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    Default Re: Why do they ask...?

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    Darn good strippers ARE excellent conversationalists!!!

    Anyway, I hate that question. When I was a waitress, nobody asked me if I had another job, was going to school or what I was going to do with my life!

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    Like if I'm talking about how I'm investing my money and buying real estate and managing rentals, etc, does that turn them off? like, "she has enough money" and if it's too much and too ambitious, almost a turn-off....
    That's where the skill comes into play in your job..... You have to learn to read your customer...... I would think that talk would lose you the average 9-5 Joe in a heart beat.........

    After all... He thinks your there waiting to be rescued from all that, taken back home to his double wide trailer so you can make him pancakes on Sundays and give him 2.7 children.......

    But a professional may appreciate your savvy.....

    personally.................. If I was a young attractive woman I would dance and if I had the same savvy every guy that walked into the place better watch out......

    Those of you that like what you do and do it welll... have my respect.....
    I have a difficult time meeting ladies!

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    Darn good strippers ARE excellent conversationalists!!!

    Anyway, I hate that question. When I was a waitress, nobody asked me if I had another job, was going to school or what I was going to do with my life!
    Exactly... when I said "darn good stripper" I meant the combo of sex bomb, professional athlete, therapist and cruise director (ha) the job requires!

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    Exactly... when I said "darn good stripper" I meant the combo of sex bomb, professional athlete, therapist and cruise director (ha) the job requires!
    Everything a growing boy needs!

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    Everything a growing boy needs!

    -Sad-

    It's nice if they can cook as well......
    I have a difficult time meeting ladies!

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    My guess is that they are assuming you also solicit. Don't take offence by it . Just answer them honestly. There's also the possibility they don't know how to make conversation with a pretty girl so don't go out making prejudgements yourself.

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    I get this question from guys a lot too! I am sure that they are just making conversation, so I tell them I'm a full time mom and a part-time entertainer, and just so they know that I have ambition: I let them know that I am buying my home (only owe 4 yrs) and intend to return to college when my daughter starts school (maybe sooner if I can), she's 3. I also, being the chatterbox that I am, jump into my hobbies, etc. and let them know how much I enjoy my "work".

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    Well, I always ask this question for the following reasons:

    1. As an Ice Breaker, it helps to get a conversation started.

    2. It's also an assesment tool, I use it to gauge your integerety, just by your answer alone. It helps me sort out the rip off artist, from the proffessional dancer. It also helps determine what kind of comfort zone I can establish with you.

    3. You've got my interest, and I'm curious about you.

    Never consider this a degrading question. As guys we're curious about you. This question is also how we show it.

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    Well, based on the first few replies I read to this question, I was relieved to find out that sometimes it's just polite conversation. I've been asked it many times. Sometimes by customers whose intent was clearly to test, and then attempt to degrade me based on my answer. Which is: I do whatever the hell I feel like on my own time. I don't have kids. I'm not married. I travel the world and work as little as possible. But, at least I know now that if the question sounds leading.. give a good sob story about needing cash for a portfolio or tuition to taxidermy school or whatever other crap the guy wants to hear so he feels like he isn't blowing his money on a hapless wayward stripper!
    I am lazy and I like to party


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    Actually I've been reading this board for over a year.
    I am a new member. This is not really a question, but a true story and asking for a reaction. The names of my dancer and me the customer, plus all places are changed or disguised.
    In about May of 2002, I needed to spend quite a bit
    of time on continuing education and business meetings in Southcity.
    I went early on a flight from Northcity on a Saturday morning and arrived in Southcity shortly after noon.
    The flight was late, the rent a car wasn't ready, and it was dinner time before I got to my hotel near status mall and Ring Town.
    I went to my old standby strip club, Neighborhood club.
    Hadn't been there in awhile. The girls were pretty,
    but not connection. I noticed adds for a club I had never heard of, Showbar Cabaret.
    Left and headed south on ring road. Certainly wasn't very easy to find but found it. It was a big place, four bars and three stages.
    It was 11 p.m. and the place was hopping, and there were no seats for just one guy. So I stood near
    small stage 2 as a new girl got on it to dance.
    She really held my attention. I had been hustled by the waitress for VIP rooms, and had turned down the dancers that the waitress had sent by.
    There really aren't VIP rooms in Northcity, and it isn't
    really nude with alcohol.
    I approached stage name Shania and asked if she wanted a drink at the VIP bar. She looked at me, and said yes.
    At any rate after she looked me over, and told me she didn't do anything in VIP but that we could
    do dances there, we took a room for two hours
    and some champagne.
    Three bottles of champagne and five hours late we3 really had a good time and she let me french kiss her. She looked at me and said, I don't normally do that and grabbed and kissed me back.
    We talked about stuff including material designs.
    I looked at her and said you sound like a scientist or engineer. She said "I'm both."
    Being somewhat new to strip clubs, I asked for her real name, where she really worked, and where she lived.
    She said she would never tell me where she lived but was really Helen, and worked for Design Industries
    as a research scientist.

    She was at Showbar Cabaret because her family
    back home had big debts, was in danger of splitting up,
    and her mother was a single parent.

    She said she needed alot of money and delivering Pizzas wasn't the answer.

    So I asked her out for dinner. She said she would come to the Singletree and pick me up because she wouldn't
    let me know where she lived.

    On Tuesday she called the hotel and left a voice message saying she
    wasn't comfortable coming over, never went out with customers and broke the date.

    I kept seeing her June through November at the club.

    In October I offered, to loan her the $25,000
    to get her out of the club.. She wrote me an e mail and said she couldn't accept the money and that money problems caused her and alot of boy friends to break up.

    In December I was there for over three weeks.
    Two weeks was real and one week was pad to the time I added. I said it was Christmas and she was breaking up with her room mate and we should go out.

    She said no but said I could take her to lunch. So I wound up driving to her office, meeting her boss, and taking her out. Have no done that on six occasions.

    She said we could go out for dinner if we exchanged small Christmas presents so we did. I bought her
    some nice Colonge and she did the same for me
    from StomNords Department Store.

    We had a wonderful time at dinner.

    In Jan I cam,e back for the weekend and we went out for Sunday brunch and then shopping.
    I offered to pay for the clothes. She said no.
    She used her credit cards and handed me her drivers license. Having an excellent memory I memorized the Street address. It was a nice complex with
    gated private streets which is why I couldn't find it
    on any city maps.

    We have gone to dinner four times now, and I have been over to her apartment five times now, sometimes just for sandwiches.

    In Feb. she didn't come over on a Sunday and I went to her place and met her
    boyfriend who she was kicking out when he answered the door. There was moving truck with stuff
    being loaded into it at the curb.

    In March there were two rings in my pocket. Chickening out I gave her the diamond and pearl onyx ring instead of the diamond.

    She had surgery about three months ago and has quit the club. I was in Southcity for a real reason and came over.

    She was mad but introduced me to her mother
    who was helping with recovery.
    Later ignored me for two weeks and said it was awkward that I came over while her mother was there.
    (Her mother doesn't know she dances.)

    We still talk by phone once a week and exchange e mails once every two days.

    Is this real? By now I know five people where she really works, plus the security badge lady knows me.

    She knows where I really live and my real life.

    We have crossed the line a long time ago into each others real lives. I even drove her car a couple of times.

    No I didn't buy or pay for it.
    She says she is lonely and that I am the only person
    in the world who knows her real life in both the club, and the real day job.

    We went out on her birthday and I gave her the birthday party with the cake. We couldn't go to her place because one of the c lub dancersw was there using the wash machines, which I verified by seeing the other dancers car and the other dancer telling me she was there doing her laundry.

    So she came over to my hotel suite. Where... we did nothing but kiss, laugh, drink champagne and eat
    birthday cake and open gifts.

    One Sunday morning I came over for her to cash a check bevore I left. She opened the door and said
    you can't come in I don't have any clothes on.

    I replied I was the one man in the world that did not apply to, and she broke down laughing and let me in.
    She tkaes my checks as the house charges her
    10 tpo 15% for "house money" and charges
    a 10% factoring fee to the customer plus a 5% admin fee. So we figured it out that we each saved money
    if she took my checks.

    One time, I brought a lap top and mini lights into the VIP room and we worked out a refinance of her assets.
    (With her bank not my money.) The bouncers, manager
    and cocktail watiresses were all confused when they
    looked in as we had quite a bunch of equipment going.
    (The screens and lights glow in the dark)
    The manager came in and said no one had ever run
    computer analysis in the VIP room before looked at
    both of us strangely and then left.

    She appears to have forgiven my meeting her mother and we still communicate.

    But we live in two different worlds.

    I guess I wanted your reactions, and wanted to say
    dancers will go out but it must be someone they really trust and have checked out. Conversely I won't go out with just any dancer either.

    So our strange relationship continues. Her live in room mate is gone since I am over to her apartment.

    She is about to be assigned to Singapore and Taiwan
    whe the real company starts outsourcing professional
    workers and firing the staff in Southcity.

    She'll be gone for two months.

    What do you all think of this whole situation?
    Oh we both say we love each other. It's hard for her to say that because she has been hurt alot.
    I'm 45 and she is 32. She looks at me alot now when we go out.



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    Niceguy, stop the money flow completely and see what happens. It's the only way to know for sure where you stand. Good luck!
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    omg, why is it so huge?!! lol lol

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    It's been stopped for over two moths now. We still communicate
    except for the two weeks over the meeting the mother issue.

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    Ok read that months not moths. Where is the spell chekc on the
    quick reply boxes?

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