Hi folks...
I am a newbie writing to you from the customer perspective. I am a 32 yr old male who really enjoys the strip club experience for the "Fantasy" element. I range from going wanting to just be surrounded by gorgeous practically nude women, to yes, high contact with extras.
I wanted to present a perspective that may or may not be relevant and see what you think. You see, I don't see a problem with "high contact" or extras. I also don't see a problem with low contact or air/pole dancing. It's all a part of the experience and since from reading many posts on the topic, there are so many different tastes that the men have, and so many different perspectives on what "high contact" etc...really is, why not have women of all different types of specialties or degrees of willingness and just cater to the vast amount of different tastes that men have?
Like I said, I go into a club for so many different reasons. The escape from reality is a big one. I DO like talking with the girls if it seems like the conversation is real and not a means to a buck being earned, although I understand this is the bottom line nature of the business. Personally, Orlando sucks for clubs if you ask me. The no contact thing is a joke.
I have been to Deja Vu in Tampa, but as much as loved being grinded to "completion", A.) it was WAY overpriced, and B.) There was no middle ground. You either got to see a girl at a pole, or payed big bucks for a dry hump with cameras watching. This really kills the fantasy aspect for me. In my fantasies, there aren't cameras and the girls don't drop the act and become a robot once the deal is sealed.
I have been to Cheetah III in Pompano and this was my favorite experience so far. Well, actually the second time was, the first time a girl came up and asked me to buy her a drink(don't EVER do that) then split and made me wait forever. I was working on a cruise ship at the time and had a serious crunch for time. She never came back and waisted my time. I never even got more than her on my lap for long enough to get me to buy the drink.
The second time was WAY different. I went alone (inset evil grin here) and I walked through to discover a beautiful angel at one of the non-mainstage poles that had a small cocktail table by it. Well I watched her while ordering a drink for myself, tipped her occasionally making eye contact and just being swept away from any problems into a world of fantasy that you not believe. She sat down and we immediately clicked. She was so sincere and friendly that I knew I wanted to get a real dance from her. I like going from table to table lap to friction and so on to prolong the evening and deliberately delay the pay off. I love the build up. Well she suggested forgoing the table dance because the contact would be limited and that she could give a much better dance in the friction room. (Twist my arm!!)
So I did...I sat down, she took off her top and began the dance...without divugling details, I asked what the rules were and she said "There are none". WOW...If that's not straight out of my fantasy, I don't know what is. I ended up having an amazing time and yes, spending a lot of money. But the thing is, even on a budget, hell, especially on a budget, it was worthe EVERY PENNY to me.
You see, she kept the fantasy going throughout no matter what pretenses were lifted and realities of the moment were exposed. I say, no matter what the pay off is when a customer is with you, it should be the best ever. That should be your goal. The best air dance ever. Never let em leave thinking they got ripped off or blew their money with regrets. Have them leaving like I did, fantasizing these two years later about my next experience.
So the high contact and extras aren't your thing, so? I have read many posts where the guys have said it's not their thing either, in fact, I know most of my guy friends wouldn't do more than let you grind a bit.
So you cater to them and let the ones who are willing cater the ones who desire it, know?
The last thing I want to do is offend or upset a girl. That's why I ask what the rules are. It is a fine line legally but, maybe the "ask the waitress" suggestion IS a good idea. I just feel like a perv asking, and expect a slap i nthe face. You see, that's reality, not fantasy. I know what I am doing and what people think...oh well..that's why I go to clubs or other places for it.
No customer or dancer should ever feel guilty for what they do in there. It's a choice made by two consenting adults. Doing that, shouldn't kill the good clubs, it should just add to what the clubs have to offer. Most men do not want that or feel embarrased asking.
The last point is this...if you do give high contact lap dances do it full out like you love it and keep the fantasy going. NEVER become a business woman or a robot or you lose.
If you do the extras...and it sounds silly...damn it, give the best HJ or BJ or FS EVER. Be the best. Look, you are choosing to do this so DO IT and do it well. And KEEP the fantasy going throughout. Be sincere and be the fantasy girl.
Now for you low contact girls..cool! Be who you are and never compromise your standards. Just don't judge because technically, the rest of the world thinks we're all sickos for being there, remember?
Do your thing to the Nth degree as well. You even more so have the psychological game to master. Your personality and believeability is SO crucial. You want them leaving satisfied mentally and thinking that they are truly not sure whether you would have come home with them and had sex. You should be THAT convincing.
You are selling the fantasy ladies. Sadly, I thank God you are there. You do such a crucial service for so many men, women, and couples that the rest of world is just oblivious or too uptight to acknowledge. Thank you.
One last thing..I read about Ybor in Tampa having clubs with high contact and extras and ones in West Palm, daytona, etc...that do too...Which are they?
This would really help, because Deja Vu..? A total rip off to me. I will never go back there. Sounds like Mons is the same thing. That's too bad, it used to have the rep for being a place to get anything you wanted.
Here's hoping that I haven't offended....
BL


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