When you have regulars, dont you run out of things to talk about? What do you like to talk about with the girls? How personal do you get with them?





When you have regulars, dont you run out of things to talk about? What do you like to talk about with the girls? How personal do you get with them?
Some of my customers have become friends over the years, and we can and do talk about everything. They joke about how the illusion has been killed. They say they don't mind, and I do like it.
'I wore my heart like a wet, red stain on the breast of a velvet gown'
-Dorothy Parker




I try to stay away from personal questions..... but then again I hate answering personal questions about myself. Would really love to know how others avoid this. Is it even possible?





It all depend on who's dancing for me. I mostly don't do much conversation when having lap dances. In VIP I've been able to chat up a storm not because of me but rather because the dancers have been very articulate and smart.



Never seemed to run out of things with either the ATF or the local favorite dancer. Of course she was good at talking, but we talked about her growing up, and alot about her real job and all the corporate changes.
Alot of worry about job outsoucing to China. Alot of worry about her family debt which is alledgedly why she was dancing. (80% veracity.)
Alot of talk about her being verbally abused by her
boyfriend. After awhile alot of talk about other dancers not liking her and one of the owners getting arrested.
There's always stuff happening at a big club, and after awhile I knew a great deal more than a customer should know. She said I was the only customer to
know her in both of her worlds, which meant after awhile she could let her guard down with me a bit.
Sometimes the discussion really drags with a dancer.
She feels I'm from a different planet and I'm not to sure about her either. It was profitable for ATF to get to know me and then after awhile we knew each other.
The time went all to fast, four hours would seem like
fifteen minutes. Most often these days, people don't have the inclination or time to get to know each other.
We talked about her and about me and the events and people in the club affecting both of us. Also there was alot of war news effecting travel and both she and I were traveling on airplanes and at times it was difficult and at times not so difficult if you recall the last year and a half. I only get personal if there is a reason to get personal. With most dancers I would not talk about personal issues.





I never end up having a conversation, except for one time a dancer kept asking me questions like "do you have a girlfriend?" and "would you ever date a stripper?" but I assume that was just to plant the seed of me growing into a regular. Ideally I'd like to hear about club drama (as long as it's not about her) or strange/funny customer stories. Realistically anything beyond "Hi, what brings you out here? ... So you like that there coke you're drinking?" would be nice.
-lestat1
The most enjoyable conversation I've had lately was a woman telling me about the pet goat she had as a child in New Zealand. Sounds stupid in this context but it brought back a flood of memories for her and triggered lots of questions. The mundane is always real!
Correction it was a sheep not a goat.
I enjoy hearing about the club—who owns it, what he/she is like, which bartenders and CW’s are good/nice etc. I also like to hear about the dancer’s interests, what she does during the day, etc. Or a discussion of a recent film is something that interests me (I’m something of a movie buff).
However, I hate when dancers start telling me about the negatives in their life. And for some reasons, I seem to get this a lot from dancers.
For example: one dancer told me a long story about how her best friend was murdered. She then told me about another friend who was married, but didn’t pay attention to her children. Ugh, I’m out to have a good time, what a buzz kill. Other dancers have told me about their abusive boyfriends, their fucked-up childhoods and their deadbeat ex who won’t help with the children. I could go on and on.
It’s possible that some of them were trying to make me feel sorry for them so I would spend more money. If so, it doesn’t work. When the conversation takes that kind of turn, I quickly find a reason to get away from her. But I don’t think that was the case with all of them. Some people simply dwell on the negative, but the club isn’t the place to do it.



There's another club in Southtown that I've gone to since about 1996 about once or twice a year. Discovered it cause it was near the meeting areas and a way to get out of the horrible rush hour traffic. For some reason almost every dancer in that club approaches me with a sob story. Meanwhile at my favorite club or even my small scale local club, nobody approaches me with a sob story. The dancers may have more problems than me, but what are the chances that every dancer in one club after awhile has a sob story all of them centering around car payments and rent. (Or mortgage payments.) The chances are low
I think. At least peoples problems should be different. There are basically two dancers who have "got" me. Each of them have problems but they aren't sob stories. Each of them is dancing for some goal. The ATF has reached the goal and stopped dancing. The Russian/Ukranian friend has cut her hours because she got some type of official status
in this country and now has a work study job at the University of Chicago. (Verification =65%) Both shared their problems with me... but not their sob stories. What impresses me about each as they each have a plan on what to do to get out of trouble and are executing on the plan. Maybe thats the diffrenece. They'll both on occasion complain about
making tip out... more so Russian friend because the club is only medium size. Sometimes at Southtown, the dancers would hint about going out. I viewed that as a scam because I wasn't the one doing the asking. I guess when I'm talking to a dancer I don't know
"defensive shiields are up." A trash talking dancer (no matter how beautiful) talking about bumps, profanity, and drinking lots of shots also turns me off. Has to do overall with peoples
common interests, and does the dancer view that the customer is "worth" her time to get to know. Also cuts the other way. Is the dancer "worth" my time to put the effort out
to get to know? While you the dancers are sizing us up, some of us guys are also sizing you up, and for attributes not always physical. For the wrong lady, talking is a true effort and each minute seems like an hour. Conversely for ATF each hour seems like 5 minutes.
I like to have normal conversations about everyday stuff the same as you would with anyone else. The more a dancer acts normal around me and treats me like her friend, the more often I will come see her and spend lots of $$$. My ATF used to call me her psychiatrist because I enjoyed hearing her bitch about all her personal issues. She told me the good stuff too. In fact we both eventually talked about very personal things. We got to know each other really well. That was 7 years ago and we're still very close.
Friends Of Naked Dancing Ladies (FONDL)
when I first met the girl that only dances for me, she was comfortable and told me things about herself along with her first name. everytime I go back and see her, we talk more and more about our pasts and what we both have been up to since we last saw each other. now its like a friendship.
I'm a Idiot in real life so i try not to say too much.This can be a problem with some girls."Why dont you talk","Are you shy?",blehh,go away please...

People watching at a SC always gives my ATF and I plenty to talk about. There are goofy customers/dancers and managers that are fun to discuss. She is well read so we talk about books and to some extent her education. She is a "some time student" with problems of figuring out how to finish a course of study so I try to help her make education decisions. I teach part time so we talk about my students and the school admin. There seems to be plenty to talk about in the SC environment when you click with a dancer. We even talk about sex sometimes.![]()
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