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    Asked out: yes (sex wasn't implied either) - but I didn't ask her this at the club and I never have hit on a dancer in a club.

    Did I still her money: yes, but she never said no or yes. some of her co-workers tried to get her to go out with me but I stopped going to that club before anything came of it.

    Someone asked me how come I don't ask this or that dancer out and my reaction has always been to laugh. I can't blame people for asking out strippers at a club but the idea is laughable.

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    Aja, your question is quite nebulous. Are you asking of Male strip club patrons that have attended male strip clubs or are you asking straight strip club patrons who are male?
    I'll answer both. I've attended male reviews before simply because they were billed at the club I was at . No, I didn't ask any of them out. At straight strip clubs , I only went out on dates after the woman suggest that we do. I don't hustle women in the normal sense. I would invite a woman to attend a function in neutral territory if I'm interested in her but I don't push for phone numbers.
    What happened ? One we attended a play , lost any serious interest, lost contact. Another turned out to be a man hater. I don't have any high expectations from a date . It's just to get to know someone a little better.

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    I got up the nerve to ask a dancer out for dinner in Toronto and she could bring her friend along also, to which she told me I had better bring alot of money.Pissed me right off and I will never ever ask out another dancer .Yeah you may be a fantasy and I may be a customer but we are all human beings. I dont like being treated like a walking wallet [tounge]

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    I dont like being treated like a walking wallet [tounge]
    ...or a walking credit card, for that matter[joker]



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    Never asked.
    Don't make me spank you!

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    My take on it would be this: I'd rather be honest about it. The club is an illusion, but occasionally I'll meet a dancer who I think I might like outside the club. That has happened maybe once or twice, the last time a week or three ago.
    When that happened, I didn't ask her out...I just told her up front that if SHE was interested in getting a cup of coffee or something like that sometime, I'd give her my phone number and leave it up to HER to call ME. That way I figured I wouldn't creep her out or anything, and it would be a way of gauging what, if anything, was really going on.
    If you just wanna make money, that's fine. I'm OK with that and as long as you keep turning me on I'll keep coming back. But if you strung me along and I figured it out, it would probably be a cold day in hell before you ever got another dollar off me.

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    Wow let's beat the dust off of this thread .

    I think it is both illogical and logical for customer's to ask dancer's for date's.

    Illogically because it is unreasonable to assume these gorgeous creature's clock out and go home to an empty house and cry themselves to sleep, cold and lonely. I alway's assumed that they did in fact have a S/O or that they didn't have one because they chose not too. This should be the mind set of all SC patron's.

    Logically because a stripper that does her job well, boost's the ego of an otherwise repressed person with self esteem issue's. Hence the fact that he's in a club where money is exchanged for attention as opposed to a dance club where women are as much predator as they are prey, and the odd's of attaining a relationship are significantly higher.

    There is of coarse the Thophy hunter's that think that they can buy anything with enough money. They of coarse are dangerous to a dancer's morality but that is what there after in the first place.

    This of coarse apply's to very few of the member's here, you guy's are in a category all on your own, kinda stuck between a customer and an industry insider.

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    I have never asked a dancer out because I prefer delimited fantasies.... I have been asked out in various ways, ranging from "Would you have sex with me?" to "Would you be cool with hanging out?" The most common reason has been some variation of "Because you look easy and I like you." In most cases the dancer just wanted to feel close to someone.... I never say no, but I usually deflect or put off answering the question. All the dancers have been pretty "girl next door" types who were on track, and all the experiences have been good. None involved "real" sex.... I have never paid for anything beyond lunch, event tickets and hotel rooms. It doesn't affect my club spending, and I have not seen some of my favorites outside clubs.

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    Over in the "Mindset of Gentlemen's Club Customers" thread I made the statement that if you want to see strippers go to a strip club, if you want to pick up girls go to a bar/nightclub, if you want to get laid go to a brothel.

    On the other hand, if I'm in a strip club and there is a dancer that I've seen and talked with regularly, and with whom I've perceived a connection, I may ask her out. The way I see it, in any walk of life, whether at work, in school, at the mall, or in a SC, you're going to meet people with whom there may be a "spark". If you ask her out, really the worst that can happen is she says "no".

    However, I do not make it a goal when I go to a SC to "pick up" a dancer. As I also said in the "Mindset" thread, she only has to say "no" once. (A couple of times I've had a dancer say "yes"...never anything more than a casual meal, or a night out with a mixed group of dancers, staff, and other regulars.)

    Whether the answer was "yes" or "no", at least from my POV, doesn't affect our business relationship - I wouldn't expect special treatment because we went out, and I wouldn't stop or reduce my tips because we didn't.

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    Guy's unfortunatley get so caught up with the fantasy angle and the attention they get. I always see this being initial reason for trying to crossover with dancers and relationships. I see few rare relationships working out and if so ,it was probably ment to be. The rest of the time I can only see customers trying to get involved because they get caught up in the hype. You rarely see the opposite where a dancer has the mindset that she absolutley has to date this guy and he has to tell her politely that he does not date dancers (as if....). I've seen girls get caught up as well but they usually over time learn and get out of that trend and set certain rules for themselves.
    Hey if things are ment to be, so be it. Sometimes you end up having the best and most important relationships with people that are you're associates or clients. I work in the entertainment industry and this is the way it is. WHEN PEOPLE WORK I PLAY AND WHEN PEOPLE PLAY I WORK.
    My relationships have been very shakey because of this but these are the times we work and sometimes when guys are in party mode , they should understand that dancers are in working mode.

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    Ask on a date? Not really. When I first moved out here, I didn't know anyone but about five or six folks from work, and most of them I didn't care to hang out with much. A guy from work was getting married, and we had an almost olbigatory bachelor party that ended up at the club I now hang out at. Quite frankly, most of the dancers were better company than my coworkers.

    A couple of weeks later, we have this big dinner party thing, CEO coming to town and all that. Pretty strongly implied to bring date/spouse and be done up good. I'm bummed because I still knew no single females I'd be caught dead with (both looks and personality wise,) except a couple strippers... I explained the situation over a drink to one of them. She offered to go as long as she could drive herself. At the end of the night, she ended up turning down the "escort" cash and told me to spend it on her in the club some other time. We've remained friends for the last three years, but never "dated" again. I even got invited to her wedding last September.

    Now, I have dated a dancer or two in the last few years, but I had never been a customer of any of them beforehand. I suppose it would be possible; but quite frankly, only if the girl asks me out. Why? Because I know they're working, and I don't ask out people who are working. You don't ask out the waitress at a resturant do you? Okay, some folks probably do.

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    I thought I'd respond to this because I'm still going out with the guy who was once my regular. First met him almost exactly 2 years ago (in the club). He would come in all the time whoopin' it up with his friends a couple summers ago. He was CONSTANTLY asking me out, saying how much he loved paying my bills in the club (haha) but would rather spend the money on me elsewhere. Of course I was always turning him down (yet I was still attracted to him). Finally one day I just said "fuck it" and called him up. We started dating around Labor Day and we're still seeing each other exclusively.

    Hey this brings to mind an idea for a new thread. Look for in on the general board.


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    I've only been out with strippers who have expressed interest in going out with me. Sometimes it goes for the worse or it may turn out the interest really isn't there. Whatever, I've never established a continuing relationship with a stripper.
    As to whether or not I would continue tipping her, yes, if she did a good job.

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    Old thread, but I'm new here so I'll throw my two cents in.

    I asked out one dancer at a club that I went to as a fluke and she said yes. We dated for about 3 months and fell madly in love with each other. I asked her to marry me shortly thereafter and she accepted.

    Unfortunately, she dumped me on Christmas Eve later that year because she didn't want to cause me grief with my parents (dad's a minister). I tried to convince her that it didn't matter to me what anyone thought, because I loved her, but to no avail.

    I love dating dancers. I love the mindset and the lifestyle and I hope to ask another out soon.

    Jon

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    Yes. I have asked dancers out several of times. The first one said yes, but was playing me and backed out at the last minute. I never dealt with her again. Another one declined (nicely). We are still friends and once in a while I buy dances from her. We talk often. I haven't asked her out again. Went out with a third one, but it was awkward. Never dated her again but we remained friends for a long while. Several dancers have asked me out or suggested that going out might be fun. I've taken a few of them up on it. I can only remember going out with two of them more than once. Actually, this is about the same as my batting average with non-dancers.

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    I never have asked out a Dancer while being a customer. I consider it the same as my job asking me to take more work home. So I respect the girls and keep it inside the club.

    As for getting a girls phone number and seeing them outside the club. It has happened to me once and a couple of friends of mine twice under these special circumstances:

    1. It's alway's been a some what upscale club, but in a geographic area where the local customer base are unsophisticated A-holes.

    2. We are tipping decent, and treating the girls with courtesy and respect unheard of in that region.

    3. My friends are really good looking, and so the younger dancers were really all over them.

    4. We just happened to be the kind of guys that the girl liked. Different from the norm of whats availble for that area.

    5. S#@t happens.

    6. When a dancer sees what she likes, she'll come on stronger than most women. It will usually suprise her coworkers who've never seen that behavior before.

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    Aja,
    I've asked several dancers from various clubs out to lunch or dinner over the years. The couple of times she said "yes" the dancer never showed. I still go to the clubs and see them. Hey, if I thought enough of them to ask, I'm not going to ignore them for saying "no thanks".

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    I've spent time with several dancers outside of the club. I've played tour guide, gone to lunch with some, and had dinner with some. I've never thought that because a dancer has done something with me outside the club that a relationship is the natural progression. Even if outside the club nothing blossomed, it does not keep me from going back to the club and sitting with her. I leave it up to them and whether they're comfortable about it or not. Just because we didn't enjoy each others company outside the club doesn't mean we can't enjoy each other inside the club. If the dancer says "no", then no big deal, it won't prevent from coming back.

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    Yes, and I have never been disappointed either..........

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    I've asked a number of girls out and only have had one who did see me outside the club. The answer, Yes or No , doesn't affect whether I see her again or how I tip

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    I always figured that is there job to make me think I have a chance but in reality don't. Although i had one a few weeks ago who i was very temped to. (she was getting pretty frisky and breaking some rules and i really didn't get that many dances)

    But I didn't ask becasue i figured she gets asked pretty often. If I asked and she sadi no i'd still prolly get a few more dances.


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    oh as for "paying to sit with me" no thanks. I'll pay for on stage and for lap dances. If they wanna sit and BS thats totally cool with me (as long as they don't have a seriosu accent, so i can understand what theya re saying). If theya re cool i'd gladly pay for a drink or what not but for flat out "paying to sit and BS" no thanks.

    do people actually do that?

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    Do people actually do that?
    Yes, unfortunately.
    I'm a simple man, making my way through the universe.

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    My perspective on dating dancers has been entirely jaded by what I have experienced over the past few years. I would not ask a dancer out again because I would find the date to be subjective. Just from this board alone I think most dancers have linked certain negativities with dating customers , just as most customers don't realize how they have attributed to these associations.

    Asking every dancer out and hoping 1 out of 10..... or 10 out of 100...... will say "yes", is a process of elimination and indicates there is something very wrong with a customer who does this and does it for the wrong reasons.

    Like I said before, even if a dancer asked me out I would
    be cautious due to the variables between dancers and customers.

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    I have been out with a few dancers.

    Once was just breakfast after hanging out at the club.

    The second was a dancer that I ended up being great friends with. We never dated. We would just meet for lunch or coffee. I would still see her in the club. I could not have her dance for me, because it was too weird, but I really didn't care about the dances. She was just good company and I did not mind giving her money in the club. I always had a great time with her.

    Had a dancer ask me for my number, which is normal if she wants to see when I am coming in, but the difference here was that she called me up to come over to her place and she cooked me dinner. Very nice gesture. She tried to pursue a relationship with me, but I did not feel any chemistry. In this case I did not see her in the club anymore.

    I have heard a lot of different lines from dancers that were just attempts to "fuel the fantasy." It is rare if it is genuine. I actually met a dancer recently who said she was attracted to me and wanted to meet outside of the club. We had a lot in common and had a good time (both of us had some drinks), but I chalked it up as just being the 'fantasy.' She gave me her number. I called her for the heck of it and she was consistent with what she had told me in the club. I happened to go in a couple of nights later to hang out and talk to some friends and she happened to be there. She came by and asked if she could join me for a drink. We ended up having several drinks and she said that she wanted no money for hanging out with me, because she enjoyed my company. I was like, "what?" I could not believe that she was just wanting to hang out and have drinks, no strings. She stayed there with me for 5 hours. She even bought a couple of rounds. In this case she did not want to see me in the club setting as a customer... Very unusual.


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