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    ... does it annoy a dancer, make you feel uncomfortable, or make you feel like the customer has crossed a line he should not have crossed?

    I mean like you are at the Mall, buying groceries or whatever, just daily life. And a guy who knows you from a club sees you and recognizes you, does it upset you if he says hello? Do you feel like they should pretend not to know you for the sake of discretion?

    And the opposite. If you recognize a good customer will you acknowledge them or wait for them to say something so that you don't blow it in case there are with their wife, Mother, Pastor or whatever?

    Or is it just better if both parties act like they don't know each other?

    Just curious,

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    It almost never happens. Although it probably happens more than I know and I just don't notice/recognize them. But if I do I'll make eye contact and if they smile or whatever, I'll say hi. If they don't or they look scared I don't. I won't really stop and chat, unless they're a regular. (that happened once while my mom was visiting... "Oh, John, this is my mom, mom this is John, he comes into the RESTAURANT where I WAITRESS a lot" )

    I didn't realize how many people I don't recognize until a semi-regular told me that he and his wife had been behind me in line at WalMart (the loooong get your oil changed line) and the whole time he was freaking out that I was going to say something. He said I looked right at him and his wife made some small talk with me while we were standing there. I remember it, but I don't remember him being there LOL

    So, I probably see a lot of people without recognizing them.



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    That poor guy was probably about to crap his pants right there Lena. LOL I can imagine you chatting with his wife and then you look at him and say, "You seem so familiar, don't I know you from someplace?" :o
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    LOL, I usually see them with their wives so I just avoid eye contact go about my buisness. I'm not going to say, "HEY THERE! Coming back to the club again this weekend!??" Teehee!

    If I'm not with family I dont mind a hello at all, it doesnt make me uncomfartable unless they were a real creepo-sleaze at the club.

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    I had someone come up to me at starbucks that recognized me from a porno. I also had someone recognize me when I was at dinner. I think they shouldn't say anything if your with someone. At starbucks I was alone so I didnt care, but I had a friend with me at dinner. What if the person your with doesnt know what you do? All my friends do, but I know some people keep their jobs secret.

    I knew another dancer who used to go by the name climax. She told me one day she was leaving the mall with her husband and very young daughter, when another dancer saw her from all the way across the parking lot. She started screaming 'climax! hey climax!' and her daughter is like 'mommy who is she talking too?'. She was really upset with the girl.

    I think there's a time and place for everything. If you see a dancer you know, smile, but let her come and say hi to you first.

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    Trixie,

    That makes a lot of sense to me, the idea of discreetly nodding and then letting the other person deciding how to proceed. All it takes is a bit of discretion and class on everyone's part to make things more comfortable.

    I would be ticked if I was your dancer freind too. Especially from another dancer who should understand that in front of a kid you use some good sense. That was pretty dumb.

    BTW, I never knew that you did pornos, oh boy like I needed anymore fantasies about any of you girls here.
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    LOL, I usually see them with their wives so I just avoid eye contact go about my buisness. I'm not going to say, "HEY THERE! Coming back to the club again this weekend!??" Teehee!

    If I'm not with family I dont mind a hello at all, it doesnt make me uncomfartable unless they were a real creepo-sleaze at the club.
    P.S. Don't ever piss off a dancer in a club. She could really take you downtown because of your antics in an SC. I've heard some stories how dancers have gotten even with customers who mistreated them or acted out too much.

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    I think a smile and a nod is acknwledgement enough. I really don't want to make chit-chat when I'm being myself. I'd only say hi if he was a good regular, and alone of course.

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    Well since i knew alot of my regulars before, it did not feel strange. But we never talked abouit it, except for me to say when i would be on shift again.

    As for the ones i only knew of inside the club, it has happened a few times only. And they would just ask if i was that person, i said yes, and i will be working again tonite for example.

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    I think a smile and a nod is acknwledgement enough. I really don't want to make chit-chat when I'm being myself. I'd only say hi if he was a good regular, and alone of course.


    That is a good point Mariah. I work in retail and frankly I hate it when I am out to dinner and someone asks me about business. It is like "Damn I have to kiss your butt 54 hours a week and now you want me to do it now too?"

    I know how you feel I think.
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    I think a smile and a nod is acknwledgement enough.
    Thats a great discreat way to do it.

    In a few of my expiriances its too late for that unfortunately. Example: getting coffee at a gas station, someone taps me on the shoulder enthusiastically greeting me -- my mind is fumbling and failing to recall who the hell this is, lol.

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    Yup, that's the trouble. You rarely ever recognize them, even if they did spend beaucoup money on you. I don't know how to pick them from the rest of the people in the world. It wouldn't be so bad if I could sometimes recognize them. I'd have something witty to say but alas, these recognitions always leave me a bit flustered and talking about something as arbitrary as the weather.

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    I think in the case of Juliette though all my discretion would go out the window. I think if I saw her I would slap her on the back and go buy her a beer so we could talk about music, philosophy, and life in general.

    Here's looking at you kid! Oh wait I need more smilies for you. :o
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    xmarx-
    Check it out! There's smilies for that too! [santa]<<-----this dude was the only one I could find for a slap on the back motion.....hmmmm.....NO...no wanna cum sit on my knee jokes!!!! LOL Oh! the beer. [cheers] there's lookin' at you!

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    Don't you think that part of what makes it hard for a dancer or a customer to recognize the other outside of work is that they are not where they are "supposed to be"?

    Like if I see my Dentist and he is not wearing his white coat with his hand in my mouth I think, "Damn do I know that guy from somewhere?"

    So if you guys see one of your fans and they are not throwing money and drooling how are you supposed to recognise them?
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    I have only reconised one dancer outside of the club. she said hi and it took me a while to realize who is was. if I did see a dancer outside the club (exect for ones I know personally) I would just say Hi. if she wanted to talk I would, otherwise I would just let them be. I don't mind dancers saying hi to me, but then I am single.

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    Don't you think that part of what makes it hard for a dancer or a customer to recognize the other outside of work is that they are not where they are "supposed to be"?

    Like if I see my Dentist and he is not wearing his white coat with his hand in my mouth I think, "Damn do I know that guy from somewhere?"

    So if you guys see one of your fans and they are not throwing money and drooling how are you supposed to recognize them?
    A good rule of thumb is that if a dancer acknowledge you first, then its okay to reciprocate in kind. A "hi" will beget only a "hi", but a "Oh My God.. How are You?" can beget a more elaborate response from you.

    If you get nothing from them, give nothing. There can be a 1000 reasons why they don't acknowledge you. Whatever it is, be respectful of them and leave them alone. Its their job to be friendly, personable, and intimate with you in the club. Outside they are being themselves. No one wants to deal with aspects of their job when not working.


    I encounter this somewhat. I bartend in a place that is the local watering hole (a bar within a family dining restaurant). I know practically every person in the town, but I don't live there, so I only see them at work. However, they all know me, because I work over 60 hours each week, and am rather omnipresent there. On the off chance I encounter someone outside of work, its like "Hey, that's the bartender from _____". I always feel awkward, plus I get annoyed because that's my job, its not what I define myself.

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    Hey John, does that mean you don't want to make me a Shirley Temple on your day off? Boy some people...

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    I was in a bikini shop with a former gf shopping for bikini's for a trip to Hawaii and I ran into a lady friend from a local club who was buying bikini's for her stage outfits.

    She smiled and waved very nonchalant so that my accompanied friend had no clue I even knew her....

    The next time I went into the club, this gorgeous gal who was very considerate of the company I was in comes over and tells me she thinks my GF is a hottie and that she is very happy for me. She also thought it was so cool that I took her bikini shopping......

    By her knowing that I was a customer in her club who was always respectful, generous and very kind, she never felt uncomfortable. When I do run into ladies from clubs, I have never been ignored or had to make the first motion. I always get a hi and a smile or a wave even if they are with other company.....

    Cool Gal!!! if you treat others with respect, dignity, and listen... you always get treated well in return!!! turned out we ended up dating for a time and had a blast together, traveling and seeing the sights!


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    Ive been going to clubs for years and Ive NEVER run into a dancer that I knew. I need to get out more :-/
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    Hey FBR, not many dancers are visiting the local brewery on a regular basis LMAO Try going to the mall once and awhile
    I met a dancer in the mall while shopping with my wife. Thank God she was discreet. Just a wink and a smile
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    I wa recognized IN MY APARTMENT COMPLEX one ime :o

    That was interesting, they shouted my stage name across the parking lot. Im glad I was alone.

    And I was in trafic court onece and saw 3 customers and an dancer! that was interesting.

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    i wouldnt mind if i was alone but not to many people know i dance and stuff so i wouldnt want to be put on the spot.
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    You've got to play it by ear as others have mentioned. This goes for customer or dancer (I'm a customer). Be particularly cautious if the person you recognize is with other people. That said, I should also say that one of the nicest experiences I've had with a dancer, in or outside of a club, was being recognized by a dancer outside a restaurant. I was alone. She was with a group. I didn't recognize her. She says hi 'my name' and comes right up and gives me a hug and a kiss. I'll never forget that girl for being so nice.

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    I work out of state so I don't have that happen..LOL

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