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    Default How do dancers feel about regular customers?

    I was just wondering, if you have a customer that comes frequently to your club to see you and get dances from you exclusively, do you appreciate it as an act of loyalty, or do you worry about about a potential obsessed stalker?

    Would you rather he spread his money and attention around with other dancers (meaning that you'll earn less from him) or would rather just earn as much money as you can?

    Assuming that you don't know the person very well yet, does this kind of customer creep you out, or do you find this kind of attention flattering?

    On one hand, I don't want to be scaring any dancers that I like, but on the other hand, it seems like some dancers want regular customers and don't seem too pleased to see it when you're getting a dance from someone else.
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    It is a bit flattering whenever it's obvious that a customer comes in only to see me, I don't find that creepy at all. Usually, when I realize that a guy is becoming a regular, I'll say something like "there are so many pretty girls here to choose from, so let me know if you'd like to meet one...I don't mind sharing my new hunk "
    The reason I put that out there is because sometimes I wonder if it's me who is hogging his time and maybe he is too nice to say so. If I were I male customer I'd want variety; but for some reason the customers who like me are the type who stick with one girl.
    I'm going to be honest here even though it'll make me sound childish, anywhere you work there are always at least one or two girls whom you're not very fond of and if I happen to see her dance for him than I wouldn't be happy. It has nothing to do with earning all of his money, I'll often invite a girl I like to do a dance or two because keeps the evening from becoming dull and it helps her out.
    I would never say so, and make the customer feel awkward, but I do find loyalty flattering. It's true, just like anyone else who's danced long enough, I have a creepy stalker story but it's rare.
    Keep in mind Sleepy, it is up to you to choose a "regular dancer" (if thats what you want) It's not up to the dancer to mark you as her own. So feel free to socialize and hopefully the girls that you like are classy enough to not make you feel awkward for it.
    I hope I was some help.

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    If i did not build up the regulars that i had, i would not made half as much money weekly! I really listened to them, and liked them just fine. I don't worry about being stalked because it happens no matter where you work.

    They where my source of income in a very huge way. I thanked each and every one of them for the money they spent on me.

    Creepy, no....They where lonely guys mainly, and i gave them attention.
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    I love having regular customers!! I would prefer to make all my money for the night from 2-3 guys who get many dances than run around the whole club and try to get a couple dances from everyone else. I don't think it is creepy when one guy spends a good deal of money on me and me alone, sometimes I just get paranoid that he is getting bored. However, sometimes after dropping a certain amount of money on me for a period of time, invitations for outside-the-club activities start to pop up, which is so not cool with me. Some guys actually think that the money they give me in the club entitles them to time with me outside the club. If the guy has this mentality, I would rather him spread his money around to the other girls so he doesn't feel like I owe him anything.

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    I love my regular customers. I genuinely like them all and find them each interesting and unique. If I thought they were weird or trying for something more I'd probably cut them off. I hate being uncomfortable at work and I refuse to be that way. Besides the obvious fact that regulars are my bread and butter. They make work easier and more enjoyable knowing I don't have to hustle every other guy that walks into the room. I also like it when I can catch up with them about different things going on in their life and vice versa.
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    Default Love regulars followed by tourist

    I also love having regulars. Like Strypper-gyrl, I like hearing about their day to day lives more than anything. Every regular I've met has a good story to tell. For example, last week one of my regulars was telling me about his job working in a tunnel. Most of what he told me was pretty routine, but when he told me about how annoying it was when his bodybuilder co-worker would only wear a towel down there, it made me laugh so hard.

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    Regulars rock. It makes me happy to see one walk in the door and know that I have someone in the club that will take care of me so I can relax and have some fun. I don't think that they're creepy at all, at least mine aren't. They're our bread and butter and are great to see on a slow night when you really appreciate them. They also help you remember that these are people you're dancing for, not human ATMs.

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    "Bread and butter", "Meat and potatoes." I'm beginning to wonder if I'm a regular customer or a food group. [eek]
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    regulars make my day i always felt when i was a new dancer that regulars where what it was all about i am lucky i have some great ones they take good care of me they know whats ok and whats not and the same goes for me i know what they like alsooxoxox

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    A regular customer keeps the humanity and warmth in what can sometimes be a cold, shallow and desensitizing business. I love when a regular customer comes in they always brighten my night.

    My guess is you posed this question because you were wondering if there were any negative feelings toward regulars. I love regulars but there is a huge dif between a regular and the creepy guy who comes to the club to sit at the stage/bar/dark corner not to by dances but to spit raunchy and mildly degrading one-liners at the dancers whenever they are in earshot. [devil] Don't be that guy and we love you. "meat and potatoes" might not sound exciting but just look at how your dancers eyes light up when you come to the club and see just how she feels about her regular.

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    Aggieed...Isn't that better than my favorite ATM?
    Oh, I don't know. I'm sure I can figure out how to make it so that when a dancer pushes my belly, instead of giggling like the Pillsbury Dough Boy, out pops a $20 bill from my mouth.

    Crap, Pillsbury Dough Boy...there goes the food thing again.

    "meat and potatoes" might not sound exciting but just look at how your dancers eyes light up when you come to the club and see just how she feels about her regular.
    Yeah, I know...sometimes I still feel like a big, fat dollar sign.
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    I'm sure there ARE some dancers who only see $$$ as soon as a regular walks inside their clubs.



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    Aggieed, definately a food-group! Kidding.
    It's better to be looked over, than overlooked.

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    I knew I was an anomoly LOL!! I mentioned this briefly in another thread...

    Regulars make me uncomfortable as a table dancer - as a feature 90% are great - the other ten % creepy as hell.

    As a feature, they bring me a different state of mind, and I know I dont have to expect anything but brief intermingling and away I go.

    As a tabledancer, well....it gets too personal for my tastes, one of the most favorite tabledancing gigs I enjoy primarily has touristy customers - in and out.
    When it gets down to personal lives and such I start getting antsy and dread the customers arrival.

    Too taxing to upkeep and interact - I just dont like it.

    BUT, I always knew it wasnt my forte in this manner of dancing, it takes a special girl to be all these things for a customer, and I tip my hat to those of you who have mastered this skill.

    I have been off of table dancing for 9 months now, and have made the decision to not return to it. Deciding instead to keep my featuring as my mainstay employ. Means a bit more travel again, but its a load off my mind not to delve back into the whole shebang of table/lap dancing.

    In fact I am off to Winnipeg next week for a 2 week booking!
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    Regular's are great, they are in my eye's the icing on the cake. Without them a girl has an average night making only nominal tip's and a few dance's. The regular provides an expected boost in a girl's income for the night. Girl's generally work hard to create a base of regular's and make there visit worth there time. My wife has a notebook for potential regular's where she take's note's, if a guy come's in and show's her undivided attention on a first visit, she will write down his name and a feature that she will remember. how many kid's , dog's he has what type of music he like's or a song he requested. Where he work's , live's and other thing's that when he return's , she can use to make his next visit that much more special. Regular's are great but most turn into RIL's and they are the obsessive one's that request date's , phone call's , offer shopping date's and anything they can to see you outside the club. They feel they have made a special bond and feel there is more to the relationship then business. Regular's are I would guess like a meteor in the sky, They come out strong and bright and as time goes on they start to dim out and go away once they realize the relationship must stay inside the club.

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    I like regular customers. If you are a regular repeat customer, I will allow things to go just a bit farther in the VIP.

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    Crazy Bob you hit the nail right on the head about regulars.

    Here today and for a few tomorrows, and when a relationship never materializes from us, they are gone with the wind.

    It's too bad that nowadays clubs don't have the momentum and volume of business as a few years past when you could always make a decent amount of money off of working the crowd, no strings attached.

    Without a few big spenders nowadays the average dancer has below average earnings.

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    Unfortunately, most of my regulars expect me to spend a lot of time with them just talking, and most of them are also pretty irregular in terms of how much money they spend on me. I don't appreciate being expected to sit and talk with someone forever and then only doing 1 or 2 dances with him or sometimes none. Fortunately, I have never had a creepy regular but I am really sick and tired of my regulars expecting so much from me. I don't even want to begin to get into the details of all of my various situations, but this has been a big source of frustration for me lately, especially with overall earnings being down and not being able to count on your "bread and butter".

    I can honestly say I don't have a real, regular "regular". Most of the guys I consider regulars are actually pretty irregular (either they don't come in at regular intervals or they don't spend a predictable amount of money on me). There are guys that I know will dance with me if they are there, but those are mostly the 1-2 dances guys or the once-every-6-months guys.

    I do wish I had regulars that I felt comfortable with, enjoyed spending time with, and that weren't so demanding (too much to ask for??). That being said, I do genuinely appreciate the customers that *are* all of those things, even though they may not be "regulars".

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    I can honestly say I don't have a real, regular "regular". Most of the guys I consider regulars are actually pretty irregular (either they don't come in at regular intervals or they don't spend a predictable amount of money on me). There are guys that I know will dance with me if they are there, but those are mostly the 1-2 dances guys or the once-every-6-months guys.

    I do wish I had regulars that I felt comfortable with, enjoyed spending time with, and that weren't so demanding (too much to ask for??). That being said, I do genuinely appreciate the customers that *are* all of those things, even though they may not be "regulars".
    :o I had to read your post a couple of times (..too many irregular regulars LOL) but I think I get your drift. You make a good point. Those of us who are or have been "regulars" sometimes do forget the business aspects of the relationship. I've gotten to know this one dancer at my local club pretty well. When I come in she always comes over for a drink and chat. I enjoy her company so hell Ill sit and b/s with her for as long as she wants. If the conversation goes too long she'll remind me about making money LOL I'm like oops OK let go do some dances You could probably do the same thing with your regulars. I assume they are guys that have money and not youngsters who just want to sip on one beer and oogle boobies for free
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    Yeah, my post was pretty late at night and I was a little delirious, hence the abuse of the words regular and irregular. Anyway, the 2 men in particular I'm thinking of are:
    1) Another guy who comes in nearly every day. Complains when I don't ask him to dance but says no almost every time I do. Constantly tries to make deals with me (how about 30 minutes for x dollars or 3 dances & 1 free one?). Sometimes has me coming back multiple times in an evening to tell me "later" but will dance with this other girl whenever she is available. Gets 0-10 dances a night.
    2) Only dances with me, usually 6-15 dances, comes in at most 3 times a week, sometimes once every 3 weeks. Comes in at 8 or 9 pm, never dances before 11:30 but expects me to hang out with him forever. Usually, I come back to chat for a few minutes every hour until he dances. Last 2 times he came in, I chatted with him like this and he just left without saying good-bye or getting dances. Rude! Even guy #2 said that was very rude (he always notices things like this).

    Anyway, from my experience and conversations from other girls at my club, it seems that we sit and chat with our "regulars" or "irregulars" or whatever you want to call them out of a feeling of obligation. Many times that I tell a regular that I need to walk around, they look offended, particularly #3. I get a lot of shit from some of them about how I don't spend enough time with them, and most of them ask me for free dances!

    I can see how it would be easy to forget about the business aspects of a relationship with a dancer, especially if you get along well and you feel as if you are friends and you laugh together and talk about personal things. However, since I work a short shift, time is very valuable and I don't like to waste in. Not to sound harsh, but I do not like to talk to someone for more than 1-2 songs unless he is extremely engaging/interesting/intelligent. I would not talk to my regulars as long as I do except for the fact that I am pretty sure they will buy dances. Cruel, I know.

    It is not my style to walk around saying, "Wanna dance? Wanna dance?" so I always chat at least for a little bit. Personally, I don't enjoy the hustle because I hate the feeling of being hustled or looked at as a giant dollar sign (examples: being in a car dealership, in a third world country as a tourist). Unfortunately, in this business, the hustle is a necessity. I do feel bad sometimes, especially for the regulars, but then I think to myself that I shouldn't feel bad because they (should) know what kind of environment they are in. I have always had a hard time with the hustle, which is probably why I don't make as much as I think I should.

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    Whoa sounds like time for new regs :o I went to my bar tonight...I was in the mood to hang out with my fav dancer. I love dances with her but tonight I was in a mood. I wound up tipping her like $100 or so for about an hour we just sat and shot the shit. I left in a much better mood than when I arrived. She gave me a huge hug and kiss when I left as I gave her a break from her usual routine. Call me crazy but it was very enjoyable.
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    Sorry about the venting.

    Fatboyroy-yeah, it's time for some new regulars. Fortunately, I'm moving out of town in 3 weeks (yay!) and if I even dance at all any more, it will be in a new club. You sound like a good regular. You're not crazy at all; you just wanted some company and a pick-me-up which you can get just as easily by simply being in the company of someone you like, not necessarily naked company! I wish I could get paid more often just to talk & cheer somebody up. Sometimes I wind up just talking to a guy in the private dance area, but I am almost always topless and in very close physical contact (hugging) with the guy. It's more comfortable to sit and talk. OK, now this thread has gotten totally off topic. Sorry. Regulars - love and hate them simultaneously. Wish they weren't so demanding.

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    Anyway, from my experience and conversations from other girls at my club, it seems that we sit and chat with our "regulars" or "irregulars" or whatever you want to call them out of a feeling of obligation. Many times that I tell a regular that I need to walk around, they look offended, particularly #3. I get a lot of shit from some of them about how I don't spend enough time with them, and most of them ask me for free dances!
    My response to dancer who says "Well, I have to go walk around now" is "Hey, go make some money". Jezuz.. they are not there to simply just talk to us forever. It's their jobs, they don't make money unless they hustle for it, which they can't if they are spending inordinate amounts of time with one person. I can understand a regular’s disappointment that the dancer isn't sitting down at talking to him for long stretches, but that disappointment has to be tempered with the reality that it’s not a social club or bar. Dancers don't have salaries - every cent they make is from tips. I wonder how many customers would like it if their employers didn't have a problem with them sitting down and talking to someone for long periods of time, but the employers would dock their pay for the whole down time. I would image most would talk for only a little bit, and get to work, even though they could talk all they want.

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    For me regulars are like flings that you go into knowing they won't last, but you do it anyway because it's fun and maybe you have nothing better to do at the time. In the beginning it's all heat and romance, then the 'regularness' of it settles in, and both parties start looking for other playmates. Having a regular show up on a slow night is great - you get to hang out with someone you enjoy and earn some money you may not have, rather than wandering around bored and wishing you could just curl up on the couch with your cat. Having a regular show up on a busy night is a liability - in order to keep from losing him you are obligated to give him time and attention when you could be making more money elsewhere, so you can't really give him 100% and he feels it, making the situation bad for both.

    Regulars are nice for a while, but there always comes a point when they start expecting more and more from you for less and less compensation. This is why I prefer the occasional regulars or none at all. Even occasional regulars can be a hassle. I have one now who comes to town every few weeks and spends the same amount of money (also gradually expecting more time for the same money), and gets more and more aggressive in asking me out even though I've always said I don't go out. Because of this I always have to dump them and move on. There are always others. Customers see dancers this way, and dancers see customers this way.

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