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    Hi,
    I have been sort of dating this guy for only a few weeks, and Sunday night he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes. Problem is what to get him for valentines day.

    I've known him since August though not too well up untill recently, so I don't want to over do it. I have a feeling he's taking care of dinner and a movie, so I really don't know what to do. Here is what I know about him to sum things up: He loves Punk Rock (not the fluff you hear on the radio), he likes Spawn and has many of the action figures ( Hey, everybody has their thing, I don't want to feed into this one), He doesn't really like dirty thing's (porn is out of the question), but he is kind of on the romantic side. He's artsy, so I'm making him a card instead of buying it, but I want to do a little more. Oh, and he must be from outter space, because he has no sweet tooth what so ever.

    Now you know just about as much as I do with this guy. $ 50 is my limit, because I think it's too new to be spending a lot on him, he might feel the same way too. I know I would, and have in the past. Help me.
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    Default Re:I need a mans take on this one.

    Fawn,
    I am not a guy..lol But I do have some suggestions..
    The first is check eBay they have tons, tons of Spawn items and the other things your new guy is interested.. I got Spawn's complete animated series new for next to nothing. You can also check your local comic book stores..If he is artsy, you might also consider getting him a gift certificate from the local art supply store..
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    Default Re:I need a mans take on this one.

    I'm not a guy, but maybe I can help you...my boyfriend sounds somewhat similar to yours. He is impossible to shop for because he subscribes to antimaterialistic ethics to the extreme. For a wintertime present, I gave him assorted art supplies, including a giant canvas. It's not so romantic, but if your fellow is anything like mine, he might like a similar gift.

    I don't know...sometimes males make gift-giving way more difficult than it should be.

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    Your telling me. But hey, I just hope this guy turns out to be worth the trouble. And no calogn, already got him one for his B- day only a few weeks (2) ago. The art supplies sound ok. What would I get. Everyone else, keep the suggestions comeing.
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    Default Re:I need a mans take on this one.

    If someone is really into something (comics, art, cooking, computers, etc...) you might be tempted to get them something in that hobby, but it's trickier than you think. He could be very picky about which issues he wants, or in what condition they need to be, or what Spawn stuff he likes, etc. In this case a gift certificate to a store is better than trying to figure out exactly which Spawn action figure he doesn't have yet.

    I don't know about the other guys, but I can buy whatever materialistic things I want myself. The best gifts are either things I normally wouldn't buy or think of to buy for myself, or the ones money can't buy. I don't know how much you've told him already or how far along the relationship is, but a book about stripping that might help him understand the industry better and feel more comfortable with you could be very thoughtful. So could an 'artsy' book that you like and want to share with him. I typed 'punk rock' into an Amazon.Com search on books and got 8,000+ results. You could also try cooking him a nice meal, giving him a special 'intimate' night, or planning a suprise/romantic date (we like being on the receiving end of romance too).

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    Okay, I'm a hopeless romantic so hopefully my 2 cents are worth something. Gifts for bithdays and holidays and such are great, but for Valentines day, my belief is to do something more special than just another physical object to throw on a shelf or in a drawer. Some of the best gifts I've ever given, or received for that matter, didn't cost more than a few bucks. Depending on how "romantically" involved you are, here is one Idea.

    See if you can get him to tip his hand a little as to what his plans are for Valentines Day. Sometime this week, go to a spa or similar place that sells massage oil or a massage bar. Next, you have to recruit someone. Figure out about what time you'll be coming home from the dinner/movie and about 1/2 hour before then, have them come over your place and light a bunch of candles around the house and put on some nice music. When you two walk in, everything is taken care of...maybe even a corked and chilled bottle of wine by the bed, the massage oil, etc. The rest is self explanitory. Trust me, he'll remember a night like that for years.

    If being this intimate (again, not knowing what your relationship is like), there are other ideas too. Here's one I did for a girlfriend who is now my wife. I went to the store and bought about ten boxes of the cheapo valentines that come in a box. You know, the kind you give to classmates when you are in school. This will take you some time, but sign each and every one of them. Then mix them all up so they are random, and leave them everywhere around your house, his house, the car you will be traveling in, etc. Just make sure they are places everywhere you go on Valentines day. Carry some on you, and if he gets up to go to the restroom, have some on his seat when he comes back. At dinner, wander off and tip the food server $5 and have them bring your boyfriend's dinner to him with a valentine on top of it, etc. Don't overdo it too much, but it's a cute way to celebrate the holiday. Maybe even mix in some "love coupons" inside the mix too. You can go as adult as you like or as PG rated as you like...you know. "This coupon good for one ten minute backrub" etc.

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    Default Re:I need a mans take on this one.

    Get him a couple of graphic novels.

    League of Extraordinary Gentlemen 1 and 2 are some i'd suggest.

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    Default Re:I need a mans take on this one.

    i would get him anime, not the manga porn stuff but the intellectual type ie: ghost in the machine, akira, neon evangelion.
    if he like spawn he might like those. but anime dvds.

    oh and you could always make him a romantic dinner with you being the dessert!
    (he is a guy, food and sex are always winners!)
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    If he is into punk(thank the gods it's not the new crap..BLINK 182/RANCID IS NOT PUNK!) find out what a few of his favorite bands are and if you have acess to a cd burner burn him a custom cd or 2 featuring music by bands he likes.Or to be off the wall burn him som e old school punk cds without asking what bands he likes..I think it would show ya care without being overly sappy

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    Manga and anime flix are some of the best! But be careful...he may end up spending the entire day looking at them instead of you!
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    Just not Princess Mononoki.

    That flick bored me to stinging tears. It's got a five minute shot of plants growing at the end. Who wants to watch plants grow for five terrible, loooooooooong, full minutes?????

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    Well Fawn, you say he's an artsy-fartsy kinda guy so the making him a card thing is going to have good meaning in and of itself.

    For this kind of fella, it's all about the thought rather than the novelty, which kind of rules out anything commercially Spawn or Punk Rock. And as it's Valentines Day and not a birthday or xmas, gift level is more a token of fondness and love rather than exchange of item kind of thing. The made card idea is perfect, especially if throw in a little hand-sprung poetry to accompany it.

    For something extra, do something a bit more personal. Maybe find one of those local cartoon artists and setup an appointment after dinner for the two of you to have a Spawn-scenario poster made with you two as the main characters- some can work of photographs, so maybe drop off a face photo of both of you and have them make a real cool scenario. Or find one of those photo-studios that do custom things and have one made of yourself in either hard-core punk wardrobe or superhero/xmen/spawn outfit.

    The gifts with the most thought are always the ones that have the biggest impact. You should also try to recall conversations you've had and pick out any small, rarely mentioned things from which to draw from. The little things are what make the biggest impact.
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    A nice bottle of wine works for me. Or make it part of a romantic picnic.
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    If you really like him... (and you would be going out on a limb here)
    get him a candy chocolate heart.. about one pound.
    Actually Publix or CVS drugs have adequate ones. Fannie May Candies had good ones but they are about to close around the country
    and were out of heart boxes. I would perceive it as a meaningful gesture. You can give me the CD's for birthday or something.

    I mean valentines day is supposed to be romantic.

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    Default Re:I need a mans take on this one.

    Its probably just me, but since VD is about being romantic, its not really about giving gifts. Making him a card yourself is better than buying one though.

    In my mind, the best "gift" that a gal could give a guy on that day would be something that she could do, not something that she could buy in a store, but it sounds like you may not be that far enough along with the guy yet.


    Truthfully, something overtly sexual isn't really neccesary. Maybe its because of years of spending several February 14ths dateless, but I'd be perfectly happy with a gal taking the efforts to doll herself up, and go out for a nice dinner/movie/etc. and when the festivities are over, show me some genuine appreciation for the efforts I took to make that day special for her.

    A kiss at the end of the night would do wonders to the ego. Nothing store bought could really compete with that.
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    And in addition to oral, I kinda agree with Dancerwealth, in that traditional gifts are not the way to go.

    Instead, why not take him out to see one of his fave bands? Or to a gallery where they feature kind of art?

    Not only will you be doing something he obviously enjoys, but maybe it will capture your interest as well and you'll have that much more in common.


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    If you know the music he likes get him a CD or two. Any paraphenalia related to Spawn, T- shirts, jackets, etc. probably would be in good taste.

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    Every time we have gone to a book store (with me it's a lot) he asks if they carry "The Little Book Of Manners". It was his favorite childhood book, and his mother sold it at a garage sale. It's been out of print for 10 yrs. I was visiting a friend in the hospital, and guess what I found in the gift shop!

    So I've got a georgous home made card ( deep red velvet with gold fabric ribbon, though it is glued to pretty flimsy almost cardboard stuff), I don't know what to write. I just started dating him, I can't put that I love him or anything. So now what. The card looks great (I'm so proud of my self) and I've got the book. Oh, and he's a florist and loves his job, and though he doesn't like candy, I found these completely awsome brightly tropical colored flower shaped lolipop things, so I thought I'd mix those in with some baby's breath, and two or three real flowers. What do you think, will this make him feel like any less of a man?

    Is this enough? I feel like I should do more, but I'm not sure what. I love all the ideas, but I may try the one with leaving all the kiddie cards in places. It sounds fun, and not too sappy.
    More please,
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    It depends on how intimate you've been with him.

    One of the most best gifts I've ever received from a girlfriend was a $500 gift certificate to a lingerie store made out to her. In the blank space after "For:" on the check thing, she wrote: "You pick, I wear. No arguments. Only kisses." The only downer about this gift was I then totally lost interest in the meal after that point and mysteriously wanted to leave the restaurant right then. *laugh* If you do give this, be kind to him and give it to him after dessert.

    If you're not yet that intimate, get a small photo album. So small that only one photo can fit on a page. Have a friend then photograph you doing a photo play. End it with something real cute and loving. I got this from one girlfriend. We were in a long-distance relationship at the time. I lived 90 minutes away and we hooked up on the weekends. On Friday evenings, I'd always meet her outside of her workplace at a specific tree. Unless she had a horrible day, she's always burst out of the doors and run to me with open arms. Great way to start off the weekend. Anyway, this is where the photoplay started. She standing at the tree and then holding up a sign and that said "Follow". The camera then followed her in the building, up the stairs, on to the roof, and to the edge of the roof. She then pointed over the side of the roof. Down below was all her lab mates laying on the ground and they spelled out three words. I'll let you guess what those three words were. An absolutely lovely and cherished gift.


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    As the receipient of many unwanted presents over the years, I'd like to tell you that the book sounds perfect. By getting him exactly what he has been looking for, you are fuffiling his desires. When you give it to him you can say "I know you wanted this." Can you say that about any of the other ideas?

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    Fawn,

    Take it from me. The League of Extraordinary Gentlemen 1 and 2. Fuck the movie, the movie is a standard retard comic flick. The Graphic Novel borders on art.

    I bet you'd like it yourslf! Hell it's got Allan Quartermain as an Opium addict, NOTHING Allan Quartermain since the original work has that little tidbit in there (Everyone forgets it, Allen Quartermain was always meant to be a troubled hero, hence the Opium addiction).


    Here's betting Peter Pan shows up in #3. Maybe he'll even be a bad guy who ends up being a good guy (The onl;y way I can see Barry's Pan). Or Sherlock Holmes (He'd be like the League's Superman).


    Sheesh, i could go on and on about Victorian superheroes, but you'd just smell dork...

    Look, if the guy likes Spawn, he'll worship the ground you walk on if you buy him League of Extraordinary Gentlemen (Just forget the retard movie).

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    I think that if he's artist, you should go off of that, Buy a cheap canvas, some paints, and paint him a picture, if you not artistic, use funky shapes and colors, or make it abstract. think of what is important in your relationship and incorporate it into the painting. this way he knows its about him.

    just a side note: My wife and I wrote or own vows for our wedding. as a gift for the wedding she made a painting for me that incorporated everything she put in her vows. It is the most precious item i own.

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    Hmm, whatever suits him is fine, most importantly is having you as a girlfriend. Hmm, think I need one myself... :'(



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    Definitely something to wear - intimate gesture, but not too full on. Maybe a T-shirt from a shop like Lip Service or Vixens and Angels (I have seen them on the web, and I assume you are in the US) which has punk style stuff. Or maybe a woollen cap? How cold is it there right now?
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    Glad you found the book - that sounds perfect. Maybe in the card you could write, "Here's a little something you've been looking for...." Leaving him to assume that's the present, but also I think YOU I think the book, the card, and dressing up are present enough. I would skip the candy/baby'sbreath. Have a great time!
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