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    Hi everyone,
    We are having a problem at my club and I have no idea what to do. Now first of all,,,what a girl does in the V.I.P. room is her business, and I really don't care...UNLESS I can see it, hear it, or otherwise know it is going on. There is a girl (well, a couple of them , but the worse one) who is having sex with customers during her dances. And I don't mean discreetly...I am talking about up and down, agressively, moaning, etc. and there are no walls in this VIP room,,,, meaning my customer and myself can see and hear all of it! She isn't discreete when hustling wither...she openly advertises when she approaches a guy...not knowing yet if he is even interested in that shit! (And having the STDs that come along with it!)
    Management does not care, and has not done a thing. The bylaws around here are pretty strict but are rarely enforced.
    Now, I came to this bar a year ago because it is known to be a clean place to work, and most of the girls all get along and there is little bullshit that there is at alot of other bars. So myself and two other girls had a talk with this girl in the bathroom the other night. She denied all of it...even though we all know guys who have had her and even told us her prices. Not only did she not care that we know, she went up to the manager and told him that we tried to beat her up!!! And she is going around telling people this! I have never hit a person in my life and am not about hurt myself for her! WHat do I do?
    Changing bars is not really an option. I need some info from you girls who have dealt with this before about how to personally deal with it. It has not affected my money as she is an airhead (obviously) and I make alot of my money by being good company. It just makes me mad when guys say the old "well, with her I...." I am a clean dancer and have no problem telling a guy off. I just need to figure out how to deal with this in my own head. Any help would be appreciated. It's making me hate going into work. I feel gross working amongst that.

    Whew. I am done.
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    Wow...I can't believe management won't do anything. That is just crazy. I guess the best thing to do...since u can't change clubs.... is just wait til she gets caught. It's only a matter of time if she is openly advertizing sex to customers she doesn't even know. I know it pisses you off.... trust me there are more than just a few hookers at my club too but just keep doing your job and ignore them. I'm surprised that when you and some of the other girls confronted her she didn't back off a little. I donno I would definately go to management again and this time be ALOT more demanding. Even if they are ignoring you they know deep down that they can get shut down for allowing that kind of activity in their clubs.

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    I'm not a dancer, but I have some ideas.

    The management might not care about what this dancer does but I assure you they do care about money. You need to convince them that if this dancer continues then the club will be shut down, fined, or whatever by law enforcement. Or convince them that you and other dancers will quit.

    I'll leave it up to you to figure out the best way to do the convincing. Be creative. You probably do not want to just tell the manager directly, "Either she's fired or I'm going to the cops".


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    since you said yourself that management doesnt care; what you should do is simple: find a new club-- a clean club-- where management upholds the no extras rule. there is NO reason for you to continue working in such an enviornment when you're obviously unhappy and cant get any help from the management.

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    I once worked for a nice small (12 girls) club in upstate NY. Between local laws and club rules, there was limited contact, no extras, and a "classy" environment. However, the clubowner hired one new dancer who immediately started offering ridiculous levels of contact completely violating club rules as well as state prostitution laws and a local anti-dance club ordinance. However, this girl was instantly able to sell twice as many dances as any other girl working there, which also produced twice as much income for the club (which kept 50% of private dance money).

    After having individual discussions with this new dancer, and after repeated discussions with the clubowner that the other 11 dancers seriously feared being busted because of the new dancer's well known 'extras', we finally agreed that the situation could no longer be tolerated. 11 of us went to the clubowner with an ultimatum, either fire the whore or we were all leaving. The clubowner thought about it for exactly 2 minutes, fired all 11 of us who complained, and started calling clubowner buddies in nearby cities. Before we were changed back into street clothes, about 5 new dancers had suddenly appeared, who immediately began offering the same 'extras' as the first new dancer. By the following night the clubowner had managed to 'import' a full complement of new dancers, all offering extras.

    From the clubowner's point of view, the club's income benefitted tremendously by the increased sale of private dances thanks to the rampant 'extras' now offered. The character of the club of course changed immediately, with any "classy" customers immediately seeking different clubs and with "sleazeball" customers appearing out of nowhere. The club actually made a ton of money for about 3 months until the goings-on finally pissed off the city fathers to the point where they basically had the local cops harass the club out of business.

    The point of my diatribe is that just because you feel you are in the "right" and some other dancer is in the "wrong" may not translate into the clubowner's decision you expect. Money talks very loudly to clubowners, particularly when the majority of bust risk falls on the dancers and not on the club itself.

    And if you value your life and limbs, DO NOT EVEN CONSIDER calling in the cops about your own club !!!!!!!

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    Thanks for the advice so far...one thing though...my club makes absolutely NO money off our dances. I am in Ontario Canada, so dances are 20$ flat per song, and the bar has no idea how many dances we do nor how much money we make. THAT is what makes me mad...I could at least understand WHY they are keeping her there if they were making money off it, but they are not. Also, she is not attractive, does not do a good stage show and is not a crowd favorite, as myself and a couple other girls who are having an issue with her as well. All I can think of is that she is fucking the manager or something! Ugh! This whole thing is ruing our happy, little club that pretty much got along until now. SHe has been there for a while, but only started getting so open about her practices in the past little while. Overspent at xmas perhaps?!
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    Well, this is a tough one. Management must do something about this dancer, otherwise law enforcement will find out and send uncover cops to investigate. But don't tattle on her, 'cause you'd probably get into trouble yourself. If this kind of thing persists then unfortunately you should change clubs.



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    It seems really strange that she is so open about her extras. --Especially knowing that the other girls are on to her, and that you all will go straight to a manager anytime you see this happening. In this case it seems like management may already know and not care, likely because one of them is screwing her, or they are making money of it somehow. It's very likely she's tipping them to look the other way. Or maybe they just want the $$$ from all the VIP rooms she sells. They may not get the 20 per dance, but they probably pocket the price of the VIP room.

    In that case there's not much you can do. If you call the cops you'll leave yourself with no job, right along everyone else at the club. And as Melonie said, maybe even worse, considering they sound a little crooked to begin with. If you can't switch clubs you're just stuck dealing with it yourself, and hopefully with the help of the other clean girls. Meaning you just have to get rid of her by making it very uncomfortable for her to work there. Don't break any laws and get yourself in trouble. Just treat her with the complete lack of respect she's earned.

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    Put Vicks VapoRub on all her spare thongs and baby wipes. Be sure to rub it in quite well so she can't feel it. Tell her that one of the girls has a cold and dropped a bit on her bag, it will explain the smell.

    Trust me, she won't be fucking anyone that night. Someone else will have to come up with suggestions for the second night.
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    I don't think you have a choice. If the place gets busted it will probably insinuate all of you. Get out while you can still save your own reputation.

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    You could slip her a laxative. j/k no really you might want to look for another club, or consider making an anonomous phone call. If she's really that dumb maybe you can convince her that another club is better and she'll leave on her own. Just suggestions. Make her life hell, get all the girls in on it. Hopefully she'll quit. I don't mean threaten her, just make her look really stupid, and constantlu embarass her, and point out any flaws she might have. She'll be miserable.
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    You can do all sorts of things to make her work life hell. Enlist the help of a couple trustworthy friends if possible, or just go it alone. If you're persistent, she'll either chill out or leave. Drinks accidentally spilled, 'stink bombs' on/in her car, shoestraps cut, thongs/outfits cut, Icy Hot in her makeup, nasty stuff sprayed in her locker, etc etc etc.

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    WOW! Now thoses are some devious (but not undeserved) ways to deal with her! But I would not, under ANY circumstances, want to touch her thong...blllaarrrggghh!! ng:
    Also, she keeps her stuff in a locker anyway...no way to get ahold of it. I am slightly worried about retaliation if I do anything that is obviously my doing...i.e. anything face to face....but I DO like little school yard things like the stink bomb...hahahaha...

    Anyway,,,thanks for all your ideas and sympathy...something WILL be done...and I won't compromise my safety either...

    You ladies are hilarious! I hope I never piss any of you off!

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    I know I have not experience in this area, but I would prefer the approach of messing with their minds. Have a male friend (no regular or familiar face) get propositioned by her, turn her down, THEN have them complain about her to the management as the hooker she is. Some one who knows the dynamics better than I will find a flaw with this approach, but I do not see it.

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    Yeah!!! Have you ever thought about having any of your regulars complain about her to management? Sometimes it might be taken better by management if a customer complains and not a former worker... if that doesn't work just piss in her perfume!

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    If she keeps her stuff in a locker, and there are little vents in the locker door like most metal lockers have, you can spray all sorts of nasty stuff in there, then wipe the outside of it so she won't notice til she opens it up. Hehehehe

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    What is the name of this club so that I can steer clear of it... Myself and some friends we talking about heading to the Windsor area in the spring as we have heard the money can be pretty good, and don't want to start off on the wrong foot. Thnks.....

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    Hi Kennedy hopefully this dancer will move on soon before the club gets busted, you said going to another club is not a option are you in Downtown Toronto or out by the airport, if I were a dancer I just dance somewhere else till this girl is gone before LE rolls on ya and you get caught up in the mix.

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    Quote Originally Posted by oldenchild link=board=1;threadid=5626;start=msg61344#msg61344 date=1073503068
    What is the name of this club so that I can steer clear of it... Myself and some friends we talking about heading to the Windsor area in the spring as we have heard the money can be pretty good, and don't want to start off on the wrong foot. Thnks.....
    [move=left,scroll,6,transparent,100%]WEll, if you don't want to start off on the wrong foot, don't do stupid shit when you're the new girl. Especially stupid shit none of the vets are doing.[/move]

    Kennedy, it's good that you and a couple others have already said something although it may have been less intimidating if it were only you and one other girl (gotta have at least one other for witness purposes plus a tad bit strength to your side no pun intended.) Unfortunately, as I've already learned, they will lie right to your face. How lame. She could at least be straight up and say 'yeah well that's what I do'

    In any event, the confrontation really got you nowhere positive except to let her know you guys are onto her game. unless you want her to stay, you and your friends have to keep the ball rolling. Nothing truly devious, think prank. do a google search for "pranks and revenge" you'll be fucken amazed.

    In fact we recently discussed this very subject:


    also, it's never a good idea to call vice on anybody because that just creates more problems in general. Don't get regulars involved either, looks bad on you (they'll look at you differently) Just convince her she'd be happier working elsewhere.


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    Wait wait wait... How to Deal With a Dirty Dancer?????

    Okay.. what has Jennifer Grey and Patrick Swayze done now?????????


    As far as I know.. they were just having the time of their life. They never felt that way before....


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    Oh my Gawwwd, still cracking up over the Vick's Vaporub.
    That is so Evil....I LOVE it!
    Although with this girl's extracurricular activities, she may not notice the burning & itching from the Vick's.
    Her cootchie probably burns all the time...ewwww!

    Peace & Hugs

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    LOL that's funny cutiepatootie

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    Lol I go through it all the time I make good money if less its only by $100.00 Some people can't stop who thay are but will out stay there welcome that kind of dancer will come and go but never ever be totaly gone lol so just do your own thing and it will all pan out worry about #1 not 2 and 3
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    Well, there is a light at the end of the tunnel! The dj at my club is a friend of my fiance's and let me in on a little secret...the manager who isn't doing anything about the nastiness is getting fired...and he doesn't even know it yet! They are actively looking for someone else and as soon as they find someone he's out the door! Yay :yay:

    On the bright side,,,I had a record breaking earnings week even though the disease-infested puss-oozing hose bag was working too. (wow,,,that's got to be the grossest name I have ever called anyone....PERFECT!)

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