Hello and thanks in advance for reading...
I am just a tad confused. Here is the low-down....
Here goes. I am a male, 33, and honestly am a novice in regards to the clubs. Seriously.My first two experiences have been over the past two Saturdays with a friend of mine who suggested we go. A few beers, I was ready and off we went! I took a notice to one girl, and after some conversation here and there we went back for a dance. It was cool - we talked and it went well. (I got the "do you want to keep going?") All I could do was nod.
It was great. Anyway, I paid and went back to the bar with my friend. Her shift was over. (I'm getting to my point, sorry for rambling...)
I went back this past Saturday with a few other people, my friend from last week included. My friend arrived first, and went in. I was outside parking and getting rid of my coat and whatnot. She saw him first and asked where I was. I walked in, said hello, and she came back about 15 minutes later and asked if I was ready to head back. (Silly question!) of course, and back we went. Again, she was cool, pretty, down to earth and made it very comfortable. Anyway, we began, and as before asked me some personal stuff, (married? live close by etc...) and then leaned down and kissed me on the mouth. This went on for the entire dance, 5 to 6 times. Is this normal? Hey, I am not complaining, it was great, she was beautiful, and I really added to the experience, but it added a personal part to it that I wasn't expecting. I was back with other girls here and there, but you get the "last second veer-away" if you go for the mouth, and I understand that. With her, there was no veer-away. In a word, wow. Is this part of the hustle-practice? Are guys sized up based on a visit or two and then the choice is made if a kiss is warranted or even part of the equation? Maybe after talking to me she realized I was 1) harmless 2) nice 3) not the elephant man 4) polite etc... and then made that decision? Based on comfort level and familiarity? Honestly I am just confused.
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I guess I am just afraid of inquiring and looking like a clown and spoiling the fantasy. Then again, if there is an interest, she is really cool, sexual, great to talk to, etc. However, these also seem to be traits for the job. To be honest, it would be neat to see her under different circumstances. I just don't want to look like a naive dope.I would gather that the girls are not looking for eligible bachelors in the clubs!
Based on this last paragraph, you can plainly see my confusion.
I was hestitant to post, because it sounds crazy when you type it and then read it. That said, maybe you could save me a little embarrassment or just slap some sense into me via the board!![]()
Thanks, and take care!


My first two experiences have been over the past two Saturdays with a friend of mine who suggested we go. A few beers, I was ready and off we went! I took a notice to one girl, and after some conversation here and there we went back for a dance. It was cool - we talked and it went well. (I got the "do you want to keep going?") All I could do was nod.
???
Based on this last paragraph, you can plainly see my confusion.
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