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    Hey guys...what do you guys say to the infamous line..."can i call you"...of course we all know what follows that line..."i would love to take you out sometime..." i never know what to say to these guys...if they aren't spending a dime, i have no problem saying i don't give out my number...but if they've been good about spending money on me, i kinda feel like i have to give them my number so they'll come back and see me...then i just do my best to only answer my phone when i know for certain who it is...what do you guys say???

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    You should say no you can't call me,but you can email your little heart out. I do email for big spenders, but I don't give out a phone number. Since I have internet access constantly, its more practical to email me than call me. If I'm busy-class, the bar, in the club-I'll be more likely to check my email when I take a quick break or get bored than I am to answer my cell phone or whatever.
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    I had a toll free # for a short time, and yes, i gave it out. That way i could stay in touch with the regulars and let them know when i was dancing. Cell phone a few times.

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    say "yeah, you can call me....I don't want you to show up one night and I'm not here, so check first"


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    I know girls who've gotten seperate cell phone for this reason alone
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    I'm starting to think that I should give out the club's phone number when they ask me.

    Most of the time they are satisfied with my line "I'm a very busy girl between this and all that my study entails... I don't have much time to meet new people just my current friends and even they are on my back about not catching up with them often enough." or "It is regarded as solicitation if I give you any way of contacting me outside of this club" (this one is true and the cops are constantly going undercover throughout the year to catch you out).

    Some guys won't get the hint that it is just my job to give them a great lap dance and/or treat them like a king... nothing more. I am going to try a new tactic.. a bit risky but it might work. I will give them the no. of the club I'm working at (Players) as it isn't widely advertised and if they call it.. they can ask for me.

    I dunno. What do you do when the guy doesn't get it that you are NOT interested in keeping contact outside the club? ???


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    Try "I am running over my cell phone minutes and each extra one costs an arm and a leg" or
    "I have a very nosey roommate who is home all the time." "She has a very jealous boyfriend who would flip if he thought the message was for her." "She'd erase it for spite."

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    Even though it's a total lie I always told them that I still lived with my parents and couldn't give out their number. If they were persistant enough to ask if I had a cell phone I'd just say "not yet" or "I should be getting one soon" . I do give out an email address. This seems to work out fine because guys tend to contact me while they're at work.

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    Ooo... good ones girls...
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    I say, in my most reluctant tone of voice, "That would be lovely, but it's just impossible. The police consider it solicitation, I could be arrested for prostitution, so the club has a very strict policy about accepting or giving out phone numbers. As much as I might like you to call, I can't risk my job over a fellow, no matter how charming or attractive."

    Give him a winsome, apologetic face and squeeze his knee very gently. He'll be convinced that you are smitten, but that the Big Bad Manager won't let you call him or accept his calls. It works every time.
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    I only give out my business number (aka my cell phone) to my big spending clientele, others get my email address, along with the name of my upcoming website, which is kiannassecret.com, coming soon!
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    only if they spend a big champagne bottle for me and atleast 5 private dances i give them my number. because it is nice to have contact with good costumers on slow nights sometimes i call them and ask if they pas by because "i would like to see him agian"
    If i have costumers that i think oh my gosh no way!!! i tell them i don't have one so if you buy me a mobile with a telephonecard you are the first one who got my number. (it's a good one because i already got 4 mobiles as presents.

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    well luckily my club has a hotline you can call and heat the girls that are working....
    but i also have a voicemail... to the customers that are realy good to me..they think they have my cell.. but really its just a vm.. so they leave a message and i call back..
    i say my cell doesnt work at home.. its a great scam!

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    OK..It must be a Maine thing..If the (we) the girls at the clubs I have worked at...EVER gave ANY customer a way to contact (us)her outside the club..it was considered prostitution and we would get fired. Such BS!! But if Maine could get rid of all the clubs they would be happy!! SO giving numbers out IS OK..elsewhere?

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    It isn't here in Florida. Same rules/laws as you; a club fires the dancer and cops jail her for prostitution. But perhaps the laws are different elsewhere.
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    I actually met my now Ex g/f at sapphire's.. once i got her off her whole "im a stripper hear me roar" attitude, and got down to the basic elements of interest,we actually found that we had alot in common and had a very decent realationship for over a year n 1/2.. i was good to her and she was good to me. 50/50 made no difference where i met her, just happend that we met at the club that night.

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    Lilith & Holiday, I find it very hard to believe this is actually the law in either place. Obviously club owners don't want you contacting customers because of the appearance of impropriety, so they might be saying this is the law, but has anyone you know actually been convicted of prostitution for just giving out a number or meeting a customer without having or promising sex? That's a pretty universal prerequisite for a prostitution violation. As you describe the law, any waitress or 7-11 clerk who receives tips could be charged for giving their number to a customer.

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    Just get their number. (as long as it is not prost) Or just use the club number. I forgot this . If the guy is a jerkoff you can always give him the number of a police station.
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    I don't usually give out my number but if a guy is a regular for a long time and I feel I can trust me I give him my cell number. I never give out my house number. My voicemail also doesn't say my real name, it just says you know who you've reached kinda thing. Sometimes a guy will call my club and speak to a bouncer about me.

    Pan Dah-They have weird laws everywhere about prostitution. I doubt that a club would lie to the girls about a law when most turn their backs on extras so they can make more money. (Totally off the subject) The clubs down here consider showing any pubic hair and serving alcohol in the same bar prostitution. Laws are a funky thing.

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    i know this sounds pretty horrible... but when the really drunk obnoxious non-regular customers who aren't really spending any money and are really pressuring me for my #... i give a phony #... am i a total bitch?

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    Sometimes, if the guy's spending at least 2-300 (i work days), I'll give out my cell, since it's my personal and not me and my bf's...But, sometimes, I just don't feel like doing it since it's only so I can let them know when/where I'm working and I STILL get the assholes calling me up and thinking I'll do escorts for em.. That's what I've personally found that the guys here in tampa want your number for; if they can' get it in the club, they think you an hook up outside. What's funny is that giving a number or even an email addy out here in Tampa may only get you a reprimand the first time, but leaving with a customer will get you fired.
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    I've found that 90% of the time it's really not worth the hassle of giving out my phone number, even to the big spenders. I used to think, "well this guy gave me 400 today so I'll give him the # so he'll come back and spend that again." But it doesn't work that way. Once he's spent that kinda money, he's now already expecting to get a date, and that's what he's going to call for. He's RARELY going to come back and blow another wad of cash if his initial investment did not pan out.

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    >> i know this sounds pretty horrible... but when the really drunk obnoxious
    >> non-regular customers who aren't really spending any money and are really
    >> pressuring me for my #... i give a phony #... am i a total bitch?

    OK, speaking as a former ethics teacher, I see only one potential problem: what if the number belongs to someone's private residence? As long as you make sure that's not the case (I love the idea of giving the number for the local police), I'd say you're giving the obnoxious customer exactly what he deserves.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lilith link=board=9;threadid=4112;start=msg49373#msg49373 date=1066999800
    I say, in my most reluctant tone of voice, "That would be lovely, but it's just impossible. The police consider it solicitation, I could be arrested for prostitution, so the club has a very strict policy about accepting or giving out phone numbers. As much as I might like you to call, I can't risk my job over a fellow, no matter how charming or attractive."

    Give him a winsome, apologetic face and squeeze his knee very gently. He'll be convinced that you are smitten, but that the Big Bad Manager won't let you call him or accept his calls. It works every time.
    Only a complete idiot would actually buy this explanation.

    Ladies, when a customer feeds you an obvious line of BS (about his life, occupation, or whatever) in an attempt to impress you, you'll usually just play along as if you believe him. There simply is no reason to confront him on this type of lie. Customers often do the same on obvious BS from dancers.

    Now I don't approve of customers asking dancers for phone numbers or dates. I have never done so. But if a customer asks for your phone number, and you don't want to give it to him, my advice is to say no without any phony explanations. The phony explanations just insult the intelligence of the customer (I'll concede SOME of them may be too stupid to be insulted).

    When I go into a lap booth with a dancer for the first time, I like to find out where her boundaries are. So I will often come out and ask where I can touch. And she might say: "You can't touch here, or here, or here." OK, fine. What I don't like is when they add in some BS: "You can't touch here, or here, or here. But only because someone might come in and see us." And this in a club where many dancers allow such things with impunity.

    Dancers have a perfect right to say "no." But offering phony reasons for saying "no" can be counterproductive. Just because a customer doesn't call you on your BS doesn't mean he's not aware he is being BS'ed. And you all know it's a bit of a turn-off to be BS'ed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by darkness link=board=9;threadid=4112;start=msg49374#msg49374 date=1067548026
    i agree giving your number out to 500$ spenders or more is not a big deal,trust me if you don't give it out someone else will
    I hate to admit it, but she's right. I've done it a few times, mostly in New Orleans where pretty much all the clients are there for conventions or tourists. I've gotten great meals at some of the best restaurants in the city that way! However, I ALWAYS met them there, never got picked up.
    I understand it's more make-or-break for the girls that need local regulars to make money though. That's pretty much how it is at Camelot in DC.
    As for those who say you're putting yourself in danger with a potential psycho:
    1.) Statistically, you're more likely to get assaulted/killed by an SO than a stranger.
    2.) Who's to say the guy won't go nuts from you rejecting him and stalk you anyway?
    3.) If you do choose to give out a number (or email), a little common sense goes a long way.
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