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    Hi,
    I am relatively new to these boards and to strip clubs in general. I find the topics and honest conversations here a true treasure to understanding what dancers go through and the respect they deserve.

    One dancer in particular caught my attention for the entire evening. We talked for a while and I soon asked for a dance from her.

    Now I know a dancer has to make a living, and money is a priority and I want to be a good and pleasant customer. After reading through some threads here, I was just wondering how much of my experience was part of the whole "fantasy act" versus unusual practice for dancers.

    First off, she kept pointing out a girl in plain clothes across the bar who was staring at her. Telling me that the other girl recently got in a fight with her friend and wanted to beat her up too. Was this part of an "adventure fantasy" she was providing for me, or is this kind of rivalry common among dancers?

    Second, at particular times during conversation and dancing she would stop and almost out of character say "You are so nice." Girls say this to everyone right?

    She also asked if I had a girlfriend. I would think most dancers wouldn't want to know either way. I said yes.

    I bought 12 dances from her in succession. Although she wasn't even keeping count - when I asked her how many that was, she said, "You tell me."

    Is 12 in a row too many? Should I have let her rest or something? I certainly would have liked to talk more but girls have to make money, I know.

    During the dances, she was grinding pretty hard after awhile. Honestly, if I was 18 I would have came in my pants, but I know that isn't considered polite, and I didn't.

    Then she asked for my email and she gave me hers and said she'll email me so I know it is her.

    As the club was closing and the other dancers were already dressed and leaving, she came and sat next to me still nude and talked some more.

    As we left, she put out her cheek for me to kiss and I did, gladly.

    Is this a typical experience? I'm sorry if this is a stupid question, but out of 4 clubs I've been to, this seemed all very unusual. Perhaps, I am overanalyzying it, but either way it was a very satisfying experience, so I guess it worked.



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    Hi,
    I am relatively new to these boards and to strip clubs in general. I find the topics and honest conversations here a true treasure to understanding what dancers go through and the respect they deserve.

    One dancer in particular caught my attention for the entire evening. We talked for a while and I soon asked for a dance from her.

    Now I know a dancer has to make a living, and money is a priority and I want to be a good and pleasant customer. After reading through some threads here, I was just wondering how much of my experience was part of the whole "fantasy act" versus unusual practice for dancers.

    First off, she kept pointing out a girl in plain clothes across the bar who was staring at her. Telling me that the other girl recently got in a fight with her friend and wanted to beat her up too. Was this part of an "adventure fantasy" she was providing for me, or is this kind of rivalry common among dancers?

    Second, at particular times during conversation and dancing she would stop and almost out of character say "You are so nice." Girls say this to everyone right?

    She also asked if I had a girlfriend. I would think most dancers wouldn't want to know either way. I said yes.

    I bought 12 dances from her in succession. Although she wasn't even keeping count - when I asked her how many that was, she said, "You tell me."

    Is 12 in a row too many? Should I have let her rest or something? I certainly would have liked to talk more but girls have to make money, I know.

    During the dances, she was grinding pretty hard after awhile. Honestly, if I was 18 I would have came in my pants, but I know that isn't considered polite, and I didn't.

    Then she asked for my email and she gave me hers and said she'll email me so I know it is her.

    As the club was closing and the other dancers were already dressed and leaving, she came and sat next to me still nude and talked some more.

    As we left, she put out her cheek for me to kiss and I did, gladly.

    Is this a typical experience? I'm sorry if this is a stupid question, but out of 4 clubs I've been to, this seemed all very unusual. Perhaps, I am overanalyzying it, but either way it was a very satisfying experience, so I guess it worked.

    in my opinion buying 12 dances made her think you are not boyfriend material and she wants to keep you as a customer(a well paying one)-the kiss was her being polite-the asking if you have a gf probably was just someting to talk about to pass all that time-the email thing is just again a show of politeness on her part-if she wanted you as a date, she'd write her # down
    guess who's back? back again

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    medasin checkout stripclubjunkie.com, it the brother site to this one. Amber76 and the rest of us got will take care of your questions.
    whats a PL to do?

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    medasin checkout stripclubjunkie.com, it the brother site to this one. Amber76 and the rest of us got will take care of your questions.
    Oops, sorry. Thanks for the other site. Evidently, after perusing it, I was played and I am a PL. It's all good. haha

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    I don't think you were 'played'. You had a good time and made sure the dancer was rewarded for making sure you had a good time. You both we'll remember each other for awhile. Most first-timers have difficulty destinguishing the 'strip-club-going experience' from the 'dance-club-going experience'.

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    Played? Only if youy thought you were looking for love in all the wrong places.

    If you went to enjoy a pretty girls company and buy some dances then you got exactly that!

    Sounds like you had a decent time and your chosen girl had excellent manners, ie. at the end of the night returning to your side to complete your pleasant experience.

    How could you have been played? Were you actually looking in a strip club for a girlfriend? You say several times you know the girls are there to make money right? SO you know the context and value of your visit right?

    Many girls offer up email addy to keep in contact with customers who's company they enjoy or prefer. Or just to write a day or two later to thank you again for your visit.

    Wonderful that she didnt try to rip you off in the dance number count, you had chosen your dancer well Medeasin!
    She sounds like gem.

    Enjoy that visit to the Nudie bar for exactly what it was - a visit to the nudie bar, the end!

    Happy Trails, tiddies and beer for everyone!!!
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    Played? Only if youy thought you were looking for love in all the wrong places.

    Wonderful that she didnt try to rip you off in the dance number count, you had chosen your dancer well Medeasin!
    She sounds like gem.
    Yes, it was a great experience. I was just wondering if this is the usual experience or if like you said, I found a gem. I guess I was just surprised at her candor and the email exchange, but I understand now that this is not uncommon.

    "Played" was the wrong word on my part here, sorry. I definitely wasn't looking for love, but I was certainly charmed. I guess I just wanted to be reassured by professionals here to not "delude myself" into thinking any more of this than being a great dancer-customer interaction. Yeah, she was wonderful company.

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    You weren't played at all, and you're not a PL. Some of the guys on stripclub forums like to rip on newbies and anyone who spends money on the girls without giving them a hard time in the process. You sound like you probably were very nice to your dancer, and she probably meant it when she said you were 'so nice'. She even let you tell her how many dances! She didn't try to rip you off, she gave you a good time, and apparently didn't try to bs you. Sounds like a good dancer overall. Only 'off' thing was her pointing out the girl in street clothes and talking about her wanting to beat someone up. She should have left that out of the conversation, but still it sounds like she did a good job of showing you a good time and that's what you went for right? The email address is a way - the most unobtrusive way - of being able to keep in touch with you in hopes of getting you back into the club for more dances and good times. As long as you continue to see it as the plain old fun and entertainment that it is, there's no harm and you've probably found yourself a real gem like Leigh said!

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    The trap male customers put themselves in when going to SCs is that they forget, intentionally or unintentionally, that they are in a SC, not a Bar or a Singles Dance or a Sock Hop or a Kiwanis’s Barbeque. The basic level of human interaction in a SC is supposed stay within a SC. If for whatever of the million reasons something expands to the outside, great. However, that is not the norm, nor the purpose. If you have a great time in a SC, well, that’s what they are there for. The dancers job is to give a customer a great time (legally only) WITHIN the club. Do not be disappointed if it never goes outside of the club. It is not supposed to (and if it does, it is wholly on the discretion of the dancer). There are good times and bad times in a club. It sounds like you found a good time. Enjoy for what it is, don't stress for what it is not.

    I get a lot of "Wow, you are so nice" when I go, because I endeavor to be a decent human being, and I do not try to make the experience any more than what it is supposed to be - an in-club experience. You earn a rep for being a decent guy, chances are you will have more experiences like that. Just remember to stay a decent guy.

    PJ

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