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    I went to a club at about 5:00 in the afternoon on a Sunday after watching football. There were two dancers and about six customers, one of the dancers went on stage and nobody was tipping her, even the group of four who were up front. During her second song there were still no tips, so I went up and put a ten on the stage and went back to the bar where I like to sit. After she got off stage she came over and thanked me and said she would be back to visit. She then walked to a table at the other end of bar and sat, drinking water until her next time on stage. I thought she was a bit rude and did not tip her the next time she was on stage nor did anyone else for that matter.

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    what were you tipping her for? to come back?

    sometimes girls would rather sit with guys they know over guys that are spending money....who knows.

    I don't think it's out of line, but not exactly model behavior.

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    I think the girl was just not being very professional. She should have sat with you a minute to see if you were interested in a lap dance. She could have at least been there for a little small talk so that you would tip her on her next set.
    But, don't forget that just because you tip a girl, it does not mean she "owes you." You tipped for the stage performance, which you already saw. If you want more attention that requires more tips or purchasing a lapdance.

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    I've always said that in a strip club, whomever holds the money has the power. Once you hand that money over, you relinquish whatever power that money has. Once you tipped her she had no monetary incentive to come over and visit you (except perhaps make considerably MORE money doing dances ). Precisely why I've never given a stage tip that big.

    I am still flustered why some dancers will dishonestly string a guy along like that, thinking that he will wait for them as long as they please. I used to be that easy, but after getting stood up a few times, I just find a different gal to spend my money on. Seeing her co-worker get money that easily could have been hers ought to get the message across.
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    Were you sitting at the bar? That is usually a good indication that a guy's not interested in dances or company and could be a reason why she didn't come back.

    Still, I'm in agreement that it's unprofessional not to give a little extra attention to a good tipper.

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    Colette, I was not aware of that interpretation of bar/dNDisturb.
    I frequently sit at the bar poining away from the bar tender but sit there cause it is about the only place in the club where it is not so loud that you can actually hear what someone says.
    BTender has to be able to hear the orders so they don't put a blaring speaker near there.

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    I agree about sitting at the bar. There's no graceful way to do a lapdance on a barstool, so I never bother talking to those guys. Barstools are the 'cheap' seats.

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    Well... hmm... I know when I finally get off stage I sometimes REALLY NEED WATER. Sometimes a whole bottle. How long was she drinking water? Maybe she just got called up on stage too quickly? Shoot, maybe she was just having a really really crappy day and didn't want to be there. I give you props for leaving a big tip for her anyway though. I hope you did it right infront of those other d*ckheads!
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    I agree maybe she wasnt feeling well or better yet maybe she was new and still nervous

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    But it bothers me when a dancer says, "I'll come over and spend time with you," and then deliberately walks away to somewhere else. Why bother me with saying it if she doesn't mean it?
    Why do guys say "maybe later" when I ask them for a dance if they dont mean it ??????!!!!!

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    Most girls will come over when a guy tips nicely on stage, to at least say thanks and see if he's interested in dances. Maybe that girl is shy about asking, and like collete said, took your sitting at the bar as an indication you weren't interested in more. Many many many guys who sit at the bar don't want to be 'bothered' by the dancers, we know that, and tend to not 'bother' them. That could be her way of waiting for a hint from you that you wanted her to stay or come back or whatever. There's a million things that could have been going on in her head. BUT, if she didn't intend to come back and talk to you, she shouldn't have said she would. I'm curious if she was sitting with someone else, or if she was just sitting alone at the other end of the bar?

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    see i never think that about a guy at the bar i get lots of dances from guys at the bar, but i dont mean i do dances at the bar that isnt allowed. sometimes the guys at the bar are just shy and need to be approced first in a "neutral" setting
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    Dont take this wrong,but now I see why so many girls are complaining they dont make money in the business,first off all I rarely will go to a guy at the bar if he doent tip or is a regular I know does not tip and get dances and usually a guy who gives me a 10 or 20 on stage I can get minimum 100 out of in dances,I would have stood by you at the bar and said thank you,asked what your name was and were you are from ect,though had you of not gotten a dance,I would have moved on after around a song or two and said well have a good time Iam going to walk around.

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    could'nt you try going over there to say hi or chit chat ith her (that if she was alone you did'nt say).....some of us are shy also ... look at it... if she was that rude i'm sure she would'nt have stopped to say thank you...sometimes a girl might go up to a guy for a dance and he might say no but after seeing her on stage he might change his mind ...not saying thats what happen though....
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    Let me clarify a couple of things. When the dancer was at the table drinking water she was alone, and she's not new in fact I'm friendly with a couple of the girls that work there and she has seen me at the bar with one of the girls in the past. One other thing this place has a VIP room, so there would be no L/D at the bar, I would feel strange getting one in public.

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    Well I would forget about it,just dont tip her anymore.

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    I don't think you were out of line, if someone tipped me $10 on stage I would definitely stop by and visit with them afterwards, usually guys only tip $1 on stage. You said she's not new but maybe she's just shy. Also you said there were only 2 dancers, she probably had to go back on stage right away and needed some water really badly. If you see her again I would try again, but just tip her $1 instead of $10 and ask if she could stop by and see you when she's off stage. If she sits by herself again, then I would forget about her.






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    Her moves definitely wouldn't have been the way I handled it. The next time you see her let her make the first attempt at contact and depending on whether second contact is positive or not bring up her past behavior and check her response. May have been an off day or something, or she may just be a twit.

    I learned this summer that I catch better at the bar than at tables. Walking around and chatting is good, but my best money comes from me going to the bar to get water or juice. When I do this, I always speak to every guy right near me at the bar and sit and finish my drink. I have never left the bar without at least an invite to a table to chat some more. Guys sometimes feel less intimidated and more on an even level at the bar, and I catch my best money guys here. The nervous, shy or quiet guys with cash screaming to get outta their pockets can often be found at the bar.
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    I know as the job of a dancer, you should be prepared to approach men come rain or shine in the club but that's an iffy situation. I normally feel like I have to 'warm up' in a dead club atmosphere and hints are normally the best way to get me started (I make myself sound like a true novice!). Maybe she was just waiting for a few hints too. I dunno.
    But I would have at least talked to you a bit more, found the right mood or level. In that case, a one second thank you can come across as a bit rude considering how you were the only tipper, but don't judge the girl on that one situation. Go again and see if she responds the same way. If so then you know it wasn't just down to a bad day.
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    Were you sitting at the bar? That is usually a good indication that a guy's not interested in dances or company and could be a reason why she didn't come back.

    Still, I'm in agreement that it's unprofessional not to give a little extra attention to a good tipper.

    I totally agree. If someone tips me a lot and then goes and sits up at the bar, I feel that that is my cue that he is not interested in spending any more money at the moment.

    Sometimes, if someone tips me a lot while I am on stage, and I go up to them afterwards and thank them and talk a bit, I will ask them if they want to grab a table and "sit and talk for a while." If they say no, then I smile say, "ok, well, I need to go back to work, then." That way, they don't feel like I am ignoring them. I AM there to work, after all...and if I am not getting tipped/making money from someone it's time to move on. Nothing personal...just business.

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    well if you are a regular who usually sits at the bar the some girls see no sense in bothering you since thats what you always do ...if you are a guy who always do dances then who knows maybe she had problems or she was just plain rude or shy even...i dont see how she would be rude though if she stopped to say thanx for the tip ... sounds a bit weird to me
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    I don't think you were at all out of line, the girl was rude. I've often had a similar experience, where I ask a girl on stage to join me when she's done dancing, and she says she'll be right over as soon as she freshens up. Then she never shows. Not only is it rude but it's costing other girls money because I'm turning others down because I've invited someone else to join me. Usually I get annoyed and end up leaving so nobody gets my money.
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    Y'know, you're right FONDL, I hate it when a guy says to me that he's waiting on another girl and she NEVER shows up either!

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    NO I dont think you were out of line. I personally would've went over to you. You were the only person who got up and tipped her. That should've told her you were interested in some sort of way...oh well just my opinion.







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    I usually do the old "freshen up" routine on guys that I don't have the heart to tell "you're a tool/perv/ass/whatever, and I don't want to be in your presence unless the cash is actively changing hands". I know I'm a bitch! LOL!
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