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    I just read a thread regarding a dancer's experience with a customer at her club--she said that the guy called her over just to say her shoes didn't do it for him. I once had a customer say to me, "You don't impress me!" I thought that he could have said that in a more tactful manner, like in other words. But if it was meant as an insult, what DO you say to a customer like that?

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    I would say the same thing back at him. Someone without tact doesn't deserve any more of my time nor does he deserve the nice me... it doesn't bother me that one or ten club customers out of 40 I don't impress.. there are the other 30 to work on who I do impress.

    If I'm in a more tolerant frame of mind I will say "To each their own.. I might not impress you however there are other people in this room that might be impressed by me. Besides, your lack of tact has shown me why you are here ... you can't impress anyone outside of this club." Then I will walk away and not go near that guy for the rest of the time he is in the club.


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    "Apparently darling, I've made quite an impression on you as you've taken time from your OBVIOUSLY busy social schedule to let me know how you feel. (pause) If you work a little harder you might make a favorable impression on ME."............Wink, smile and walk away.
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    Laugh and say " Oh, you must be under the impression that I value your opinion. Let me assure you sweetie that I do not." Give him a withering look as you shake your head and walk away

    Some people just aren't sure how to invite a person into there sphere positively. When I'm in a generous mood I might try to turn the conversation around, but if I'm in bitch mode, well then baby thats what you are gonna get!
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    I just simply remind myself that anywhere, other than my job, I would not give this asshole the time of day. Whoopty Whoo, so you dont impress him! Unless he's paying your bills, which is highly unlikely, who cares.


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    Ugh if someone said that to me, I'd be annoyed to but I'd say something to make them feel even worse.
    Dont take it personal, actually, some guys like to do that kind of thing. Gives them some sort of power feeling, like he can degrade you. Whateeeever.


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    He is just trying to get a rise out of you, or hurt you. I would just walk away and ignore him. Don't waste your time saying anything.

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    I agree with all the responses above - and in fact last weekend a similar thing happened to me. The lady I was hired to do the show for was telling the rest of the party in her native tongue that she didn't think I was hot :'( (not exactly those words, but similar). She did not realise I understood what she was saying, so I just carried on with the show, knowing that I was only minutes from finishing and that a nice wad of $ was waiting for me at the end.

    Truth is, I KNOW I'm not every girls cup of tea, and 9/10 times I can get them going crazy - but this stuck in my head all week. I believe it's because we're so vulnerable doing what we do, and when arseholes say shit like that they know they are in a position to wound, or at least in some kind of power place that allows them to say shit like that (so they think).

    I have said in other posts before that I know that female stripping is way different to male stripping, but in this case, there is a similarity, and unfortunately not a simple solution. Maybe ignoring the remark or that person really is the best we can do . . .
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    This guy obviously can't say those things to his loved ones (if he has any) so saying them to a stripper makes him feel good. So don't lose any sleep over this.



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    I believe it's because we're so vulnerable doing what we do, and when arseholes say shit like that they know they are in a position to wound, or at least in some kind of power place that allows them to say shit like that (so they think).
    Chad, this is exactly my feelings...
    i know it is just me in this place doing this for the money in his pocket... and no it is not. since this is what i like to do. ilike to dance, i like to show. and like to be liked in what i do.
    so if such remaks come - and they do come, maybe on the outside i will be cool like he is not getting to me and i can do that and ignore him but after such an insult i will go fishing for compliments and every nice and respectful word that night will make my day. well - maybe this comes to you with the yrs. i got better at dealing with this already

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    I don't even think about it, I just walk away. People who are negative or aren't giving me money aren't worth the thought it would take to respond.

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    I hated guys like that. They come to the club to make themselves feel better by bashing the hot girls there. They can't say something like that to the women they work with because....well it's "sexual harassment" in the real world. They are sooo pissed because their lives suck...they try to get power over a dancer because let's face it..we have power in that situation.

    I like the married guys (the ones with the rings..lol) who try that shit.

    HIM: HA!..You don't impress me!!

    ME: Well hun..Apparently YOUR pathetic wife doesn't impress you either..that's why your here staring at me.. LOSER!!

    Giving him a laugh and the finger as I walk away!!

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    Don't say a word just flip em the bird and keep moving
    You get what you put up with

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    He sounds like a Shania Twain fan..."That Don't Impress Me Much"
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    This Shit Happens Everywhere: Case in Point, bellydance.

    Woman customer came in last night, gave me a nasty look (I was in costume) and asked the owner of the restaurant, "who the hell is she?" Owner answers, I get another snide look, and customer sits down.

    I go to her area to dance, another dirty look, this time she says, "you're too skinny!" and I get another snide look, so I leave, still smiling....

    Dance again in that area later. This time customer has a male date with her. Yet another grimace, and she knowingly tells her date, "she's cheating....she is wearing elastic on her finger cymbols but she is supposed to wear strings, which makes you have to get it JUST RIGHT." I smile and say..that's actually for castanets, which are different. Another lemon face, "oh really??" She obviously does not believe me because she is the expert..I dance away overhearing her talk more shit about me to her date......still smiling....


    I laughed about it on the way home with my skinny abs, hot boyfriend, and wad of cash....meow!!!....still smiling

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    Katrine, awesome LOL
    She was obviously just jealous... "You're too skinny???" I would have laughed an said, "Better than being too fat, or too jealous"
    Good for you, that you didnt let it get to you.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Nina link=board=1;threadid=6639;start=msg73973#msg73973 date=1076837447
    "Apparently darling, I've made quite an impression on you as you've taken time from your OBVIOUSLY busy social schedule to let me know how you feel. (pause) If you work a little harder you might make a favorable impression on ME."............Wink, smile and walk away.
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    Laugh and say " Oh, you must be under the impression that I value your opinion. Let me assure you sweetie that I do not." Give him a withering look as you shake your head and walk away

    Some people just aren't sure how to invite a person into there sphere positively. When I'm in a generous mood I might try to turn the conversation around, but if I'm in bitch mode, well then baby thats what you are gonna get!

    I like your approach Nina..
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    Please see my "Some men are idiots" thread for my opinioon on this topic. :wink:

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    lol, katerine, you go girl

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    Well, if I remember correctly, I ignored him. It was actually a long time ago that that happened. I just wanted to know what you guys would do in that situation, so that in case I have the privelege of dancing again and something like that comes up, I'll have some idea of what to do! By the way, Katrine, bellydancing! Cool!

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    grrr, what a bastard. if someone ever said that to me i'd be like, "if i cared, i would have asked you." and walk away....but id be strongly fighting the urge to smack him.

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    Two words: Insecure Asshole.


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    i was just thinking if that guy was so impressive, why was he at a club in the first place? being impressive himself he should have women wanting to throw there selves at him all the time!

    can i be that impressive some day? when im skinnier?
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    "You don't impress me"....I may not impress YOU, but judging by the drool on that guys chin OBVIOUSLY I impress Him so bite me!of course thats not how I would handle it but hey I tried to put myself in someone elses shoes and be a kinder gentler son of a bitch...MY choice would have been to say "and yer fuckin point ya empty wallet,no style having poor excuse for a sperm carryin jagoff"then smacked him with a bottle, but thats just me and its another reason why i d.j and not dance(besides the obvious one being a guy,lol)

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    BLADE-are you quoting "Get Down Make Love" in your signature?

    As for mean guys, I stick my tongue out at them and tell them to shut their cockholster. Or I say "Shut up or I'll put my cock in your mouth!"

    Who cares what they think of me at that point? Rude guys don't like it when suddenly the laugh is on them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lestat1 link=board=1;threadid=6639;start=msg74091#msg74091 date=1076878756
    He sounds like a Shania Twain fan..."That Don't Impress Me Much"
    LOL...that's so funny...I read the headline for the thread and that song ran through my head...heehee

    Personally, I don't think that you should even bother dealing with them. Not even to say anything nasty back. Just let it roll off of your back. In fact, I had this happen to me once and I actually made money off of it. A guy was being rude and I just walked away without causing drama or a scene, so another guy called me over to say that he thought that was really commendable. Bought 2 dances and gave me a $40 tip. Nice.

    Sometimes what you don't do says more than what you DO do.

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