to hand her another $5.00. It is up to you. Of course the best complement is another couch. If you really enjoy yourself it is proper to tip a little something extra leaving the couch room. Whatever you do, don't over extend yourself. This means when she says would you like "ANOTHER" means you just spent another $20.00. "Don't write checks your body can't cash."


    If a dancer joins you it is customary to ask her if she wishes a drink. It is also customary for you to tip a reasonable amount for her time while she has conversation with you. Just remember for every song that plays she could be giving someone a couch dance at $20.00 each or 6-8 table dances at $1.00 each. If you choose to monopolize her time, make it worth her while. Our club rules say she must move on within fifteen minutes, but if you took care of her she'll be back.


    While it is not our favorite thing, you may "Buy the Dancer out of Rotation". This means she is able to skip her next stage set. This must be arranged with the manager on duty with enough advanced warning to move the dancers after her up one set. Some nights this service may not be available. You will still need to tip your dancer.


    Please have fun when inside our doors. We want you to enjoy your visit!

    Club Dont's:

    The "Numero-Uno bonehead Jethro move of the Millennium" is asking a dancer, "Do you date?" They almost always respond very negatively to this question. Just incase you have been locked in a closet for thirty years, the term "Do You date?" doesn't mean, "Hey you wanna go for coffee after work and get to know each other better?" Most dancers are desensitized to stupid guys opening with that line and will shrug it off. However, if she has heard it once too many times, that quick dive under the table still might not save your sorry ass! The reason they are so insulted is, you have snubbed a very inexpensive $1.00 table dance, an elaborate personal couch dance, any conversation to get to know her, and went right to, "Hey babe are you a prostitute?" You have just lost major cool points. In all my years I have never met a girl who reacted positively to such a stupid come-on. You come to our club to meet ladies, we hire dancers not hookers.


    Don't try and HANG AROUND OUTSIDE A CLUB AFTER CLOSING. You aren't going to meet a girl outside and chances are you will meet a bouncer who thinks you are stalking his dancers. This can get very bad. You might not know this but the dancers get really scared at 2AM when approached outside. We walk our girls to the car. If you try and follow a dancer from the club chances are very good you will be arrested by a POLICEMAN who has a very low tolerance for this sort of behavior. If you can't get enough conversation that night with your favorite girl, come back the next night. Attempting conversation outside will just get you in trouble no matter how good your intentions are.


    If your conversation turns bad with a dancer, chances are Jethro, you just offended her. If you start a fight, call a girl a derogatory name or treat any of them with disrespect, expect to get ejected from our club. Treating a girl bad will get you permanently ejected. Fighting will have you thinking about it overnight in the slammer.


    Do not touch the dancers, even if it is just a quick touch. Club security is watching for touching violations, you will be warned once and the second time you may be ejected. If the dancer doesn't respond negatively or if she responds slowly she may be fined. The dancer is caught between a rock and a hard place. She doesn't want to have to tell you no, but she doesn't want it to cost her her livelihood.


    Keep your stupid comments to yourself. Making cracks about, "Man she has no tits", or "Hey look at the Gams on that one!" just confirmed your idiot status to half the bar. With loud music playing and the alcohol flowing you talk louder than you think. You would be surprised how much they overhear of this stuff and it hurts their feelings. Even if you couldn't give a rip, we do and you will be ejected from the club.


    Don't swat, grab or touch a dancer or waitress' butt to get her attention. That surely will get her attention in the most negative way and you will most likely be ejected from the club.


    Don't sit at the tip rail at the stage and not tip. Have your bills ready. If you choose to not tip a dancer get up from the stage and let a tipper sit down.


    Just because you tipped a dancer $10.00 or bought five couch dances doesn't give you the right to say lewd remarks to her. Sure you have seen her up close, but as with any woman you should always be conservative with your sexual remarks. It is uncool to "Go To Far".


    A Gentlemen's Club is the only place in the world that four quarters does not equal a dollar. It is way uncool to tip with coin in a Gentlemen's Club. If you start running short of bills but have a stack of quarters head for the cashier's booth. It is there to convert that stack of quarters into useable money. Don't ever try and tip a dancer with coins, this is a severe insult! You may need to be ejected from the club to save your life.


    A dancer is not a change maker! One of the top ten uncool things to do in a Gentlemen's Club is pull out a bill and have a dancer make change. You are supposed to be in your High Roller mode at the club, not in the stingy cheap low rent mode. If you don't want these beautiful women thinking you are dirt, walk up to the cashier booth and have the cashier bust up your big bills. Take this seriously, pulling out a five spot and asking for four in change is very uncool! If all else fails the wait staff can break medium sized bills, but for larger ones walk to the Cashier Booth.


    When men bring their wives or girlfriends to the club it disturbs the natural balance of the club. Currently women are welcome in our club. The first thing you should remember is this is a Gentlemen's Club. Women are allowed in the club as a courtesy. Men tend to resist showing any interest in the dancer's services when they have brought a woman along. It is recommended that you have a long discussion with your woman before coming to the club to see if she feels threatened by the presence of the dancers. If she does, or indicates the way you are to behave when in the club, maybe it is in everyone's best interest not to bring her. The last thing the club needs is a jealous wife or girlfriend starting a fight or loudly insulting a dancer in HER place of employment.


    Don't attempt to drive home drunk. Always save yourself cab fare. If you over indulged we will be glad to call a cab for you. The management and staff wants you safe, healthy and back with a smile on your face.

    We hope utilizing these concepts makes your visit to Gentlemen's Clubs more enjoyable. Please come and see us often. We are waiting to please you!

    I propose a toast - to my self control.... I see you crawling, helpless, on the floor.......
    -Mark Sandman

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    When men bring their wives or girlfriends to the club it disturbs the natural balance of the club. Currently women are welcome in our club. The first thing you should remember is this is a Gentlemen's Club. Women are allowed in the club as a courtesy.
    This is actually posted somewhere as an operational policy? Of a business that's open to the public?

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    "This is actually posted somewhere as an operational policy? Of a business that's open to the public?"

    If so, a business that is planning on getting sued.

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    yep, check out http://www.scarlett-oharas.com
    Although I think it its worded badly, I think it addresses a problem. Maybe it's only my club, or my city, but every night, we get roughly about a dozen guys that come in with their wives or girlfriends. And they ( the girls ) are PISSED! Who knows why they are even there in the first place. They very obviously do not want to be there, so they sit there ( for some reason, normally they sit right on the stage seats ) bitch at their boyfriends, glare at the dancers, and say shitty things about the dancer's bodies. ( too fat, cellulite, saggy boobs, etc...) It's only a minor annoyance ( and I've found that bending over RIGHT in these girl's faces makes them leave the stage ) but it can upset the good-time vibe in the club for a bit.
    On the other hand, there ARE couples that come in and have a great time. The girls are comfortable and secure with themselves, thay chat with the girls, have a few drinks, throw a few dollar bills, and have a blast. Everyone goes home happy. Unfortunatley, these type of couples are the minority where I work.... :-/
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    LOL

    I think they're decent tips. Some guys don't know better - whether because of age or upbringing...they don't realize a club is a place of business. Some think it's a place to find a girlfriend or a place to hoot-and-hollar at ladies with their buddies. This probably helps with a number of those guys, not to mention, it does do a good job suggesting more ways to spend your money at the club.

    Summer and I go to clubs on occasion and we aren't offended by the "Women are allowed in the club as a courtesy." I'm sure all of you have seen the grumpy girlfriend in the club. Why? If you're gonna bring anybody, you should make sure they are there to have a good time...

    They should make first-timers to the club sign-off on one of these
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    If so, a business that is planning on getting sued.
    I should really try to get out more. Apparently there's a whole other land out there, and it's not the one where Martin Sheen plays the President.

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    Kermit, I think I am the other half of one of those couples you like I am actually reading this board because I enjoy going to clubs with my husband. (or a group of friends). I have been probably about 10 times. love to talk to the dancers, and even get dances from them. I am not bi or gay, but I do enjoy the sensuality of beautiful women. I have thought about dancing myself, but, and please dont flame me for this, because I personally see nothing wrong with it, but I am in getting my PhD in a field that may not look so kindly on it if anyone found out. I dont know, does anyone have any suggestions about that? By the way, I know I'm a "guest", but i've never posted here before so never got a log on. Best wishes to all of you

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    >>I have thought about dancing myself, but, and please dont flame me for this, because I personally see nothing wrong with it, but I am in getting my PhD in a field that may not look so kindly on it if anyone found out. I dont know, does anyone have any suggestions about that?<<

    you'd be surprised how many dancers go "incognito." i think it's safe to say that most dancers are hiding what they do from someone. i, myself, had been aggressively hiding my dancing from family, friends and associates for most of my dancing life, and only recently have "come out of the closet" somewhat. most businesses would probably frown on a former or current dancer, but it doesn't have to stop you. work at a club that is outside your living area... another city if that's possible (i know girls who drive a good hour or more to where they dance - personally, most of my dancing has been in an entirely different state then the one i live in). change your appearance somewhat to keep people from easily recognizing you (a wig for instance). don't work at a club that keeps track of your income or knows who you really are. management is aware that most dancers don't want the people they know (or certain people they know) to know they are dancing, and are very good about letting you hide in the dressing room if you notice someone you want to hide from in the club... even if it means missing your stage set. keep a constant lookout for people you want to hide from, although if you travel a good distance outside your living area to work in a club, the odds of someone you need to hide from coming in isn't all that likely. make up a dancer personality that is very different from who you really are. don't ever reveal anything personal about yourself to any customers (if you have 3 younger sisters, never mention to a customer that you do... tell them you have no sisters and 2 older brothers). personally, in my office job, i presented myself as much more conservative then i really am as an added precaution. i recently confided in two very close friends that i've known most of my life that i've been dancing on and off for many years and their jaws just hit the floor! they just couldn't believe they never suspected a thing, and the one friend still isn't totally convinced i wasn't pulling his leg when i mentioned it. but if dancing is something that could seriously screw up your career, you really have to think about whether or not it's worth it. all in all, though, i think if you're very cautious you should be just fine.

    good luck on whatever you decide.

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    oh yeah...

    >>If so, a business that is planning on getting sued.<<

    >I should really try to get out more. Apparently there's a whole other land out there, and it's not the one where Martin Sheen plays the President. <

    thanks, Belinda, i got quit a chuckle out of that response.

    only in the bizarre event that a club actually barred women customers, a lawsuit would go nowhere... there's no lawbreaking going on, so to sue would be a waste of time and money. anyone can sue anyone for whatever frivolous reason they like, but winning the suit is what counts, and they wouldn't win based on that... good luck finding an attorney to handle the representation to begin with. however, if a woman customer makes a claim that she was mistreated in the club by staff or management solely for being a woman, she may win a suit based on that, but it would have to be some pretty outstanding mistreatment, and she'd have to have some sort of concrete evidence.

    a club is not open to the general public... it's a private establishment, and the owner can have policies on who to allow or not allow as they please as long as no laws are being broken... consider yourselves lucky they aren't public places, otherwise they'd have no right to throw out the "Jethros" that we're thankful that do get thrown out.

    in the interest of not causing offense, i think the club that posts this part of their policy regarding women customers should word that part differently. otherwise, it's nice that they post all that... sooo many customers have no idea of basic club protocol.

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    ", a lawsuit would go nowhere... there's no lawbreaking going on, so to sue would be a waste of time and money..."

    Your response is so bigoted that it barely merits a reply. However, you might want to read the civil rights act sometime. It prohibits the discrimination in places of public accomodation based on race, color, creed or gender. A bar, and a strip club are most certainly places of public accomodation.

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    Most states will have a human rights code that regulates businesses, landlords and non-government employers. It, among other things, prohibits discrimination on the basis of sex. A club is not a private establishment. Your home is private establishment. A strip is a place of business. So that part was wrong. Women are allowed in as a matter of law. The rest of it was pretty good though.
    What's a "jethro"? And why are we glad they are thrown out?

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    True enough:

    However, look at the boyscouts for discriminating against anyone who is homosexual, or doesn't believe in god. Up here in Boston the Irsh group won against the Gay and Lesbian groups to stop having them march in the parade.

    ALthough I do't think its the right thing to do it does happen. If you are not a member of a club, etc. Then you are not allowed to particpate.

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    (I believe there was an earlier thread related to where this is headed.)

    Any person, (male OR female), from a business perspective, would be looked at by me presumably as someone who will spend money once they enter the club.

    Certainly, there may be occurrences of things mentioned above; (i.e. jealous comments, etc.); but how is that worse than the possible intentions of any man that enters the club?
    (That was rhetorical question.)

    Should I/Would I turn a woman away from the club?
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    not bigoted at all - it's smart.

    not to be an ass, but i don't need to be told what would happen with a suit... i spent many years working in law... not all that much criminal law, but enough. there's no discrimination in this case because women are NOT barred from the club. that was the point i made. if they were barred from the club, yes, then it would be an issue. i've seen many suits come to no good end that are far more legitimate then this example -- women police officers being blatently discriminated against in the work place or race blatent discrimination -- i could cry you a river of examples... the difficulty in the suits come in the proof. sure, some women may find this posted statement offensive the way it's worded, but it does NOT break the law. where is the discrimination? it doesn't say women aren't allowed in, it doesn't say women will be charged more, it doesn't say women will be mistreated solely because they're women... it may be offensive to some (and personally, i don't like the way it's worded), but it is NOT discriminatory according to the laws of discrimination.

    it may come as a big surprise to you, but the american justice system has very little to do with real justice... one of the reasons i got out. in this day and age, women and minorities are STILL blatently discriminated against, and the courts have enough suits for legitimate complaints that were lost by the people who brought them to wallpaper every planet in the solar system. women in positions traditionally held by men (doctors, lawyers, policeman, fireman, military students and personnel...) are STILL being blatently discriminated against, and they aren't winning anywhere near enough of the suits they really should be. look at our own business... how many clubs are there that have female dancers opposed to those that have male dancers? and the clubs with the male dancers are called "reviews" hahaha! ever seen a female "review"? hell, i'm happy that women dancers are more often being referred to as dancers rather than strippers nowadays, and clubs are calling themselves gentlemens clubs rather then strip bars. yet, how often are female dancers considered to be prostitutes compared to the male dancers?... it sucks, but it's STILL a man's world.

    historically, women have been making smaller strides against discrimination then other "minorities." we were the last "minority" given the right to vote. as of the 1930's women could not enter most restaurants and nightclubs without a male escort... it wasn't even as long ago as this that a married woman could open a bank account separate from her husband even with money she made herself, but her husband could open a separate bank account from his wife even if the money he used to open it was made by HER... a single woman bringing all the money to a marriage, upon marrying, automatically lost the control of those finances to her husband... need i go on? women have come a long way since these days, but we still have a long way to go. it probably won't happen in our lifetime, but it won't happen at all without women making a great big public noise. the african-american community learned long ago that the only way to bring change was to force it by making enough noise, even if it meant marches, sit-ins, beatings, arrests, losing their home, their job or even their life. i'd really like to know how many women who read this club's notice about women customers, were offended by it and said nothing? does the club even KNOW it may be offensive? have any female workers at the club complained? do any of the male customers that like to bring women to the club find it offensive, and have they complained? as the law is and the way the justice system works now, a lawsuit against this club for its statement regarding women customers would quietly hit a brick wall... BUT, enough complaints with enough public noise could bring a change... the key to change is not in a quiet suit, but in noisey complaints.

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    Ahhh yes, the noisy complaints.

    Effective perhaps, IF, and only if the correct wording is applied; and it is understood the results of such a victory.
    Hence the difficulty.
    The wording of the 'rules' above I'm sure were carefully thought out, if they are to be taken seriously, or enforced. (Not that I agree with them, but when official 'rules' such this are posted, more often than not lawyers should be involved. Although I know this wasn't the case in the above guidelines; which may place the club in hot-water due to opinions resembling those made here. Big mistake!.)

    Discrimination 'battles' are often lost when what is being fought for is not entirely understood throughout the masses.

    Need I remind you of Racheal's "noisy complaints"?
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    "Most states will have a human rights code that regulates businesses, landlords and non-government employers. It, among other things, prohibits discrimination on the basis of sex."

    yes, and what the club has in this case doesn't discriminate women under the law - women are allowed in the club.

    "A club is not a private establishment. Your home is private establishment. A strip is a place of business. So that part was wrong."

    what i meant by "public place" was like a public street or something (i'm drawing a blank on a better example). a club is a private establishment in that the owner can make and enforce rules (as long as they aren't illegal)... for instance, dress code rules... the club can keep you out if you aren't dressed according to what the club's rules deem appropriate, and it's perfectly legal.

    "Women are allowed in as a matter of law."

    yes, and in this case, they ARE allowed in. it's just the wording can be taken offensively... it was this in particular that bugged me: "Currently women are welcome in our club.... Women are allowed in the club as a courtesy." the use of the word "currently" as if the laws of discrimination against gender are going to change. "as a matter of courtesy" - no, it's a matter of law, not a matter of the club making nice-nice towards women.

    "What's a "jethro"? And why are we glad they are thrown out?"

    hahaha! there was something in this club's policies that used the term "Jethro" (along with some descriptive adjectives) to describe those club jackasses we all know and hate. read through it again, it was pretty funny.


    and Tre...
    oooo, dear, i should have been more careful of what i meant by "noise." of course, if one were to be offensive in one's complaining, one would really end up cooking one's own bum... sort of like... er... Rach.

    also.... i think a lawyer for the club did look at this, particularly the statement about women. lawyers are concerned with actual law, not what someone may find offensive. the wording is so close to illegal that i think an attorney had to have had a greasy paw in it... who knows better how to dance all around the law without touching it then a lawyer? the lawyer for the club's job in this case would be to word this in such a way as to come CLOSE to being illegal and JUST enough offensive to get the club's point across without being SO offensive as to cause a lot of loud complaints... which is pretty much what it's done. the use of the word "currently" i don't think a club owner or manager would have come up with on their own... same for "as a matter of courtesy." maybe that's why those two particular things stood out to me... they stink of greasy lawyer.

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    Inoffensive, yes. As well as efficient, and clear; (in regards to crusades).
    Anything but clear, in the posting of guidelines.

    I do recognize the back-doors people leave themselves in such 'recommendations'.

    I knew what you meant, Alanna.

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    Just to put my two cents in here. One of the local clubs that I frequent has a policy not allowing any female customers in. I'm not sure why they have this policy exactly, because I never asked them. But as far as I can tell, this policy has been allowed to remain because they do allow woman to work at the club, both as dancers and bartenders, so they don't bar all woman from the club, and therefore it is not discrimination.

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    We've been trying to think about all these comments. As far as women not being welcome in clubs. We can see where a jealous person would cause a problem, but probably no bigger problem than a loud obnoxious oaf who disrespects the dancers. And..more often than not the club managers will put up with the oaf hoping to get more money. But the club we visit most often usually has a number of couples enjoying the dancers.We often see a number of single females there as well. It doesn't seem to disrupt the "enviroment" of the club at all. In fact, it seems to add to it. As far as lawsuits go, as my lawyer once said to me, "Anybody can sue anyone for anything as long as they've got enough money" So if someone had the bucks and wanted to make a major stink over that policy, they could. Could they win? Probably not, but if they had the money and a feisty enough lawyer, they could wind up costing the club owner plenty just to get out of it. In reality, it's unlikely that club would never be sued. However, we would never visit that club, knowing how they feel.
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    "But as far as I can tell, this policy has been allowed to remain because they do allow woman to work at the club, both as dancers and bartenders, so they don't bar all woman from the club, and therefore it is not discrimination."

    It is discrimination. If a restaurant refused to serve black customers, who it employed would not be at issue. If a hotel employed women as maids but refused to allow women to stay there, that would be discrimination. Human rights issues address employers and businesses to protect employees and patrons. It's most like been allowed to remain because nobody has bothered to challenge it. I have seen very few women in the clubs I have worked in (in a consumer capacity I mean) and most of those I have seen have been a part of a larger party. But they have never been rude or in any other way bad customers. As for whether having the wording as such is illegal, I think probably. I mean consider "African Americans are allowed in here as a privlege. The last thing we need are African Americans causing a scene in our club." I mean when you substitute another group in there it suddenly sounds a lot worse, doesn't it? The club would be stupid to get sued over such a thing. They would most likely simply reword the thing to say "women are welcome but most show the dancers the same respect that is demanded of male customers." I mean really, who's going to go to court over that?

    And "Jethro" - Yes, Alanna I am glad they get thrown out, but at the same token they are individuals who break rules, not just members of a larger group deemed troublemakers.
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    Explain woman only health clubs and all girl schools.

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    Different.

    There are women-only health clubs because there are men-only health clubs. [The chicken or the egg? ]

    Six in one, half dozen in the other.

    There are very few 'gentlemen's clubs' that are designed for women.
    That would be an oxymoron.

    Clubs with female dancers, for the most part, cater to men.
    Clubs with male dancers cater to women.

    Most, if not all clubs that feature male dancers DO NOT allow male patrons. No exceptions.

    In this, it would appear most gentlemen's clubs are far less biased than female orientated "revues".

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    Explain woman only health clubs and all girl schools.

    Well okay then. There are specific and complicated laws that deal with schools and health clubs - namely these are private organizations that require some form of membership. These would be some private venues that were discussed above. And I'm sure you're aware that there are male only schools and male only clubs (albeit not as many).

    And Tre, I don't go to the clubs personally, but the people I know who do regularly bring male friends.

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    Well, perhaps it's simply a location thing then.

    Maybe in that my point has been lost.

    I have seen female-orientated clubs where it is blatantly posted, and clearly understood that male patrons are not welcome.

    Not that I have any inclination to visit such an establishment.

    {Edit: More often than not it is clearly stated that male patrons are not allowed unless accompanied by a female. Which is what is implied (the other way around), vaguely in the 'guidelines' above.
    It would have been safer, and wiser for them to say it as such.}
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    Jenny....

    Regarding the term "Jethro"....

    Please use Google to find information regarding the old TV show "The Beverly Hillbillies". Jethro was the son (or nephew, cannot remember which). Big, dumb lummox with a roving eye. All will be explained.

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