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    Default What makes a guy/girl good in the sack?

    I was out with about 6 guys this past weekend, having some drinks and the topic of sex/dating came up. They proceeded to talk along the lines of "so-and-so was such a great f-ck" etc etc. And I've heard my girl friends talk about how "this one guy was so great in bed."

    So this got me thinking, what defines someone a good f-ck? And what do you think makes hot sex? I have my own ideas but want outside opinions & ideas from both guys & girls here!!

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    Oh Yelle, you are definetely a hottie. Woohoooo
    If your into the girl girl thang, I'll teach ya a thing or two. oh, hell... nevermind. haha

    Seriously, though, I would say spontaneous sex is the best. When it gets all hot and heavy and ya JUST cant deny it. Thats when its great. But if you have some lame person who doesnt get into it and you or the other is doing all the work, then it may suck. Unless of course, its all about the kinky stuff.

    I would say someone who doesnt pay attention to your needs, or if you dont pay attention to their needs, sucks too. Give and take and its all good.

    I know theres a lot more, but I cant think of anything else right now.... hmmmm

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    Cool, I can finally let my prejudice fly LOL.

    Women- It's next to impossible to find anyone 26 or under that is a knock-out in the sack. It's like 95% of them just have no clue what's going on. In the 30+ crowd.. major difference... I'd say 95%+ of the 30+ women are absolute dynamo's. Obviously, there are exceptions- but for the most part, younger women just pale by comparison. I think it has much to do with exposure to orgasm (both kinds) as well as volume.. which due to the clueless male coefficient, this process can take years. LOL.

    Guys aren't so lucky.. you can find completely clueless bed ninnies on up to their 40's and 50's, but by the same token you can find some guys that know how to "get it right" from a young age and it stays with them. For the most part, the majority of guys are also pretty clueless for a great deal of their sexual lives (say 17-26 also), and can only change this with an interest and study. Exposure and lessons from lesbians a big plus (still working on my full lesbian certification.. almost there heh).
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    Good f-ck = attractive (both physically and personality-wise), eagerness, quick attention to the other's needs, intuitiveness, willingness to experiment, a desire to please, passion, raw animalism, healthy (so they're not worn out after only a couple hours of sex), experience (in other words, they know what they're doing), and a fine-tuned and healthy dose of selfishness (a.k.a. they want it BAD).

    Hot sex = all the above except passion. Replace "passion" with "MASSIVE PASSION".

    And the best sex is started outside the bedroom ... or wherever the act eventually takes place. I love the discreet tease. Discovering during a night out dancing that where once there was panties under that micro-skirt or micro-dress there isn't anymore. The pulling of one to and even into the other when others aren't looking. Heavy deep breathing when you're close together. Discreetly sensually touching each other. And if you're lucky to be doing this with more than one bisexual woman, them playing a sort of tag team teasing you on this. When this happens, we've never made it home. Passion wouldn't let us wait that long.
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    LOL PC!

    I had a Lesbian teach me how to, er, perform Cunnalingus!

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    Default Re:What makes a guy/girl good in the sack?

    1 word:
    ENTHUSIASM!!


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    Chemistry. strong sexual tension, passion and attention to detail......... oh and some great oral!

    Seraya.


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    a guy that will last more than 5 min ( the avrg, time for a female to reach orgasm is 15 min) a guy that can wait to have one with you is what i like. and will lissen to you when you say what you need to have one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by polecat link=board=1;threadid=6540;start=msg72403#msg72403 date=1076491457
    but by the same token you can find some guys that know how to "get it right" from a young age and it stays with them.
    PC, you could've just said, "by the same token, there's also Sandy...."

    I think its all about maximizing the efficiency of resources. I know it doesn't sound all that hot and steamy.... basically, you find what you're good at, and you make it your speciallty, while at the same time building on your shortcomings. and ofcorse, COMMUNICATION is key. everyone likes things differently. its best when people communicate and find out what their partner(s) want, like, need.

    in conclusion. I'm a good lay.

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    haha Sandy said what I was gonnna say. Communication. You gotta be able to say what you want and the other person damn well better hear.

    I agree with polecat too. Some guys have this certain finesse and some just never will.

    Gals, don't ever reveal the exact number of guys you've been with. Your man really does not want to know. He might say he does, but he really doesn't.


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    extreme mutual attraction + lots of enthusiasm + spontaniety + a little bit of rough play = fiery, passionate, amazing sex. from my experience..hehe...

    hot sex is epitomized by the sex scenes in "Unfaithful".

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    Quote Originally Posted by seraya (london) link=board=1;threadid=6540;start=msg72457#msg72457 date=1076503277
    oh and some great oral!
    definatly!!!

    useually you can tell how good they will be by how they kiss.

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    I believe what makes a good lover in bed as far as guys are concerned is someone who refuses to gratify himself before his lover is satisfied, who realizes that it's both give and take, and doesn't objectify her or look at her as a mere vessel. Besides that, it's someone who lasts a decent amount of time, and is always up for something new to try (place, toy, position, etc.)
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    Willing to have a very open mind. Experiment with MANY different positions! Forever changing and trying new things! And above all it helps to have a partner who you realy care about!

    Sex comes in many forms.

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    i'm gonna sound VERY vanilla here.....

    but for me, the best sex is with someone i love, and who loves me in return. soft, sensual touching that builds up into the frenzied animalisitc/ passionate level. or roll-playing....that turns me on too.

    and then there are those times when i just want to be playful and carefree

    but most of all, i'm a complete romantic at heart

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    I agree with the post about kissing. You can definitely tell a lot about how someone will act in bed from the way that they kiss.

    I think the thing that makes someone a good lover is not how much they already know about pleasing women in general, but how much they are willing to learn about pleasing ME.

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    What makes a guy/girl good in the sack?

    For me:
    -Someone who is totally into the act, horny, and having fun, and is into you instead of just pleasing themselves

    -A guy has to last longer than 5 minutes to be good in the sack

    -Someone who is willing to try new things, doing the same thing over and over again can get boring.

    -Lots of foreplay, not just wham, bam, thank you ma'am :wink:






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    Quote Originally Posted by sander8son link=board=1;threadid=6540;start=msg72480#msg72480 date=1076510027
    PC, you could've just said, "by the same token, there's also Sandy...."
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    in conclusion. I'm a good lay.
    No offense sanders, but of all the women I'm in confidant, friend relationships with, they all profess that every single guy that is self-declared as "all that" in the sack are the most clueless when it comes to love making.

    It's a circular propensifying pathos though as they also admit these are the guys that they pour on the extra zest in the Emmy Award Performance category in order to not sour or bruise the guy's self-image... reinforcing the pathos for another day.

    This is one of the many "female logic" things I've never gotten any rational resolution from in my many discussions. Why would they point out Jocko- the male body-builder and self declared Zen Love Master as being truly pathetic in the sack and one who "licks like they're painting a fence and screws with the eloquence of a sewing machine needle", yet confess to giving them the illusion to strengthen this while telling everyone else BUT him the truth?

    I'll just keep stirring my coffee and nodding..
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    You all have great points here & have many different/similar perspectives. For me, a guy who is good in bed is passionate, enthusiastic, lasts long enough so I can get mine & who can work me like a 9 to 5... (Sorry, I am listening to a Christina Aquilera song, in case anyone recognizes those "lyrics" lol).

    I want to hear more answers from guys here!! What makes us girls a good lay? What keeps y'all coming back for more, man? lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yelle link=board=1;threadid=6540;start=msg72621#msg72621 date=1076533145
    I want to hear more answers from guys here!! What makes us girls a good lay? What keeps y'all coming back for more, man? lol
    *laugh* Ok, here's something I didn't include in my previous post. Be vocal and active. Nothing throws a wet blanket faster on my passion more than a silent motionless woman. One that has you do all the work. One that lays there and just stares back at you. Facial expressions are fine, but if noise and action don't accompany it, it turns me off. I feel like I'm screwing a side of beef. This is why I constantly move these women on top so they become more active. And moaning isn't all I'm talking about as far as being vocal. Tell me what feels good, tell me what you want, tell me to stop doing this-or-that, and, most of all, tell me that you want me and/or sex. Nothing's better than a woman screaming "F-ck me!" over and over. *laugh*

    As I know women love to hear us guys talk to them passionately, it surprises me how many women don't think us guys want to hear that as well. Now some of this can be blamed on habits learned when you didn't want people in the next dorm room to know what you're doing, but you've got to break those habits. And when you do ... when you communicate your desires and animal feelings, you'll take sex to the next level.

    And when you communicate, let them know what kind of communication you want to hear from them and ask what kind they want to hear from you. One lady friend was a so-so lay until I got her to open up. Turns out that she wanted to me growl like an animal. Did I? You bet I did. Did it seem silly at first? Oh yes. Probably the silliest thing I've ever done. However, my opinion quickly changed when she REALLY got into it then. From that moment on, I was Beast Boy in bed with her. *laugh*

    Oh, and if you and a female friend are not both bisexual or at least bi-curious, do NOT do a threesome or moresome. Some guys' egos like this stuff, but I find it just too weird. As the guy you end up having to be sure to be equal in everything you do to each and everything depends on you doing it. Ugh. That's accounting work and not sex play. Now, yes, you improve your odds of getting a guy if you pitch you and your best friend to him, but don't unless both of you are bi or bi-curious.

    As for what would keep me coming back, that's simply a good relationship between us. Then again, we'd have to have one to start with since I'm not into one-night-stands with strangers. But that's just me. I know most guys take whatever they can get ... whenever they can get it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bloodydewdrop link=board=1;threadid=6540;start=msg72559#msg72559 date=1076523634
    i'm gonna sound VERY vanilla here.....

    but for me, the best sex is with someone i love, and who loves me in return. soft, sensual touching that builds up into the frenzied animalisitc/ passionate level. or roll-playing....that turns me on too.

    and then there are those times when i just want to be playful and carefree

    but most of all, i'm a complete romantic at heart
    Then what was last saturday? I thought it was fantastic the way I gave my all and made sure my sadistic cravings were satisfied at your expense(BTW I love the way you beg....)lol

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    I realized at a young age that I'm not all that good looking so in order to have sex I better be damn good at it, or be able to convince my partener I was,lol.
    So every lover I had I made sure that they taught me something..wheither it be how to kiss seductively,nibble just right or what. I have found that if you ask a woman to show you how to make her feel good in bed they Will.it's getting them to stop afterwards that seems to be the problem.
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    not all that good looking?! Personally I think you look like you would be GREAT in bed!!! You're hot stuff!
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    On a brighter note, ladies- don't be afraid to make a diagram for those self-professed love-guru's.. it might actually help!
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