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    Do strippers ever feel intimidated by female customers? That is a weird question I know but when my girlfriend and I go to strip clubs, I NEVER get asked if I want a dance and neither does she. Really, we get no attention at all. My girlfriend IS truly gorgeous and I thought that maybe the dancers sometimes feel intimidated by the customers. Most probably, they just feel uncomfortable in the situation since a woman is with me. What do you think? I normally just ask for dances for both of us, but even after that the girls just immediately leave.

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    I do feel intimidated by female customers. I am not sure what they expect. It take a lot of extra effort on my part to feel my way through the interaction.

    Instead of dealing with just one man I'm dealing with what may be a family unit. That is a dangerous intersection where social mores and the socially unacceptable meet. If there are other customers to approach I will go to them first. Generally I only approach the couples when it is slow and choices are slim.
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    Gosh yes. I visit clubs alot in my area, i get all kinds of strange looks. And some ladies know i came from south Florida dancing...So i guess they think i may be looking for business or checking out the clubs stage, lights, contact, not really sure.

    However, i have never been asked for a dance, never as a customer. Kinda funny actually. But i mingle at my table, and sip water, my friends do more of course.

    Dunno, i think the reputation from dancing south Florida followed me up north Florida some, and the dancers might be afriad i will want more than they can give....Lol

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    It depends on the couple. With couples there are several problems that are very common:

    1. She doesn't want to be there, she's not comfortable, and she flips out when he gets a lap dance, or even looks at a dancer.

    2. They want you to come home with them. Usually for free. And they don't want dances.

    3. She is drunk and out of control and not even worth dealing with (this is becoming more and more common).

    4. She feels like she doesn't have to follow the rules (no touching) because she's a girl. I HATE this. How can a woman think that because she's a fellow woman she doesn't have to respect a womans body?

    Anyways, when you add all these factors up, I figure maybe one in four or five couples, depending on the club, is monetarily worth the time it takes to approach them and feel them out.

    Now, that being said, I do love some couples, and I'm known in my club for having a few couples as regulars. But it's always a risky time investment.

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    I also feel intimidated because often enough, girls from other clubs come in and are rude and talk shit...loudly! So I dont ever know what to expect either.


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    I think that Lena is absolutely correct. Either she doesn't want to be there or she thinks she gets special privledges... like she is a free pass to taking a stripper home. Or that because she is female, it's OK to stand up and flash the crowd.

    The last time this happened in my club, the girl on stage stopped and invited her up. Told her she was welcome to the job, but had to take it all off. Otherwise, sit down.

    In my experience, they just aren't worth the time.
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    Depends on the girl. I have been on both sides of the coin. Women who are so uptight that its impossible to even try to carry on a conversation (its just an excuse me and have a good night and leave the table) or women who are just so damn friendly that they end up buying a bunch of dances for them and their BF or SO.

    I've been propositioned and that always catches me as humorus. For some reason, I also get propositioned when I'm not at work and out with friends as well..

    I usually take things with a grain of salt anymore, I don't get intimidated unless the girl is really throwing out rude comments (I've had that happen). When the rude comments start getting thrown around, I will usually be my blunt self and say something not so nice back, but that's only been the case about twice. Once-this girl accused me of "seducing" her husband on stage... (Duh... that's what we do right?) and the second time a girl said I was too big for her liking (she however was about three times my size)...

    I view women as customers just as much as men. I have had women who have dropped a lot of money on me and I've had couples that have as well. As long as you are up front with the couples if the conversation goes to the "Will you come home with us", couples can be very fun to entertain. I have found that women who are "curious" in other women will come to a strip club just so that they can see if its something they may like to explore.. full well knowing that the girl at the club isn't going to go home with them, isn't going to judge them and will be very accomodating to giving them a nice experience without any strings attached. However, always state this so that they know you aren't coming home with them or their SO's.


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    They dont intimidate me in the slightest. I dont always go over and talk to the ladies because of bad expierences..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Brooke link=board=8;threadid=6403;start=msg96290#msg96290 date=1081875110
    I think that Lena is absolutely correct. Either she doesn't want to be there or she thinks she gets special privledges... like she is a free pass to taking a stripper home. Or that because she is female, it's OK to stand up and flash the crowd.

    The last time this happened in my club, the girl on stage stopped and invited her up. Told her she was welcome to the job, but had to take it all off. Otherwise, sit down.
    Hahaha! That's hysterical. What a wonderful response!

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    Odd, I'd think being a couple would mean both man, and woman, would be more respectful. I think women are going to clubs in greater frequency and certain social inhabitions are disappearing. I've gone to clubs with one ex-girlfriend and there was no problem. She didn't seem to keep any of the dancers from approaching me or us.

    It was just fun.

    Maybe it's a regional thing.

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    Well I am happy to say that I go to my local strip club (usually withOUT a man) and all of the dancers think it's funny because I tip better than ANY man there. I know how hard what they're doing is. Heck, once I even bought a dance from a girl just to let her go back in VIP and chill for a minute. Ain't NOTHING wrong with that!!
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    Like many other girls mentioned, I don't think it's a question of intimidation. I have had some good experiences with female customers or couples, but it's not the norm.

    Like Lena said, I've also noticed the trend of couples coming to strip clubs hoping to enliven their swinger lifestyle. For some reason, because a lot of people think dancers have a propensity to be bisexual or lesbian, couples think strippers would be more than willing to go home with them.

    Last night at work there was this couple who I sat down with because it was slow and seemed alright at first. Then she tried to lick me while giving me a tip onstage, went back to the table and she started grabbing his cock and making out with him....so I knew there was absolutely no reason to go back there, ugh...

    Some women however, are very cool and much much better than the guys...it just depends.
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    I go to clubs often w/ my husband. I really think it takes extra efforts on the female customers part-- to make the intial efforts. Quite a few dancers don't want to be bothered for the reasons above. So, you kind of get to put forth the initial effort to let the girls know you aren't going to fall into those categories.

    My husband and I go to the same place most of the time, and they have begun to get to know us. They know, we are good tippers, we are good for a few dances, neither of us gets drunk or stupid acting. So we get a lot of attention usually there, except when it's all new girls.

    Now the other night we hit up 3 new clubs and it was mixed reactions. So, sometimes alittle effort put forward is all that is needed. Keep going and you'll notice they'll come around.

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    By the way--- we've never propsitioned any dancer to come home w/ us or anything else for that matter. We aren't "swingers" we have fun at the clubs-- usually the girls are flirty w/ me--and it can make for some steamy sex when we get home, but we are never gonna take it further than that.

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    Kilee - You have the perfect attitude!

    If you are coming to DC anytime soon.... it would be refreshing to have someone like you in the club!

    I know that they exist - on occassion, we do have a couple that comes in once and a while and tips all of the girls, are generally friendly, and behave respectfully. It is how few and far between they are that is the problem.
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