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    Hi,
    I am new member (were reading posts for 2 or 3 weeks and learned a lot)!
    I saw some Posts asking if a guy marries a stripper. I know its a strippersite but ,
    Would ya guys marry a woman that works (had worked) in a legal brothel?
    (i was bankrupt seriously)
    do ya dancers look at me lika slutty damn ... woman?

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    > Would ya guys marry a woman that works (had worked) in a legal brothel?
    If I loved her, sure, why not?

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    No i don't think of you as slutty...... who am i to judge?

    Personally i wouldn't do it but then i supposse you could say i have never been a situation where i would have to.

    I can't answer for the guys here but I don't have a problem with what some one else does as long as it isn't hurting anybody or affecting me.



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    I can't make a moral judgment of somebody based on what they do for a living, and as long as she's an honest practitioner, I have absolutely no problem with a woman whose worked in some sex related industry. Some people might see it as sleazy, but I tend to think that its healthy to have outlets for people to engage in fantasy provided that they don't overdo it.

    Certainly with an ex-prostitute, the issue of venereal disease would be a valid concern, but in a legalized brothel that's not all that likely.

    If I truly loved a gal and felt a special bond with her, that would be all that ultimately matters.
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    Hon, you're telling us you worked in a brothel, correct? Slutty? No way. But do you regret what you did? If you do, you're putting too much stress upon yourself. Are you worried that no one will love you the same, and may never find a husband because of it? Be strong! I give you good karma because of who you are!
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    Her having been a brothel worker wouldn't concern me if I was in love with her. But, If we were married, I wouldn't want her working at a brothel any longer. I'm old-school in that sense, and believe that marriage means a bond between two people and two people only. Open marriages, swinging or anything that involves sex with an outside person isn’t something I’m comfortable with. I know there is a segment of the population that doesn’t feel that way, and I have no problem with anyone’s lifestyle choice—but it’s just not for me.

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    If I wasn't interested into going into government work later on in life this is something that I would consider. I see nothing wrong with it at all and don't think that anyone that you could be seriously interested in, if you were honest about your past, would have a problem with it either if they were a mature person who was seriously interested in having something with you as well.

    Its a job that many women in this country have whatever they choose to label it as, at least you chose to do it the safe and legal way. By working at a brothel, you made sure of the safety of yourself and your clients. If someone you care for cannot handle what you once did then you don't need them. Plenty of people participate in this type of exchange every day in probably every country in the world. The supply will never be able to match the demand and it will always be a viable job.

    You did what you did and you can't undo it. If people in your life can not handle it then that is their problem. You were a service provider in an adult industry that is perfectly legal. Don't let it get you down. What you did was NOT wrong at all. And as for the slut thing, hon you are not a slut. Freaks do it because its all the think about. Sluts do it for the love of the sex, and whores do it for the money. You were not and are not a slut. You may need to come to terms with your past yourself before you can ask someone else to. I don't see why it bothers you so much, maybe because it is different from how you were raised or your former lifestyle before bankruptcy? In times of need, people make changes contrary to what they are used to. You did not do anything wrong so you need to keep that in mind.
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    If I loved her and she was clean I don’t see why it would matter.

    The past does not equal the future.

    Sure it’s not something to talk about at the family gatherings around the holidays but what a person has had to do to survive in the past shouldn’t be held against them.

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    You shouldn't worry about what it is we think, I know that it is harder than it sounds but the truth is, is that the only opinion of yourself that matters is yours and yours alone. If you are not happy with yourself then no one can see who you really are. If you regret it then think of it as something you had to do, but it is not you and go on. As is said, you have to walk in someone else's shoes to know where they are really at in life. Some people need to do things that other people don't in order to get by. That's just how it is. Don't get down you are still a good person and I am sure that the man who loves you will overlook the past for a bright future. Smile for the world and yourself
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    Oh i agree with the rest here. Your job should not be your life. (does that make sense ?) I work to live, not live to work, and if the right guy comes along to accept us for who we are and the jobs we chose, more love to him.

    I speak of legal jobs, i don't care much for illegal activites, and working in a brothel is legal. It's a job, and you are worthy of love.

    You are a unique person! And a good man will accept you for you, not the job/s you work.

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    you know what sh....stuff happens so i guess it should'nt be a problem if the guy loves you
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    I am torn in half on this topic.

    My belief system and philosophy are that it doesn't matter what she does. I will love her no matter what.

    Having said that, I can see how that nasty beast called jealousy could sneak in.

    I am overly protective and incredibly loyal (probally to a fault) to all those that I love. I would like to think that I would not get jealous, but I can see how it could happen.

    There would have to be an incredible amount of trust.

    I believe that I would say that it wouldn't matter what she did for a living, but I guess its one of those things you really never know what you would do until your put in that situation.

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    thnx every1, thats very sweet of ya all

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    dyvast dyvine:
    I don't see why it bothers you so much, maybe because it is different from how you were raised or your former lifestyle before bankruptcy? In times of need, people make changes contrary to what they are used to. You did not do anything wrong so you need to keep that in mind.

    its true and its a job really difficult to handle (ya know lettin someone ...) and its own very difficult issues

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    I don't think that any decent person with good morals would look down on someone for working as a prostitute. There is nothing wrong with doing what you need to do and what you are strong enough to do in order to survive. I personally don't think that I would be strong enough to do that. I admire your strength.
    PS --I think that most strippers only have a problem with prostitutes when they come into the strip clubs and steal our business; because that is obviously not something that we can compete with.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tiffanycrodo link=board=1;threadid=5194;start=msg55028#msg55028 date=1071382680
    dyvast dyvine:
    I don't see why it bothers you so much, maybe because it is different from how you were raised or your former lifestyle before bankruptcy? In times of need, people make changes contrary to what they are used to. You did not do anything wrong so you need to keep that in mind.

    its true and its a job really difficult to handle (ya know lettin someone ...) and its own very difficult issues
    Honey Divyne wasn't putting you down in fact quite the opposite she said that she would even do it in different circumstances.

    Pls don't feel too bad about what you did hun i agree with every body else... if you have it in your mind that you are dirty and that you did something wrong YOU are going to make it difficult for yourself to find some one else to love you.

    Trust me girl you have to love yourself first!

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    I would not simply because I would not want my children to bear the burden of the stigma that would be placed upon them.
    If you don't intend on having children then that's entirely up to the two of you.

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    If its love it doesn't matter what you do , or have done.
    To each their own.
    Just because I don't do it doesn't make me one to judge.
    I know a couple of girls who are escorts and I treat them and think of them no differently than anyone else.
    They are just normal people like you and I.
    Your are not a slut Tiffany!! XOXO
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    Why would you tell him?? Keep it to yourself and you wont have to worry about it.

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    I guess it depends on the woman in question. To be honest with you, most men don't go to the club for stimulating conversation. I am not saying it doesn't happen, but it is rare. I think the men (generally and certainly not all) feel that the women in the club are eye-candy and not to be trusted (if they dance for me, then they'll dance for anyone). But, as was said earlier by the lady from London, I too have never been in that situation (in love with a dancer) so I can't truly say either way.

    You women that dance and are good at it are very special breed, that is there aren't many of you out there. I have been to a few clubs here in Boise and it is a sad thing to see. There is only one that I know of that is good, but the drug trafficking that goes on there is rediculous.

    I suppose that if I ever got into an actual conversation, liked her a lot (and vice versa), and got the balls up to ask her out, then I would have no probelms with it. I think the marrying part and that she keeps on dancing is where most of the issues come from.

    Anyway, those are my two cents worth and I am sure they aren't even worth the two cents, but there you have it.

    Good evening.

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    I can comment on this from experience. My ex-wife was into prostitution. Unfortunately, I found out accidentally. When we were packing to move into a new house I found the charge sheet. Now granted, this happened about 5 years before I met her BUT it put the doubts in my mind. Well, to make a long story short...she never did quit the profession. Found out all her male friends were actually customers. We dated for 6 months before moving in together, lived together for 6 months before marriage and 6 months later it was ended. Some story, huh?

    So, my moral to this story is that I may not have had a problem with it because the past is after all the past, but if the past continues into the future my answer has to be a firm no.

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    In comparison to everyone on this board, tiffany, I am a lot less tolerant. I definitely draw the line at stripping. I don't like prostitution and could never envisage myself in that situation no matter how poor I get. For me, sex reveals my vulnerability, I just can't do it as 'work'.

    I understand in a later post that you say that circumstances force you to make tough decisions sometimes. I hear you and can see where you are coming from. Just that in my honest opinion, I believe that through some tough times, bearing with the pain and frustration or even thinking of different options helps strengthen the character more than always looking for an easier route. I just have a yardstick and try to keep to that.

    I am not writing this to criticise you are judge anyone working as a prostitute, that is not my place and I do not discriminate against people nor call them sluts (I've been called names like that before, and it is not nice!). But this topic asks for my opinion and I'm just giving it.
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    I know sereya, its just a fact that the way yu raised affects yur life when u r adult and makes yur feelings toward everything that happens in adulthood. it didnt bother me it was real good point mentioned by dyvast dyvine.
    posts here r really enlightening thank ya every1
    Malibu(and others that in some way would say no to prostitution) this is exacty wut i wanned to hear! i asked 4 opinions to get feed back, in ma language there is sayin (tryin 2 translate) : "the good friend is not the 1 that hides things from ya but the 1 that says wut he/she sees about ya" something like that if ya get wut i mean
    so i am feelin better with frank opinions rather than ...

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    If I were a man I would not hesitate to marry ANY woman who I loved. If she works in a brothel, oh well! Perhaps once married I wouldn't want her to engage in a profession quite so intimate but there is nothing wrong with sex work.

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