I was just wondering because I'd like to date a dancer and I want to know what they look for in a guy and what % of them are into men and don't already have a bf-thanks



I was just wondering because I'd like to date a dancer and I want to know what they look for in a guy and what % of them are into men and don't already have a bf-thanks
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Plenty of dancers are into men, but any man who goes into a club looking for a girlfriend will be either used for their $$ or ignored and is put into the catagory of 99% of all men at the strip club.
I am so sick of men who don't want dances, they say they want a gf....ugh. Almost every time a guy tries to hook up with me I find myself thinking a whole lot less of him. I would say about 90% of dancers who ARE looking for a man, would never consider dating a customer, it is dangerous, and the persona/look that dancers have at the club, is so far from what they look and act like in reality. Dancing is a fantasy, dancers dance for a LIVING, not just to have fun and get drunk or meet guys.
Besides, if a dancer picks up guys at work, how do you know she wouldn't cheat on you?
Some dancers will lie for your money, and already have a bf/husband.
Some dancers will date you and want your money. Period.
Some dancers will date you because they like you. (yes it happens).
Some dancers will mess with your mind in ways i can't describe. (very bad news).
Some dancers will not date you. (customer).
Some dancers will not date you, your not their type.
And some dancers are true to their job and will only keep it on a working basis.
So you see, many reasons a dancer will and will not date you. As i am sure you get the picture. We are like everyone else in the world, and capable of messing up your mind, or falling in love with you.
Your choice....Go for it if you want to try.
Pamela![]()





I'm not going to say it isn't possible (I met my fiance when his boss bought him a lap dance) but it is HIGHLY unlikely any dancer is going to take you seriously with that attitude. If you DO find a dancer who starts "dating" you (i.e. meeting you for dinner and shopping) you'd better guard your wallet more closely than your heart.
Rebecca Avalon
There are some dancers who meet their boyfriends/husbands/male friends in strip clubs. I think that a guy who wants to find a girlfriend in a strip club should NEVER BUY DANCES and NEVER PAY THE DANCER FOR CONVERSATION.
I think that the best approach to do this is to buy the dancers drinks (as long as she doesn't make money off the drinks) and food but DO NOT BUY DANCES.
I think that the right thing to do is to let the dancer know that you like her but DO NOT BECOME "HER CUSTOMER" since many dancers prefer money over friendship.
I am into men but I'm not single. However, anytime I'm working I do say I'm single, it's just part of the fantasy.
Of all the hundreds upon hundred of customers who have asked me out I have never taken any of them up on the offer. I find it a huge turn off to be asked out by customers. I don't go to work to get dates. Period. More guys should understand that when they ask for my number at work they are number 50 zillion that night to do the same thing. It gets old.
However, customers and dancers do hook up on very rare occasions. In five years of dancing and out of thousands of men I met in the clubs, I have dated a total of 4. Each was unique in that, they were all super nice and polite and gave me the impression they did not normally visit strip clubs, they seemed too nice to be there, and they did not ask me out--I asked them.
If I've seen a guy at the club more than once, he's a customer in my eyes and therefore undatable. Frankly I wouldn't want to date any guy who spends much time in the strip clubs.
Lover does have a point in that once you get a dance from a dancer, your already slim chances of dating her are decreased even more. However, once I find out a guy is not planning on getting any dances from me,
I finish my drink and politely tell the guy I must get back to work. If he then tries asking me out, I write him off as a complete tool (sorry, just being honest).
Anyway anabolic, you sound like a nice guy, but you need to realize that strip clubs are for entertainment purposes and are NOT pick-up joints.
Maybe you should think about why you even want to date a dancer? Because if your sole reason for dating a girl is that she is a dancer, that is not really a relationship anyway.
Lover does have a point in that once you get a dance from a dancer, your already slim chances of dating her are decreased even more. However, once I find out a guy is not planning on getting any dances from me,
I finish my drink and politely tell the guy I must get back to work. If he then tries asking me out, I write him off as a complete tool (sorry, just being honest).
Anyway anabolic, you sound like a nice guy, but you need to realize that strip clubs are for entertainment purposes and are NOT pick-up joints.
Maybe you should think about why you even want to date a dancer? Because if your sole reason for dating a girl is that she is a dancer, that is not really a relationship anyway.
As others have mentioned, it is possible to date a dancer, but it's hard for me to tell if you want to go to a club to find a girlfriend or there is a particular girl in mind that you want to date. This is an important distinction because if you are going to pick up any girl that tickles your fancy, you will get nowhere. If you have true feelings and a dancer can sense your sincerity, you MIGHT have a chance.
I've always thought a dancer will hook up with a guy at a strip club if he's one of two type: very generous with his money or her total fantasy guy. If you don't want to fit in the $$ category, you really have to be much more attractive to her than the typical guy that asks her out. Make sure you get to know her as a person so she knows you're not into her for her body, which is another turn-off.
And lastly, don't put her on the spot. Give her your number and then let her make the decision to call you or not. Don't try to make a date there.
That's my advice if you have any chance of hooking up with a dancer...that's how to do it.



theresa-you must be very intuitive-I am the nicest guy around-and have gone ONCE IN MY LIFE TO A CLUB-only bercause I had spoken to a dancer online and wanted to meet her-she was so normal compared to what you'd think that it piqued my interest-she's not available, but I would like 2 find another dancer with a similar mindset-I don't want to date a dancer Because she dances, rather because she's attractive enough TO DO SO-and hoped that because I NEVER goto clubs, and would treat her better than anyone else ever has, that might aid my chances-you can tell me if you agree or not-thanksLover does have a point in that once you get a dance from a dancer, your already slim chances of dating her are decreased even more. However, once I find out a guy is not planning on getting any dances from me,
I finish my drink and politely tell the guy I must get back to work. If he then tries asking me out, I write him off as a complete tool (sorry, just being honest).
Anyway anabolic, you sound like a nice guy, but you need to realize that strip clubs are for entertainment purposes and are NOT pick-up joints.
Maybe you should think about why you even want to date a dancer? Because if your sole reason for dating a girl is that she is a dancer, that is not really a relationship anyway.
guess who's back? back again
hi i am a guy who is dating (living with) a beautiful dancer. I would not reccomend dating a dancer unless you are totally secure with yourself. imagine her out dancing all night, talking with guys, guys giving her money, ect. This can mess with your herd, trust me.My girlfriend has had a couple guys call her phone and leave messages that she met at work. she said her friend gave out her number but who knows. Back to the point, if you cannot handle stuff like the things i just described, do not date a dancer because most likely you cannot handle it. i have been dealing with it for 3 years and it gets hard sometimes. She was the one who wanted to get with me when we met, and i suggest if a dancer likes you, she will approach you too. We are not dealing with shy girls here. The hot ones know every guy wants them, and they pich the one they want. If a dancer is into you she will let you know. i dont think you'll have much luck meeting one at their job though. The girls are there to make as much money as possible, its not entertainment to them, its work. think about it like this, ever go to a casino ??? you have fun playing cards, but does the dealer ???? NO, they are there to make money, plain and simple.. ITS A JOB, NOT A MEETING PLACE. if you want to get with a dancer, get a job as a dj or something at the club, the guys that work there have a much better chance than the customers. GOOD LUCK




Unfortunately, I’m too old to be dating a dancer.theresa-you must be very intuitive-I am the nicest guy around-and have gone ONCE IN MY LIFE TO A CLUB-only bercause I had spoken to a dancer online and wanted to meet her-she was so normal compared to what you'd think that it piqued my interest-she's not available, but I would like 2 find another dancer with a similar mindset-I don't want to date a dancer Because she dances, rather because she's attractive enough TO DO SO-and hoped that because I NEVER goto clubs, and would treat her better than anyone else ever has, that might aid my chances-you can tell me if you agree or not-thanks
But I know where you’re coming from. If I were 20 years younger I’d love to date a dancer. But is it really the dancer that your interested in.?
Contrary to popular beliefs and stereotyping, many of these ladies are special. They are intelligent, beautiful and exuded confidence, in themselves. They know how to treat a man, and know how to provide the “fantasy†for a man, and I’m betting that they use those skills in their personal lives as well. Most, albeit not all know where they want to be in life after their dancing career has ended and is working toward that goal. That’s probably the type of girl your interested in dating. It just so happens that you’ve found one that’s a dancer.
Now don’t get me wrong, there is some F--ked up dancers, just as there is some F--ked up women in all professions. But all in all you could do worse.
My suggestion would be to find out where the single dancers go to party after work or on their nights off. That way you can meet them socially when they are not working.
As most of the ladies have stated, they do not like to date customers, which I can understand, business is business.
Good Luck in your quest!
"when it comes to staying young, a mind-lift beats a face-lift any day" ~ Marty Bucella





It's no use to just sit around in a club, not buy dances nor tip dancers and expect a dancer to fall for you. You're wasting your time. Even if you find out certain details of a dancer's personal life, such as where she hangs out when she's not working, rest assured that most of the time she'll do her damndest to avoid you because she sees you as a customer and that by having somewhat personal conversations with you all she did was retain you as a customer. Oh, and by all means do not pretend a dancer will fall for you just because you buy her dances. She may, repeat may, be playing on you. Once you have all of this clear in your mind, hey, enjoy strip clubs but balance your life going to "regular" places or doing "regular" things, like going to bars, concerts, etc. You may as well meet your future S.O. that way.



well I know that guys are coming on to the dancers all day long, but as most people on this thread have said-dancers are not interested in CUSTOMERS, so you and I should be secure about that-I have been to ONE CLUB ONE TIME in my life-so the girl I went to see knows that after talking to me-of course she has a bf, so she's off limits-but If I could find another girl who had similar ambition in life it would be greathi i am a guy who is dating (living with) a beautiful dancer. I would not reccomend dating a dancer unless you are totally secure with yourself. imagine her out dancing all night, talking with guys, guys giving her money, ect. This can mess with your herd, trust me.My girlfriend has had a couple guys call her phone and leave messages that she met at work. she said her friend gave out her number but who knows. Back to the point, if you cannot handle stuff like the things i just described, do not date a dancer because most likely you cannot handle it. i have been dealing with it for 3 years and it gets hard sometimes. She was the one who wanted to get with me when we met, and i suggest if a dancer likes you, she will approach you too. We are not dealing with shy girls here. The hot ones know every guy wants them, and they pich the one they want. If a dancer is into you she will let you know. i dont think you'll have much luck meeting one at their job though. The girls are there to make as much money as possible, its not entertainment to them, its work. think about it like this, ever go to a casino ??? you have fun playing cards, but does the dealer ???? NO, they are there to make money, plain and simple.. ITS A JOB, NOT A MEETING PLACE. if you want to get with a dancer, get a job as a dj or something at the club, the guys that work there have a much better chance than the customers. GOOD LUCK
guess who's back? back again
In my opinion, there are many dancers who are just as shy (and sometimes a lot more so) around a guy they actually like than nice girls are.
Part of the reason that some dancers are so "aggressive" around customers at the club while being shy around guys they actually like is that the dancers only care about what customers think as far as getting their money goes while the dancers do care about what guys they are actually attracted to think of them.



im not single anymore...but i still like women too
blessed be
Here's a thought... What about hanging out at the all night restaurants near the clubs? Or better yet get a second part time job at one on the graveyard shift? This is where bar staff ends up after work many times, especially on the weekends. The single girls will go and hang with their friends, the bouncer's and DJ's, as there is safety in numbers.
This way you are not in the club atmosphere, and late night restaurants can be as social as any night club with folks talking to complete strangers at other tables.
About your original question, I don't know many single dancers and most of those travel a lot. The traveling girls have a harder time finding and keeping boyfriends, because they are on the road three out of four weeks, and usually don't even have a house per se (using Mom's address to receive mail etc.). But of the attached dancers I know about 50% could become suddenly single for the right guy. One dancer I know has not only a husband (her third) but a steady boyfriend, and sometimes dates guys that she finds interesting also. I know another dancer who has already been married 5 times (widowed twice) and is about to take her 6th march down the isle this summer. One very awesome woman that I've worked with has six boyfriends in different towns that she stays with while traveling to dance. All the guys know she has other boyfriends, and are cool with it. All of her boyfriends are very HOT, and they all have money, and are all trying to out do each other to get her attention ($$). So you definitely have a chance to hook up with a dancer, but can you handle it?
Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!
I wouldn't want to date a dancer. But let me explain, the things I love about you ladies are your openess and confidence which is really a turn on, but I tend to be a sort of a mister nice guy and a giving person and I've been taken advantaged of way too many times. If I met a girl and I was attracted to her and she told me she danced I might be very cautious about my feelings until I know more about who she is. I need somebody who's gonna use me like I need a hole in my head is all I'm saying.




1). You'd like to date a dancer? Your first problem is that you are defining their identy as "dancers". Dancers are people who happen to dance, i.e. they are people first, dancers second. By specifically stating you want to date a dancer, it seems to me that you are objectifying someone who you want to have a relationship with. Thats no way to persue a relationship.I was just wondering because I'd like to date a dancer and I want to know what they look for in a guy and what % of them are into men and don't already have a bf-thanks
What a woman who dances might look for in a guy is a myriad as there are women. There is no general formula for what dancers look for, just like there is no forumula for what any other kind of profession looks for. Everyone is different.
If you want to catch the attention of anyone, dancer or otherwise, be a decent, respectful person (and since I dont know you, please dont think I am suggestion that you arent decent etc). If you make a connection - more power to you. Specifically trying to date dancers will get you nowhere, IMHO.
Thats really just my opinion, and mine only.
PJ





I met a guy the other night at work that I REALLY had alot of fun with, whose company I enjoyed and who I might have been attracted to had I met him somewhere else, but in the end, he was just a customer.
You don't go to strip clubs to find a dancer to date, because most of us pick up on that and avoid you like the plague. We'll even talk sh*t about you with each other in the dressing room -"Did you see that guy in the corner who doesn't tip anybody and doesn't buy any dances? He's such a loser! He only comes here to try to date a dancer! What an as*hole!"
Also, I don't agree with the suggestion that you should actively persue dating dancers by getting a job in a club or a nearby late-night establishment. The dancers you want with good heads on their shoulders will see right through that and think of you as a loser/as*hole/stalker. I also don't recommend that you try to find out where they hang out and frequent those places, for the same reason stated above.
You say you want a girl who is attractive and has a good head on her - there are lots of those everywhere. Just go about your daily life and when you see a girl you're attracted to, say at a bar, go up and offer her a drink. Or better yet, send the waitress or bartender to get her whatever she wants. Talk to her about the weather, compliment her nice shoes, chit chat. Maybe she will be a dancer and maybe she won't, but if you're just looking for dancers because you have an idea that they're better looking, that's MIGHTY superficial and not a healthy starting point. I've seen lots of women who never danced and who were absolutely stunning - don't concentrate on dancers.
I like the way Prestor put it. Its our job not our identity.
Hi, I wanna date a air traffic control guy, the can multi task and handle stressful situations, I need/want that.
Sounds weird dont it?
Mind you I have heard women say I want to date a doctor and only a doctor I want the prestige and money that goes with all that.
Or I want to date a rich guy.
and on and on it goes.
LIVE LONG & PROSPER!
Leigh Landon
Never explain yourself to anyone, because the person who likes you doesn't need it and the person that dislikes you won't believe it.





IF the girl you happen to chat with a at bar, concert or the beach happens to be a dancer, don't be an a*hole and start saying stupid things about her profession. Treat her with respect. We're only human, after all.





Comments like these are what gives the general population the ammunition they need to perpetuate all the unfortunate stereotypes about strippers. I don't believe most strippers go about bashing guys that way. They just ignore him and go about with their business. MY opinion, obviously, since I've never been inside a stripper locker room.You don't go to strip clubs to find a dancer to date, because most of us pick up on that and avoid you like the plague. We'll even talk sh*t about you with each other in the dressing room -"Did you see that guy in the corner who doesn't tip anybody and doesn't buy any dances? He's such a loser! He only comes here to try to date a dancer! What an as*hole!"





Well, sorry, but it's true. We talk about customers in the dressing room. When we meet a nice one, we talk about how much we enjoyed him. When we meet a jerk, we talk about what a jerk he was. When we see a guy hanging out alot and never spending money but obviously there to purposely take advantage of the show for free or trying to pick up dancers, we talk about what an ass he is too. It doesn't make us bad people, it makes us human. No one likes to be treated poorly in their jobs, and people from ALL professions talk badly about customers/co-workers/bosses who treat them badly. It's part of being human and we have just as much right to do it as the next person.
If you see us just ignoring the jerks and moving on, it's because that is what we LET you see on the floor - keeping up the fantasy that we are there to provide, that we are all immune to human feelings except for the sexual kind. That is part of the job description. But still being the humans that we are, we need to vent when someone gets on our nerves in order to go back and behave like goddesses in front of you guys!
Not saying that we all run around bad-mouthing every customer. We certainly do not, but if the jerk customers could hear what is said about them in the dressing room, they might think twice about being a jerk the next time they go to a SC!
Bridgette
There are many dancers who say that guys shouldn't go to a strip club to find a date but I have known many dancers who met dates/boyfriends/husbands as customers in the strip clubs where they danced.
When a customer likes a dancer (other than just as sexual stimulation) and WANTS to see her outside the club then I say GO AHEAD AND ASK HER OUT!! and DO NOT buy dances or pay the dancer for conversation - this is far more likely to RUIN YOUR CHANCES OF GOING OUT WITH HER!
If a dancer turns a customer down then that customer knows not to waste any more time on her so it's not a complete waste. I think that a customer who wants to ask a dancer out should do it BEFORE spending a lot of money on her (like buying her drinks)
Added note: Some clubs may have "dancer drinks" which are overinflated in price and/or non alchoholic. Dancers may make money off these drinks. DO NOT buy these drinks for dancers because the reason they are ordering them is to make MONEY off you, NOT BECAUSE THEY WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU!
A solution to this is for you (the customer) to walk to the bar YOURSELF and order the drinks
Another possible solution is to stay away from exotic drinks whose names you do not know.
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