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    Default trying to make more money

    can anyone give me advice?
    I have been working for about six months now and I still, for some reason, feel a little unsure of what talk about with the more "upscale" customers (meaning the guys who are well educated with money, personality & character could be another story). Not to sound conceited or anything, but I know that I am a beautiful girl, so my only problem is that I come from a different backround and I sometimes feel a little intimidated and unsure of what I should say. I would really appreciate some advice, thanks.

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    Default Re:trying to make more money

    Just use "small talk" subjects that you would use with anyone. These are superficial subjects that help you start a conversation and then allow it to flow from there.

    Most of the time, these guys won't lord it over you that they have money and you do not. Just chat with them as you would anyone else. Find out there interests, likes and dislikes..etc.



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    Being a better conversationalist takes practise. Get interested in the world around you and you will have more to talk about. I read the newspaper regularly, am in school, and subscribe to like 8 magazines, and try to read a novel every two weeks. I keep up on all the funny hit shows as well. I always have stuff to talk about!
    I memorize funny jokes, talk to people about when they were young and just basically gab about a guys shoes, hair, wallet, fav drink, family, job, vacations, where he's lived.......I don't know if this helps you, but there are a million things to talk about, it just takes practise.
    When I first started I used the same routine and questions/compliment strategy with basically each guy. Just make the guy feel interesting and wanted.
    I first started out in a club with really loud music, after a few shifts I just couldn't take it! I am a talker. I moved to somewhere more upscale where talking=cash.

    Don't ever feel intimitated. You are the boss, you are the hot naked piece of ass that these men have to PAY to look at. Maybe you need to work on your confidence a bit. Sexiness is all about confidence.
    A charming, confident girl can talk about her outfit and hair (though not in a ditzy way), and keep an uptight, wealthy man drooling in his business suit.
    Hope I helped a little.....Good Luck!!!
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    If you're working in an upscale club and in order to make money your hustle is in conversation than just relax. Everyone is right, it's all about confidence. Knowing what's going on in the world is huge!!! But if you know sports, stocks, anything about corporate world, or you could even look to him for guidence.

    For some reason a powerful/successful man likes 1 of 2 woman...dominant or very submissive (almost weak). If you're having a tough time being the dominant woman stay away from this man because in the vip room it'll be a nightmare! And that is where the danger lies...it's in the manipulation.

    If you can hit it off with a guy who has the dough and seems like he's gentle enough that you can spend time talking to him ask him for guidence. I've seen men sit with girls who act like they don't know their ass from their elbow and get all kinds of life advice...real estate, school, career path, investments, etc. They like to help sometimes, plus it establishes there is a realness to you. Somewhat accessible...pretend you are.

    Good Luck!

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    Wow, that hit a cord with me. I work in an upscale club and it is amazing to me how many business men like the idea of being dominated, or spanked, or being "naughty". there are also the ones who are dominant themselves and prefer to "tell me how it is" and help me with my problems. Interesting, i havent got it all figured out, the more I relax and just watch and listen the more I learn about what these men like and will tip for.
    4footfine, I could so relate to what you wrote, just wish I understood it better.

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    Get out and do some things not related to dancing (if you aren't already) Take yourself out to a play, visit a museum or gallery opening, have lunch at a 5 star restaurant......Once you see yourself as part of the other side then it may not seem so intimidating to you. These guys aren't here to talk about the stock market or the political future of China with you (though if you are familiar with these things it may make yu feel a bit more worldy and at ease with them), they want a confident interesting woman to relax and feel good with. Be honest and relaxed--don't try to be what you aren't and they will enjoy your company just as much as any other guy would.
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    Talk with them about what you feel like they want to talk about this is easy by starting by asking them something about themselves and listening to what they say. like what are your hobbies work ect. As for your backround you are an actress what ever they want give it to them you can be snobby, cute ,goddess ,slut whatever that is the fun of this job .You will be fine.
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    Also alot of guys like playing the role of rescuer to a beautiful young poor girl.Its the whole sugar daddy charming knight thing dont worry about it.Good luck
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    I totally know your nervousness with talking to upscale gentlemen. Sometimes the best thing to do is just let them talk. Sometimes they just want someone to listen to them. Try to smile as much as you can and nod your head without overduing it. I used to feel apprehensive about talking to customers and still do sometimes. Usually the safest bet is asking him where he has traveled and get him talking about anything! If you can't think of anything to say ask him what clubs in town he has visited and what he thinks of them. If he is not from town ask him if he knows of any good clubs in his area you would like to travel and dance to. You should never talk to a customer longer than two songs to sell your first dance anyway so mabey you can strech out this conversation untill you are ready to ask him if he wants to have some naked fun!

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    you can never go wrong talking about "them"

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    Read up on things going on around you. Get a book on how to be a good host and how to work a room. Hey you are a host working the room. You'll learn to gauge guys on what they're in the bar for. Then you charm and move in for the kill.
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    Bimbo act works for me!!!

    I come from an immigrant turned middle-class background. I don't know about fine watches, yachts, and cotillions. My daddy never belonged to a secret society, and there is not "old money" in Russia unless you count the royalty, and they got their good ransacked.

    This actually keeps me from trying out at some of the hoity-toity clubs. I think I am very classy, but money can smell money.

    But still, those big-spending guys can talk about this stuff with their frigid wives and golfing buddies. They want you to talk to them about sex, drugs, and rocknroll, like a good little slut!

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    The closest thing I have seen to being a right response is the suggestion that you talk about what he wants to talk about. The art is to figure out what that is.

    I am personally tired of the 20 questions routine where the person is trying to talk about me, what I do, etc. The most enjoyable conversations I have had in the past 6 months were about pets. One a dancer who had tropical fish when I was setting up a new aquarium. The other where a dancer was talking about her childhood pet goat. The first was fun because I cared, the second was fun because the other person was clearly having fun. The most mundane things can be fun with a beautiful woman.

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