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    Reznor
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    Default Boyfriend not comfy with the idea of stripping....

    And I'm okay with that, and as a sort of compromise, we've talked about me just waitressing at a club instead. I noticed when I worked at the Vu that they occassionally had the waitress(es) get on stage and drop trou when said stage was empty, and was wondering if this is the norm everywhere? Also, what kinds of things can I expect as a waitress (in general)?

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    Default Re:Boyfriend not comfy with the idea of stripping....

    I dance rather than waitress, but in all the clubs I've worked at, I've never seen waitresses required to get on stage. There was one waitress who would do dances, but never got on stage (she had been a dancer at the club in years prior)- none of the other waitresses dance.
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    Default Re:Boyfriend not comfy with the idea of stripping....

    Why isn't your boyfriend comfy with the idea of stripping??? He should get onto stripper web and read what it is really about. There is nothing to be uncomfortable about. Besides, boyfriend and husband are two different things.......if he's not paying your bills he has no right to tell you where to work. But that is stepping a little out of my bounds and making snap judgements......

    If you start out waitressing, you will soon realize how much fun and money the dancers are getting and you might change routes. If he is worried about you meeting another man or cheating, you are more likely to do that as a waitress than a stripper don't you think?

    Do you have waitressing experience? In some busy clubs you really got be fast! If it's money you want get a job bartending at a real bar or waitressing somewhere fancy. If it's a strip club fantasy that you are persuing than go for the full monty!!!
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    Default Re:Boyfriend not comfy with the idea of stripping....

    I've been a waitress in a bar, though not a SC. What kinds of things can you expect as a waitress? To work twice as hard for less money. Like MD said waitressing is not as easy as it looks. If he's not comfortable with you stripping, he's probably not going to be comfortable with you waitressing in a SC either. No matter what he says right now.
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    Default Re:Boyfriend not comfy with the idea of stripping....

    Hey Rezor,

    Im was in your situation, my boyfriend (of 2 years) couldnt stand the idea of me dancing. So I said fine, I would like to be a waitress at the SC then. Yeah, he was cool with that until I got hired and was going to work that night. He got upset when I was getting dressed to go to work so, I ended up not going and was pretty damn miserable. We continued to go to strip clubs ( i love the women) and have a good time, however, I could never shake the idea of wanting to dance.
    Well the club(nude) I was going to go and audition at has closed down, so i think he thought "well that's over" but I still wanted to dance. No matter what I was doing my mind would jump back to me dancing.
    I needed to know why my boyfriend was so against me dancing, and as much as I claimed it was control issues, i knew damn well that in the back of my mind (eventhough i will not admit this shhhh) that he was actually worried about my safety. Yes, there are bouncers at the SC, but they arent always around when you need them ( it only takes once.)
    So now that I knew what his reson is, I realized I needed to assure him that I was aware of his safety concerns. I have accomplished this by asking him about proper ways to defend myself, buying mase and tazors, and I also plan on enrolling in a real self defense class (...not the gym class kind).
    So basically, you need to find out was really eating at him about you dancing, safety, cheating, whatever, but find out out. I can guarantee you that if you REALLY WANT TO DANCE, waitressing isnt going to do anything but make you realize how much more you would rather be dancing.
    I wish you and your man the best of luck, let me know how everything works out.

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    Default Re:Boyfriend not comfy with the idea of stripping....

    {Why isn't your boyfriend comfy with the idea of stripping??? He should get onto stripper web and read what it is really about. There is nothing to be uncomfortable about. Besides, boyfriend and husband are two different things.......if he's not paying your bills he has no right to tell you where to work. But that is stepping a little out of my bounds and making snap judgements......}

    In this household we spilt and share the bills, just because you get married doesnt mean anything. I know a lot of women who are supporting there dead-beat husbands. I just try to see the situation from the reverse snenario..."what if he wanted to be a stripper, how comfortable would I be? In this occupation there are many things that would make any one significant other uncomfortable. All you can do is take this one day at a time, and if the both of you want your relationship to work, you do so against all odds.

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