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    I've asked a few dancers about their sexual preference and it seems like most dancers I've asked tell me they're bi. Is bisexuality more common than not among dancers? Don't get me wrong I am in no way offended by it, actually I think it's totally natural and sexy!

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    Interesting post...I would be inclined to think that as dancers, we are more comfortable with sexuality than the general populace, so explorations into bisexuality would seem more natural. A lot of people become uncomfortable around the subject of sex, and these people aren't likely to experiment. However, strippers are obviously comfortable with presenting themselves as sexual beings at work, and this likely spills over into their personal lives. I think it's an issue of being comfortable with your sexuality and being willing to explore other options than boring girl/guy missionary. I would be interested in finding out what percentage of dancers would consider themselves bisexual. I have heard stories from many girls who became bi only after beginning to dance. I am sure being around beautiful women all the time can only help!! For the record, I would consider myself bi-curious. I've never dated girls, but it's not an experience I would shy away from.
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    I believe many if not most dancers are bisexual or lesbian but it's really hard to tell because 1) I haven't met any dancer outside her club yet; 2) Dancers are so feminine and do their respective things so well it hasn't gone through my mind while they've danced for me, with a couple of exceptions.



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    Looking at other dancers nude, even us as woman makes one "curious". I don't see anything wrong with a beautiful naked body. I have friends they moved away to god knows where now, lots of friends who were bi-sexual. I am from Sweden, and when i flew back.. Alot of my relatives are bi-sexual. Men and women alike. It is very "the norm", pretty much over there. My sister has had experiences with women. Once i watched.

    Yes...Dancing brings us in closer to women, and in tune with their body, as well as our own. Now i know why men love our breasts and why we hate them, Lol.
    Me i have had many chances to be with women, they seem to hunt me down...ALOT. One day i may, or may not. But i am not against anyones sexual preference. I talk to gay guys on the phone all day, because a woman is safe for them to vent, where a man would probably laugh. (phone sex). And bi-sexual woman call me as well. I have learned alot from dancing and phone sex about them. I like them.
    Am i bi-curious? Shit i don't have the time to think about it. But if it happened it would have to be with someone i knew who was into women, because i know nothing of the act with women!

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    I have had at least three different dancers tell me that they are Bi-sexual and have a girlfriend in the club. But I know for a fact that at least one of them was using that line to get me to take both of them into the VIP.
    But I would guess that Bi-sexuality is very common in clubs.
    Now the interesting fact is that when I asked whether she preferred men or women, the answer I got was that she preferred both equally, but could be more intimate with a lady as most guys are about themselves, not their partner….. Interesting. ???
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    Gosh Chuck,
    i know woman have loving passionate relationships for life, as do men. But men are great lovers! I have not been sexual with a woman, so i can't speak about that situation. But damn i have got to have the real thing inside. A strap on is not going to cut it. That is the one body part a woman can't offer me....A nice stiff one :o


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    Hmmm, interesting thread INDEED.

    I am bisexual and have known it all my life.
    NOT when I became a dancer.
    Although dancers are as mentioned above considerately more open about it than the rest of the world.
    I have dated within my dancing industry (women) and just as often as not.
    Like Pamela I too seem to bring them out, its like a radar or a GAY-dar as some call it.
    AGain someone mentioned preference, well, its like apples 'n oranges, cant compare, what a woman can do for you sexually-- no man can, and HEY the reverse is also true.

    So one cannot PREFER, inasmuch as love the differences.

    This is my opinion in my personal experience as a bisexual woman, as well when I have been in a "relationship" (monogamous, I know no other) I didnt MISS one sex over another either. Hard to explain bisexuality unless you truly are bisexual.

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    Bisexuality is often exaggerated in the clubs. I've heard estimates of 80%! It sure can seem that way, but sometimes its just part of the act. I know I've used that line a zillion times to sell double dances, or to get a guy to buy dances for his wife/girlfriend. It's just part of playing up to the customer's fantasies.
    In real life, I've never gone beyond some playful kissing and fondling with another girl. I doubt I'll ever experience full on sex with another woman.

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    in my long years of experiance. i'd say maybe 8 % are full lesbian. the others fall into bi for sure and bi for profit. i still stand behind the observation that almost all women dancers or not have at least had the thought cross their mind. and a large percetage dancer or not will at least try it once. it's just natural the way women are raised to be more affectionate to each other and sometimes that progresses to more.
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    velvet is right - women are just generally more affectionate - i remember being a teen and holding hands with girlfriends - in a totally non- sexual manner.

    In our club - maybe 30% is openly "bi". (I personally don't like that word but it's the only one that really works in this sitution).I've only met one girl at our club who was totally lesbian...about 50% are curious, and the other 20% are either blatantly all-business (almost asexual), or aren't interested at all.

    As for me, I had a 7 month relationship with a woman- though I can't say that I'd do it again - the drama was too much, and I just simply love men generally in relationships - I have a great man now who understands and loves my sexuality and occasional cravings for femininity.

    As for dancing, I was "bi" way before dancing - but dancing certainly did feed the fuel, so to speak. Women just in general are more sensual, erotic and emtional creatures...but like Leigh says - it is almost impossible to compare- I am more sensual by nature, and as a result have sexually been with more women than men in my life-
    But I'll admit , I found my prince and wouldn't trade my boy in for the world!!

    A huge misconception with customers, is that we girls who are into other girls all sleep together - I've never slept with a girl I work with! Too much drama - I've seen hair-tearing, slapping fights over that- and that's just not for me.
    However, it is fun to get all the girls together and go to the ladies' night parties in manhattan - where we all get to be fun and sexy and tip the gogo girls we think are the hottest!

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    Being a card-carying bisexual, I have to agree with NYCjacqueline about not sleeping with the ladies you work with. I would think most girls treat co-dancer relationships in the same manner most other girls treat their co-workers and not even go there. I'm not sure if it's an act or not, but a handful of dancers I've come into contact with insist that they are bisexual or lesbian. Either way, it adds to the fantasy!

    There are a couple of girls I work with now (I work at a private school) that hit on me, but no matter how tempting it may be, I am not going to even THINK about messing around with a co-worker. Same goes for when I start dancing/waitressing.

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    I think alot of people get curious about things, but it seems to me after dancing for a few years now that most dancers only say they are bi to customers to fullfill that fantasy for the men.
    We tell men what they wanna hear to make the most money. So if that means you say you have a girlfriend in the club to sell double dances etc, then most good hustler dancers will do that.
    I have a wonderful boyfriend for almost two years now and I could never get as excited over a woman than with him.
    I work in a very big top club in Las Vegas and only know of 3 girls that defintely are 100% lesbian and that's out of hundreds and hundreds of dancers. I think the talk of "most dancers are gay or bi" is a lie. It's an act.
    Most of us dancers deserve academy awards for our acting skills!

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    First, a joke a man told me:

    "A guy can sing in the shower for 20 years, and no one will every call him a virtuoso. He can play thousand rounds of golf, and no one will ever call him a champion golfer. He can travel around the world, and no one will ever call him a renowned explorer..... but if he sucks just ONE DICK.....!!!"

    LOL.... anyway.... so I've slept with exactly two women in my life, exactly once each. Am I bi-sexual? I dunno..... However, I've seen a LOT of girls in clubs act out fantasies for customers (kiss each other, a little slap-and-tickle, etc.) but does that make them (us?) bisexual or just very comfortable with our bodies?

    I'm pretty well 99% straight. However, if I didn't like the looks of a female bod, I doubt very strongly I could STAND working in a strip club for more than a few hours.

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    Ive always contended that dancers, being free from the societal constraints against overt sexuality and against showing their bodies, would also generally be free from sexual taboos. Not that that means they are more inclined to bisexualty, but those who would be have less barriers against exploring it. In my opinion, dancers as a group probably harbor no more bisexual people then any other group. The only difference is that they feel freer to explore it.

    Having said that, I've never asked if a dancer is bisexual, because her sexuality is none of my business.

    If I recall right from college Physcology courses, everyone one of us has some sort of homosexual tendencies. Its a development of human social interaction and was considered a normal part of being human.

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    Hmmm... I've noticed that higher mileage clubs seem to have more bisexuality. But honestly, about half the girls that say that are lying...

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    I am 100% bisexual and for a time in my life i was exclusive with another girl. We were together for 2 years. I have known that i was bisexual since i was 10 or 11.
    As for the amount of dancers that are. I think that there are only 2 in my club that are not bisexual.

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    i think so.....after all the shit u have to go through with men ...it's no wonder....and after all ...we are looking at beautiful women all day, i always liked women...but never so much as when i started dancing
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    For me.. I'm bi-curious. I've had "fun" with other females and don't mind playing up with other girls on stage (or even in a private dance)... I'm v-comfortable with it.

    However I have yet to "go down on a woman" and don't know if I have the nerve to do so! :o

    It is the moment that I do that to another woman and enjoy it is when I know for sure I'm bi-sexual or just a hetro gal who likes to play with other women... there is a difference.

    BTW.. now I know what to say to customers when they ask if I'm bi-sexual... I say to them "I'm bi-curious as how can one not love the female form? Yet men have their place too" with a wink



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    I've asked a few dancers about their sexual preference and it seems like most dancers I've asked tell me they're bi. Is bisexuality more common than not among dancers? Don't get me wrong I am in no way offended by it, actually I think it's totally natural and sexy!
    I asked a dancer that question and she said 70% are bi
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    I would say around 75% of dancers I have met are bi or lesbian. Totally straight women are definately outnumbered in the exotic entertainment industry.

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    Nope, this is not a dancer bashing post. Just another reason why clients should not even try getting a date from a dancer inside the club. Dancers do their damndest to give us the ultimate fantasy: a hot, erotic femme teasing and dancing for us. If one of us guys gets carried away and try to make their fantasy a reality not only may he be surprised to find out his favorite dancer is bi or les, he'll sure as hell crash land emotionally. That really hurts.



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    I personally think it is common in strip clubs. It can have some great advantages. I found this quote from Woody Allen:

    "Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night."

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    I had one dancer tell me once she was offered $500 by another dancer to have sex with her. She was totally straight was turned her down.

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    If one of us guys gets carried away and try to make their fantasy a reality not only may he be surprised to find out his favorite dancer is bi or les, he'll sure as hell crash land emotionally. That really hurts.
    On the contrary, I have found many of the men to be intrigued by dancers that are bi; they find it a turn on. Yet, I can understand why a dancer that was openly lesbian might not be a great idea, because that would mean that there was zero chance of a outside-club relationship in a customer's mind, not to mention that it would ruin any intimacy created by the dancer during lap dances if the customer knew she preferred women. At my club we do a few special events, the majority of which include girl/girl shows. We have hot fudge shows, bath shows, etc, and most guys love it. Yet there are always those men who flat out don't like "that lesbian shit," as one of my customers said to me the other day.
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    Too bring Jax message back up, (sorry missed that one). She is so right. Women show more affection. So take some guys at a club who notice two dancers giving a hug or a peck on the cheek to on another, and you have the "infamous" rumour going.
    They may not be Bi, or lesbians, but i believe that is how we get that high percentage strapped on our backs! Where i come from a handshake is almost extinct! We kiss on the cheek for a greeting! Over here in the states that could easily be "misread""!
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