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    Hey everyone

    I just want to share a bad experience i had at the club iam currently


    working at. iam a new dancer been in the business 3 mths now and have just begun to notice the ugly side of it all. last night i had this really bad experience with a customer and one of my fellow dancers. it
    all began when this guy a regular of mine came in as i spotted him i immediately when up to him to greet him and hugged him since i hadnt seen him in a week i went and sat with him we were chatting for about

    five minutes when one of the other dancers approached us and greeted him and said hello this guy used to be her regular and i found out way after i met him and spent a few times on diff occasions time with him doing dances and vip rooms so i figured she was just trying to chat him up to get him back which i never took him away from her since i didnt even know he used to be her customer before me but i found it extremely disrespectful for her to just stand there touching his face and chatting him up knowing that i was sitting with him first and was talking to him she interrupted our conversation uninvited and then the worse thing happens she starts telling him how she thought he had been mad at her all this time and all and he said that he wasnt mad at her then all of a sudden he goes ok lets do a makeup dance so u guys must know how i felt iam a newbie so this is the first time this has happen to me but i felt so humiliated and embarrased when he just got up without saying another word to me and went with her as she grabbed his arm to the private dance area all my coworker saw what had just ocurred and about two of the other dancers came on over to


    tell me how messed up that was and how i shouldve confronted her what do u guys think pls i need some advice u guys are the experts i know this business is not as easy as it seems but i would like to know ur opinions how would one of u girls have handled that situation and am i being a wimp for feeling sad and embarrased.

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    Ooohhh I'm really sorry this happened to you Unfortunately some of the women that we work with can be really catty (and rude at that) Almost all dancers know it's an unwritten (and in some clubs written!) rule that you don't approach customers when another dancer is sitting with them. Some are just too rude or disrepectful to abide.

    Unfortunately you can't control their actions, nor the actions of the customers you can only control your own. I think you acted correctly by not saying anything to her on the floor-arguements in front of customers is something that should be avoided if at all possible. It makes both parties look bad (no matter who is in the right) and can make the customers uncomfortable.

    I may have said something to her afterwards in the dressing room-not for the sole purpose of making myself feel better, but also in hopes of avoiding a reoccurrance. If you let the girls walk all over you-they will. This is not to say that you need to "bitch" each time another dancer upsets you (it'll probably happen a lot), just definitely pick your arguements.

    Again-sorry this happened

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    if he's a good regular, I can understand why she did that. It's not cool, but girls are cut-throat over that kind of thing.

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    First off I would like to say that customers do not belong to dancers. He may have been her regular, but he is entitled to go to other dancers for entertainment as well, or find a new favorite dancer.

    It was very rude what she did to you. It is an unspoken rule not to make a sale or even talk to a customer while he is with another dancer. Small talk is fine if they know each other, but she went beyond limits. It sounds like she is taking advantage of you because you are new. I would calmly talk to her about it. Don't let her think she can walk all over you.

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    Sorry hun....


    I agree with kobi.... camly talk to her to let her know that it wasn't cool i haven't started dancing yet but i have friends who do and in this business you have to be a strong character ( or a least fake it ) so ppl know they can't walk all over you. Just let her know that you didn't apprieciate it. You don't have make to much of a deal out of it or bitch to anyone but at least she will know that you have a voice and that you can stand up for your self.

    good luck!...... oh and welcome to SW.

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    i agree with everyone else that was so uncalled for. costumers can pick whoever they want i am new to this to and there is a group of guys that come into my club really sweet but one of them is a huge spender whenever they come in it is champange for all and lots of money to all of the girls but the girls that have been there longer seem to think they can tell the new girls that they are the guys favorite. haha i just do not care they were the ones who were my anchor so to say my first day and i will sit with them whenever they come in we are all here to make money right! anyways next time he comes in make sure you see him first and after you are done then she can come have your seconds lol. but just try to be nice and say you do not apprciate when someone comes up to a costumer you are with or something to that affect be nice but firm and evintually if she keeps doing it and you do not start anything the custumer will see for himself and go with the more cival dancer.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kobi link=board=1;threadid=5190;start=msg54569#msg54569 date=1071305127
    First off I would like to say that customers do not belong to dancers. He may have been her regular, but he is entitled to go to other dancers for entertainment as well, or find a new favorite dancer.

    It was very rude what she did to you. It is an unspoken rule not to make a sale or even talk to a customer while he is with another dancer. Small talk is fine if they know each other, but she went beyond limits. It sounds like she is taking advantage of you because you are new. I would calmly talk to her about it. Don't let her think she can walk all over you.
    iITA ...let her know that she was rude and you would appreciate it if when she sees you talking to whom ever she should back off...
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    Unfortunately the customer has the right to choose who he /she wants to remain with. It makes no sense to fight over anyones affections. Chalk it up to experience then move on.

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    I agree with Dreamer. In my experience girls have a hard time accepting it when a beloved reg moves on to a new dancer. Those little "talks" in the dressing room rarely generate anything but ill-will among dancers.

    Instead, don't be afraid to plop down in his lap next time she is sitting with him! Just say "Hi" and whisper something sweet in his ear. Make him feel good. Then say " Well I'll leave you to _____" and sadly walk away.

    Or just let him find you. Guys notice this kind of crap and will go out of their way to come in when she isn't working and you are.
    You get what you put up with

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    i used to take stuff personally.just dont take it personal, oh well fuck dat bitch. u gonna get even better customer
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    Thank u all for your support i feel so much better knowing that i did the right thing by not causing a scene like the other girls told me i shoulve done after all i guess this is a lesson learned

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    Hrm.....say nothing. Hide her car keys.

    Actually, I would just wait and see, guys are usually a bit sharper then we give them credit for, if she was being bitchy/catty/rude, the regular will probably just breeze right past her on his next visit.

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    Dreamalade,
    What that dancer did to you is pretty pathetic. If it was me, I wouldn't say anything in a confrontational manner b/c that could turn into a pissing match, which isn't worth your time.
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    if I am with a dancer, she is my whole world. I have had to tell dancers that butted in that I had already promised another dancer a dance. most hare fine with that but I have had a few that will not take no for a answer. all that I can say is that this turns me off to you. I keep my promises of a vip dance.... I don't care if you are the hottest thing on the face of the earth, if I have already told another dancer I am going to get a dance from her, I mean it... respect that I have already been "taken" and I will get a dance from you another time.... don't and you are "no gratie" for me...

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    I think you did the right thing by not making a scene. Being gracious will win you brownie points with the customer and if he is a regular you can look forward to good relations in the future.

    Last time someone pulled that on me I pecked the guy on the cheek in a friendly way and told them both to "have a great time" with a big wink. He's been pretty much my steady regular ever since. Except for a few guys here and there, nice, sexy and flirty beats bitchy and jealous hands down.
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    dreamalade- did you say anything or did you let it slide? Either way, hope it doesn't happen again!


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    Hey seraya

    I finally gave that dancer a piece of my mind not in a rude way but i told her how disrespectful and rude she was to interfere and i let her know how i felt now iam plotting what one of u mentioned about getting her back next time he comes around wait till shes sitting with him then work my way over there and say hi and then plop right down on his lap and make small talk with him as i touch his body lol in hopes of making her feel the way i did and in to make sure she never crosses me again / what do u guys

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    Hiya dreamalade.....

    really you did, what did she say?...

    Now that you have had a "lil' word" with her you don't need to get her back by doing the same thing with the customer.... but i definitely agree that the next time he comes in say "hi" to him this will also make you look good on his part. Don't pay her any mind now your there to make money not friends, not enemies..... but at least she will know not to be so rude in future!

    Good one girl!

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    Damn Talk about a run-on sentence lol

    Just kidding but seriously though, I am in total agreeance of everyone else. Just talk to her calmly about the situation. Let her know that you didnt' appreciate the behavior that she had exhibited the other night. Let her know that you have nothing against her, that you are aware that you are all there for one reason: to make money. But also make sure that she remembers that people are not property, and she has no ownership on that man. I'm pretty sure that she did only disrespect you like that because you are a newbie. Hopefully that will smooth everything over. Be sweet love..







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