i desperately need to learn how to give a lapdance. i dont even really know what one is let alone how to perform one. i would love a step by step guide to giving a great lapdance. please email me at [email protected] with any advice. thanks!
i desperately need to learn how to give a lapdance. i dont even really know what one is let alone how to perform one. i would love a step by step guide to giving a great lapdance. please email me at [email protected] with any advice. thanks!
Which club?



A newbie member..and Looks like shes a new dancer too. No offense Jason..but we wouldn't want to give the poor girl the wrong impression of what this site is about..I mean come on the first reply was from a guy asking..Which Club?..To me reading that..is like hey baby tell me what club and i'll come teach ya..lol Who care's which club..the girl needs lapdance info.
Just didn't think that was very appropriate..my 2 cents here.
Holiday
"Some of the most wonderful people are the ones who don't fit into boxes."....Tori Amos
My apologies, and I mean that sincerely. Not the way I meant.
What I meant is that there's numerous ways to give lap dances, depending on the club that you're in and the rules and expectations to be found within that club. A lap dance at the Deja Vu in Seattle will be quite different than a lap dance at the Olympic Gardens in Las Vegas.
Thanks for the heads-up, Holliday. I didn't realize it would sound that way, and that's not the way I meant it.
Better questions: What are the club rules? What do you see as the customers' expectations?




holliday, believe it or not, im sure this girl is going to be dancing to make money. so for a guy to ask her what club, doesn't seem that out of line.
could you imagine the audacity of a guy to actualy want to get a lap dance from a dancer????
rather than attack jason for no reason, maybe you couldve provided some info for her, or asked questions to figure out what info to give such as what jason and Bridgette did.
i'm just gonna assume its contact, since you're reffering to it as "lap dances" instead of air or table dances.
i can't tell you how exactly to give one....nobody can, because every customer is going to like a different style. so just pick one thats your own. personally i dont like ultra heavy grinding where i feel like my balls are gonna pop.
starting of doing a little seductive strip infront of him can also be good rather than just grinding your ass on his crotch off the bat. but im sure the girls can tell you more indepth as to how to dance. i wouldnt' really know how to explain it, since i generally dont give LDs.



sander8son..believe it or not..i know that this girl will be making money dancing. And she's NEW at it....And for a guy to come here and ask a dancer what club she works at .....to me is out of line. This is supposed to be a safe board for us to post. I think UNLESS a girl is advertising where she is working and want's people to know it then it's ok....but otherwise it's not appropriate.
My point was that she was new to the board and I didn't want her to think that men were sitting here lurking just like in every other chatroom online..ready to help her out with her lapdance education...
Although jason wasn't asking that..the short question "which club?" and nothing else ..just raised my eyebrow a bit.
Plus..Could you could you imagine the audacity of a dancer to actually have some concerns..and not want to not be picked up or hit on here????
"Some of the most wonderful people are the ones who don't fit into boxes."....Tori Amos




yah i understand respecting someone's privacy....but there is nothing wrong with asking.
"where do you dance?"
"i'd rather not say." is that so hard? personally i think you're out of line here. in no way, is he (even if his intentions are to see her on her first day and have his way with her) invading her privacy. he just asked a simple question which she may or may not respond to.
not sure how he is picking up or hitting on her with a statement such as "which club?" thats far from hitting on someone. "hey, whats your phone number?" "XXX, wanna MEAT up sometime?" thats hitting on someone. not inquiring about they're place of work. still waiting for your helpful contribution to the topic though. heres mine:
men are evil, evil creatures. beware of them, especially in text format. women never cross the line.
Off-topic:
The problem seems to be me. Over on SCJ, I've got people lining up saying how they wouldn't care to socialize with me. That normally wouldn't concern me, given the people involved. But now here on SW, I'm making postings that are being understood quite differently from how I meant them.
This didn't happen here in the past. Whether it's because of a recently family death making me grouchy (we don't analyze well what grief does to us) or maybe being on this forum too long with my answers becoming too brusque - well, I simply don't have these types of reactions in real life, and I don't like to alienate people. Since I have no shortage of friends and good relationships in real life, I need to figure out what's changed here, if I'm going to continue making (hopefully) positive contributions.
Back on-topic:
Yeah, I wouldn't imagine that any dancer who wants to remain anonymous would appreciate "which club?" By the same token, I can't imagine "How do I give a good lap dance?" as being something meaningful to ask any more than "How do I get someone like me?" We need more specifics to answer the question. I just didn't ask for those specifics very well.
So.... to answer the original question as best as I can, the way it's phrased: Be seductive and be sensuous. How you do that depends on the club.
Off-topic once more:
It's time for some introspection about why I'm having the effect that I'm having. Ciao.



Obviously.. I already stated that I know that's not what Jason was implying. And jason could see how it could be miscommunicated... But in general it has been my experience that men online seek out (women) & dancers to find and meet. And I am sure you are waiting for my response to this topic..most men would be..lol. Lapdancing is the most graphic part of the legit business...I'm sure some movies.."showgirls" could help her out al little...Plus i'm not out of line..this website was made to give dancers a safe place and if I suspect some guy coming here to stalk or target or find info on how to meet dancers..of course i'm gonna say "hey man"!
p.s
It's not you Jason. I don't know anything about you..just wondered about that question..had lots of guys ask it..who wanted more than a dance..that's all.
Chin up..
Holiday
"Some of the most wonderful people are the ones who don't fit into boxes."....Tori Amos





Well, Jason, I think you should relax. Though I have only recently started regularly reading and posting here again, I have never seen you behave in anything other than a gentlemanly manner. Your intelligence and discretion were immediately evident to me, and you gained--and have retained--my respect from the get-go.
Holiday-on-Stage had a valid point, that it could have been a scary response for a newbie here, but knowing you as I do, I knew it was not meant in the way it may have seemed to her (or a newbie).
As far as being blackballed by SCJ members goes--which ones?
The guys who gleefully describe their technique, or that of their heroes (as I recall seeing in chat a while back, more clearly than I care to think about) for "breaking in" the newbies so they can get HJs and BJs more easily, and cheaply? Who wants to be accepted by or hang out with pathetic cretins like that anyways?
No offense to the many gentlemen who are SCJ members...
OK, getting back on topic. Jason's question, provided it was not misunderstood, was actually a good one--since a "lap" dance at one club can be so very different from another, even in the same city.
I have the greatest sympathy for a newbie who has no idea what is entailed in a LD, starting out in a high-contact club. Even a dancer who has no intention of providing extras will have to grind thoroughly and put up with her breasts and ass being fondled quite well, in order to make any money there. If extras are being provided in her area, she will also have to deal with frequent (as high as 50%) attempts at fingering or breast sucking.
I used to answer posts of "Hi, I want to dance!" with encouragement and reassurance--I no longer do so, because of what I have learned in the past year. Not as a result of my 4 years as a DJ, but from being in a relationship with a clean dancer in a high-contact area, and from reading posts from customers on this forum, and hearing what they expect and/or get when going to a SC.
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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Holiday~
Jason posts here often. I can vouch that he's one of the "safest" guys on both blue and pink site and he meant nothing more than "I need more information to properly answer the question". Which is a totally accurate question, by the way, as it was my first thought as well. Incidentally, as common as it is for a newbie dancer to enlist the advice and siuggestions of a guy friend ("Hey, does this outfit look slutty enough?"... "Does this move do anything for you?") I don't quite buy into the notion that a guy has no business responding on a thread from a newbie, though you did have a good point of making sure that the newbie knows he wasn't soliciting her.
On to the OP's post.
There are many different levels of lap dances. I suggest you get together $150 and a guy friend and visit the club you hope to work at. The best way to learn how to lap dance and what is expected in a lap dance at that club is to actually buy a few lap dances from girls who work there.
Air dance: Fairly self-explanatory; the only thing to caress the dancer's gyrating body is air. It's a no-contact dance which is usually difficult to sell. How far away you stand from the customer depends upon the club and state laws. For these, take up belly-dancing, as it is the one thing I've found to guarantee that you won't break a rule. other moves are: 1) Face away and bend at the waist, touching your hands to the floor with your legs straight, and wiggle your ass. Then do the splits (or as near as you can) onto the floor, kick your feet up and slide on the floor to give him a good view. Keeping your arms stiff in that position, rock on your hands slightly; it will make your ass "clap". 2) Play with your thong strings and pull them down until he can almost see something he isn't supposed to, then slide one finger up your kitty as if you were playing with yourself before moving your thong back to it's proper place. 3) Lick your nipple, if you can reach it. (These moves can also be used in any other sort of dance, as well as on stage)
Low contact tableside: 1) Slide your body down his, arching your neck when you reach his face, and gently (but hard enough so he can feel it) bite his shirt right at the belly button. Pinch his nipple. 2) Place one foot next to him on the couch and the other leg on the floor so you are straddling his legs in a standing position. If you are facing away, bounce lightly so your ass bounces. If you are facing him, play with the thong and then hit him lightly with your kitty (depending on height, it lands at mosts guys chest or upper belly). 3) If you can bounce your ass like black girls do in music videos, then this move usually makes guys quite happy: start with your legs spread a bit (about shoulder width) and start bouncing your ass. Slowly bounce lower and lower until you are almost bouncing it right on his lap (on the up-and-down motion, the "down" should just be brushing trousers). This is a good time to do the splits onto the floor as described above. 4) Move your face close to his as if you might kiss him, then lick out with your tongue without actually touching him. Breathe in his ear and nibble his neck.
I'll stop with those descriptions until you let us know what the club rules on contact are, as other moves in the higher contact range might get you in trouble. Keep in mind that the best things to do in a lap dance are 1) Maintain eye contact, 2) Smile and 3) Ask for another dance. Keep in mind that even the moves described above may be against the rules in your club.
He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche
i have a lapdance vid on sale on ebay aerobicstriptease carmen electra its verry good!
If you are doing contact dances you could also check out Fawnia's lapdance video - you can get it and others at exoticdancelessons.com or watch some G-string Diva's episodes also on Stringfellows.com they have a virtual dance you can check out- I think they are on a mini stage but if you take out the pole moves its a good example of an air dance.
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Welcome to stripperweb chia822!
If you do a search on here or even have a look through the 'hustle hut' section you will find some good tips.... also you could have a look at some of the posts on strip club junkie, the "blue site"... for example you will notice posts on there by guys complaining about "too much rough grinding" etc... i like to hear from a guys point of you sometimes ( seeing as they are the one's paying ) and i find the strip club junkie members quite helpful http://stripclubjunkie.com/
Anyway good luck! ..... Seraya.
Ps. Also i agree with lilth about checking out the club to see for your self.
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