I've actually run into this issue with a few dancers who have come through our classes. The underlying issue with guys telling dancers, "you are just too beautiful for me" is actually nothing with the dancer. Trust me ladies, take this as a complement in disguise because it really is. The issue here is with the customer.
In many "blue collar" clubs, you have to take a closer look at who the customer is and what their background is. Most of the guys are generally in positions of doing labor-tasks all day. Construction, warehouse, etc. These are usually guys who are not watching MTV, VH1, or the E! Network. They may occasionally watch a rerun of Baywatch, but are not usually watching programs where beautiful women (models, rock stars, acressess) are shown very much. As a result, they are more used to seeing "beauty" as a woman with a few extra pounds, hair that looks nice, but not modelesque, etc. What some guys would consider a 7, these guys would consider a 9 or a 10. So when a true "10" walks along (I hate to use these types of number values, but it's just for the sake of making a point) they feel overwhelmed. They feel outclassed and are dealing with a lot of self-confidence issues. Generally speaking, very beautiful women are not who they ask out very often because they feel way too intimidated. So when one approaches them, they feel outclassed.
Now, there are different ways as a dancer that you can deal with this. The first is to just suck-it-up and move on, OR you can use it to your advantage (which is what I'd suggest). If you really do hear that comment often, my suggestion is don't make yourself up to be a "10". I know a lot of models who I would consider to be extraordinarily beautiful, but not until they have the right outfit on, thei hair done incredibly well, makeup perfect, etc. Many supermodels look just like another pretty face when they are standing in line at the bank in their sweats.
My advice would be to tone it down just a bit if you are hearing that comment often in a club as described. There is a reason that you'll never see a car dealership that is a Hundai, Kia, and Rolls Royce outfit. You don't always want to be the Rolls Royce in every circumstance in this business. Perhaps looking like a Lexus or Cadillac is actually better. Toning it down just a bit will make you relate more to the clientelle you are dealing with.
A good friend of mine owns a video production company here in Las Vegas with his wife. His wife is a "10" by most guys' standards. She was actually a Dallas Cowboy's cheerleader for a few years about 7 years ago. She does a lot of modeling work now, but when she's not, she's running the business with her husband. She's extremely smart in the ways of video production and camera operation. She can rig lights, setup equipment, hold microphone booms, etc. When they first started doing this as a business though, nobody took her seriously looking the way she does...nice hair, nice makeup, etc. In this line of work, she's dealing with union workers who think a woman's job is barefoot and pregnant in the trailor park. She told me she used to go home crying from a video shoot sometime because of the ways the guys on the crew wouldn't respect her. SO, she got smart. Now, when they are doing a shoot, she wears dirty Levis, baggy shirt, hair simple, virtually no makeup, and a ballcap turned backwards. She fits right in now. Is she any less pretty? I'd say no, but she changed to suit her environment more and that was the trick.




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I think that is much better than "you are too ugly to be stripping..."


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