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    Default Almost believing...

    I am not a frequent patron of strip clubs, although I always have fun when I go.

    I have been lucky enough to get dances from some very cool women who, for that moment in time, made me believe it was real. So much so that the feeling lingered for a day or two after...

    My question is probably far too general for any type of poll, but I am interested in knowing all the same.

    Are strippers as sexually liberated in life as they are on the job? You hear that so many have serious ego and body image problems yet they act as though they see themselves through my eyes and realize that they are smoking hot.

    This last trip really got me good, so much so that I am dying to meet and even date a dancer just to see what I am missing!

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    I can only speak for myself CG. I danced many years at a very upscale club, and while being a dancer i had a strong urge to be beautiful. Always doing my hair up. Always wearing my sexiest clothing, and looking for that one pimple, and how to get rid of it.

    My first impression was my looks, after that i had to count on sexuality and then my personality. The last 2 kinda go hand and hand.

    Now not stripping, i am ALOT less concerned with my looks. I don't have to compete, be the best, etc.

    If i do a competetion i still work it with sex appeal.
    But out of the club, i am still kinda provacative, but not no where near what i became inside the club. I had to make money, and sex sells!!!
    At least looking the part.

    I have no serious ego, but like most women, want to look attractive. And i have not one body image issue.

    I think i can safely say however, when working a very competetive job that does depend on looks as well as many other factors. Alot of dancers have to get that first impression through with her sexuality. It's a cut throat job, and alot of hassle to do. So you do want to be number 1 at what you do.

    At least i worked the system that way. But no issues with body and ego here. I'm just a woman who loves to dress sexy, anytime i can....still. I have had no enhancement done to my body.
    But will one day, my eyes im sure, as i age; because we age 'old' men only get better with age. That is what we where taught.

    There is nothing wrong with keeping it for as long as you can, naturally or through surgery.

    Sorry kinda went away with this one, but many women who never danced are beautiful! We are no different. We are just women who strip.


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    Default Re: Almost believing...

    Thanks.

    I have a second question, which really shows how naive I am.

    When a dancer asked me where I was staying and for how long I could have sworn she was interested in seeing me. I gave an obtuse answer, not wanting to look like a horned out loser.

    How for do you guys go to make the illusion seem real? Are you trying to get the guy to think that you are interested in him above and beyond the rest of the "losers" in the club? Is it ever real?

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    Chicago Guy, it may be real. Some of the younger dancers still try to hook up with cute clientele. I've seen it a few times. As a matter of fact, I know 2 girls that have married customers. However, these are the exceptions and not the rules----either she is working you to a point that stripping ettiquette doesn't allow, she wants to get laid, or she really IS interested. Feel it out and use your intuition.

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    LIke Juliette said, yes it is at times real. Even to the point of marriage. It was fun and money for me, the guys knew that.

    A show, and act. That was the type of crowd i seemed to draw in anyway, so i never really had to worry about a guy wanting to take me home. Sure i think all dancers get asked so many times. Straight out no from me. It was a job, and i kept it that way.

    My motivator was the money. Aside, from that i gave good shows to my paying customers. Not a date.

    You will probably get alot of different responses.

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    Default Re: Almost believing...

    This is very interesting.

    If you ever asked these questions at the time, you could never believe in the veracity of the answers.


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    When a dancer asked me where I was staying and for how long I could have sworn she was interested in seeing me.
    I ask this question to most of the patrons that come into my club since it's a very touristy town that thrives on conventions, and the majority of my customers are out-of-towners. Asking that question is a conversation starter. I like to know what they think of the hotel they're staying in. I ask how long they're staying to give them advice as to what restaurants they should eat at while they're in town. It's just a good converstation starter for me.

    Your experience may be different, though. I'm just saying this is a very common, run-of-the-mill question for me to ask.

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    For sure that is a general question that doesn't imply anything. I guess it is the equivalent of "What's your major?"

    I was getting a whole different vibe. There was more to it at the moment. I don't know if I was imagining it, whether she was interested in me personally (I am pretty cute and a nice guy) or whether I was being propositioned for a business transaction.

    Since I am not three thousand miles away, I am pretty sure that it doesn't matter.

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    It can be real, but usually it is just a fantasy. I've known some dancers who married someone they met in the club. And I agree with Juliette, I see a lot of young dancers who want to have sex with cute customers. As far as your question goes, thats something I ask a lot of customers. Just making conversation. Go back and see her. Offer your phone number and see where it goes.

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    Answer to your second question CG, NO. I never made myself out to be something i was not for the customers. I never told or gave the impression i was going to 'maybe' go home with a customer for extra money.

    Dancers who paly that game are playing a dangerous game. Men don't like games when they are spending money. I can't blame them.

    I liked the men fine at work, never met outside work. It would feel strange for me, and it was against club rules too.

    Alot of guys have told me that at times they where reading me wrong, and thought i really liked them for more than what was going on at work. I cleared that up real quick. It may come from being very nice to customers, hanging with them inside the club alot, laughing with them, and asking questions about them. I can see where ssome may get confused. And some drink on top of that did not help them.

    Guys are great!!!! but it has to be more of an illusion for me. I just can't date a customer from a strip club. Thats just me.

    Pamela

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    Guys are great!!!! but it has to be more of an illusion for me. I just can't date a customer from a strip club. Thats just me.

    Pamela
    Could you date a guy who sells hair Tonic to Bald Eagles in Omaha, Nebraska?

    Just wundrin'

    PJ

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    Aw, CG. I so feel ya & I'm a chick. Reading you is almost like looking into me. I had a horrific break-up with the "girl of my dreams" who happened to be a stripper, "dancer", pardon me, 3 months ago so I've been at the Gold Club (in SF) every other night since then.

    I feel like once you've had a girl who can dance like that on your lap there's no going back. She was my 50's French pin-up girl & I'll never be able to replace her.

    Plus, you get to this space where you're too good-looking (well, I am vain) & make too much money for the majority of people to even approach you & you're just fucked.

    Every one of your posts has just been me. I am in mad lust with 3 or 4 of the dancers here &, while they do call me, it's been mainly to let me know when they're working.

    Yeah, I have no problem going & paying & experiencing. Whatever. But who's being real & who's just fucking with me?

    I feel ya, dude, no doubt. And I'm very glad you said the things I was afraid to say.
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    Thanks Baroness. I think that is the first response that didn't make me feel like an ass.


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    I read your posts & was actually very touched. You seem like such a very sweet guy. I do wish you all the best.
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    It's a JOB. We're not being REAL.

    But we love ya anyways, dahling.
    Lena



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    And yet I do have a date with one of the girls on Saturday. AWAY from the club.

    But I love your absolute candor. It keeps me grounded when I'm so prone to romanticism.

    Thank you, baby.
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    To you it is a job. To me it is a service for which I am glad to pay.

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    I would like an update. Did you ever go back to the club? Did you ask her out? When you do get a date with a dancer I would like to hear how it goes, and if it was all you thought it would be. Keep us posted!

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    Aww, Varla, that's sweet. You're gonna get me all mushy an romantic now... except for one thing. Don't call me baby. When we are in the club and I am naked and you are paying me, you can call me Baby. When I'm not naked and you aren't paying me, "Lena" will do just fine.

    ChicagoGuy - It's a service I'm happy to provide, as long as people can appreciate it for what it is and not try to turn it into more.

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    I meant no offense. It's a habit. I mean it as an endearment but I respect your wishes. Of course.
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    Pj oh yes.....lol

    Lena, sums that topic up very well...again.
    Pamela

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    Default Fantasy/Reality

    This topic is almost equal to "is pro wrestling real or fake?" When a lady is working, she has a stage persona that was developed to protect her and to release part of her inner desires. That's where the fantasy starts....... If you are lucky enough to enter the real world of one of these luscious ladies, you'll find that some are so different from their club personas.

    I, have been very lucky on numerous occassions to have dated beautiful women in this profession from all over the country and Canada. Each time one was interested and asked me to the club to see her after spending time with her talking, etc. I was refused my offer of tip.

    When some of the ladies like you, it isn't about money, it's about you and she. I knew I was liked when I was told, " i've already made enough tonight, I am just happy to see you". At that point, I would offer to take them to breakfast after they finished work and leave, so that they would not feel awkward.

    Sometimes at breakfast, we would hit it off and sometimes it was not meant to go further... but what was great was that even if it was a miss, I never, ever had a problem with one of these ladies later. They and I always got along, so going back to my fave club was never uncomfortable.

    Of course if you are lucky enough to date, then going to the club is off limits. A gentleman will never make his female partner worry that he may show up or come in to watch. That's something you have to accept and understand that these ladies are not "trophies" to show off to your friends, even though they are absolutely beautiful. They are human beings....

    Anyway, if you do get a date enjoy their company and take it one day at a time

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    Hey ChicagoGuy-
    a chicago girl here new to the force was wondering your take, as a customer, on the different clubs around the city. I work at the Admiral theatre now, but am looking for a change of venue!

    -Charisma

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    If you are 21 and at least an 8 plus VIP is the best,and the classiest in the chicagoland area.

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    ChicagoGuy, in response to your first question, as it applies to me, I am as liberated in life as I am at work...Part of the reason why is that most of the time, I get to work with a lot of lovely women. Being bi, this sometimes is a very big turnon...Plus, I'm also a swinger, so you could definitely say that can be VERY liberating.
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