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    For the first time, I overheard a rude comment made about me by another dancer last night. I am courteous when I am at work, but I also keep to myself in order to not be involved in some of the BS that goes on b/n girls (I only work part-time, anyway, plus I live 85 miles away). I was on a side stage, and I heard and saw a girl point at me, saying something rude about me to a potential customer. I had a crowd surrounding my stage with guys lined-up at the stairway to personally tip me at the time, but I did catch what she said. Later, I passed her in the VIP room, and she wouldn't even look me in the eye, but as I walked by, I said, "Hey, the answer is...", but she totally ignored me and kept walking. I think I might have scared her up close like that, but I felt the need to say something to let her know I did hear what she said. It is one thing for people to think whatever they want, but it is totally rude and uncalled-for when customers, or especially other dancers, make rude comments out loud, and certainly in a way the object of the comment can hear it! The girl that made this comment is probably one of the homeliest girls in the club, which I had thought long before this incident, but I never comment to customers or other dancers on what I think about anyone's looks, etc. I'm just wondering if that's how this girl "stays in business"--by trying to dog all the girls at the club that she thinks look better than she does and in front of potential customers? It kind of makes me wonder what some of the dancers will really stoop to saying or inventing about someone else in hopes of making more money for themselves? Yet we wonder why dancers get a bad rap for being con artists! It's no wonder with girls like this one running around. Some girls are just really horrible people, and I guess that comes from the fact that maybe they just really don't like and aren't happy with themselves? I know I couldn't like myself if I acted like that, so I don't do things that would make me feel like a rotten person. How do other dancers deal with this type of situation? Thanks,

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    I'm sorry about that- It's a shame that it comes with the territory. It's good you stood up to her, at least now she knows that you are no doormat but always look her straight in the eye whenever you pass her - subtle hints like that make others back down and realise that you are a strong respectable person.

    I have only heard from a customer a girl apparently bitching about me but to be honest, I still have the suspicion he made it up.

    I have known for this to happen in a two-faced manner where girls are nice and when they're not at work or are busy etc, their 'friends' talk sh*t about them. It has resulted in girls getting fired and losing regulars. I don't dare get mixed up in that crap. Dancer jealousy is detrimental when it gets in the way of work.
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    I think you handled it perfectly. It was important to let her know that you heard and that you're not intimidated to say something directly to her. Now let it be. Just be aware her shittiness may increase. If it's any consolation, guys typically don't want to spend their money on some shit-talker, and a homely one at that.


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    Yes, I had the same thing happen to me..I was on stage..the club was quite empty and there was a table with guys at it and 3 girls sitting with them..staring at me on stage..no one was tipping me..the girls (who i never had problems with) were saying she's "Sooo skinny" to the guy's and knew I could hear them. The guy's thinking they were cool..were laughing and looking at me in disgust. These girls were much bigger than me 5' 8" to 5' 10" and 130 to 150 pounds..so of course I looked really really small...But you can see from my gallery photos..I don't look bad. I promptly stopped dancing that set walked off stage... talked to the manager..the girls got in deep shit because they were seen doing it as well. But it made them feel good and probably made them more money..and had been doing it for a long time..I just didn't know it. This type of crap go's on all the time in club...competition you know. I have never talked badly about a dancer ..EVEN when a guy say's something mean about one when I am talking to him. I usually say something positive..but that's just me.

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    All i can say is suck it in and get used to it, this probably wont be the last time, it's the nature of the job, you just happened to hear it.

    To avoid future problems inside the club, just ignore it. She was doing you a favour....Drawing attention to you!

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    Pamela is absolutely correct, and this is the main reason I stopped bouncing at stripclubs (and subsequent loathe to visit them for years). No matter what club you work at, there are always going to be a few of the back-stabbers, the psychotic jealous customer mongers, the substance-abuse Sally's, and the locker-room thieves.

    "Suck it up" is the best advice since friction is contagious and can really just amplify the situation. The bottom line is- there are going to be co-workers that cause problems and it can be dicey to the peace to try and correct this. On occasion, to the point of throwing others in the club (and bouncers) in the middle of it *cough*. It's lose-lose. You absolutely should stand-up for yourself, but my advice is to withhold/ignore or strategize it so as it's complete and with total closure per event. Anything lingering afterwards is usually like gasoline on a fire.

    And on the flipside- congratulations! You've pushed the jealousy button of a fellow dancer. This confirms your talent, beauty and charm as things others are jealous of. Booo them, go go you!
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    And on the flipside- congratulations! You've pushed the jealousy button of a fellow dancer. This confirms your talent, beauty and charm as things others are jealous of. Booo them, go go you!
    haha, exactly!

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    Ignore her as long as she is not saying things that will seriously affect your money or spreading something around that may get you into trouble with management. According to some coworkers, I'm a stuck-up, snotty bitch who thinks she's above everyone else. The few people who know me know a different story, so who cares what a few coworkers think.

    However, if someone started rumors about illegal activity at work and insinuate your involvement in it, like saying you dance dirty, do dates, do drugs or other illegal activities inside the club you have to stop "sucking it up" get the major players in the bullshit, yourself, and a customer or two who had heard what they were saying into the manager's office before you have a situation onyour hand. Certain rumors other dancers spread can get you sent to jail or fired because when a dancer talks in a club she never knows if she's talking to a regular everyday guy or an undercover cop. Feel free to ignore obvious jealous remarks about your appearance or personality, but keep your ears open for more serious stuff that could lead to problems along the line.
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    Only two words come to mind about the fellow dancer that spoke out of line about you:
    INSECURITY AND JEALOUSY

    Sad that you had to hear it, equally sad that there are girls who have to do this kind of thing to make themselves feel better...

    You are beautiful redhead.... and that's from one redhead to another!

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    yeah red,
    don't worry. it doesn't reflect on you at all, at least not in a negative way. dances both compete and work together at the same time, and the lines which separate those two categories become incredibly blurred when money is involved! you're beautiful, so keep smiling.

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    Red dont worry about it it happens to the best of us. I had women give me dirty looks and the works. Dont let them get to you.

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    Pam is absolutly right about it just drawing more attention to you. Just a couple weeks ago I actually had another dancer's negative comments about me make me $$$. Apparently, this girl brought me up in conversation to the customer, when she got up he called me over and said "Boy, is she jealous of you!" He saw right through her bs and wanted to get to know me, and why I made a beatiful dancer embarrass herself in a jealous fit. To whats-her-name, Thanks for the advertising, bitch!! LOL

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    Usually the sh*t-talkers are the ugliest ones. And everyone knows what the deal is with them. Remember, you're too busy taking their money to let their sad little thoughts bother you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine link=board=27;threadid=6327;start=msg138369#msg138 369 date=1089927947
    Usually the sh*t-talkers are the ugliest ones. And everyone knows what the deal is with them. Remember, you're too busy taking their money to let their sad little thoughts bother you.

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    I agree with the others, Redhead- don't let it get to you. You let her know you heard her, I'm sure she was embarassed.
    I'm the same way- even if I don't like another dancer, I'd NEVER say anything negative about her to a customer. If they pry for the details of a girl's private life, I just say, "I don't know her very well, but she's a very pretty girl." It's a classy response that doesn't encourage more questions.
    At my club, there's a dancer who thinks she is THE hottest thing ever. And she is cute- very skinny (some men think too skinny) and she dances well. I overheard her the other day saying to another dancer, "You're the only one here who's competition for me today!" Well, I looked at the dance sheet, and EVERYONE had more dances than she did that day. I guess the rest of us were a little more competition than she thought.

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    My wife has often said "I hate working with women...we're catty bitches."

    I can only imagine the frustration in a club.

    I suggest Jello wrestling and pillow fights.
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    By the way, someone dug up this thread. lol Its from February, and I dont know if the original thread starter still reads here? I havent seen her post in a long time. ?
    Either way, good advice.

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    Thats so fu*ked! I've had problems with this type of thing in the past. If I'm sure that someone is saying things about me to customers in order to prevent people from tipping me I confront them - people tend to back down and deny it when confronted. I acctually quite enjoy confronting people and watching them sqirm when I've overheard what they've said. I don't like violence, but I'm not afraid of anyone either so it's almost fun. I speak calmly and don't make a scene, if they can't handle it, they look stupid. I also make it known that I practice witchcraft and will hex anyone who does the wrong thing by me. I don't care how ridiculous that sounds to some people. - I've found that I have alot less hasstles since I've made that clear! :-D

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    be careful, you might get hexed back. (is hexed even a word? hehehe)


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    Just ignore the shit-talkers. The more you ignore them, the more it pisses them off. Most of the time, the girls who talk shit are the least attractive girls in the club. Like others have said, they are jealous and insecure, and they have to put down other people to make themselves feel better. It's easier said than done, but just keep smiling and act like their comments don't bother you.

    I've had girls talk shit about me many times just because I make more money than them. Hmmm, maybe it's because I'm friendly to the customers and they sit in the dressing room or out at the bar by themselves with a frown on their face all night long? I am usually smiling and looking like I'm having fun, and I act like their comments don't bother me. It's the best revenge.

    Customers hear enough bitching and complaining from their wives or girlfriends at home, so most of the time they're not going to spend money on someone who talks shit. They come to clubs to relax and have a good time, not to hear about drama between dancers. So girls talking shit can actually help sometimes because customers will be more inclined to spend their money on you, not them.






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    Most of the time the shit talkers are to busy to make money. They devote all their time talking shit....

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    Shit talkers are like nats at a BBQ, very annoying!!!

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