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    I don;t like to visit my GF at her club and she has stated she would rather not have me there when she's working. That's all fine and good. But now that I've been dating her and going to clubs with her, I've become more appreciative of what the girls do and find it a fun night out as most men do.

    How do you girls feel about your BF's visiting other clubs and having dances by other girls? Do you secretly wish they wouldn't? Or maybe that if they are going to drop $300 ore so in a night, they come and drop it on you?

    Just curious.

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    I would love for my bf (but i am single right now) to be involved with ALL my jobs. Visit me when i strip yes. He does not have to buy ld's. Hell he would get them free at home.

    I admit i do not like a bf going to strip clubs and getting dances from others. I have seen way too much, and heard worse. It's not about really trusting him, i just would love to be the one to turn him on.

    The crowd i hang with now, does not visit strip clubs. Dunno, said they grew out of that. Thats fine. And don't want ld's from me either.

    But i would not hang in strip clubs if i had a serious relationship, and would not like my SO going either. I would stop dancing for good at this point.

    Guess i am at a point in my life that if the right guy walked in i would make some changes. I think that is fair enough.

    If i ever caught him at a strip club without me, He's history. Guess it works both ways, alot of guys don't like their wifes/gs's stripping, i understand why. Well, it's the same way for some of us ladies too.

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    Yes, but Pamula, if she doesn;t want me visiting her at her work I want to respect that. I surprised her once early in our relationship and ended up paying her for 30 minutes of private time. I figured if I'm going to spend it, why not on her? But it was very odd paying for lap dances when I'm with her after hours.

    But since the beginning we have made visiting strip clubs a source of entertainment when we're traveling. She picks out girls for me, I do the same for her. She has taught me to appreciate a good dancer and to tip accordingly. I have absolute respect for the girls and make it a point to be a gentlemen and never cross the line. But now that she's back to work I actually miss the excitement of the club.

    I'm curious as to why if your BF had dances at another club he would be history. That doesn;t seem to fit with the idea that dancers look at this profession as just a job. Your reaction seems to be similiar to why men get jealous of their stripper girlfriends. They always imagine the next client getting off on their girlfriend and she falling for his line and so on and so... Are you afraid the next dancer will steal your BF away? Then that means I should be worried about my GF being lurred away by the next hot client. That could drive a person crazy.

    If any relationship like this is going to work don;t BOTH sides have to let go of preconcieved notions? Don;t you agree?


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    I would not want my boyfriend going to other clubs and getting dances from other girls. It just the fact that he wants another girl to sit naked on his lap, and tease him, and turn him on. It really would bother me, unless I was there.
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    Ok Bf, i am there to work lets say, i damn sure don't want my bf getting dances from others. I would gladly give him dances, suer he can pay, but why. We can be visitors together at a club. I don't like the idea of my man buying dances from other women.

    I don't think i am alone on this one. Also, to me it's a job, hustling. For him it's recreational fun! There is a difference.

    Some couples have no problem going off to seperate strip clubs, i do. I don't want my guy getting the grind from other women.

    Thats just me.

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    You're definately not alone on this, Pamela.

    I have wanted to be a dancer for a long time, still fantasize about it, (obviously, one of the reasons I like to come here), but am afraid to because I don't want to do anything to upset or hurt my bf. It took me a long time to find someone so wonderful and I wouldn't want to screw it up. And, also, since I don't like him going to strip clubs, because the thought of him wanting another naked girl all over him hurts me, I'm afraid it might be hypocritical for me to work in one.

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    I don't mind if he goes to no contact clubs and gets dances. I am not comfortable with him getting contact dances however ~ unless I am right there to share it with him. I have to admit I get jealous otherwise- even though I have no real reason to.... I can't help it- LOL!
    I also immediatly quit contact dancing when we got serious and now I don't dance at all. My choices in the matter were based on my emotions, he never pressured or encouraged me to quit; it just happened naturaly as the relationship progressed into monogomous.
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    I'm happily married, and my husband has never expressed a desire to go to another stripclub alone. We do go together, and yes, we both get dances. We do that together also, but if he wanted to go it alone, I really don't think I would mind.

    I don't mind him getting dances from someone. It just doesn't bother me, because I am secure in our relationship. He loves, wants, and respects me. Enjoying a dance from someone else doesn't threaten me in the least. Hell, I enjoy getting them from other dancers, so why shouldn't he?

    That's my opinion, and maybe I'm just weird...
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    I don't think you're weird at all, Ferrari.
    That's what makes this forum so entertaining and educational..all the different opinions!
    In fact, I wish I didn't get jealous, I admire people who don't.

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    What i would need perhaps is a secure relationship, where we both can talk about what we want. I think every relationship has it's limits.

    I would stop dancing and phone sex for a guy i knew would be a partner to me. Guess i have had a bad relationship (about 5 years) with not enough expressing our needs.

    Talking to one another is so important. Still would i be comfortable with my man geting ld's? Probably not, i just have seen too much.

    A realationship is sacred, and to be shared by two people in the sexual world with each other. And strip clubs are serving a sexual "fantasy."

    Dunno, guess i would want my man to only want me for a sexual outlet! And me him.

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    I don't mind my boy going to clubs without me. He can get dances all he wants and that's fine. My only thing is that if the club is one I've never been to before, I like to go with him the first time. I at least like to know what I am missing when he goes without me the next time, lol!

    We've been together four years and I trust him so why should I mind? Just because he finds something or someone else titillating doesn't mean it detracts from his feelings toward me. And besides, it isn't like he's spending *my* money to do it (we don't share $$).
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    my husband has no desire to go to a strip club including mine, he thinks it's silly. we have been to my old club togather and did get dances it was fun but he was ready to go after a short time. just isnt his thing. we have been togather for 6 years so maybe he's heard to much for it to be any fun. he just doesnt get why people go! haha
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    well, when my last SO were together i would never let him go to the club to see me, and i didnt want him to go to another club either. although, a lot has to do with his job, since he is one of the "bad guys" to the Strip Club Business.

    it isn't that i don't trust him, i just don't want another girl on him like that. i want it to be me, not some other girl that turns him on.

    But...another ex and i would always go to a club after having a night out. we would start out with the same amount of money each...and see who got the most dances at the end of the night. it was a game to us. the only thing that made us laugh even harder was telling the girls "he game me (insert an insane amount of money here) to get dances, so you can stay if you want or go between us to load up on money." and some of the girls didn't understand what i was saying and try to hustle other guys! LOL. oh well, their loss. then some of the girls picked up on it. but he and i had a relationship to where it didn't bother me that he was there a lot...hell, i would pick girls out for him. so i guess with me, it just depends on the guy...not necessarily if he is a SO or not.

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    Well my bf hasn't ever been into the strip club scene. He's been to one like way back when he was 15, and they didn't I.d. him. I really dig that he's not into it and all. It saves me alot from worrying. As long as I give him a few dances every once in a while he could care less. I want him to have the feeling of a private dance but at home from me. Another thing is that I think it's different if your already a stripper and you meet your current bf in my case and he already knows what he's getting his self into. Like I could see him getting a little angry if he met you and he dated you for a good length of time and Then you became the stripper. That happened in my past relationship and that was really hard on the both of us. Now the fact that my bf knows he's not really supposed to go to SC's with out me, I sometimes think he wants to go just to prove something to me. Were both stubborn and very hard headed so that's probably why! lol I'm also a very jeoulous kind of gf. I actually got more jeoulous when he went to hooters in Ft. Lauderdale on a flight with his instructor while I was sitting at home in Orlando. ??? I guess I know that alot of strippers are there to make money not bf's. But then again I'd still be pissed if he went with out me. lol
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    Mine was working as a "manager" at a local place and I did not mind that he worked with strippers and hung out there off-duty on occasion....

    He won't visit me at work and I would not want him to either, there is no point in him sitting around alone while I rub on other guys, that is just cruel. I don't care if he goes to other strip clubs. He never goes alone, he's pretty sick of them from too much boyhood fun in Joisey.

    Besides, he is too cheap, when he knows a couple shots of tequila usually ends up in me giving him free nekid lapdance, hehehehehe....

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    Default Re:Do you mind your BF going to other strip clubs?

    I'm single. If I had a boyfriend, I wouldn't mind him going to strip clubs once in a while with his friends, as part of a bachelor party or a boys' night out. However, if he was going on a regular basis, getting lapdances from girls and spending a lot of money on other girls, then I would be upset. I would want to be the one to turn him on. Yes, I'm a dancer and I give dances to guys, but I'm doing it for money, not enjoyment.

    Luckily when I had a boyfriend, he didn't even really like going to strip clubs all that much, so it wasn't even an issue. He would go once in a blue moon with his friends, but that's about it. He wasn't poor but he didn't make a ton of money either, and he said he would rather spend his money on other things besides strip clubs.






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    I agree blondhottie, boys nights out every once in a while are okay. And If I'm there, it's totally cool and fun for all. BUT, if he went all by himself I would be mad, and probably dump him---I can't date a PL, sorry.

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    Mariah - One visit makes him a PL? Or do you mean if he made a habit of going?

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    Quote Originally Posted by NVJosh link=board=1;threadid=6026;start=msg65910#msg65910 date=1074907965
    Mariah - One visit makes him a PL? Or do you mean if he made a habit of going?
    To me, going to the SC with the guys is about having a good time, the girls are secondary. Going to the club alone is for the female attention, and no guy I'm dating should need that kind of attention from other girls.

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    I don't think the issue here is who is jealous of who.

    The issue here is while the girlfriend is WORKING (just happens to be naked) ..the boyfriend is across town at yet another strip club ..getting a physically sexual release by ANOTHER dancer/woman..makes no sense... I don't know of any dancer who get's a sexual release when dancing. I would think that a boyfriend could find something better to do with his time..unless he has sexual problems and can't get enough sexual release. I find it totally disrespectful. Plus..you would think since a boyfriend who has a dancer..wouldn't want to eat, sleep and breathe..the stripper world ...You think it would get sickening and result in stripper world meltdown.

    But of course SOME boyfriends take advantage of the situation..typical.

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    nope, i dont care. i dont have a bf now but if i did i wouldnt care. unless, of course, he was tgetting extras but that's a whole other can of worms. with my X i let him do whatever. you cant stop men from doing what they are going to do anyway. if my bf told me not to do something i would not be having that...

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    I don't mind my current bf going to strip bars...but mainly because I know he doesn't like them much and only goes when there's a stag or his buddies are all going (and that's not very often).

    I did get really pissed off at my ex though-- while I was away working in Italy and sending money home to help pay for his tuition, he was going out to the sc every night and dropping cash there...it seemed so counterproductive to me, I was working my ass of to make cash just so he could spend it on other strippers! Yet another reason to never support the man you're with!

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    Default Re:Do you mind your BF going to other strip clubs?

    I definately would not want my bf visiting me at work. I wouldn't mind him goig to a strip club alone as long as he didnt get any private dances. Maybe it is hypocritical, but I just don't want any other girl rubbing up on him like that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fawn link=board=1;threadid=6026;start=msg65766#msg65766 date=1074878143
    I would not want my boyfriend going to other clubs and getting dances from other girls. It just the fact that he wants another girl to sit naked on his lap, and tease him, and turn him on. It really would bother me, unless I was there.
    That's how my kid's mom felt. After we went south (as things sometimes do, hell we are still friends so you can't think TOO bad of me), my ex let's-call-her-Angelina (After Angelina Jolie, though she was a redhead and a little shorter, i just suck at the pick-A-name game) used to DRAG me into SC's with her. Hell she'd ASK me to go into clubs first to feel them out. What's up there? Do the Dancers want money to masturbate you or suck your cock? What's going on in there? Do I want to work there?

    I have nothing against Dancing as a profession, but i always told Angelina that the place sucked (this effect was usually counterbalanced by my buddy's (whoever i went with) dreamy smiles. Ladies, i'd say they only want dollar tips, or some goddamn horror story about the club.

    Never once did i get believed. Look, there's a certain territorial feeling about being a Dancer's man. That "YOU CAN'T LOOK AT THAT! SHE'S MINE!!!!!!" feeling. I'm subject to it as much as any other man is. But, the cure is this. Realize that she's not yours (or, in my case, mine). Then just relax. If she doesn't really love me, i'll know sooner or later. Look, she has an endless parade of choices before her. It's pretty cool to be at home knowing that my GF is at work getting hit on by 50 men a night and yet she still wants me. Territory. It'd a hard thing. Look, any girl hot enough to be a stripper will be looked at anyway. Deal with it. That's my way of thinking.

    But she always sent me into any prospective club.

    Even into ones she knew but hadn't worked at for a while. She gave me trust, meanwhile she had no need. Fuck, i was in a club! Who am i gonna really hook up with? That's one thing that kills me.


    Fawn. You know how it is. You're not gonna just fuck your customer, why assume another Dancer will (or am i being naive)? If your BF is the type to pay for 'extras' (see, i learned a stripper term, aren't you proud of me?) then why bother?

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    What he said. If you feel that your BF is cheating on you by visiting a strip club, then what does that say about you for hustling or accepting tips from a married man?

    Someone said that the customers are getting "sexual release". I'm not sure what services are being offered in your local clubs, but in eight months I've only heard of two men who actually had "release" from the dances offered.

    I just don't understand the logic. Strippers can parade around in various states of undress, give dances involving various levels of contact, flirt, solicit drinks and in general behave like strippers. BF/SO or husband who receives the same services that you offer, however, is seen as a cheating whore reveling in a den of infamy. Either what you and your co-workers offer is naught but risque entertainment or it is dirty; the definition of our jobs shouldn't change depending upon which man to whom we offer the same services.
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