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    Ladies i feel i am changing. maybe due to the fact that i do not do club dancing anymore. I hated lap dances. Now i am doing private parties, and they are getting wild to say the least!

    I do lap dances, and get all nude roll around in food stuff liquids, and let the guys participate strongly. I did a private (divorce party) a few nights ago, and got wild. I do not drink or do drugs, but find a new freedom i never had (or wanted) inside the clubs. I allow touching and also did a dildo show for $100 extra.

    I am going to be honest, i never behaved like this in the clubs, other people work there i respect them, and i hated "extras."

    I am just getting more wild as the private shows go on. I like them, alot.

    I have no desire to have sex, but was asked to grind a guy to orgasm, he said he had a condom he would put on.

    Safety is not an issue, always have these bases covered.
    It's my behaviour. Private parties pay very well, if you get crazy!!

    Guess, i just want thoughts on this and such.

    Pamela ???

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    Well considering that I have never experienced this, a friend of mine has. At first she only did private parties, as those continued and more money rolled in so did the offers. At first she didn't do extras, but now she does. I dont really agree with it, but u do what you do! It's her life you know.

    Anyway I asked her why she feels she is getting faster and she said it's just for more money, in an even more faster way. I guess what I'm saying is that sometimes you try to look for the biggest and brightest deal, asap! So if that means grinding on some guy, for even more extra $$, then so be it. I'd do it! But I strongly doubt that i'll ever get into giving sexual extras.







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    Pamela, my guess is that you feel safer at the private parties because you know some of the people and trust them, so you are more relaxed and willing to get into the spirit of the party. You probably also have a higher class of customer at the parties than you often encounter at clubs and so you don't have to be on guard as much. You probably also feel more freedom because you are the one setting the rules. Whatever the reason I wish I lived close enough to hire you (lol).
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    I guess it's a liberating feeling to be able to do anything that comes into your mind while entertaining. You can't do those things in a club (well at least not in most cities). I've been to private parties here in Vegas where girls were paid to do everything and they seemed perfectly pleased because they were getting paid a lot of money and it was all on the up and up because it was a totally secure environment.

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    Thanks guys/ladies.

    I was SO NOT the kind of club performer who would dream of doing what i do in private shows. I am not having sex, and wont, that i know. But coming from a woman who "hated" ld's, i now find more money is to be made in my private shows, and the kinkier i get, the better $$ i make.

    Maybe this is a passing phase, like my end to the stripping job. Dunno. Confusion, yes...I am very into what i do at this point. I feel i am not hurting other dancers business, because it's out of the clubs.

    But i have a show coming up (maybe) where i may actually perform on myself while they are asked to throw money on me.
    I like this, and want to please, along with thinking about making the money.
    I wonder if that real rich guy will come walking in, ya know?
    And i truly enjoy what i do.

    Thanks so far,
    Pamela

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    Don't worry Pamela...it's just an act. If your enjoying it even better. If you know how to play the part well keep at it. Have lots of fun!

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    P,
    You addressed my first concern about safety physical/health wise.
    Second, you are asking questions about yourself/feelings so you are being reasonably careful about self control.
    What about the potential of an over eager law enfordement person charging you with something? It does not have to be true for someone to overreact.
    Then there is the other job? Have you considered how they may react? Even generally good people react badly to an potential "bad" publicity with their name mentioned.
    If you are ready to deal with the last two you are in control of everything I can think of.

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    I think its cool...everybody goes home a winner Dont fret over it.

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    Umm.. safety, safety, safety, safety, safety. And if you're having a good time, great. And, oh yeah, safety.

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    Change can be good. As long as your happy. You know whats best for your self we don't have to tell you do we. Because I will! J/K.

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    I have a friend who does private parties and dances and she makes 3 times doing privates than at a club.

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    Pamela,

    It is obvious from your posts that you are thinking your moves through. That is important as you are staying in control of the situation. And you are enjoying what you are doing. Good for you.

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    Pam, everyone else has already said it. It doesn't mean you're changing, but the environment you're working in has changed, which would definitely affect your 'work mood'. As long as you're remaining in control, it's all good.

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    Pamela,

    I have a friend whose done private parties. He gotten really crazy and has done extras for his customers free. Because, he just loved the High of doing it and the boost to his ego. I used to provide security for him at some of these parties. So it's kind of normal...


    Just be aware that you might also be experianceing a high if you suffer from depression. Unfortunentely, it's pretty common if you suffer from it to seek new highs(stimulation). So you may want to see your M.D. if you start to notice your suffering from the lows(severe bouts of depression) when your not dancing, and need to do private parties to feel all right, that's a good indicator to seek medical advice.

    My friend was later diagnosed with Manic Depression(type #1) and is currently on meds. He suffered those exact symptoms before getting help.

    I hope this helps.


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    Pamela, I think you are in the correct venue for your activities and I say more power to you. You have the safety issues and, it seems, the mental aspects under control. Enjoy yourself and make your money.

    Private shows are very different from the club experience and that can allow a certain healthy liberation for the right person. Keep your eyes and heart open and go with it.

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    THanks again all, Madgrad, i think i am doing what i always wanted to do, but would not inside a club. I am motivated to make money. And know this is goimng to end soon, due to my choice. I don&#039;t have the urge to do a party, but i do have a desire to dance in a different form now. No depression hun, i feel fine.

    But any changes i will ask for advice. I am keeping it pretty raunchy with myself, but no SEX of any kind with any guys.

    NOt sure if the outside stimulation during a LD is actually sex. So i am exploring. I was great as a club dancer, but don&#039;t want to deal with smoke, and "extras" around now. So i think it&#039;s a step up for me as well.

    Pamela

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    Pamela, you&#039;re a health care professional who will always play safe. You don&#039;t drink or do drugs. Private parties are easier to compartmentalize than public clubs, so any potential social stigma is easier to manage.... You want to please and find that rewarding. You have a creative erotic mind that does not depend on sex acts.... I think you have a very healthy personality and should go with it. The more creative you let yourself be, the more creative your mind will become.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pamela link=board=1;threadid=5476;start=msg59041#msg59041 date=1072476307
    Thanks guys/ladies.

    I was SO NOT the kind of club performer who would dream of doing what i do in private shows. I am not having sex, and wont, that i know. But coming from a woman who "hated" ld&#039;s, i now find more money is to be made in my private shows, and the kinkier i get, the better $$ i make.

    Maybe this is a passing phase, like my end to the stripping job. Dunno. Confusion, yes...I am very into what i do at this point. I feel i am not hurting other dancers business, because it&#039;s out of the clubs.

    But i have a show coming up (maybe) where i may actually perform on myself while they are asked to throw money on me.
    I like this, and want to please, along with thinking about making the money.
    I wonder if that real rich guy will come walking in, ya know?
    And i truly enjoy what i do.

    Thanks so far,
    Pamela

    You are great caue you are so honest, but there is nothing wrong with what your doing hun! Thats how the girls I know make money as well on the side. They dont sleep with the customers but they do all the kinky stuff for great money! good luck!

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    as long as you are not hurting anyone while doing what you do ...you are safe and you enjoy it then thats all that should matters
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    I have found that I have changed so much while I&#039;ve been dancing and I think that this evolution is natural. Five years ago, about a year after I started I went to my first all nude club out of state and I was completely disgusted with what I saw, girls naked and letting guys touch all over them. I saw one girl giving a guy a dance and told my husband that we had to leave immediatley, it turned my stomach. VA is t-bar and pasties and at that time we had no contact with the customers at all. Over the years I started doiing private parties nude and all but one of the clubs in my city have gone to contact dances. When my current club opened our VIP room I told the owner that I would NEVER do those kind of dances and that he would loose all of his good girls. God how I love that room and I give one hell of a dance if I do say so myself! And that same bar I went to out of state I&#039;m dying to travel and work at now!

    I have to say that money was the motivating factor in going further. I don&#039;t do any extras but I do grind a bit on my LD&#039;s. While I personally don&#039;t agree with girls doing extras they are the one&#039;s that have to live with the choice that they make. I can wake up in the mornig and feel good about myself, maybe they can too, who knows. If you feel comfortable with what you are doing keep doing it. As soon as you become uncomforable, stop.

    Quote Originally Posted by Pamela link=board=1;threadid=5476;start=msg59174#msg59174 date=1072542816
    NOt sure if the outside stimulation during a LD is actually sex. So i am exploring.

    Pamela
    I have often wondered about that myself.

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    Pamela, a dildo show is considered an extra? I didn&#039;t think simulated sex acts counted as extras.
    Anyway this guy you were to grind into orgasm ,he was wearing pants in addition to a condom wasn&#039;t he? Well anyway , you are not responsible for how people react to your performance. If you are grinding someone and they happen to climax intentionally or not, all that means is he is more sensative than anticipated.
    Finding your wild side? Some people find it early on, others later. There are only two things you can do with it, either you go with it or you can play it out. Enjoy it while it lasts.
    Are you changing? We&#039;re all changing, hopefully for the better. Discovery is good sometimes. If you are not comfortable with something then just stop performing it. If someone requests it just tell them "I don&#039;t do ....."
    Don&#039;t sweat it wild woman!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pamela link=board=1;threadid=5476;start=msg58999#msg58999 date=1072466370
    Ladies i feel i am changing. maybe due to the fact that i do not do club dancing anymore. I hated lap dances. Now i am doing private parties, and they are getting wild to say the least!

    I do lap dances, and get all nude roll around in food stuff liquids, and let the guys participate strongly. I did a private (divorce party) a few nights ago, and got wild. I do not drink or do drugs, but find a new freedom i never had (or wanted) inside the clubs. I allow touching and also did a dildo show for $100 extra.

    I am going to be honest, i never behaved like this in the clubs, other people work there i respect them, and i hated "extras."

    I am just getting more wild as the private shows go on. I like them, alot.

    I have no desire to have sex, but was asked to grind a guy to orgasm, he said he had a condom he would put on.

    Safety is not an issue, always have these bases covered.
    It&#039;s my behaviour. Private parties pay very well, if you get crazy!!

    Guess, i just want thoughts on this and such.

    Pamela ???
    Well well well.. Our Little Girl Pamela is all grown up now, isnt she?

    It seems like only yesterday she was scampering off to her first day of school with her Holly Hobby lunchbox and multi-colored bows in her hair, and now she is doing dildo acts in Private Shows <sigh>

    Gosh.. they grow up SO fast <sniff>, don&#039;t they?


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    See thats the confusing part about private parties for me. If i don&#039;t touch a guy or he me, and i do a naughty show, is that an extra? Inside the clubs i knew all to well what an "extra" was. Now i am not sure if they still just watch you perform in a private. PLus some clubs alllow you to touch your breasts and grinding dances. High mileage.

    I don&#039;t want to break any laws.

    Thanks all,

    Pamela

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    Well Pamela, if you do not know a decent entertainment lawyer or anyone on the force, you can always block your phone number to caller ID and call the local cops with the old "my friend wants to know" trick. Heck they don&#039;t want you to get in trouble either. The other game is "my boyfriend was a a party where... is that legal?"

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    I would guess that a &#039;dildo show&#039; in exchange for payment might constitute prostitution in some jurisdictions you&#039;d have to check Florida&#039;s state law to see how they define sexual conduct/contact.

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