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    Hey everyone... I have a situation and I would love your advice!
    I am form Australia and spent 6 months of last year in Canada where I met a guy. We fell in love etc etc.... only thing I didn't realise how much I cared about this guy till I arrived home. Its been 3 months now and I miss him more as the days go by. He feels the same way. I will spare you all the soppy details bottom line is we want to be together. We have looked at all our options and 2 are very drawn out and costly (the marriage thing and the general work visa) taking anywhere from 6-18 months to come through and costing between $2000-$4000can. That is for him to come here. The other option is for me to get an open working visa which will only cost me $180nz and take between 2-6 weeks and go back to Canada till we can figure things out.
    So I guess I'm asking.... Am I crazy? Should I do it? Any advice?
    He truely is the most wonderful man I have ever met and treats me better than I could ever have hoped.... he is willing to pay all my costs to get back etc... I guess I just need re assurance that I am doing the right thing.

    Thanks for listening guys (and gals)
    krys xo

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    No I don't think you're crazy at all!!!! It's GREAT that you found someone that makes you feel like that! As long as you can honestly afford it, do it! If you do and it ends up not working out, then at least you know you tried. If you don't, you'll always wonder.
    "You did then what you knew how to do; when you knew better, you did better" ~Maya Angelou

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    I'd say that it all sounds great!!! If you both feel the same, why dont ya just come on down!!!!!!
    Awww I love that kinda of mushy stuff heheh

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    Oooh. If it's not that expensive for you to go to Canada, and especially if he's willing to pay for it, why not? From what some dancers have said, dancing in Australia is not all that lucrative anyway.

    Good luck, hon, and keep us posted.

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    Do what your heart says.
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    I say go for it if you both feel the same way. You'd be crazy not too.

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    You only live once. Why have to worry about looking back in 10 years and saying "If only we had given it a shot." I say "Go for it!" Canada is also very immigrant friendly, so going there may be your best option.

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    Normally I would refrain from posting on a mushy thread about love(I'm married, love doesnt exist anymore,lol)But......I never know when to keep my big mouth shut so here goes...
    Go For It!!!You never know when or where love will hit ya and if you pass on the chance to be with some one you love, it may destroy any future attempts at love because in the back of your mind will always be the question..what if I had gone??
    just my 2cents

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    Some very nice statements on this thread...I agree with them. Give it a chance! Be with him...
    Like the car, I'm exotic, erotic, and expensive....

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    I second what everyone is saying..If you have the funds to do it then by all means go for it..
    Keep us informed of your decision.
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    Move to Canada and give love a chance. Don't give up your citizenship though until AFTER you get married.
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    GO FOR IT!!!!!!!!!

    I am currently in the same situation ( kinda ) ...... i met and was seeing a wonderful guy when i went to the states 3 years ago.... when i came i knew he was something special but thought maybe i was just being silly and that all it really was, was a holiday romance.....anyway we kept in contact but just remained friends because he didn't seem all that interested in a long distance relationship.

    Well he came to London last month and all i can say is.... i had one of the BEST times of my life! .... we got it together for real and it was soo wonderful! I am now going back to see him and my family in NJ next month for 4-6 weeks .... we talk everyday and i miss him sooo much!

    So now i will be moving to the states at the end of the year to go to school..... i was going to move to NY but i have now decided to move to NJ where i will be closer to him and go to school in NY instead.

    Anyway its not exactly like your situation but all i can say is of he makes you happy well then its worth a shot! If there is anything i have learn't these past 18months its to not let any great opportunity pass me by!

    GOOD LUCK!

    Seraya.



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    I'm with the others, go for it, even if it means moving back to Canada



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    Fuck it! I am gonna do it! Thanks for all the support guys

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    Follow your heart.


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    Go Krys! Good luck!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by krys link=board=1;threadid=6685;start=msg74814#msg74814 date=1077069794
    Fuck it! I am gonna do it! Thanks for all the support guys
    Good for you keep us informed !!
    My new love...is me !

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    Oooh...a mushy love story!! I LOVE it!

    Make sure you keep us informed of all of the details!! Be safe during the move and just go with your instincts.

    YAY!!!

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    DO IT!! But dont give up your citizenship, they are never easy to get back, just in case... Good Luck, I am very happy for you!


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    Gee krys, I hate to be the one dissenter. How long have you known this guy? If he's really that great why doesn't he pitch in his share of the expenses?
    I've known people that were brought over on fiance' visas , fulfilled the time requirement , then divorced their mate as soon as the period expired.
    Marriage isn't something you rush into. It takes time to know another person. Don't worry ,if you trully are in love then it will pass the test of time.

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    Oh we aren't getting married yet! I am applying for an open one year work permit which I should get with very few dramas... marriage was one of the options but we both decided against it because we want it to happen naturally and not just for the sake of us to be in the same country. Marriage is special and we will do that when we are ready... that is why I am going back there instead of him coming here.
    Hopefully he will be here in April for a month and then we are going to return to Canada together... its taken me ages to find a guy like this, I am so excited!

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    Aww im happy for ya!

    Its also great that you can get an open working visa for the year ( mmm why don't they do this in the states, anyway ) and not have to commit to marriage....

    Good luck hun !

    Seraya.


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    hello sweetie, how did last night finish up?? Hey thats a pretty sweet sorty and you didnt tell me it ALL last night! So thats y your deserting leigh and I?! lol I think you should go for it too and ill tell you every nite I work with you! (cant believe we both on SW! funny!)
    Youve never really seemed happy here so maybe thats what you need...we still love you though!

    BTW Whens your pole comp. heat? who you up against??

    Many Kisses, Bella (yay)

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    Hey Bells, hehe I still can't believe we both use stripperweb thats so cool.
    (just for the rest of you me and Bella work together and found out that we are both uses of stripperweb last night, it was pretty exciting! )
    Yeah so I am deserting you guys again But it gives you both a good excuse to come to Canada!
    Mum recieved all the forms for my visa and is sending them in from NZ on Monday... so it will take 2-6 weeks till it is processed and then I will be off....................................
    xo

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    Awwwwww. That's awesome. I think you should do it otherwise you'll always wonder...what might have been. The only thing i would consider first.... not to be a pesimist or anything.... but make sure you're not going to get home sick or have things here that are important to you... family, college friends etc... otherwise you might end up resenting him in the long run if things don't work out. Just go slow... 6 months really isn't that long.... make sure he's definately the one before you get married!!! All that really matters in life is if you're happy or not and it definately sounds like you are.... I wish you well.

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