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    i work in a midsized club in indiana. i don't do anything out of the ordinary when doing a dance. nothing that i wouldn't do in front of my boyfriend. i have fun and try to keep it tasteful. but there are some girls at the club that are always starting trouble. not only with me but other dancers as well. every fri there is at least one girl going to beat another girl up for "being a ho" i'm the type that minds my own business and just does my job but i've been accused of performing extras. so i don't give any credit to the rumors that i hear about others. i'm just tired of all the drama in the dressing room. i've been dancing for a year and this is the only club i've worked at that the dancers are working against each other. i don't know whether to continue to igonore the girls or argue back. i dont want to talk to managment. but if they want to get down to the matter i've seen some of their own with customers hands on them , and know of a few that will meet cutomers out of the club.

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    Do not argue back is my advice. It will bum you out and stress you out and get you sucked in and will be a huge waste of time. This crap happens in every club. Repeat: this happens in every club. Some dressing rooms are just more out of control than others.

    I get ready before I go to work and spend as little time in the dressing room as possible. I don't worry about what the other girls are doing or how much they appear to be making. It's really important to ignore the bullshit.

    My advice: focus on your own game and if your club really sucks find a new one.



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    I work in Indiana too.There are some evil ladies in Indiana,I agree.I would not worry about unless they say it directly to you.There will always be 2 faced bitches talking trash.They are just jealous,you must be a better dancer,have better body or make more $$.I have had same things said about me.I confronted the girl in front of others.It eventually stopped.The rumors had even got to some of the customers,I just would say ,I thought me and the dancer spreading rumors were friends,and I dont know why she would say that and dont know why she is being mean so on,and so on.Boy would I get sympathy tips into her telling customers bullshit to me getting extra money.

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    Jelousy, jelousy, jelousy.....the girls there might not have anything better to talk about? I managed a fast food restaurant for some time and took my crew from bad attitudes to please and thank you's and friendship and respect all around. My best advice over all is to smile at everyone and remain the good, honest girl. Put a positive spin on everything if you get sucked into conversation and lead by example. Although, do refraim from negative body language or eye rolling. Pretend like you NEVER hear any of those silly rumors.
    I'd suggest -- don't make friends... you obviously can't tell who is stabbing who in the back or who has what motives. Might as well stay neutral. Who was it that told you those rumors were going around? I would DEFINETELY question their motives. Why would they want to make you feel bad.
    As for the extra's rumors, if your not doing them you have nothing to worry about so just chill out and don't get mad or it will fuel the girls fire, just nicely deny all false claims.
    Those who bring sunshine into lives of others, cannot keep it from themselves.

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    thank-you for all of your advice. i've been ignoring the rumors and not responding to them and i'll just continue unless one of them come to my face. then i'll try not to get loud. i guess because i'm not the type to cause trouble for someone i just don't know how to handle when someone starts in on me.
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    ITts the nature of the business. If you start at a club as a dancer, always say hello and goob-bye. Period. I have never been hit or threatened by a dancer i believe because i mind my own business. I think in most cases it's when a dancer becomes friends with others that problems begin.

    I have been called a "Lone Wolf" in the club on this board, and will not dispute that. I was/am when it comes to dancing. And that is what kept my ass out of rumours and fights.

    I am there to make money not friends.

    Best advice i know of is to remain by yourself, and do a damn good job! Sure they will talk, but don't care.

    Pamela

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