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    Default Customers who don't realize this is a JOB...

    I work at a upscale club ($25 lapdances) for my area and often (I wish MORE often) gentlemen are giving ladies in our club upwards of $100 or more to sit, chat and drink (and occasionally dance).

    Q: What do YOU do when a good paying customer starts to "fall" for you (e.g., "Let's go out to dinner... I can take care of you in ways you can't imagine... etc.")???
    Obviously, I want the customer to keep coming back...

    Dancing Divas - Please enlighten me with your wisdom! How do you handle this???

    Love ALL of you! [love]

    PS - For background: I'm happily married (so dating another male is NOT an option)... Also I'm fairly new to dancing (almost a year) and want to continue dancing at this club (so skipping town in also NOT an option)

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    Every girl has a different method of handling this one. I just look at all big customers as having a 'shelf life'. It's a wonderful thing when the customer and I are getting along and he's tipping me very well...... But then there comes a point when he wants to date me and he 'expires'. It seems as soon as I tell anyone that I don't meet guys outside of the club, they stop tipping, so I bow out gracefully, and let him move on to the next girl. I would also love to hear any ideas for keeping them tipping, after turning down a 'date'.....
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    There is a fine line you have to walk. On one hand keep the fantasy alive which keeps the money coming but at the same time let them know that what happens is in the club only. Maybe you have to tap dance a little, when he asks questions like that you give an answer that is not yes or no? Some of the girls will have help for you I am sure.

    But keep this in mind. Dancers create the fantasy that they are sexy, available and ready for anything and then if they are really good actresses they get upset if the customer believes the fantasy. Maybe you are too good at your job. Is it their fault if you are irresistable?
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    I used to use the old "i can't meet outside the club sweetie, because it's against club rules, and i realy need this job, and many ladies have been caught with customers and the management let them go.," and go from there with how much you value him as a customer, etc. Maybe to show how much you (wow got bumped off the site.) value him as a customer, give 1 free ld to him. That will make him feel good, perhaps 'help' keep him as a customer.

    Of course if you have a guy who no doubt is looking for a 'pick up inside the club' then this has nothing to do with you. They move on to someone who will meet outside the club.

    Good luck, be sensitive to him, and maybe pay him more attention, be fun inside the club with him, be a club friend!

    If all fails, another will walk in the door.

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    Default Re: Customers who don't realize this is a JOB...

    Great advice, Ladies! I knew I could count on you! I am very intrested in how others handle this...

    Kermit - "Shelf life" - I f'ing love that... good analogy!

    XMarx52 - You're too cute. I hope/wish that was the case!

    Pamela - Your wisdom ashonishes me...

    Ladies - This site, and your advice, is truely priceless!

    Thank you!!!

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    Great advice, Ladies! I knew I could count on you! I am very intrested in how others handle this...



    XMarx52 - You're too cute. I hope/wish that was the case!

    Awe shucks... (X scuffs his shoes in the dirt and turns red...)
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    Thank you! And good luck on whatever path you chose to take this. It can be a tough call, but it has worked better for me to let the guys know it's my job. Period. And be nice while saying so. Alot of guys are truly lonely when they visit a strip club. I guess each guy has his reasons for being there, and they are not all the same.

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    Alot of guys are truly lonely when they visit a strip club. I guess each guy has his reasons for being there, and they are not all the same.

    Hugz,
    Pamela
    An astute observation. While yes every guy there likes women's bodies, it is different I am sure. Just like every woman working there likes money but beneath that they each have different reasons for working as a dancer. People are all different and isn't that a delight?
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    smack em upside the head and be like "snap out of it, dumbass!!!!!" gyou got fora good time and to ahve pretty girl shake it for ya! nothign moer nothign less. if you happento run into one who coola nd you sit down an talk for abit tahts cool. But to pay for it or expect that your gonna take her home. Thats crazy........

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    yes been there done that. I made it quite clear that I do not date customers or go out with customers outside the club. Sometimes Im lucky to keep them as customers and the others would leave or find another dancers.

    I wouldn't care cuz I got their money when they used to pay dances from me lol. I gain some, I lose some customers. I of course know that there will always be somebody else talking through the door wanting to buy dances from me or enjoying my chatting time.


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    smack em upside the head and be like "snap out of it, dumbass!!!!!" gyou got fora good time and to ahve pretty girl shake it for ya! nothign moer nothign less. if you happento run into one who coola nd you sit down an talk for abit tahts cool. But to pay for it or expect that your gonna take her home. Thats crazy........
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    THAT'S GAME. Every dancers knows she's going to asked out at least 3 times everytime she works. Some you ignore, some are more persistent. If a person comes into the club and spends a lot of money on you, it's only a matter of time before they get brave enough to ask you out. Usually it's to see if you do any extras, and with some customers, they'll ask every time they see you. It's all game... never take that stuff personally. Let them be the one to deceide it's over.. I've only cut off one customer in my entire history of dancing.
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    I'm of the mind that dancers should just come out and say that they don't date customers or see them outside of the club. And if they are involved with someone, that they don't hide it. Then, I think, customers would realize that this is just a JOB. I never really understood this strip club "fantasy" thing. To me, it just creates stripper bashers and helps with making jaded dancers. Just my worthless opinion.
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    If only it were that easy sleepy...
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    some customers may be going to strip clubs to find a girlfriend

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    Alot of them are. It's very annoying! We are not there to be picked up, we are there to WORK! Go to a regular bar for a gf - the girls there are more receptive and looking for bf's. Let us dancers do our damn jobs for god's sake!

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    Not all customers are there to pick up a stripper. I don't . It's like Las Vegas ...what happens in the sc stays in the sc. It's a fantasy for me not a dating service.
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    There are many reasons why customers go to strip clubs and it will help you deal with them if you can figure out what they're looking for. I also think in the long run honesty is the best policy so if you're married tell him so. Personally I enjoy when a dancer is somewhat open about her life and I enjoy when someone talks about their kids - it makes me feel more like a friend.
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    I disagree....this isn't real life. it's a fantasy and you know it. We don't want to be "friends". We want to be the object of your desire. Friends are cool, but we're trying to make money by providing a sexual fantasy.

    While I can understand why you prefer it, it's really not in a dancer's best interest to make the conversation too personal, from an earnings standpoint.

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    Is it a fantasy? Yes!! But my fantasy isn't usually with a nameless figure. It comes more to life if I 'know' a little something of who you are. Maybe I am in the minority here.
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    Emily has it right......"We want to be the object of your desire. Friends are cool, but we're trying to make money by providing a sexual fantasy."
    I think the problem is too many women in this profession go into dancing thinking that its just "do a dance get payed". Not ......"We want to be the object of your desire."
    Too many men go to SC thinking its a meat market and no matter what , the women are theirs to have.
    It's not like that kids. Dancers work to make money. They do what they have to to make it. It = money . Legal or not. Strip clubs are a place of fantasy not a meat market.
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    Is it a fantasy? Yes!! But my fantasy isn't usually with a nameless figure. It comes more to life if I 'know' a little something of who you are. Maybe I am in the minority here.
    Oh, we can be friendly and talkative, but I think it's to keep the conversation light and breezy and the personal info is about him. I'll listen to your life stories. I'll tell you little goofy ones about my dog chewing up my vibrator or how I just booked a vacation, but I'm not going to talk about my family and other personal stuff.

    On top of it being none of your business, it makes it very hard to pop the question....how do you make the transition from talking about your kids to lap dancing? Much easier to make that if your conversation has been light and flirty.

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    Maybe I'm the exception but I much prefer not to treat you ladies as sex objects but as real people. I'm not really there for some fantasy. Sure I enjoy seeing you naked because I happen to think that an attreactive female body is one of the most beautiful things on earth. But I'd much rather sit and hear about what a shitty day you had with your kids than hear some bullshit that I know isn't true. The dancer who acts real with me gets my money. You don't have to be my friend outside the club but treat me like one inside if you want me to come back.
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    Fondl~
    It doesn't have to be a bitch-fest about a dancer's crappy life to be real. Sometimes I tell the fellows about my degree, and that I am dancing to pay the bills until I decide what I want to do with the rest of my life. This is real. I might tell them that I am writing a book. This is real. I can talk about my panty collection or my insane love of music; these things are all real.

    I do not go into my divorce, my kids or my bills. These things may be real, but it is nevertheless considered rude to burden someone you just met with your woes. There are more entertaining, and also factual, topics that I can discuss.
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    Maybe ask them if they are married? Then say " Oh, I don't go out with married guys." About half the guys that ask me out are married so that may work.

    I've noticed that the girls that act dumb don't get asked out as much and still make money.

    I come across as intelligent and sweet so I am asked out constantly. I really don't enjoy rejecting men either so I hate this part of my job.

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