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    Okay you guys, I want your point of view. When you ask us out or for our number, what's the best way to blow you off and keep you coming back?
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    Okay you guys, I want your point of view. When you ask us out or for our number, what's the best way to blow you off and keep you coming back?
    ask for ours instead. that way you can choose to call or not to....... if I am really attracted to a dancer I will just give her my cell number if she wants it... that keeps her from giving away private info and I feel good because then she knows that she has me if she wants me......

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    I never ask for either, so maybe I'm not a good source for insight. Though my opinion is that there is no patented way to do it every guy is going to be different, some will be hurt and never come back even with the most tactful of responses and others will keep coming back even if they get the rudest of reply's.

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    • "Awww, I can't...my girlfriend would get jealous if someone called our number looking for me."
    • "Daddy won't let me date boys 'til I'm older." *tee-hee*
    • "I just had m-my *pout* my heart *sniff* broken...and I uh I'm not r-ready f-for...*sniff* would you please give me a hug, pwease? *pout* Just hold me for a while..."
    I've never asked, so I don't really know. I listed a few options though, depending on how evil you're willing to go.

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    I used to ask for phone numbers during my younger days, until I realized that dancing was just a job for the women and that most of them were not looking to start up any kind of relationship. If I was to meet up with a dancer out side the club it usually entailed making plans together in the club. If everything went well outside the club then we would exchange numbers. I don't ask now, but I think a good repsonse would be to just say you don't give out your number, let the guy give you his.

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    I have only asked a dancer for her number once. On that occasion, she said, "I don't give out my number, but can you give me yours." I took that as she may or may not call and if she doesn't, no big deal. I still saw her in the club.

    I have had occasions where the dancer has given me her number and asked that I call her. In those cases we went out outside of the club.

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    I have always hated being asked for my number! I use the i don't give out mine but you can give me yours deal also
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    I have given out a toll free, and my cell. Still give cell. I would get more customers that way. Also i would keep it short and sweet, let them know when i am working, that was IT. Period.

    I do understand alot of dancers not giving out numbers, some guys don't take the hint..."No i am not dating you," No i will not tell you what i am wearing."

    I will be at the club tonite, love to spend some time with you! (at the club.)

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    I'm starting to think I should get a seperate cell just for customers to call Lestat - Those were some really good ideas... I have some more pictures but I have to find the ones where I'm wearing clothes
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    ???Why do you have to find the ones where you are wearing clothes ??? We men appreciate the female form for what it is - A work of art. Why cover it up with clothing?

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    Well Bella, being the suave, debonair, handsome hunk of a man that I am, I've never asked for a number and been refused. (Did I mention humble as well?)

    But...your question was really.....how to pick my pocket "blow me off" and keep me coming back? Was that it? Difficult task unless you're an extremely good actress and I've yet to see any girls with Oscars at the clubs.

    Try this.....explain that you like spending time and having some fun with the guy....be honest.... but you really don't date the customers and if he has any brains he'll understand. Best not to make up any stories and get caught later in your own web (said the fly to the spider). Truth is just the best medicine.

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    I don't bother to ask for numbers nor home addresses.



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    Just say you don't give out phone numbers. If all he was looking for is that kind of thing, he would just be a "pain in the ass" customer anyway.

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    For the record, I don't ask dancers for their phone numbers. I understand completely why one would not want to just give hers out to anyone just for the asking.

    Find a polite way to simply tell the truth and give an honest reason for it. If a customer is so rude to not respect your legitimate security precautions, then to hell with them.

    As for the nice guys, this is where a disposable e-mail account from Yahoo or Hotmail comes in handy. Give it out as a consolation prize to customers who aren't taking not getting your phone number as some sort of personal rejection.

    You can e-mail them once a week with your schedule, use it to arrange the best time for them to come in when you're not busy, and of course, block the guys who go psycho on you later.
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    But...your question was really.....how to pick my pocket "blow me off" and keep me coming back? Was that it? Difficult task unless you're an extremely good actress and I've yet to see any girls with Oscars at the clubs.
    Heeyyy, I'm not that kind of stripper I wrote blow them off but I meant, NOT give them my number but keep them coming back. I don't blow them off literally, unless they're asses) because then they won't come back.
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    PS: I'm not surprised to find that most of they guys here aren't the types who pressure dancers for their personal info or a date
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    As a customer,... I would say the most annoying thing is when a girl gives out her phone number without stating the context/purpose of doing so. I never have asked for a number and have experienced being given numbers by both genuinely interested women and those that wanted to pick my wallet.
    If a guy is asking,.. either they don't get what the job is about,... or they just want to get their groove on.
    Leading a customer on outside of the experience of the club,... i.e. daily life,... is not a good idea.
    If you are looking to create a clientele base through outside personal contact,... then the person should know thats your intent.
    If a dancer gives me her number and says call and I'll let you know my schedule,.. I'll simply return it to her but will continue to get dances in the future.
    If she gives me her number without stating a context,... I don't get another dance from her again.

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    I don't ask for a number, NOR give one. I pre-print a business card with an email address - JUST ONE - and take it along. If a dancer really strikes my fancy, I'll give it to her and see if she writes. Sometimes yes, sometimes no. But the anonymity is maintained by both that way.

    Of course, this is all predicated by an interesting conversation having been struck up, a real rarity.
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    If I really like a dancer and would want to be friends with her outside the club I'll give her my number.If she doesn't call that's O.K. I don't take it personally .If I like her I will still support her with tips.Except for the fact that they take their clothes off for a living dancers are no different then women on the street.Some you wouldn't want to have anything to do with and some you would really like to establish friendships with.So just tell the customer that you don't give out numbers.Let them give you their number or e mail if they want to .

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    If I really like a dancer and would want to be friends with her outside the club I'll give her my number. Except for the fact that they take their clothes off for a living dancers are no different then women on the street..
    I would not give a number out..and yes you get the guys who when you say NO can't do that that will move on to the next girl. But in my experience alot of guys come to the clubs..acting like they wan't to just be your friend but actually want something else. LIKE WE don't know your doing it..drives me nuts..

    I'm curious..why would you want to be friends with a dancer outside the club but then inside the club pay to see her naked or for a lap dance. Doesn't she lose you as a customer if she becomes friends with you outside?BAD for business i would say.

    I highly doubt that ANY man believes we are like ALL the other women on the street ...because of the majority of men I have seen who make it a lifes goal to get a dancer. I just can't see a genuine friendship with a guy who met me when i was naked and the paid me to ride his lap for $20. But I would probably take HIS number and stick it up on my WHORE board.

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    I would not give a number out..and yes you get the guys who when you say NO can't do that that will move on to the next girl. But in my experience alot of guys come to the clubs..acting like they wan't to just be your friend but actually want something else. LIKE WE don't know your doing it..drives me nuts..

    I'm curious..why would you want to be friends with a dancer outside the club but then inside the club pay to see her naked or for a lap dance. Doesn't she lose you as a customer if she becomes friends with you outside?BAD for business i would say.

    I highly doubt that ANY man believes we are like ALL the other women on the street ...because of the majority of men I have seen who make it a lifes goal to get a dancer. I just can't see a genuine friendship with a guy who met me when i was naked and the paid me to ride his lap for $20. But I would probably take HIS number and stick it up on my WHORE board.

    2 more of my cents..

    Holiday
    I have no trouble with seeing my friends naked. I have known several dancers outside the club and for me taking then to get somthing to eat is just that..... spending time with a fiend. being able to see a pretty girl that you are friends with naked any time you want actually takes some of the tension out of being friends with a atractive gal for me..... my curiosity is satified.

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    I'm curious..why would you want to be friends with a dancer outside the club but then inside the club pay to see her naked or for a lap dance. Doesn't she lose you as a customer if she becomes friends with you outside?BAD for business i would say.
    I have met friends in many strange places. If you have some kind of connection it shouldnt matter where or under what circumstances you met. You are ruling out many people who could be really nice.
    As for losing me as customer, I guess that depends on how she can handle it. To me she is (real name) on the outside and (dancer name) on the inside. almost two different people in my book.
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    The best my girl's have come up with is to give out the club's number and tell them that is where she can be found. It tell's them 1. that you are in this as a business and 2. when you are working.

    Most customer's that want your number are looking for something more then they are getting at the club. It's above and beyond the money and also where the money stop's. Yes there are professional reason's to have contact outside the club, IE. They live out of town and want to be sure to see you "at the club" when they are in town. Other then that there is very little reason, short of advancing the relationship to the next level, to give out a personal phone number.

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    I think it's natural that if someone is your regular customer for a long period of time that the relationship will sometimes extend beyond the club. On the few occasions that I've been a regular customer we've ended up sometimes having lunch or dinner, never more, together. And we've exchanged phone numbers so I would know when she was working. I think it's a common courtesy that would occur in any other business relationship as well. My closest friend and I started out that way many years ago. If I were a regular customer for a long time and the lady refused to break bread with me I'd be insulted.
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    I think it's natural that if someone is your regular customer for a long period of time that the relationship will sometimes extend beyond the club. On the few occasions that I've been a regular customer we've ended up sometimes having lunch or dinner, never more, together. And we've exchanged phone numbers so I would know when she was working. I think it's a common courtesy that would occur in any other business relationship as well. My closest friend and I started out that way many years ago. If I were a regular customer for a long time and the lady refused to break bread with me I'd be insulted.
    I can see where you're coming from, but in my opinion, I see that dancing is a different job as to where/when you draw the line between custom and proper friends.

    You may be insulted if a girl said no to dinner, but you must also be understanding about the fact that some dancers have a yard stick to abide to and may like to keep business as business in fear of breaching their own boundary rules. I am not implying that asking a girl out means anything more than just dinner, but in a job that is sex orientated, no matter how well you know a regular, you may not always 'know' them if you know what I mean.

    I know it's all to do with trust, but personally, I prefer to stick to the safe side of the fence all times, no matter how regular or great the customer is. Therefore I refuse numbers politely and keep the relationship strictly club-based.

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