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    If I am interested in a dance and you have been sitting having drinks or something (not actually doing dances). Is it OK to interrupt and ask for a dance? Or should we just wait until your unoccupied?
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    Speaking for myself i feel as though i have interupted many conversations. Lol.
    Not bad manners at all from you, ask away!!! A customer who speaks up and comes up to me is a great person! I love it. Hey....he wants me!

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    If I was already sitting with a guy and some other guy saw me and wanted a dance, I personally wouldn't mind at all if someone came up to ask. However, the guy I am already sitting with might get irritated, in that case it would be better to send a waitress over.

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    if you came over to me wether or not i was sitting with someone it would'nt be a problem as long as you do it politely maybe it would even send the other person a message to get a dance intead of sitting there coversating( not to be rude but some guys do talk you to death)
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    Yes it's okay!

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    yes it's fine, sometimes I am just looking for an escape and the worst we can do is say no.
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    This is good to know!! You have no =idea= how often i've waited...and WAITED...for a girl to get up from a table, only to find out she's going NOWHERE....and i've got no chance to get a dance from her. :-/

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    I'd rather you sent the waitress or floor guy.



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    I always send a waitress, floor guy, or manager. It always works well that way.

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    I personally will wait untill a dancer sitting with sombody goes on stage or gets up to ask her.

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    Send someone. Asking us, in front of another guy to whom we are already giving our attention, puts us on the spot. Do we tell you yes and immediately abandon the fellow we are currently working on? Not a good idea, he might have money and dropping him would be an insult. Do we tell you no or to wait, risking losing money that you want to spend?

    Send someone to tell the dancer simply "I need to steal this lady away for a moment, she is being paged." The fellow we are with will undoubtably realize that we are at work, and it leaves the implication that the someone in question may be our boss.
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    As a customer I'd consider it rude if someone did this to me. And if the girl took off with him I'd take off too. The time to ask a girl for a dance is when she's on stage or alone. Or a waitress can do so for you if she's diplomatic about it.
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    If the girl is sitting with another customer, it's best to tip a waitress or floor guy a few bucks to go tell her you want dances. You don't want to go over yourself and risk annoying the other customer. If she's with a regular or someone who's paying for her time, she may send word that she's busy or will come by later. But most likely she'll be right over to your table.

    If the girl is sitting with YOU, by all means ask away!

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    Funny story: I asked a waitress to get a gal for me once and I didn't know the dancers name. She was sitting at a table with her co-workers so I said, "see that pretty blonde gal over there? I'd love to have a dance with her."

    And she procedes to send over the wrong gal!

    I was so embarrassed that I agreed to one dance with this gal anyway. I didn't have the cohones tell her that she wasn't the one I wanted a dance with.

    So, I don't use a middleman anymore. Too much can go wrong in a busy club full of dancers. Tipping the gal I want on stage (essp. a $5 tip) and asking there is a hell of lot more effective.
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    I have to agree with Lilith on this one.

    I'll use last night as an example. Sat and drank with a guy almost all night, he tipped me well before leaving; but imagine the awkwardness he'd feel if some guy came up and tried to take me away. You see, even though your intentions would be good, it comes down to a male ego thing... you assumed he wasn't spending money on me or that he was broke.

    When in doubt send a classy waitress.

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    As long as you are polite about it and follow some of the guidlines listed above in the other posts, I think it's more than okay. We as dancers are there to work so send that business on over.

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    I only ever ask a girl to join me shen she's either alone, on stage dancing, or circulating for tips or thanks-yous after dancing. Since every girl does this fairly regularly I don't see any need to interrupt a girl who is with a customer. And if she's already sellted in with somebody she isn't going to spend much time with me anyway so what's the point.
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    Personally, I think it’s better to just go with the flow of the club. If there is a dancer you want to approach, wait until she is free. If she isn’t, then wait until she is or move on to someone else. She could be just sitting and rapping with a long time friend to pass the time, or she could be working on a "lap dance" sell, or she could be giving quality time with a big money maker for her. You don't know.

    Remember you are in her place of work, where she is night after night. Let her work. If her work comes around to you, don't be shy and go for it. If it doesn't, that’s life. Come back again sometime and try again. Familiarity can put you a little ahead of the game.

    Additionally, if someone is so smitten that their world will collapse if they can't get that lap dance with one particular girl, that person has serious issues.

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