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    My boyfriend is starting to do a number on my self esteem. I have been dancing for about 8 years, and was a dancer long before I met him. He didnt seem to have a problem with it until lately, and I dont think I can stand it anymore. "Chavez" drives a beer truck for a living and samples alot of the product each day if you know what I mean. That is until he got laid off last fall. Now he just surfs the Internet for porn and fantasy football sites, and smokes weed and crank all day. Anyway, lately he has been calling me names like Tramp and Ho simply because I dance for a living. It really hurts my feelings and it makes me hate myself. I dont go home with the customers and I dont sell my body for sex.

    Aside from that, Chavez is bi-sexual, and has gotten me to participate in a few 3-ways with him and his french friend, "Sacrebleu". I dont want to do it, but Chavez threatens me. He has hit me a few times but mostly just threatens to do so. Thankfully, they seem to be more into each other than me anyway so I just lay there for a while as they mostly pleasure each other. Then afterwards, he calls me more names for doing exactly what he asked. How am I the Ho when he wants me to strap on a dildo and f him up the butt? I honestly dont know why I stay with this loser, except he is the father of my 3 kids(at least I think he is! ha ha!)

    Anyway, he has beaten my self esteem down so bad that I have looked for other places for love. There are a couple of really, really, really old but wealthy regulars at my club who have both said they will get me out of my current situation. "Rocknrobn" is a kind old man who would pay for me to get a boob job in a heartbeat. And my boobs and my outlook on life could really use some surgery about now! But he must be 100 years old, and unlike Anna Nicole Smith, I cant stand old wrinkly balls. And "Skylive" is another rich geezer that has promised me the world, its just that a crane and all the viagra in the world wont get him going again.

    I dont really know what to do right now. How do you build your self esteem up when your man is constantly belittling you? I think Chavez just feels bad himself, and he cuts me down to build himself up. I am just tired of it I guess. Has anyone had this sort of issue with your man?

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    if your 'man' is constantly belittling you...why...why...why...why...why on God's green earth are you still with him?...
    Why do some people still have to fight...to get the same opportunities...that are given to others??...

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    I dont know, really. We have been together a long time. We have kids together. I do love him. It's just a bad time right now I think..

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    WTF...are you serious ???.....i hope you are not a troll ???
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    Man, I really hope this is a gag post..

    I'm suddenly gaining respect for the average Springer guests if any of this portrayal has the slightest resemblence to a non-fictional couple.

    An ex-beer truck driver, laid-off and bisexual who requires strap-on play with his gay-Pierre buddy (between doing drugs and surfing porn) while being totally supported by a stripper who wants to know if it's acceptable being called a whore, slut, etc.etc. and who's only valid escape recognized seems to be finding senior citizens with Raimi-esque nicknames, and references to the aging process that has occurred to their testicles.

    Here's a suggestion- write all this down, make it a novel and publish it. It'll sell well in both the science fiction and documentary sections of the book store.
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    You're supporting yourself, 3 kids, and an abusive bi-sexual man and your question is, are you a ho? That's the least of your worries.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cash link=board=1;threadid=6054;start=msg66132#msg66132 date=1074973832
    WTF...are you serious ???.....i hope you are not a troll ???
    Cash could be. Lord knows weve had enought of them lately.

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    I'm suddenly gaining respect for the average Springer guests if any of this portrayal has the slightest resemblence to a non-fictional couple.
    you know thats exactly what i thought when i read the post ...so scandelous .....sounds like an episode of the jerry springer show ....
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    My life is alot like a Jerry Springer show guest, except I dont have a bouncer to break up the fights..

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    Quote Originally Posted by polecat link=board=1;threadid=6054;start=msg66134#msg66134 date=1074973995

    An ex-beer truck driver, laid-off and bisexual who requires strap-on play with his gay-Pierre buddy (between doing drugs and surfing porn) while being totally supported by a stripper who wants to know if it's acceptable being called a whore, slut, etc.etc. and who's only valid escape recognized seems to be finding senior citizens with Raimi-esque nicknames, and references to the aging process that has occurred to their testicles.

    Here's a suggestion- write all this down, make it a novel and publish it. It'll sell well in both the science fiction and documentary sections of the book store.
    Hahahahahahahahahah! I couldn't have put that better myelf!

    Quote Originally Posted by Spainalicious link=board=1;threadid=6054;start=msg66144#msg66144 date=1074975139
    My life is alot like a Jerry Springer show guest, except I dont have a bouncer to break up the fights..
    Right :troll:

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    Guys,
    I don't know if the is a troll or not.
    I actually had a freind who was in a simular situation. She was dating a male stripper who danced at both male and female clubs. And he wasn't her children's father.

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    The only reason i have doubts is bcos of the way post is written.... in a joke kinda way.

    But on the other hand i could be wrong and this could be a genuine post, if so well then i'm sorry and the only advice i can give is to leave him.

    Seraya.


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    I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt...If what you are saying is true, then you have some serious issues. Staying with this guy, regardless of love and parental obligation, is out of the question. You should kick him out or get out yourself with your kids.

    I'm curious...Where are your kids when he is belittling you? Where are your kids when he is "cranked" up? If my husband treated me that way, I sure as hell wouldn't leave our son with him while I was at work! Hell, he would be lucky to ever see either of us!

    He hits you and you stay? Why in the hell would you let a man hit you? You said in response to Topaz that you loved him, and you've been together a long time...So what! You need to learn to love yourself, and put your safety and sanity above those excuses. (AND most importantly, the safety of your kids, hon!)

    You also said that some other man, a regular, has offered you the world to get you out of your situation. Trust me honey, if you are supporting yourself, you don't need a man to give you the world. The least of your worries right now is getting a boob job.

    Get out before you are seriously hurt!
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    no way is that post real, you can tell it's written by a man.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ferrari link=board=1;threadid=6054;start=msg66166#msg66166 date=1074978017
    I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt...If what you are saying is true, then you have some serious issues. Staying with this guy, regardless of love and parental obligation, is out of the question. You should kick him out or get out yourself with your kids.

    I'm curious...Where are your kids when he is belittling you? Where are your kids when he is "cranked" up? If my husband treated me that way, I sure as hell wouldn't leave our son with him while I was at work! Hell, he would be lucky to ever see either of us!

    He hits you and you stay? Why in the hell would you let a man hit you? You said in response to Topaz that you loved him, and you've been together a long time...So what! You need to learn to love yourself, and put your safety and sanity above those excuses. (AND most importantly, the safety of your kids, hon!)

    You also said that some other man, a regular, has offered you the world to get you out of your situation. Trust me honey, if you are supporting yourself, you don't need a man to give you the world. The least of your worries right now is getting a boob job.

    Get out before you are seriously hurt!
    :yay:

    I would also like to add that IMHO..This man is GAY and he is too much of a chicken shit to come out of the closet. Which is where his anger is coming from. He takes it out on you, just because you are there !!

    Further more you as a mother should not be allowing your children to witness this madness. You mentioned its damaging your self esteem, well what do you think its doing to your children's ?

    Call the police and have them remove him for domestic abuse towards you, get a restraining order and change the damn locks.

    Then start learning to stand on your OWN 2 feet and be a mother your children can be proud of !!
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    If the poster can somehow prove that they're at least a woman, I'll give a serious reply to their problem.
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    Quote Originally Posted by velvet link=board=1;threadid=6054;start=msg66174#msg66174 date=1074979550
    no way is that post real, you can tell it's written by a man.
    You could be right!! Are these guys really that fucked up to come up something this crazy ?? Hmm, I think I just answered my own question ! Never mind..

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    I had a man that cut me down to build himself up. I had a man that called me names, pushed me down and hurt me. I had a man that drank and cranked. I dumped all of them, and thank god I did. In each of those cases I had little or no money. In one of those cases, the guy was my kid's father.

    You need to think about yourself and your kids. What kind of environment are you raising them in?

    I do understand the thing about staying with an abusive partner. The partner that was the most abusive to me, I "loved" so much. But you can't "fix" an abuser. You don't need him. Don't let him play the pity game. Don't let him fool you.

    (BTW I agree he sounds more closet-gay than bi.)

    Find the book "Why Does He Do That." It will help you identify and untangle the headgames and develop a plan for action.

    He feels entitled. To your money, to your body, to your servitude. He abuses and threatens because he gets his needs met that way. Why should he stop? It works for him.

    If you stay with him... well, expect more of the same, and worse. And expect increasing problems and disrespect from your children, as well.

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    Well, at work have you ever felt like a chocolate cake rolled in creamy filling, then dipped in chocolate?
    If so, you may in fact be a HO-HO.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Spainalicious link=board=1;threadid=6054;start=msg66125#msg66125 date=1074973060
    My boyfriend is starting to do a number on my self esteem. I have been dancing for about 8 years, and was a dancer long before I met him. He didnt seem to have a problem with it until lately, and I dont think I can stand it anymore. "Chavez" drives a beer truck for a living and samples alot of the product each day if you know what I mean. That is until he got laid off last fall. Now he just surfs the Internet for porn and fantasy football sites, and smokes weed and crank all day. Anyway, lately he has been calling me names like Tramp and Ho simply because I dance for a living. It really hurts my feelings and it makes me hate myself. I dont go home with the customers and I dont sell my body for sex.

    Aside from that, Chavez is bi-sexual, and has gotten me to participate in a few 3-ways with him and his french friend, "Sacrebleu". I dont want to do it, but Chavez threatens me. He has hit me a few times but mostly just threatens to do so. Thankfully, they seem to be more into each other than me anyway so I just lay there for a while as they mostly pleasure each other. Then afterwards, he calls me more names for doing exactly what he asked. How am I the Ho when he wants me to strap on a dildo and f him up the butt? I honestly dont know why I stay with this loser, except he is the father of my 3 kids(at least I think he is! ha ha!)

    Anyway, he has beaten my self esteem down so bad that I have looked for other places for love. There are a couple of really, really, really old but wealthy regulars at my club who have both said they will get me out of my current situation. "Rocknrobn" is a kind old man who would pay for me to get a boob job in a heartbeat. And my boobs and my outlook on life could really use some surgery about now! But he must be 100 years old, and unlike Anna Nicole Smith, I cant stand old wrinkly balls. And "Skylive" is another rich geezer that has promised me the world, its just that a crane and all the viagra in the world wont get him going again.

    I dont really know what to do right now. How do you build your self esteem up when your man is constantly belittling you? I think Chavez just feels bad himself, and he cuts me down to build himself up. I am just tired of it I guess. Has anyone had this sort of issue with your man?


    Do you not see whats wrong with this picture?! What i want to know is why are you still with this guy? :o Who cares about him.. if you can support all yuor kids just fine with him.. then you can do the same without him. + childsupport.

    SERIOUSLY.. im married... been together with my man for 4 years.. he would NEVER DARE TO call me names OR hit me.. because he knows ill kick him to the curb with out hesitation..

    He probably does it because he knows youll put up with it.


    I dont need to put up with scum like that.. Im too good for it.. And neither do you.. hes a pos

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    Spain,
    What is wrong with you tonta?? Didn't your madre ever teach you to treat your man right? Hell, he's bi, that means he is open minded and kinky in bed. Most of us women would die for that kind of adventurousness. d:

    AND, while you claim not to sleep with your customers, what are you doing with these "regulars"? Well, I will tell you, no woman on stripperweb has EVER EVER EVER gone home with a customer or had sex with a regular, or has let ANY man at the strip club EVER touch her sacred body...we are all trained ballerinas that make $1,000 a night doing lavish pole work and charming our clientele with poise and wit.

    If you are even CONSIDERING sleeping with a regular and cheating, then you belong on a web forum for ho's, not strippers. We are all better than you......

    Sorry guys, NO WAY do I believe this shit is for real... :troll: :troll: :troll:

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    So there is a TROLL smiley ! How cute ..
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    If this is a real-life post, the only thing I have to say is "GET THE HELL OUT"

    You owe it to your children to protect them and to protect their mother (that is you). If he has hit you, then he will hit them. So get out while you and they are still able to get out.

    Dont endanger your self or your children. There are lots of places that will assist women to 'disappear to a safe place."

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    you arent a ho, your just , well, not the brightest of lights.. You accept this kind of treatment from a man, anyone, and you dont leave? please! You are the one who brings home the money. YOU have the power here. USE IT! Leave now. Your "boyfriend" probably wont miss you at all. what do you have to loose? If you believe in the "I still love him" crap, then you are dumber still. You can do it! You OWE it to yourself and your children to leave this ass now.

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