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    Just wondering... my husband and I have recently decided to visit a local club. We went 3 times in the last 6 weeks. Anyhow-- we come with several hundred to spend (I'm guessing an average amount). The club says it caters to couples-- yet 9 out of 10 girls ignore him or us. Just wondering.. how do you decide who to approach on not approach? I am alittle quiet, maybe I appear slightly nervous when they come over-- I'm not sure. I'm not being forced or coerced into being there. It isn't some sick sexual perversion either--we're just there to have a good time. Also, I'm not the clingy hanging all over him type either (like I seen last week). We are a well groomed decent looking couple. He tips well to EVERY dancer on stage, because we feel cheap if we don't. I mean we watch guys come in who don't tip to any on stage dance and don't go in the back either. Yet girls will spend 20-30 minutes with them. So, is it me???? That is my thought.

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    Default Re:HOw do you decide....

    You might want to check this thread out:
    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/ind...sg3994#msg3994

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    Default Re:HOw do you decide....

    Some of this mysterious behavior towards you probably stems from another new trend which is related to rising levels of high contact/extras in some clubs - if the club that you are going to is into high contact/extras, the dancers may assume that you and your husband are trolling for a threesome companion.

    If the club is less extreme, it may simply be a conclusion by dancers (correct or not) that couples do not usually spend as much money on private dances as single guys do, that couples can be the source of complications if one partner becomes upset by interactions between a dancer and the other partner etc. Remember that from a standpoint of dancer's income, they earn far more from private dances than they do from stage tips.

    IMHO three visits to a club are not enough for the dancers to actually figure out where you and your husband are coming from. The 'rules of engagement" for couples behavior and spending habits in clubs are still very poorly defined. As the female member of the couple, it's really up to YOU to take the lead in regard to interactions with the dancers.

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    Default Re:HOw do you decide....

    If your being quiet and not tipping they probably assume that there would be drama if they tried to get a dance out of your husband. Why don't YOU tip at the stage and when you see a girl you like ask her to stop by later.

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    Default Re:HOw do you decide....

    Quote Originally Posted by Melonie link=board=1;threadid=6081;start=msg66628#msg66628 date=1075046380
    Some of this mysterious behavior towards you probably stems from another new trend which is related to rising levels of high contact/extras in some clubs - if the club that you are going to is into high contact/extras, the dancers may assume that you and your husband are trolling for a threesome companion.

    If the club is less extreme, it may simply be a conclusion by dancers (correct or not) that couples do not usually spend as much money on private dances as single guys do, that couples can be the source of complications if one partner becomes upset by interactions between a dancer and the other partner etc. Remember that from a standpoint of dancer's income, they earn far more from private dances than they do from stage tips.

    You took the word right out of my mouth.
    I do enjoy dancing for couples but I hate when the threesome
    issue comes up..Yuck !! Or when the husband says something stupid like "don't you want to eat my wife's pussy?"
    I have also found women to be even more persistent then men and will not take a simple no for an answer.

    I do agree with the other poster who said for you to also tip the dancers on stage. Just be nice and not too handsy or rude and you'll find plenty of dancers will flock to your table.
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    Default Re:HOw do you decide....

    Thanks for the link. I found that thread very interesting. We are definetly not there to look for anything further (3some). It is usually just for some harmless fun. I personally don't tip the girls for 2 reasons 1-- I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable with me being a women. 2-- I don't like the hoots and leering from the other men at the club. I do make sure my husband tips well-- and some of the girls are usually aware that I picked the money up off the table and handed it to them because some will nod my way or acknowledge it in some way. I am not overly chatty when the few have come to the table-- so maybe I put off a bad vibe. I'm just quiet to begin with.

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    Default Re:HOw do you decide....

    whoops....lol....I started reading this thread then followed the link to the other one....I posted my view on that rather than this. Sorry to drag an old post to the front. But at least it's there if anyone wants my opinion.

    Long and the short of it though: The best thing you can do as a dancer is to make sure that the woman knows that she is not threatening to you nor are you to her. That puts both parties at ease (gets rid of the awkward "does she mind women" thing). Then bring on the fun. BTW, complimenting the women is never a bad thing--it's already kinda hard to feel good about yourself and your sexuality in a place like that--too many beautiful women!
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