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    Default Some advice

    Hope this hasn't been covered already, but here goes.

    I'm wondering on how best to approach a dancer in a club with the intention of asking her out. Not for sex, but to date and possibly marry. I almost married one a few years ago but it didn't work out. But I knew then that I only wanted to date a dancer. I love the mindset and the lifestyle.

    I'm attractive, confident without being cocky, and a nice guy (but not a wimpy nice guy) and I'm in good shape (workout 6 days a week, perhaps too obsessively ).

    Anyway, I know dancers get propositions all the time, but I'd like to set myself apart from them and actually date them, and not just have sex with them. I can go to any club and do that.

    Thanks in advance.

    Jon

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    This a bad question. If you want to be with a dancer simply because she is a dancer.....bad idea. She won't be a dancer forever, your priorities are way off. We are there doing a job, not looking for a husband. It would be extremely rare you are gonna find your soul mate in a strip club. You sound like you need to work through some personal problems if you feel this way.

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    Default Re: Some advice

    http://www.stripperweb.com/cgi-bin/y...4486;start=0#0

    Here is a link to a thread that was started by another member of this board who also would like to date a dancer, and it gives many dancers' opinions on the subject. Personally, I second what Lynn said. It is one thing to go into a club just because, and then find a dancer that you DO mesh with and start a relationship from there. It is quite another matter to go into a club expecting to meet your future wife. Strip clubs are meant for entertainment, they are NOT dating agencies. Guys who go into clubs specifically to find a girlfriend drive dancers nuts.

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    lol, give the guy a break

    Most dancers are beautiful, why wouldn't someone want to date a beautiful person?

    I would give the girl your card, if she is truly interested she'd call. Say something casual like "your a cool person, can I leave you my card incase you're ever in the mood to hang out with someone new?" Most girls throw these cards away including myself, unless you own/manage a car dealership, lol. So if this is a new project of yours it's going to be a frustrating one.


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    lol, give the guy a break

    Most dancers are beautiful, why wouldn't someone want to date a beautiful person?

    I would give the girl your card, if she is truly interested she'd call. Say something casual like "your a cool person, can I leave you my card incase you're ever in the mood to hang out with someone new?" Most girls throw these cards away including myself, unless you own/manage a car dealership, lol. So if this is a new project of yours it's going to be a frustrating one.
    my grandfather owns a car dealership=maybe I should try to bring that up if I ever meet a dancer
    guess who's back? back again

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    Any guy that tells me he wants to marry a dancer because he "likes the lifestyle" automatically makes me think PIMP.
    Pestering the dancers in clubs for a date is a bad idea.

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    lol,
    Maybe you should bring him in instead. lol

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    i've seem to have lust the mojo in the job i love dancing and the job but my monet has dropped i'm having a hard time making myself go idont know how to talk with the guys anymore. i feel like all the want is stuff that i don't do can oneone help

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    For many girls in this industry a guy JUST being attractive doesn't do it for them. That's why we ask what you do for a living, it (your job) shows per se if you are an overachiever and/or have goals. Of course being nice is most important.

    Lets say some cute guy asks me out and I find out he works at 24-hour fitness or at Darque Tan, big turn off. I'm sure there's nothing wrong with these places at 18-22 but if he's 28, no.

    Sorry to rant, but saying you enjoy the lifestyle reminds me of this type of guy (the party guy), instead of a guy in the corporate realm.

    Zori,
    you just need a mini vacation, your just burned out. Take a break and you'll be better than ever. Maybe you just need a change of atmosphere...

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    i didn't say that i liked the lifestyle cause i really dont i've noticed the bussines change in the years and i havent changed when i started doing this is was fun and a job all the girls played by the same rules and now they dont as far as the vaction this is the last night of one and on it i worked 1 night at a different club in a different state and enjoyed it again

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    Zori,
    I know you didn't say you enjoyed the lifestyle, but "Cute Guy" did.

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    Cute Guy,

    It's a living, not a lifestyle. You're better off meeting a girl at the gym or a regular club.

    Lena



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    Dating and marriage proposals? From a CUSTOMER???? Wow... who would have EVER heard of something like that!!!!!

    LOL.... my one-night record for hearing "I'd really like to date/marry you" from a customer was five.

    ANYWAY..... here's the prob, fella. ANY dancer who's the sort you'd REALLY like to have a relationship with HAS to keep an absolute, impenetrable fire wall between her and her dancing. First, it's for personal safety. You may be Mr. Wonderful and all that, but she's ALSO gotten fifty-seven thousand come-ons from guys who really just want to rape and kill her and cut her body up and feet it to the pigs. (NO SHIT.... they're investigating this right now in Vancouver, BC.)

    Second, it's for mental health. Dancing is just a job. It's something I do. Sure it's fun, and it's EXTREMELY profitable, but mentally it's a zoo. I have to keep my personal life separate from my show-biz life. There's a funny-as-hell old segment of Saturday Night Live with William Shatner as host where he goes to a Trekkie convention and the people there think he still IS "Captain Kirk". They don't "get it" that Star Trek was just a job he did for a few years. Period. Nothing more than that. Well, stripping is like that. It's a job. If you're attracted to me cuz of my JOB, then I'm frankly a little wierded out about that. The rest of me (the parts that are NOT on display in the club the vast majority of the time) would prolly disappoint the hell out of you. I look like shit when I get up in the morning. I read a lot. I go to school. Etc. Etc. Etc. 97% of the time, my life has NOTHING to do with what you see on stage. The other 3% of the time is NOT something I want to carry home with me.

    Finally, agreeing to go out on a "date" with a customer, regardless of how innocuous, is a VERY quick way to get busted by the cops. "Date" means "blow you in the parking lot for fifty bucks" in cop parlance.

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    Absolutelly agree with you Susan!!!!!
    ORCHID

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    OK. Let me clarify.

    I re read my post and you are completely right. Dating someone for their job is not a good call. I'll rethink my logic on this one. I do appreciate the constructive criticism, however all I really wanted to do is just ask one of em out and advice on how to go about it.

    The reason I made distinction of being in it not just for sex, is because I'm sure you hear guys saying the same thing just to lay a dancer.

    I assure you that is not the case.

    However, what I wrote and my thoughts behind that were flawed. I'd still like to try and find my soulmate in a club because thats where I found the last one and I get along with them so well.

    As for what I do, I'm not a partier any more. I used to be pretty hardcore but not so much anymore. I work as a programmer for a telemarketting firm (I know, I'm the devil) and bartend at night to make ends meet. I'm also planning on competing in a bodybuilding competition next year....my first. See, I've been a shy geek up till last year when I lost 30lbs, cut my long hair, tossed out all my clothes, read up on style and found my own and started conquering my fears. So this is all still new to me even after a year of it.

    All I was asking is just some advice on how best to approach the women in the club....

    Edit: I just read the thread link mentioned earlier. Looks like I'm shit out of luck and way off base....thanks anyway...


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