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    just came across your board and have always wondered about this.

    more often than not when a girl asks me if i would like a dance i will accept, but then ask her to just rub my back vs. actually giving me the dance. i have come across mixed answers from this but never just a straight up reason as to why some girls seem to take offense. i'm not trying to be rude i just get more pleasure out of a back rub than being turned on and sent home.

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    Are you really serious with this question? I have my doubts, but I'll assume that you are and are just in need of a dose of common sense. So here goes:

    These girls are entertainers and you are essentially telling them that you don't appreciate their talents. How would you like it if someone came to your place of business and told you that they just want you to do something that you have no training for, or that you do not do as a part of your job? Maybe to mow their lawn or change the oil in their car? It wouldn't make you feel that they appreciate your talents either, would it?

    Maybe it wouldn't be so weird or insensitive if your request for a massage is only a small part of the experience that you are looking for - along with buying the dances that are the reason these clubs exist. But you should also be tipping well for any special requests.

    If all you want is a back rub, why don't you just go to a masseuse?

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    Hey as long as your paying for your back rub, then I don't see it as a problem. I think most girls wouldn't mind that at all. But if you expect them to massage you w/o being paid, then I can see where you would have a problem. My club actually has a girl (not a dnacer) that goes around and offers guys neck massages. I think it's like $5 a song. And thats fine for her. But don't expect a dancer to spend to much time at your table if your not going to tip well for it.

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    Default Re: back rub vs. dance

    maybe i worded that the wrong way. its not that i say no to them dancing i just dont want to sit there and get multiple dances back to back. usually if a girl asks i will get a dance or two and if they still want to stick around the table with me then i will just ask for a back rub. i still tip them the same as i would if they were dancing. if i wanted a real massage then i would go see a masseuse, but thats not what i am after.

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    I have guys ask for back rubs all the time,I had one guy who would get like 6 songs worth of back rubs and mostly sleep through it and when I was tired I would stop and he would give me a 100,for the 6 songs.Its not something I do all the time but a song here or there is ok it gets tiring,also I a had not worked in a year and I just worked recently at a club out of town I did 2 dances w/ this guy and he goes come here after your done on stage Iam going to show you how to make some easy money and he tells me another girl in the club got him hooked on this and he asks me to massage him 2 songs Iam not new to the business infact I have been in it 10 years so Iam thinking gee I would have never thought of this and he said the other girl told him she does that when she cant get dances and she still makes money and I have seen other girls do it when they get turned down for dances,needless to say he gave me 100 for the 2 dances and 2 song massage.

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    I think I get it. The intimacy of a massage from a beautiful and/or captivating dancer that has caught you attention is better than a full on lap straddle session to some guys. This guy may simple appreciate this type of intimate but nongrinding form of contact from a girl he likes. It makes sense to me. Besides, NO girl that I know in the biz ever complains about the customer who just pays for their time and conversation so why should just a massage be any different.
    And, we had a guy like this. He was an airtraffic controller at the airport and he was really crazy about this dancer who was in a serious relationship. When he came in if she wasn't there he would just talk about airplanes and pay you $20 to rub your back, feet or wherever you indicated could do a good rubbing for a few minutes. If she was there he paid her lots more to massage his back and listen while he went on and on about airplanes. Some entertainers aren't aware of this, but dancing is only part of the job.
    THe real question is when will you be down south or in the midwest cause I feel a backrub................. or six coming on for you from me.
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    Why don't you just go to a club that has massage girls? Virtually all the strip clubs in my area have massage girls. I thought that it was a common trait of strip clubs? Sometimes I'd rather just spend money on a back and neck rub rather than getting a lap dance. Compared to the price of a dance, it seems like a great value to me. One place was $10 for 15 mins, and it was very relaxing and enjoyable.
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    One of my dance "relationships" was all rub until recently. No dance. She has really got good hands. And maybe she'd give 2 to 4 songs of rub and I'd full-length rub her for 6 to 8.

    It is very sensual to rub a beautiful woman or to be rubbed by one.

    I get different things from different clubs and girls.

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    I think alot of dancers would not have a problem with giving a back rub for money. It's easier than dancing, and lets the guy get a form of contact that is not illegal. Plus the power of a massage gives off feel good chemicals in the brain that relax people. Liken it to the power of a hug!

    I would be more likely to go longer with a back rub for the same price as a dance because it's a personal touch thats not too much handling.

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    I enjoy massage in my favorite club. I am a weekly regular and massage adds variety to the same old lap dance routine. One of my ATF's has transitioned from dancer to bar maid. Since she came to other side, we set aside little breaks throughout her shift, and I message her feet. (No charge) [halo]

    There is another dancer who is a professional massage therapist, specializing in hands and feet, in her day job. She has done a good job of incorporating a neck and shoulder massage in to her lap dance act with me.

    Massage adds an excellent degree of variety in a club, and I highly recommend it.

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    If you are paying then you are calling the shots- as long as you don't ask for anything illegal. I can't imagine why a dancer would feel shocked by such a request. Maybe it's because they are not proficient at giving rubs or expected to do something totally different.
    Heck, some guys pay the ladies just to converse with them.

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    I don't really want to give the customers massages, but I'm not that strong anyways at least in my hands. I would feel like more of a wife than a fantasy stripper doing that.

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    I had a customer once pay me for dances while I sat in his lap and rubbed his shoulders who said he promised his wife he wouldn't get table dances. That was his way of getting around it, I suppose.

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    When I was table dancing sometimes I would try to get into massaging his shoulders mode just to avoid all the other crapola.

    I would way rather rub his shoulders then play ninja octopus avoiding his attempts to "rub" me!

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