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    Hi All

    I need your help. Here goes...

    My girlfriend is a stripper at a local club. Up until now I have just managed to handle the fact that she does what she does. She only ever works on a Friday and Saturday nights. I love this girl very very much but our relationship is begining to have problems due to what she does.

    She tells me that while she is at work she starts to get attached to these guys who she strips for. She chats to these guys and they try and lure her away from me. She comes home with plenty of stories how guys want to marry her etc. When she tells them she is happily engaged etc they start saying "you are to young to settle down you should be playing around etc"

    She sometimes thinks maybe she is to young to settle down. She starts to belive in what these guys are saying.

    How do you all handle this if it happens to you at work. What do you say to them all. Any advice would be great

    Thanks for reading this



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    i think the fact that she tells you what goes on at the club shows that she has nothing to hide and wants nothing from these guys there is no need for you to worry about what guys say we as exotic dancers get that alot ...guys saying they wanna marry us ....if guys are telling her that then you should be happy that you have a wonderful/beautiful girlfriend that other guys would love to be with....
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    I am kinda in the same situation but I am the girl in this. I strip and guys do want to marry us. My husband has a hard time too, but here's the thing, I come home and tell him what the guys say to me and I tell him cuz I have no intentions on going anywhere and I love him. She is telling you this cuz she has nothing to hide and cuz she loves you. If she says that she is too young to settle down and starts listening to these guys then you guys may need to have a talk about your relationship and where it is heading. If she says that you are being insecure, just remind her that you are listening to what she says and you have concerns. Not about her work but about the too young to settle down thing. If you love her and she loves you then things will work themselves out and this will pass.

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    They are asking her to play around because they want her to play around with them!

    The question is - is she happy with you though? You go through all the relationship building activities - or do you sit at home watching TV while she does the dishes?

    If she is saying "Listen to the stories these guys are saying... blah blah blah" then your pretty safe.

    If she is SCREAMING AT YOU about guys who say she should be scouting around, then you may have a problem.

    I doubt she is so stupid as to watch guys go from dancer to dancer to dancer to think "she is the one for me!"

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    Well, at least she's telling you these things, it may be a sign of trust which is very important in a significant relationship. Don't sweat it, bud.



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    V1, don't you think those are questions people would ask of a young lady whether or not she stripped? You sound insecure with your question. Does your gf know what she wants? Maybe she is too young to settle down. Maybe you should give her some space to decide. Communication is the key but utimately time will tell .

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    It's good that she's honest if you've asked, but personally I think she may be trying to make you jelouse or she want's you to tell her how beautiful she is ( some guys forget to do these things as time goes on), but as I have done before ( though never with this job) she may be just trying to rub it in your face because of some mess up you made in the past. If thats the case it doesn't mean she isn't in love with you, just that she want's you to feel a part of some hurt you made her feel. This may not be the case at all, but I am guilty of it as are many of the girls I know. If you don't ask her and she volunteers the information she is probly trying to make you jelouse. Just know that it happens, try and tell her how beautiful and special she is to you, and ask her to please keep this information to herself if it disturbs you that much to hear it.
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    Everything was well and good until this line:
    >>"She sometimes thinks maybe she is to young to settle down. She starts to belive in what these guys are saying."<<

    Are you sensing this, or is she directly communicating this?

    Direct communication is a game. Sorry to put it bluntly, but this is a big red flag. Telling you about her job and being open and honest about things is great, but if she&#039;s directly telling you she&#039;s buying into this crap the guys at work are feeding her, you have plenty to worry about.

    She&#039;s either shallow and using this as some sort of power game to invoke an action/reaction from you, or as Fawn put it- paying you back for something you did (or are doing). Either way, it&#039;s a big red flag.

    If you are just "sensing" this, it&#039;s time to sit down and hash things out. Chances are it may be a simple misunderstanding or misinterpretation of her willingness to share. For your own comfort, you have to be certain you are understanding things properly.
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    DON&#039;T get over possessive. Thats a sure-fire way to make her get tired of you. Ask her not to talk about her job with you. Similar to how most veterans do not discuss combat with their significant others.

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    honestly.. she will realise that these guys are mainly saying it to get into her pants.. and when she does.. she will not have a second though about what these guys say.. she will be wiser and know better.. i have been in somthing like this.. *never truly believed these guys* and im glad i didnt.. but i told hubby about it and he just gigled *go figure* he knows i love him and i told him because i like to share stuff like that..




    but beware of the hints... like oh did you know if i was on my own.. they told me that i could get a grant for bla bla bla.. or this and that wouldnt cost so much if it was just me ect ect..


    make her see shes doing the right thing.. LOL I got married at a YOUNG age.. and i have never regreted it.



    Except maybe when im yellin at him to get off his butt and take the trash out.. but other then that its all fine and dandy :twak:


    *excuse my bad spelling/grammer its 3am here*

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