Does anyone have any special techniques they use to "chat up" a customer? Anything in particular you find most customers are up to talking about, and any topics we should stay away from?
Amethyst
Does anyone have any special techniques they use to "chat up" a customer? Anything in particular you find most customers are up to talking about, and any topics we should stay away from?
Amethyst
Yes look very friendly. Be friendly actually. Approach, and jump in the conversation. I use my strap alot on my shoe, and ask for help.
On ce you say hi, and have a bit of a conversation going, ask him/them questions about him/them. Men love to talk about themselves! And it would not hurt, if you need to that is, to polish some skills on guy talk. Once again the library has a great book, "how to start a conversation with strangers", and "The fine art of working a room". Two very good books! Pamela![]()





Yep, some ask me if I'm married and when I say I'm still single their eyes open (don't know why, really). Others venture to ask where I live, even what I do for a living. Yet IMHO the best dancers, conversation wise, are those who do not necessarily wish to find out who you are, but share common interests since those interests make for interesting topics, even if it's still no strings attached.
You mean Carlos, when you talk to dancers they have their eyes closed untill you say your not married.
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Oh, that's so FUNNYYYYYYYYYYYYou mean Carlos, when you talk to dancers they have their eyes closed untill you say your not married.
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Their eyes open wider. How's that??
I knew you would like that one. Told you i would find a flaw! I picture dancers with eyes shut while you talk. Then you say you are not married and they open them up. OK OK i can have a fantasy. Or 2 at your expense. You did me.![]()
Your silly.
And you don't know why they open their eyes ??? ??? LOl





Well, maybe because they expect that at my age I'd be married, I guess :-/Then you say you are not married and they open them up. OK OK i can have a fantasy. Or 2 at your expense. And you
don't know why they open their eyes ??? ??? LOl
I always introduce myself and then ask theirs. I make it a point to remember it and use it in the conversation b/c a lot of customers will say I bet u don't remember my name do you? Ask about them without getting too personal b/c some will not tell u what they do or whatever b/c some work for wellknown comp or have high profile jobs and don't want ne1 to know about their afterhours entertainment. Find out about their interests and find something that you have in common. Talk to them and see where it goes. If they r shy, draw them out by finding something they like to talk about. There is a really shy guy who comes in the club at home, he's shy as hell but he is an air traffic controller and will talk ur head off about planes and nething connected to them. If u have ever been on a plane he is in love, and there is ur common ground.
If all you are getting though is monosyllables then try a few more moments, and then move on they are not interested. Some guys are a little tough and some are really easy to talk to. If you are struggling to keep a conversation going or doing all the talking yourself and the guy looks off or isn't paying attention, keep moving. Excuse urself nicely and politely, and still remember his name and come back later just to check on him. The seemingly mean or difficult guys sometimes adopt a hardass persona in clubs b/c they are wary of being hustled on or whatever. These are the guys that will sometimes buy a dance later or just tip really nicely for coming back later and being polite. Even if u r really busy. Give evry1 (if time and crowd capacity at ur club allows) at least a hello my name is______. Just wanted to see how u were doing tonite? I'm working around right now, but I'll be back by later. If this customer is interested U won't get the chance to get away, he (or she) will keep u there and keep u chattin or dancing.
"Come what may although I often say realities come from dreams, but approach all lies with open eyes because NOthing in this world is EVER ALL it seems."
My pet peeve is this one dancer at a club I have been to going to for 3 years or so, I get a couple dances with her on occasion. And if its a slow night we'll chat a little but.......... if I ask "Whats new?" simple, plain straight forward questions. Don't keep saying, "work" make something up if you have to, or dont but, have a little more then a 3 word reply.
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Yeah, I hear you... "Bored" is also another big turnoff answer to "how ya doin?"
I just want to say that I enjoy chatting with the dancers,The way I look at it, is the more they, the friendlier they tend to be, thus the moreI 'm apt to tip her.
Most any topic will work for me, as long as it is friendly and real. I react very well (tipping, buying dances, etc.) to friendly, simple conversation. Last Friday I was in a club in Providence and a dancer opened up a conversation asking about the roads (first major snow of the season), and thanking us for coming out in such bad weather. That opened up the conversation, and it worked just fine for me. I don't like conversations that feel like an obvious hustle, and I'm honestly not very good myself at beginning conversations myself. However, if a dancer comes up to me with a big smile and starts chatting, the topic really doesn't matter all that much--I am happy to go along and talk about whatever. Actually, one of my favorite topics recently has been a dancer's experiences in other clubs, and what she likes/dislikes about dancing in the club we are in compared to others.![]()
However, in general I just appreciate that she is taking the time to sit and chat with me, and more often than not it leads to me spending money on the dancer.
There's only us. There's only this. Forget regret, or life is yours to miss... --RENT
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Chatting and sitting on my lap always gets me ready to go, especially when she's not in a rush to make her money, that's what I call a great sales technique. It does help when they have something to talk about though, School, politics, sports, etc.
Right on the money. I was in Vegas at a club. Sitting right in the pathway of the dancers. Several jumped in my lap and asked if I wanted a dance point blank. Turn off !!! One dancer came up told me her name, ask if she could sit down and before you know it an hour had gone by with just us talking and BS ing. She did not ask once if I wanted a dance in that time. I bought her a few drinks and I asked her to dance for me several times, as a matter of fact thoughout the nite. I actually had to tell her to go and make some money dancing.
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While I am happy to answer questions about myself, I generally prefer to chat with a dancer about things that interest her or about things in her life. When I am chatting with a dancer I always try to "land on" a topic that she is clearly interested in--then just go with that. The specific topic isn't really important--more just the general tone and friendliness of the discussion. I'm a sucker for a big honest smile...
There's only us. There's only this. Forget regret, or life is yours to miss... --RENT
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It's best to stay away from asking about a wife and kids at home. Guys go to a strip club to get away from all that.
There's the usual stuff, sports, politics, work, weather. A lot a guys like to talk about their jobs, but some guys think if you ask about their job you are sizing them up to see how much money you can make off them. To get around this, I ask, "so what line of work are you in?". That way the guy can be as vague or specific as he wants. If his answer is something generic like, "sales" I know to change the subject to something else, but if is very specific, I know he likes to talk about his work and to act interested.
Dancing is wonderful training for girls, it's the first way you learn to guess what a man is going to do before he does it. ~Christopher Morley, Kitty Foyle
Those are great ideas Pamela! So far I'm just very friendly and I know a bit about sports so I'll use that too. Asking about a guy's job can be ok but I sometimes think they came here to get away from it and relax though.
Oh I was wondering how to transition from talking about something unrelated to dancing to asking for the dance. I read here that people would talk about something flirty (like loving to hold the gear stick in the car?) then ask for the dance. Do you guys have other flirty ideas?
Last edited by cottoncandy; 11-15-2004 at 02:26 AM.
My 2 1/2 cents (this is for a new potential customer...not someone you know well):
1 - it's okay to ask about work
2 - don't ask about a wife or children
3 - don't talk about having a boyfriend or children of your own
4 - don't wait too long to ask if he wants a dance...any respectful individual will realize you have a job to do. After a few minutes, tell him "I am enjoying this conversation....but I need to keep trying to make money. I'll try to stop by later if you're still around."
This gives him the opportunity to ask for a dance...but also makes the situation comfortable for both of you in case he's not ready to get one from you.
My final suggestion (this is the 1/2 of the 2 1/2 cents) is to keep an eye on anyone you speak to if you can....glance back...or walk by again...because what will happen sometimes is that after you leave, the guy is going to think "Damn...I should get a dance from her." If you keep strolling by, you make yourself available.
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I still wonder why strippers tell you they are married or have children, it ruins the fantasy for the guy![]()

I never ask about wife and kids UNLESS the guy asks me about my marital status and if I have kids.
When guys ask me that it ruins the fantasy for both of us. It makes me start thinking about my family at home and makes the guy uncomfortable and creates an awkward moment.
Usually at first I will just ignore or blow off the question. BUT if they become persistant and start making me feel uncomfortable, and really want me to answer the question then i will, but not without a price such as asking them the same exact personal question with the same persistance!
Many guys that have now become regulars know better than to ask me things like that again because I will grill them with the same questions and then when they give me that funny look of "why are you asking me that?" I smile and say "well I thought that because you asked me such personal questions you wouldn't mind answering them yourself."
Yes i lost on a few dances because of that but they have learned and some just come in and get dances right away-which is what I like.
I think guys forget that some of us dancers like to get into the fantasy as well. I know that I do.
I use the "don't ask, don't tell' method when it comes to personal questions.
And most of the time I try to keep conversation short and sweet but also directed towards something that will get me a dance...
However if you happen to start chatting about computers, comics, or games then you have my undivided attention LOL!
I was going to say something else but I forgot...maybe i will continue later lol

Oh yeah I remember what I was going to say...I have a good approach for transitioning from talking to dancing...
Like when you're with a funny/easy going guy when the dj announces a 2- 4 -1 I quickly will wrap it up with something like "Hey now is your chance to get our dance special! You ready to go have some fun!" enthusiastically.
You'd be surprised at how quickly guys go "sounds great to me" or "sure, you're such a nice person, why not?"
I love guys like that!
However for the more serious type you could always say "Would you like to take a break and get a dance? Afterwards, I would love to continue our conversation ..." I find this works quite well in most cases.
One thing though I've learn from past experiences is try not to stumble over your words when asking. Like don't say "Well um that was the call for a dance special so...uh would you like to go?"
Say that out loud and you'll notice that it sounds very dull and boring. It always baffles me when girls ask for dances in that manner.- I just had to metion that because a couple girls sound just like that.
If you're the aggressive type-kinda like me at times- then sometimes just going up taking their hand and saying "Hey you, sitting there all alone, come on let's go have some fun!" in an upbeat cheerful tone.
Mind you, that approach doesn't work for all customers but I find it atleast makes them notice you and think- "hey she's full of energy, maybe i should give her a dance"
I had some more thoughts but i just lost them....again
The fantasy is "ruined" because way too many guys still don't acknowledge that they need to have realistic expectations in the unrealistic environment of the strip club. They still think that this hot, naked chick wants to score with any fat, toothless raincoating PL that reeks of death that gives them $20 for a dance.I still wonder why strippers tell you they are married or have children, it ruins the fantasy for the guy
Idealism is fine, but as it approaches reality, the costs become prohibitive.
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Amen. Couldn't have said it better myself.Originally Posted by Casual Observer
It's usually just fine to discuss my wife with me in a SC, because she is usually right next to me, or in the next room buying a dance. But then I guess I'm just lucky...
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