Why men should not pay for dates.
Why men should not pay for dates.





Oh we are not even going to there...
i am a firm believer in the man picking up the check thing.
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I don't mind paying for dinner a bit.
I never had a problem splitting the bill. Guy always tipped however.
Pamela
I've had women offer to pay, I usually resist but if she wants to she can. I want to pay at least half, though. Bottom line. i refuse to be a deadbeat, even with permission.





I prefer he pay the bill, I'll leave the tip.
Saphira Swallows,
lol. Interesting name.





hehe we can thank Smooth and his swallows poll for that one.
Haha, you're welcome... and thanx for voting.Originally Posted by Saphira Swallows link=board=1;threadid=6129;start=msg67333#msg67333 date=1075174315
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Go ahead and buy that American crap Mr. AskMen reader, he isn't getting a date with me. In addition to all of the excellent excuses by women, here is one: in my culture, any many who does not pay is considered a homo......
"Have you ever been to American wedding? Where is the vodka, where's marinated herring?" - GB
"And do the cats give a shit? No, they do not. Why? Because they're cats."-from The Onion
Originally Posted by Mia M
i'd like to see those guys try getting a date.





or even better a second date...
hahaha





Nah, bad advice. I always like to pamper a gal. I'll pick up the check and the tip. Even if the gal has Ruth's Chris caliber tastes.
Former SCJ now in rehab.
My kid's mom used to literally order the most expensive things on the menu whenever she was mad at me. It didn't take me long to learn that it was cheaper on my checking account to keep the peace.





I stick with the "whoever asks, pays" rule.
LOL id prefer him to get the bill.. then maybe ill get the tip.. on special occasions only will i pay
Well, there is an exception. I'll let a woman pay the whole check if it's my birthday, but that's it.
In my relationships we have always split even, and they manage to hang on anyways. One of them was even the "break into my house" clingy kind.
When I drove my BMW all the time, I had all kinds of trouble with women. I use to call it "the babe magnet." Now I realize it was more of a "bitch magnet."
Now that I drive a Jeep Wrangler around, I guess I am in somekind of cognito. I dress down a lot more too. The women I meet are cooler now...
It is a good thing there are a lot of different people in the world.
I feel if you are asked, they should pay... But I offer to pay half just because I feel rude not to. Although, 99% of the time, they pay it all, and are happy that I asked.
Who pays is not dependent upon gender, net worth or even the occasion. Responsiblity is, has always and will always be determined by who is hosting the outing.
Inviting someone to dinner andf then expecting your GUEST to pay for it is crass, no matter your guest's gender or financial status. The exception would be if you made it clear that the offer was dutch; offers such as "Care for a split-ticket date?" aren't likely to be well received, but one can always say "There's this new Italian place that I've wanted to try. If you happen to be headed there one night, give me a ring and I'll join you!"
He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche



If a guy asks me out but then we go dutch, I automatically assume that he isn't as interested in me as a guy who wants to pay for dinner.
As for guys getting women to pay in order to find out whether or not they are gold diggers - that's stupid. There are a variety of ways to tell if a woman is kind and giving without her offering to pay the bill. If that's the way men judge whether or not a woman is a gold-digger then they really don't know what to look for.
Let your indulgence set me free. - Shakespeare
i don't date...too many assholes out there...end of story...
Why do some people still have to fight...to get the same opportunities...that are given to others??...
Look out for self...because noone else will...AND
The greatest revenge in the world...is success...
Reclusivness...is a good thing.
In some respects, that article is very fair. Women are always pushing to narrow the gender gap but yet want it to remain there. I do believe a lady should be treated like a lady, but not a baby. For goodness sake, I love my independance and men respects it when you do as you preach i.e. act like you are their equal. So sure, I do get pampered but men are people too and deserve a little pampering as well.
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of all parallel lines that
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this pretty much hits the nail on the head. i agree 100%.Originally Posted by Lilith link=board=1;threadid=6129;start=msg67418#msg67418 date=1075191017
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