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    Default Is there a "stripper psychology"?

    I am not one to stereo type but I am interested in understanding more.

    I went to a club a few days back and met a dancer that was unlike any I had ever met. She was gracious and had a wonderful ability to talk "with" you. She was charming in every way and a classic beauty at 21. She was intoxicating to me, unlike any other. Quite honestly it was a wonderful experience before the dance. She did perform a few VIP dances (here there is full body touching except genitals). I returned a couple days later and we spent more time together talking and a couple dances. During all these dances we kissed passionately and embraced as two partners would in the classic sense of the word. When I did kiss her neck and massage the nape of her neck, she uttered things like I could get used to this...etc. But then at other times she seemed like this was just a temporary thing...like when I left the club she said goodbye and "Gone with the Wind"

    I am not naive and understand fully that this is a job for her but I am confused just the same. I understand that people can compartmentalize things they do and effectively not relate one to another, I do this in my career/family life with strict regularity. However, I have never met a person who can do this in their sexual/emotional life. I suppose my question is...do strippers utilize a compartmentalization of actions and thoughts that can allow them to dissassociate a passionate embrace like this from their "real life"?

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    A dancer and a customer CAN have great chemistry. I am thrilled to see certain customers come in. Something about our conversations seem so natural and fluid. I feed off this energy and enjoy talking and doing dances for these guys...and undoubtedly they know that I think they are special.

    It sounds like that's what you two have.

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    Default Re:Is there a "stripper psychology"?

    Quote Originally Posted by Emily link=board=8;threadid=5382;start=msg57809#msg57809 date=1072052234
    A dancer and a customer CAN have great chemistry.
    It sounds like that's what you two have.
    So true. Not often enough, I come across a dancer whose personality is phenominal and customers are drawn to her for that reason. Another possibility is that a dancer is a really good actress, knowing what to say and when to provide the mental fantasy.
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    I so agree! She sounds like a good dancer. She was very nice to you, did her job and the two of you had communication. It's easy to think maybe she wanted more. Hell i feel that way at times when i meet people, mainly clubs, i think oh no here i go, he's going to ask me out...

    But enjoy the club, her dancing and she sounds like she likes your tenderness towards her, we go through alot of "tards" to get cutomers like you.

    And always ask her how she feels. We only see what is typed, and can only give our opinions based on what you write.

    You seem unsure, ask her. But keep her as a dancer, this can be good. I don't think you want to ruin a good "club relationship."

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    It sounds like she did an awesome job...She kept you wanting more, and she was kind. I think it's great to have a 'connection' with a customer...It keeps it interesting, and also fun.


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    Default Re:Is there a "stripper psychology"?

    Yes dancers and customers can have great chemistry and we do truly enjoy spending time with certain customers, BUT, it is still a job and yes we can compartmentalize it quite well. If one of the customers I really enjoy tried to move things outside the club, or to 'another level', I'd find it dfficult to enjoy him as much. Part of the enjoyment comes from the comfort of knowing I don't have to fight him off or bounce 'wannadate' every time I see him.

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    Thank you all for your input on this I greatly appreciate it. I am still a bit confused because it seemed so real but since I visit clubs only periodically I will keep an open mind.

    It was awesome though. I am still amazed two weeks later and think about her daily. I will say it seems a bit bizzare that a guy my age with the responsibilities I have would be so enthralled with someone. I am spellbound...... Thanks

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    I had the same experience recently. The club I go to I can be considered a regular. All the girls enjoy seeing me at the club as I get loud and cheer for them instead of drinking my beer as fast as I can. I drink water. Recently one of the girls I had a private dance with gave me a wonderful dance with some extra's that I didn't know what to do with.

    First the boob touching thing. I read on your forums that you shouldn't do that. I didn't. *see I read* But then she grabbed the back of my head *wrong thing to do to guys...that is a brain shut off valve* and said "No it's ok I want you to". So like the goob I am I did. And did many times afterwards.

    Then came the "I am only doing this because you are my favorite". I am sure she has said that before but for a guy like me...hey you think you are golden. Then had to rationalize the situation. Probably has said that before but for the moment I am the king of the world.

    Then came some things that is now making my brain hurt. Yesterday went in and got a dance with her after I did some talking with her before hand. I usually do that with the girls. "How was your day. Anything wrong. Nice pole spin flip thingy." Things like that. Once we got back there more boob in the face bit. Then a bit of the cookie flash. Followed by the "is she looking" routine followed by some gentle touching at her discretion of course. Then some more touching followed by her direction to let "my fingers do the walking".

    Now how am I supposed to take that? Was she doing her job? Is there something there? Or am I just another goob in the long line of goobs been suckered and bamboozled?

    My head still hurts thinking about this. So in essence she did her job really well.

    Thank you in advance for any advice.

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    My advice is this. Unless/until she gives you a number and says lets meet outside of here, assume it is the game she plays.
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    Remember HC, "NO" only means "NO" when she says it..... LMAO

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    Making the customers feel comfortable and happy is what we are supposed to do. It makes it easy for us to do if we have a customer who lets us do our job instead of the stupid guys who expect extras or a date outside the club. That is just plain disrepectful. If you treat us with respect and let us do our job you will be much more pleased. It sounds like the guys on this post know how important it is to just kick back let us do our job. I have met customers that I really like as well. They are not always super good looking but they have always treated me with respect. Those are the guys who get the most satisfaction by far.
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    Default Re:Is there a "stripper psychology"?

    Yes, dancers do compartmentalize feelings like an actor would. But, perhaps in your case her feelings are more than a good show. If she's kissing you passionately...well, that's not something I could fake. I have never kissed a customer. But, if I did I think it would be because I want more than his money.
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