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    Last night was the first time I endured a negative comment about my body from a customer. I was on stage, and a drunk regular of the club whispered (quite loudly) to the bartender "If this is a titty bar, why doesn't she have any titties. There just like baby fat." I have always been sensitive about my small boobs, and the comment hurt. How many of you have endured comments about your body or something else from a customer? When I was done with my stage work I went up to him and told him I heard his comment and didn't appreciate it. So has anyone else had experiences like this?

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    I was on stage once and a customer wanted to tip me. I turned around and got on my knees and pulled my g-string out to the side. He said, "You should have stayed facing me, you have a fat ass." Mind you I am 5'8" tall and I weigh 125lbs. No fat on me, all muscle! I think that customers who do this have low self-esteem. They try to make themselves feel better by putting us down b/c they know they would never, ever be able to date a single one of us. Just ignore him, honey, some of the biggest money-makers I've ever met have had small boobs. This won't be the first time you encounter a drunk asshole with no manners, so try to let it go and don't let stuff like that ruin your night or bring you down in anyway!!!

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    Some customers get drunk and talk shit. It comes with the job. Any job, but more so stripping.

    Besides why did he ask anyone about your boobies? See, he was being ANAL.

    Gota love customers like them, they actually build my self esteem! Because they have "boobie envy" thanks to the very tiny peenie they are blessed with.

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    i hav heard comments about other people and i'm sure some have made comments about me also as latinrose already said its a way to make them feel better about themselves the best thing is to ignore it and not let it get to you
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    There are certain people that make themselves feel better by putting other people down, especially people with high self-esteem. Dancers are easy targets because we put ourselves out there like we are "the shit" and of course we have flaws.

    See it as their flaw and feel sorry for them instead of feeling bad for yourself.

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    Theres a saying Im fond of which is "theres an ass for every seat" meening while some classless bafoon might feel the need to comment on something THEY might not like, there are guys out there who DO like that kind of thing. You cant please everyone sweetheart, dont loose sleep trying to.
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    The guy is a major league jerk. just ignore him.

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    Unfortunately, this business tends to attract many asshole customers. I used to go to the dressing room and cry when a guy would make a mean comment to me or about me, but now I just ignore it.

    Some guys will say stuff just because they're drunk, or because they're trying to piss you off. :idiot: It's just a waste of time to say stuff back to them, time that would be better spent with the nice customers making money. Although once in a while, I have had a customer make rude comments to me and then turn around and buy a dance from me! I was like WTF, if you don't like me, why are you spending money on me?

    And then there's the customers who just don't know any better. Sometimes they'll mean something as a compliment, but it will come across as an insult. A couple times, I've had guys say "I'm surprised at how intelligent you are" or "I usually can't stand blondes, but you're pretty cute/smart/funny" Some of these guys mean well, but they just don't have the greatest social skills.

    Rude customers suck, but they also make me appreciate the nice ones more.






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    hey girl,
    If you are sensitive about your boobs, I can see why you were easily hurt, but in all reality there is nothing wrong with small boobs. I am one of the 'naturals" in my club, and I am quite small. (I am a b) but I wouldnt worry about that, ya know? I'd have just said something sarcastic, but smiling back to him, like, "yeah, its a titty bar, this is why I have my titties are out. Who ever said it had to be a BIG titty bar, silly man?" I get away with shit like that becaue I look really young, and it usually breaks the ice... anyway,I dont know, but dont feel bad. You probably have cute boobies, and he is just a plain d*ck head. Small boobies unite. lol

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    i have really small boobies too, i lifeguard too, so they're always on display. i ignore guys who make comments about me. a lot of the time i'll take a look at their man boobies which are bigger than mine and it'll cheer me up....


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    One phrase covers men like this

    Major Rejection Issues_

    they need therapy; not lapdances

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    This type of shit comes with the territory. They are trying to make themselves feel better by bringing someone else (who they think is attractive and possibly 'conceited', btw) down. In this case, since he 'whispered' it to someone else while drunk he most likely didn't mean for you to hear it. Doesn't really change things though - he was still trying to make himself feel better by pointing out someone else's "flaws".

    If this is the first time you've heard a negative comment from a customer, you are quite new to the business. You just have to learn to let it slide off with all the other crap we have to put up with. Often easier said than done, but you have to turn a deaf ear to most customers. Hell after a while they all start to sound the same anyway. Kinda like the adults on Charlie Brown..."blah blah blah blah blah blah blah". Then only RARELY will someone say something that catches you offguard or out of the ordinary that might penetrate the thick skin you developed.

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    I am sorry you had a negative experience :'(
    But unfortunately it won't be your last. When a customer says something negative to me, I always smile and say somthing that normally goes over there head.
    Like someone said a lot of the jerks are either drunk or have low self-esteems and are trying to bring yours down too..Don't let it get to you sweetie
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    Quote Originally Posted by icechic link=board=1;threadid=5913;start=msg64163#msg64163 date=1074450447
    Last night was the first time I endured a negative comment about my body from a customer. I was on stage, and a drunk regular of the club whispered (quite loudly) to the bartender "If this is a titty bar, why doesn't she have any titties. There just like baby fat." I have always been sensitive about my small boobs, and the comment hurt. How many of you have endured comments about your body or something else from a customer? When I was done with my stage work I went up to him and told him I heard his comment and didn't appreciate it. So has anyone else had experiences like this?
    An unfortunate aspect of most people’s psychological makeup is that we tend to remember the negative things far more vividly and forcefully then the positive things. Sometimes you could get a number of positive comments about your body, then get one single negative one, and all the previous comments are tossed out the window. This can be such an effect on a person that the purveyor of the message - some drunken, heathen slob - is almost irrelevant, and is ignored when some perspective of the comment is needed.

    I suspect this is from two different things - the belief that people say nice things only to be polite, and our own critical view of ourselves.

    If you have an unsure or negative vision of yourself (body, face, personality etc), good, positive comments get shuffled into the "That’s nice flattery" file while negative comments get into the "He/she is speaking the truth" file. Its a hard habit to break, considering popular Western culture worships a certain vision of what is beauty, and throws examples of it in our face every day.

    There is no way in the world to prevent negative comments, because, as been said before, you cannot please everyone. You can change the way it affects you. Maybe you can do what you can to remember those who show that they do think you are hot/beautiful/sexy/"da bomb" by what they say or how they treat you.

    Some guys like/love big breasts. However, all guys love breasts period, and will take small ones with no problem. Anyone who comments that yours are too small will take them in a heartbeat of given the chance. "Your tits are too small" is just pure male ego posturing crap.

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    There are always assholes who want to bring you down. I have had people call me names and say that I'm ugly and stuff on stripclublist.com. Also the other day some guy says to me "DAMN, your a BIG girl." Whatever, it just not worth the brain waves it takes to process it.

    Eventually you learn to ignore the assholes and pick out the good customers. It's like playing cards, just keep discarding the bad ones, and hang on to the good ones, but don't put all your eggs in one basket.

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    Oh, while we're on the subject... does anyone know what a brick shithouse is built like? There's this customer (who definitely like$ me a lot), that keeps telling me I'm built like a brick shithouse. Wtf??



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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena link=board=1;threadid=5913;start=msg64298#msg64298 date=1074475122
    Oh, while we're on the subject... does anyone know what a brick shithouse is built like? There's this customer (who definitely like$ me a lot), that keeps telling me I'm built like a brick shithouse. Wtf??
    It means you have a nice body ! You're stacked or will built..its a compliment
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena link=board=1;threadid=5913;start=msg64298#msg64298 date=1074475122
    Oh, while we're on the subject... does anyone know what a brick shithouse is built like? There's this customer (who definitely like$ me a lot), that keeps telling me I'm built like a brick shithouse. Wtf??
    I agree about the WTF, but, it's a compliment! It means "you're stacked, baby!" Remember this song?
    http://aihtg.crosswinds.net/lyrics/00/bh.html

    "Brick shithouse" is kind of old-fashioned speak, it means, badaboom! -- WOW! Think Jane Russell, Jayne Mansfield, women like that. Yeah, he likes you!


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    I have heard a few negative comments from guys before like a customer saying loudly when my back was turned "Now that's a big ass." I turned around to tell him off but he walked away before I could pretend to really stare at the front of his pants and remark loudly, "now that's a tiny penis." I have NO tolerance and HATE guys who get thrills from insulting women. I like to publicly embarass assholes like that in front of the other customers, but that guy was too quick for me. Prester John had it so right. We are so quick to remember the negative things. I always think of that movie "Pretty Woman" when Julia Robert's character says "The bad stuff is easier to believe." It's too bad that many of us are like that, because I know personally for every one negative comment I get, I get about a hundred positive ones. I guess I just have to really concentrate on that. I mean if I let it get to me that much inside, I am in a way surendering power to those losers. They arent worth it. I just keep trying to remember that and get myself "over it."

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    icechic-

    Don't let some drunk prick undercut your natural beauty or what a special find you are in the stripclub scene. It took us WEEKS to scout out the rare few A & B cup dancers in our city. We go to dump our wallets out to them regularly.

    And thanks for the reminder- I definately need to compliment my favorite "barely B" dancer just how incredibly appealing her nice rack is.

    I honestly don't understand the appeal of strip clubs for the misogynist creeps that seem to always frequent them. If you think it is bad as the dancer, it's also bad being a patron near one. I can't seem to go to a stripclub once without the strong desire to knock the teeth out of the guy next to me. It's a surefire thing per visit. "Wow, she's beautiful" to one of my guests, nodding.. then stranger prick #1 has to lean over and loudly announce, "Her? She's fugly... and has a fat ass." It seems the people who's opinions you care about the least are the ones that go out of their way to give them... and do so loud enough to ensure the dancer can hear too.

    If they are so appauled and repulsed by the female form in all it's delightful sizes, shapes and varieties, why do they pay premium $ cover charge and come in night after night? Morons..
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena link=board=1;threadid=5913;start=msg64298#msg64298 date=1074475122
    Oh, while we're on the subject... does anyone know what a brick shithouse is built like? There's this customer (who definitely like$ me a lot), that keeps telling me I'm built like a brick shithouse. Wtf??
    It's a compliment!
    From a guy perspective, Pamela Anderson, Carmen Electra, Jessica Rabbit, etc. are "built like a brick shithouse!"
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    omg, why is it so huge?!! lol lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena link=board=1;threadid=5913;start=msg64298#msg64298 date=1074475122
    Oh, while we're on the subject... does anyone know what a brick shithouse is built like? There's this customer (who definitely like$ me a lot), that keeps telling me I'm built like a brick shithouse. Wtf??
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    Hey, don't feel bad.
    I have small breasts too. A lot of guy's love them. I get told all the time how sexy, cute , wonderful they are. I even have a guy friend that is extreamly turned on by the tiniest boobs, and I mean way smaller than mine. Blow it off. At least it wasn't one of the other dancers who said some thing. Then you'd feel your blood run hot every time you'd see her. That happened to a girl I work with the other day, right in front of maybe three other dancers while she was on stage. I even think it's because she was so much prettier than the other girl. Maybe you just reminded him of some girl who broke his heart, and he's so pathetic that some how this makes him feel better.
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    I've seen this inumerable times, and consoled some of the sexiest women imaginable after they have been critiqued by repulsive losers. It's always a fat, balding, ugly slob who makes comments like this, with an air of regal disdain, naturally.

    Nothing helps to ease the pathetic minds of those with basic feelings of inferiority, for brief moments, than to criticize someone who is way too good for them.
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