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Last edited by Lexi; 10-06-2008 at 07:37 PM.
i dunno what to tell you at this point i think you are doing good telling her that all the club managers say this ...help her out by showing her some moves thats a good idea ....go with her to the audition .....maybe you could workout togather so she wont feel that bnad .. good luck
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Some managers can be total dicks about it. I think it would have been better for her to go in on a slower night - sometimes managers who may not otherwise be such dicks can lose their patience on a packed Friday night. Also some managers may always have something to say about a new girl's body - most girls who don't dance aren't all that tight or toned. We all know that will change as soon as she starts dancing! Just tell her she has nothing to worry about and get her back in there on Sunday. She will most likely have a much better reception on the slower night.
First off i would tell her this is typical of managers to say this. It is nothing personal, they say this to many.
Also if they want her to come back, is she willing? Clubs today have lots of competetion, and they seem to look for that "something" in a dancer now. Have her do up herself (makeup, hair, clothing much different.) different next time. Also a few toning exercises will help her quickly it sounds like, she is only 125. Thats what i weighed when i started, or close.
Give support, and if need be, take her to another club if she is willing. This could really shoot self esteem down. But managers will call it as they see it. And that SUX.
Kinder words would have made her feel better.
Good luck,
Pamela




First of all Lexi, you are not obligated to help your friend out at all. She voluntarily went there. She voluntarily took her clothe off. It would not have made any difference whether or not you were there with her. Auditions are harsh. Look at all the perspective actors trying out. How many times have they heard ,"Thank you, next!"? The movie industry does not have time to teach you or offer courtesies. All they can do is offer their blunt opinion.
You are being a friend whatever you offer to help her out. If you want to help her more refer her to this website.
Why not practice dancing together? That way she'll get used to it and tone up at the same time.
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It's always tough when you are witness to someone else being demeaned about their appearance or other facets of themselves. Unfortunately, we don't live in a CareBear world and rude/insensitive people commonly make tactless and inappropriate comments to people's faces and there's little we can do to stop it.
The important thing to do with friends is to encourage them and make sure such events don't get to them. A true friend is one that pulls one off the ground when they are being kicked down there by others.
Moreover, the negative can always be used to spur a positive result. Your friend doesn't sound at all out of shape (125lbs is obviously NOT a fatso by any stretch of the imagination), and if she is strong willed and has any experience, she'll know there are massive quantities of men that find her sexy, attractive and irresistable in her current form. But as you mentioned, there is always room for improvement! Encouragement from both angles (i.e. her current desireability as well as how much healthier and sexier she could be) could be a catalyst towards a more healthful life for your friend.
I've seen absolutely gorgeous women take harsh comments to heart and actually derive strength and motivation from them. A sudden change to daily intake of multivitamins, dietary supplements, a keen eye on diet and strong emphasis on lean protein, iron and calcium... as well as adding 2-3 times a week of yoga, gym or other rigorous exercise. The end result is a stronger woman, one that is less susceptible to disease and an incredible boost to confidence. Those of us that live healthy lives know the benefits... for some, the only motivating factor that gets them into this groove is harsh outside influences. Plus, nothing is more satisfying than seeing the cold and flu season pass right over you and your friend from your rock solid metabolism, as well as the extra strength and happiness such a life change provides.
So my advice is to be a huge bucket-o-support for your friend. Keep her attuned to her needs and desireability.. as well as plant the seeds that may grow into a more healthy lifestyle for her. Don't suggest- instead lead by example. Maybe exotic dancing isn't for her, but in this case, her trials with dancing might still be a great thing for her life.
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Dude, that's like my worst fear, to be critisized under harsh light by some fat-ass loser manager. BUT, BUT, BUT, I agree with what has been said above. Management has the power to hire her and they know what the club demands (or they think they do).
Sometimes, girls that are not in the best shape get hired and do well because they have charisma, something special. I bet if your friend showed a vivacious personality with lots of flirting, it would benefit her. If not, trust me, some place will DEFINATELY hire her....
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