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    Stripping is a business and I'm sure at the end of the night when most of you dancers go home you leave club business in the club.But have you ever been attracted to a customer and how did you deal with that?Is it an unwritten rule in the Stripping industry to never under any circumstances date a customer?After all we are only human.

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    I'm curious..Why Not a Nurse or Burger King worker? Yes..I have seen many attractive guys who I have danced for ..tons...even when i was single r..but NO I would never date a guy who has seen me naked..and has given me cash to do so. I think dancers deal with attractive customers because we have an element of self control. It's probably the worst thing us dancers have to put up with constantly..WE are working..it's not a pick up joint..I am sure where ever YOU or other men live.. there are hundreds of bars where there are WILLING women that you can DATE and probably much easier to get. Sorry it just seems like it's an unwritten rule that if a guy bags a "Dancer" he is considered a stud. I've seen attractive nurses and food service workers..but I just don't get the goal of it HAS to be a dancer.

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    True there are attractive nurses and burger king workers.But they all want money too.They judge you on what you have or don't have materially.Which is why I prefer dancers not because of some macho reputation I would receive as a stud but with dancers you know what's up and where you stand straight up.What is the difference between a nurse telling her girlfriend that she's not going to spend much time with me because I dont look like I make enough money then a dancer in a club wanting to spend time with me because I'm a great tipper?Absolutely no difference what so ever.Believe me I met many dancers and the worst women I've run into were the so called "regular'women who are the nurses and burger king workers.
    At least the dancers are straight up with you.

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    Good Point!
    I never looked at it like that.

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    Is it an unwritten rule in the Stripping industry to never under any circumstances date a customer?After all we are only human.
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    Hmm, I'd say that if you go to a SC with the intention of "bagging" a dancer, you'll run into trouble. If you establish a good relationship ( from a customer's standpoint) with one, it may be not worth it to try to pick her up. So just live your life and if you're lucky you'll end up with a partner, stripper or not.



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    If you go to a strip club looking to date dancers, and spend money on them in the process, you will only be seen/treated as an ATM. I am NOT advising you to go to clubs trying to pick up dancers and not tipping. That will get you seen/treated as an asshole. Of course, there are always exeptions to every rule, and if you go as a customer and behave nicely, it is entirely possible that you will make a real connection with a dancer, and wind up dating her. Not likely, but possible, and does happen once in a while. Just be aware that you are always the customer, and don't fall in love with a girl who is only working you for cash at the club. If she really goes for you, she won't want your money, and SHE will let you know.

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    Hmmm...IMHO, the only time I really saw a dancer "dating" a regular customer was when she thought that she would get a "sugar daddy" out of the deal. As soon as the money stopped flowing, then she got bored and moved on. So, what is the difference between the "regular" gold-digger and the one in stripper heels?

    I, personally, will NEVER date anyone I meet at work...it's just a massive drama waiting to happen...no, thanks.

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    This is two questions, really. 1) Are we ever attracted and 2) Would we date a customer we had an attraction to?

    Question the First:
    I meet a dozen men on a very slow night. On busy nights I meet 50 or more. Count it up; six months at five nights a week (minimum), subtracting 20% for regulars.... I have met between 1200 and 5000 men, perhaps more. Out of that massed humanity, I have found a total of three men attractive. Oh, there have been good-looking men in the club, without doubt. But looks aren't enough to get my motor running. Three... out of hundreds, maybe thousands of men. The odds are not good.

    Question the Second:
    One man I made a regular customer. A second became a regular, but then I downgraded him to a "bar buddy" (chat, drinks, bonus attention of a regular but NO hustling and no dances). It just felt too weird to dance for this guy, whom I genuinely liked. The third was never a regular (he had an ATF at my club). He got an introduction outside of the club by a co-worker (his ATF, in fact) and we're now dating seriously. We moved in together last week.

    To answer your questions, yes it is an unwritten rule. Yes, some dancers break that rule. But your odds are paltry at best, and I would not be optimistic if you approach a SC looking for a date. None of my three guys went to a strip club for a date; they went there to have someone strip for them.

    If you feel that you really want to date a stripper, just keep those numbers in front of your face. Three out of thousands... one of whom actually got a date.
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    Dancers find some customers attractive. But, it's our job to make all patrons FEEL attractive and desirable. So, if you're looking for a GF or FB in a stripclub, you're treading on shaky ground. I've never heard of a dancer (in the 9yrs. I've been doing it) who started stripping because she couldn't get dates/laid!
    PS-I met my BF at a stripclub (we were BOTH patrons). 1 1/2yrs. later, only one of us still goes
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    Ok, really stupid question. If you ladies are attratced to such a low percentage of men, how do you find a guy you're willing to date?
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    I personally would never date someone I met at work. One of the reasons why is that how do I know he's not just gonna keep going to these places and find someone else he likes? Also, here in Tampa, the clubs are VERY strict about things. You're not allowed to recieve or give numbers, emails, etc, and you get fired for either leaving with a customer or meeting one after work. And believe me, I have heard it a million times: "How are they gonna know?" It doesn't matter as far as I'm concerned..If I don't wanna do it, I don't wanna do it, and pushy ppl just really piss me off.
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    Im all my years of stripping I have been attracted to only one customer. He was a biker (Gypsy Joker) who was kind enough to smoke me out on shift. He had balls!

    My first words to him were asking if he had any weed. He said 'yeah want to smoke a bowl?' His pipe was already loaded with kind in his pocket! We stepped outside and puffed down. (backwoods oregon club with no security or valet so it was cool)

    Of course he invited me back to the clubhouse after work but I wisely said no. I long ago learned to not do everything I want to do.

    Bikers rarely tip and he was no exception but I still gave him lots of attention when I danced. His bike was sooo arousing. Now, when I hear the rumble of those hogs shaking the building I still get excited!
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    Okay, when i first saw this thread I was like "Not again," but it seems to be a little different from the other five threads like it that I have seen.

    1) Dancers are Human, not robots.

    2) Paying to see a woman naked is a pretty lousy way to start a meaningful relationship.

    3) It is much easier to make friends with a Dancer than to get them to date you.




    I leave the dating thing at the door when I come in. My thing is that I like looking at pretty girls, I really don't care if they are naked or not. My other thing is, since I can look at pretty girls just about anywhere, I love to flirt. I can flirt with a Dancer and everything is cool. She's not going to get all weirded out like some women do. I know what's up and she knows what's up.

    When I go into a Strip club, I usually just bullshit with the girls, get a few dances, tip them on stage, say goodbye to everone I met, then leave. It's kinda easy for me to develop feelings for women, not necessarily romantic ones (I avoid this like the plague, because she is unlikely to return them), but feelings. I like chicks. I just do. I even get along with the women that other men consider 'bitchy,' always have. In a SC, i like to be different. If i'm some guy leering and screaming crap at the stage, treating the Dancers like they are pieces of meat hanging up in a butcher shop, I'm one out of a thousand. I'd rather be a little different than that. I like bullshitting with Dancers, having fun, joking around and teasing. I'm NEVER out for a GFE, I'd rather just be myself.

    Have I ever thought that a Stripper was attracted to me? Sure. But I am awfully cautious about it. Stripper shit, you know? Personally, I'm content with the mere idea that she might think to herself "He was a nice guy" after I say "bye" and leave. Maybe it's a certain kind of conceit, the idea of being compared to 98% of the other guys some woman has met and THEM coming up lacking rather than me. So, I never hit on a Dancer. Never. I figure if she wants me, she'll let me know. If I want her, I'll respond. If I don't want her that way, then I made a friend. Who can argue with that?

    This is one reason I like this forum so much, I suppose.

    I'm not all that cute. I really doubt anyone will pick me out of a crowd and say "Damn, he's HOT!!!" I do, however, take pride in my ability to express myself and make a positive connection when I want to.

    Would I ever Date a Dancer? Fuck, I've dated two! But neither one did I meet in a club. One through a friend, and one in the veggie isle of the supermarket (of all places). Would I ever date a dancer i met in a club if i knew for sure she really wanted me that way? Sure. I don't care where I meet a girl.

    But I don't get my hopes up. Nor do I expect anything that is unrealistic. I just want to flirt and have fun.

    Oh, and I like to tip. I like seeing girls smile.



    I hope i expressed myself well enough. I'm running on about eight beers at the moment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lestat1 link=board=8;threadid=3937;start=msg45925#msg45925 date=1069028950
    Ok, really stupid question. If you ladies are attratced to such a low percentage of men, how do you find a guy you're willing to date?
    LOL Lestat.. Very good question. I'll give you my answer. I actually met my hubby when we both worked at a donut shop (ugh.. yes). He was an assistant manager, and I was the third shift baker/opener. I truly HATED him when I first met him. We didn't start dating until about a year after he quit working there. He grew on me, I guess, kind of like fungus.. lol

    I've honestly never been choosy about a certain type of man. Looks aren't as important to me as what's inside. But, I really don't think that I'd be able to date a man that came to see me dance. I like to keep my private and professional lives separate. When I'm asked if I'm married, etc, I just tell them that I don't talk about the life I have outside the club, but I add, that I DO have one.

    But again, I'm definitely NOT choosy.. lol.. Hey, I think Conan O'Brien is a total Sex-God. That's proof.


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    i agree. Here in tampa.. we CANT give our numbers out, and if managment were to find out, its an automatic fire!

    Why would i want to date a guy that frequented strip clubs anyway? Im not interested in that kind of guy.

    CHRISTY--so glad someone else here is from tampa too!

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    Conan is adorable - did you see him trying to be a cheerleader??
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