
Originally Posted by
AMERICAN link=board=27;threadid=6962;start=msg78992#msg7899 2 date=1078016192
I wonder if you women (and men) can agree that with sexual aggression comes other forms of aggression?
If the "feminist" woman continues in her search for aggression, she will most definitely begin to take on male character traits. And there will be more and more women cheating on their spouses, exploding with anger, abusing the people in their lives, becoming addicted to drugs to hide shame, more serial killers........and there will be more women in prison due to aggressive behavior that men are so well known for.
This behavior is not "typical" male behavior. Not just Feminists "take on" this behavior. People who behave in this fashion have taken to blaming their lot in life on other people, instead of taking the responsibility for themselves. People who behave this way are doing what you are doing...telling themselves that OTHER people are the cause of their anger, hate, lust, shame, etc. After enough years of not dealing with the truth and having all of this build up...well, that energy needs to go somewhere and the behavior described is the typical end result. You seem to think that throughout history, there have been nothing but kind-hearted, gentle, loving, accepting women who have just suffered through the most unbearable of human conditions caused by men. This is simply not true...stop being such a victim and take your power back!
Yes, he may be saying non-verbally that I am 'well-pleasing' to the eye....but you know what? Odds are he's in a committed relationship or marriage, so I would like to tell him to go home and give that attention to the woman he supposedly loves and is attracted to!!
And I'm also talking about the man who waits for the opportunity to check me out as soon as his wife or girlfriend turns around. I just see this as very disrespectful to his woman. I just think the woman who is loving him, taking care of him when he gets sick, gives birth to his children, and is his life partner deserves that look....and not me.
Ok...so let me get this straight...you think that because someone is involved in a relationship, then they should no longer look at ANYONE else, if even to say, "Wow...she's a real hottie!"?? You think that once someone finds "the person they love" that means that they go blind except for the "one true love" in their life? How do you even function in a relationship? I find it very hard to believe that you can even find a man that will not even look at another woman when he is in a relationship with you. My SO and I are very committed to each other...and we let each other look at other people. There is nothing wrong with appreciating beauty. There is nothing wrong with seeing someone you find attractive. How do you go to the movies? Don't you think that your bf/husband would be oggling over the movie star? That is not to say that he's drooling and running to the bathroom and jacking off...but,
why is it so wrong to look at another person in a non-sexual way and appreciate their beauty?
And, again, for the last time...say this with me now..."I can NOT control anyone else's decisions, actions, speech, feelings, or thoughts. I can only control my own. I choose to let others do as they please. Nothing anyone does can affect me if I choose to not be affected. I am now removing my DRAMA QUEEN crown and burning it. From this day forward, I will no longer spend my days getting angry about things that I have no control over. My days of drama are gone, and I will be happy working on my own self and finding why I feel and react the way that I keep choosing to. And so it is."
The person who waits for his gf/wife to not be looking to check out someone that he finds attractive is a very typical trait...of a man who is with a woman who is very controlling and very insecure and believes that he is cheating on her by appreciating someone else's beauty. Are you sure that your name is not HELEN EKSTEROWICZ?
This topic has become more and more like a broken record and I no longer wish to participate. I feel sorry that you are choosing to keep doing the same old thing with the same old results. I hope that you find what really makes you happy and go with that. From this point on, I will not be looking at this thread. Have a good day.
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