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    Sometimes a dancer will approach me and say something to the effect of "I remember you...". Even dancers that I didn't talk to for more than a few minutes and never got a dance from. I don't go that often (3-5 times a year) nor do I do anything to make myself memorable. How much of this is just a opening line and how much is truth?

    Guys usually remember the girls because they see them naked but I'm not sure it goes the other way (even though you don't see us naked).

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    I have a horrible memory. I can't remember names or faces unless someone does something really memorable. I have gone up to guys and said 'i think i remember you'. sometimes it turns out i had met him before. sometimes he's a total stranger that just look familiar. maybe you just looked familair to her. i wouldnt say it was a pick up line, she probly did remember you at least vaguely.

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    From my experience, it's not a line. I've had many dancers tell me they remember me, and I know they are telling the truth because I remember them (but usually only after they approach me). Many times, I had only bought a dance or two previously or sometimes not at all. Like you, I only visit clubs about 3 or 4 times a year.

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    I remember the girls clearly for a few weeks then it slowly fades, after more than a month I'll be lucky to remember if I was in the club before.

    I have had experiences where girls say they remember me but its normally a line to spark of conversation (not a bad thing)

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    Never heard of that one myself Socks. But it is known that if you remember a person they like that. So, this could be a way of getting dances for herself. Guys, well people in general like to be remembered. Next time ask if she remembers your name as well.

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    No matter how wonderful your time was with a dancer, remember she sees dozens of guys in any given week, whether its in VIP dances, merely only tipping on stage, or as one of those freeloaders who hangs away from the stage getting a free show and never tipping. Its not humanly possible to remember everyone everytime. Memory is also a funny thing - she may honestly think she remembers you, when in reality you have never seen her before. As far as dancer lines go "I remember you.." is really a weak one to do, because its extremely difficult to pull off if one is trying is as a line. Thus, I think very few dancers actually try that on people they know they don't know.

    I see hundreds of people a week, both at my bar and in the restaurant it is situated in. A couple a times a month someone will come and say "Dont you remember us? You waited on us 7 months ago" etc etc. Sometimes I actually do remember them, most of the times I don't. You have to be either a regular, have been there very recently, or did something very unique or been very unique for me to recognize you, and because of my training as a history devotee, I have a pretty good memory.

    Bottom line, dont be offended if you arent remembered, and dont just assume a dancer is using a line if she says she remembers you when that couldn't possibly be.

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    I remember people. Once I've had a conversastion with you, I remember you. I may forget your name or your face, but six months later I will be able to tell you what we talked about, where your from, what your dogs name is, etc. That is, after you remind me of who you are....



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    Lena, your the opposite of me I've met people 3/4 times and still forget them, I've been in a bar and people I went to school with have come up & said hi and I'm like ???Who???

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    I don't think it is a line. I've had dancers come up to me when I haven't been in the club for 6 months and remember the conversation we had. Like Lena they may not remeber my name, but they do remember the particulars of the conversation. Maybe I'm just a memorable conversationalist. I have noticed that it's the dancers who I have had conversations with who typically remember me, but the ones who I only get a private dance from typically don't rememeber me. I'm not expecting them to rememeber , but it is nice when they do.

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    I have the worst memory when it comes to names and faces; however I remember every conversation I've ever had or over heard, no matter how insignificant, verbatim.

    I know that I have a problem recognize people so, when I approach a guy I never do the whole "hi my name is...what's yours?" As soon as we begin to converse it's then that I'm able to tell if I've met him before. If so, I'll casually mention something we talked about last time so that he won't know that I didn't recognize him. If his manner is new to me, than I say "I'm so rude I completely forgot to introduce myself, I'm..."
    Of course I won't remember his name even a few minutes later; but I'll have our conversation, as well as that of those around us, logged in my memory for the rest of my life.

    I don't know why this is; but I have learned to adapt to it by not showing any sort of recognize or non-recognition until he's said at least one sentence.

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    I don't think its a line either. I'm like Lena, I might not remember your name, but most of the time I will remember something about you.
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    ............Of course I won't remember his name even a few minutes later ......
    I'm one of those nasty customers that respond to "Would you like a dance?" with "Sure if you can remember my name!"
    I have a difficult time meeting ladies!

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    I'm one of those nasty customers that respond to "Would you like a dance?" with "Sure if you can remember my name!"
    Duh! Even I'd remember your name...it's Wispers! See, and you thought I wouldn't know.

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    BTW, it's not because I don't care enough to remember their name, I really do have some sort of mental block. Even quite a few girls, who I like and talk to all the time at work, I don't have the slightest idea what their names are and I don't wanna keep asking and look like a jerk. I'm sorry if that would offend you; but, like I said, it's not because I think they're unimportant.

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    Socially and culturally the remembrance of names is linked to perceived significance. "If you forget my name, that means you don't think I am significant enough" is the basic attitude. Well, that attitude doesn't account for the fact that memory is tricky, and for the fact that so many variables go into recollection. Some people have a genetic disposition towards remembering things like names, some people have a genetic disposition to forgetting things like names. We all laugh in benign bemusement at the image of the Absent Minded Professor, yet when a real person in our lives exhibits that sort of lack of memory recall, we are often times offended - and wrongly so.

    The Customer/Dancer dynamic is one where the customer comes in and, from his perspective; he is one person outside a sea of other people - thus an individual. From the dancers perspective, since she sees potentially hundreds or people and faces per week (and sometimes per night), that one customer, is one person amongst the sea of people - thus just another face. The receiving of stimuli is vastly different for the dancer than the customer. A customer then has to, whether by circumstance, coincidence or design, somehow stick out. Sometimes its not anything anyone can control - I know that with my long hair I tend to be recognized due to the fact that I have an aspect out of the ordinary.

    A dancer looks at her job and the customers in a wider perspective than a customer does in his experience at a club. Thus, unless you have previously built up some sort of recognizability pattern with a dancer, you shouldn't ever be offended if she can't remember your name.

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    Depends on a few things: how much coffee I have in my system, how much time I spent with you......and how many times I used your name in a conversation. If I don't repeat the name at least thrice, then there is a good chance I won't remember it. I don't have much of a problem remembering faces or conversations.

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    guess i wouldnt get a dance from whispers. i almost never remeber peoples names. i just never have. i do remember faces and conversations. i just meet way to many people to remember the names. like p. john said i must be one of those wired not to remember names. it sucks and i probley have lost money that way. i remeber names after many times of seeing that person.
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    I noticed if a person makes an impression in my brain, something above the norm, i will remember their name.

    Other than that, i remember faces very well. And it bothers me most of the night where i have seen them before. I hate it when they come up to me and say "Pamela, how have you been," i just kinda go with the flow, then they ALWAYS ask...Remember me, Oh crap.......Busted.

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    I had that happen last night. This guys like, tell me my name and I'll get a champagne room. And I'm like.. "I don't know but your a horse trainer from Michigan here for the races and you won last Sunday and you have a daughter that lives with her mom in texas." And he said THAT wasn't good enough! Good greif, I'd only met the guy once!

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    Lena, that guy is an ass if he didn't get buy a dance from you after all that. So you didn't remember his name? Big effin' deal; you practically knew his life story :-) What else does the guy want? His DNA analysis?

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    I had that happen last night. This guys like, tell me my name and I'll get a champagne room. And I'm like.. "I don't know but your a horse trainer from Michigan here for the races and you won last Sunday and you have a daughter that lives with her mom in texas." And he said THAT wasn't good enough! Good greif, I'd only met the guy once!

    Lena
    Maybe I'm too skeptical; but because of the way he worded that, I'd assume he'd realized that he never told you his name in the first place.

    I had a guy pull that with me once, and I shit you not without missing a beat, I respond with "Rumplestilskin!"

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    Games people play, i'm telling ya. Well he should be lucky you remembered what you did say about him, although..He probably does not remember saying he was a horse trainer and so on, because it may have been a lie!!!!

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    Duh! Even I'd remember your name...it's Wispers! See, and you thought I wouldn't know.

    Nope.... Not Wispers...... It's Whispers ...... jeesh.... I hope you do better in person darlin cause I'll be using that line to test ya.....
    I have a difficult time meeting ladies!

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    I am not bad with names but even better with faces so that saves me.I also have tricks i employ like calling ppl 'babe' or if that just won't do i will get another dancer to introduce herself to the client making sure she get's his name!Foolproof i tell you!lol


    Like lena i remember the most mundane details someone tells me and recall it readily.

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