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    OK.. question for everyone.

    A guy introduced himself to me at the club today who suposivally was a millionaire. The bouncers told me that he gave the girls "BIG MONEY". But after talking to him for a little while he seemed like a jerk. He didnt seem at all educated and said that he made his money by "monopoly", basically saying he owns a lot of land. He kept on throwing the fact out that he had tons of money and that he wouldnt pay anymore then 250k for a new car.
    When i told him i had my real estate license he said that he had horrible experiences with us and when i told him the school i went to he commented back with "i didnt finish high school, i wouldn't know" IN AN arrogant way. Then i proceeded to tell him that it wasn't a college, but just a simple couple of weeks school.
    After a bit of a silence he said that i didnt have to sit here and could visit other customers. I got the idea he wanted me to go??

    . DO you think he was telling me to leave? Should i have stayed? He spent 2k on a girl A week or so ago? This was my first night at the club.. Lets just say i left early with barely any money.

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    awww I am sorry to hear, he sounds like a dick. I hate when I bump into those kinds of customers. Anything you say or do, there is something wrong, or they give an attitude as if they are superior.
    Puh leeeez. I dont know what he was trying to do, but I would have probably left, too.

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    OH AND TO ADD TO THE STORY.. im not working there for the money, i find dancing fun so i try not to put up with jerks. Do you think i was being to sensitive? He came all the way across the club to say hi to me, and i was the only girl who wasnt lavishing him with attention.

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    darling, he was looking for someone to stroke his ego. "wow, a millionaire! You must be so good at wheeling and dealing! Wow, what do you do with all that power?...."

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    Scorpio is right..no matter what my accomplishments are I don't let customers know of them until I get to know the better..Next time he comes in give him a big smile and focus your attention solely on him.
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    Yup, he sounds insecure and was being an ass to build himself up. My guess is he was looking for you to play the part of "the dumb stripper." That way he could feel superior and smarter (he didn't finish high school).
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    good point.... do those things and see how it works out

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    One thing I learned is that guys with a lot of cash WHO SPEND IT will do so without having to talk about how much they make and spend. I learned that lesson really quickly after spending half a night with a guy that bragged about how much money he had, waving hundreds around, etc. There are some that want their ego stroked by how successful they are, but if they are truly generous, they will give as you stroke.

    And as the other girls say, if you run across one of these guys, definitely don't try to impress them. They want to feel superior and admired....so let them have that.

    I think it's best to play stupid as a default. Some girls would disagree, but I think it works best to just smile and nod, but also charming and pleasant to talk to. Don't be boring because you're playing dumb.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily link=board=1;threadid=6914;start=msg77922#msg77922 date=1077783664
    One thing I learned is that guys with a lot of cash WHO SPEND IT will do so without having to talk about how much they make and spend. I learned that lesson really quickly after spending half a night with a guy that bragged about how much money he had, waving hundreds around, etc. There are some that want their ego stroked by how successful they are, but if they are truly generous, they will give as you stroke.
    Very true Emily ..but its important to know the difference between the two types of men and act accordingly. Like Cookie said I think he wanted you to play the dumb role..which I have mastered and use when needed...To be a good dancer is to be an excellent actress !!

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    Emily nailed it.

    People WITH money illustrate it through action, not hot air (or bad breath). It's usually something better kept to themselves as it identifies them as a target. The more egotistical people with money are generally nickel-stuffers (i.e. they see a nickel and stuff it away somewhere), and not going to be your cup of tea in this arena as well.

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    If I had a dime for every customer that has told me that they were millionaires, I would be one myself!!


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    If he wants to actually display himself as the a** that he is, then play dumb, take the money, and run! He'll feel good for one second, but his pockets won't be feeling too nice. Ah-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha!!!

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    Yes he was telling you to move on. Apparently he obtained his money by inheritance. A fool and his money are soon departed, just hope some of that money flows your way.

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    I think that if you are dancing for the FUN and not the MONEY....than damage his ego beyond repair!!!! HAHAHA!!!! I'm such a vengeful, spiteful, and arrogant person that I can't stand to have people insult me or believe that they are better than me, so, were I in your place, I would have sat there and annoyed the shit out of him.....just watching the look on his face as he gets belittled by a stripper......THAT would be way more fun than dancing!!! lol
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    FLDancer that guy sounds like he goes to stripclubs to have his ego stroked and when you didn't attach your lips to his ass he got irritated.
    In a situation like that I'd say its best to move on from these types unless you want to do a best actress worthy performance .

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    I have always found it to be amusing how so many customers will divulge their entire financial portfolio to a dancer within a half hour or so of meeting her; including number of homes owned, their location, and how many expensive sportscars they possess.

    Some of them really ARE rich, as opposed to merely having enough to wear a Rolex, drive an extremely impressive automobile, demonstrate some knowledge of high-finance, and possibly spend a lot when they come in the club. Some of these guys could actually be giving an accurate listing of their assets to someone they have just met.

    Not all of them are assholes. But they all share an irresistable--if generally well disguised--desire to impress young and beautiful women with their wealth and power. You can't blame them too much (unless they really are assholes as well as braggarts), as it works very well with women who are drawn to presumeably wealthy men.

    It is a natural form of the male courtship ritual, in the endless attempt to attract females for mating purposes. Money and its lavish display has replaced the need for crests, antlers, colorful plumage, or fighting skill.

    A more dangerous but generally even more fruitful variant of this kind of show is to flash drugs in large quantities, or make sure to inform the dancer that they (or their friend who is there) is a dealer. This is a great way to wind up in jail if done too often, but it works very well if the target female is into drugs.

    Another variant is to describe past feats of financial prowess, such as how much money they have gladly spent on parties, gigantic food and liquor tabs, flying famous rock bands into town, or my favorite--the entire party to Jamaica. Because "What use is money if you don't have fun with it?", etc.

    I am in total agreement with this sentiment, but on the occasions I have heard that line, it has been from the mouth of someone who was trying way too hard to impress me, and always with an ulterior motive, like the guy who wanted my girl and I to make a porno video.

    I will have to respectfully disagree with Polecat's statement, that "People WITH money illustrate it through action, not hot air." Many people with money will do both, especially in strip clubs. I once met a "billionaire' in one of the seedier clubs I was DJing in. The guy definitely had money, and was willing to spend it on ass-kissers, or women who would blow him. But billionaire? No, or he wouldn't have been in that particular club.
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    I occasionally run into a-holes like that. Anyone who likes to talk about how much money they have are trying to impress people around them, they generally have no friends. I like to "f" with these people and somewhat belittle them. By the time they are done talking to me they have no idea what just happened. It's fun!
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    Quote Originally Posted by cardinal link=board=1;threadid=6914;start=msg78156#msg78156 date=1077827446
    I occasionally run into a-holes like that. Anyone who likes to talk about how much money they have are trying to impress people around them, they generally have no friends. I like to "f" with these people and somewhat belittle them. By the time they are done talking to me they have no idea what just happened. It's fun!
    I'd rather have the money. I don't really get the point of trying to bring them down. If they aren't giving me money, then why would I waste my breath?

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    Every little mommas boy in town is a millionaire when he goes into the strip-club. The few that do have money are smart enough to hold onto it, and the one's that claim they are millionaires but aren't don't have it to spend even if they wanted to. My girlfriend tells me all the time about guys telling her thier whole financial history in the course of a 5 minute dance. 1 guy even brought in a bank statement to show her. I guess when these guys have no looks or personality, the only thing they can try to sell the girls on is their wealth, real or imagined.

    I always tell her that the ones with the most cash keep it quiet, because they know they got it, and they don't need to proove anything to anybody. They don't have to "play the millionaire" in the strip club, because they live it everyday. They already get respect from family and peers, friends and neighbors, they DO NOT need respect from a 20 year old drop out.

    I guess you can't get mad at the guys for lying in the strip-club, the girls all do it too. Look, even the real names of the dancers are often changed. Strip-clubs are all a fantasy, if the guy wants to pretend he's Donald Trump, let him. Just make sure that when he runs out of cash, you move on the the next millionaire. Chances are there will be many "millionaires" in a club on any given night. I wouldn't make fun of the guys pretending to be rich. Just agree with them, remind them how a millionaire tips, and when the money stops, move on. Let the guy go home feeling like a man. He will come back and be a "millionaire" again for you next week, he will just need to put in some overtime hours at his job....

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    Every little jew-boy mommas boy in town


    Pardon me for pulling the P.C.card out, but did you [glow=red,2,300]HAVE[/glow]to say "jew-boy"?

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    there

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    Maybe its just me, but I'd rather present myself as the nonchalant middle of the road customer who has some nice young hotties mercilessly work their charms on him, and as a result he ends up spending a boatload of cash on them.

    While I've never brought a boatload of cash to a strip club, I have way more fun spending what money I do have than bragging about it, or using it as leverage to treat the dancers like dirt.

    Money should only talk when the guy is willing to hand it over.
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    Why is everyone so down on guys that want their egos stroked and feel good about their accomplishments (real or imagined)?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily link=board=1;threadid=6914;start=msg78242#msg78242 date=1077839672
    Why is everyone so down on guys that want their egos stroked and feel good about their accomplishments (real or imagined)?
    Good point. I think that by itself is just fine. Hell I go to SCs to feel good about myself too. It's when people put down others to build themselves up that it becomes a problem. It sounds like her customer was trying to be arrogant and condescending towards her to make himself sound like a 'big man.' That's not cool.

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    ok.. I would have just sat there and lisened to it, but it seemed like he wanted me to smile pretty and have no mind.
    Maybe it cost me a bit to walk away, but im there for the experience.

    This guy has money, no doubt about that.. I do think he wanted me to "stroke" his ego. Maybe its in the job description? But id rather spend my time with someone who has something else to talk/brag about.

    I was just wondering if he was asking me to leave? And i can see from everyone's comments that most likely he was. Im cool with that, hey i wouldn't have approached him in the first place!

    As far as guys with money.. I get told a lot by men that they have this and that and that doesn't bother me, i think it was his arrogance that went along with it.

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