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    Default I don't know what to do.

    There is a new dancer at my club who has a serious B.O problem. I just encountered her for the first time yesterday and didn't know what to do. I tried to have a conversation with her in hopes that I could find a polite way of letting her know about freshening up before going out to hussle but I couldn't find the words. None of the other dancers know how to bring it up to her but I've overheard some of them talking about her when she isn't in the dressing room... it reeks of her (our dressing room is extremely small) so it is hard not to notice. I don't want to hurt her feeling should I just keep quiet like everyone else or should I say something?
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    Default Re:I don't know what to do.

    How about every other dancer in the club buying a can of 'Secret', and hosing the new dancer down from head to foot ? I think that she'll get the idea !

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    Default Re:I don't know what to do.

    When you are in the dressing room with her maybe you could sum up some courage and be bold. Act like you are smelling something for the first time and be like "I think one of us has been sweat'in tonight. Oh so and so I think it is you" "Here.... use my secret"
    Then maybe have a bottle of body spray prepared to offer her as a casual gift.

    Maybe she is allergic to perfumes and can't wear deoderants or something.

    She probably has no idea she stinks. When you tell her casually and in a relaxed way---like you all smell from time to time-maybe she will admit to having a medical problem.

    I've heard from many sources the Certain-Dry is amazing stuff. Doctors can cure her funk as well.

    Maybe if you wait it out a guy will tell her she smells?
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    Default Re:I don't know what to do.

    It's been a few days. have you done anything?
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    Default Re:I don't know what to do.

    Yeah whats been going on?
    I would feel too bad to tell her she stinks, so I'd probably come into the dressing room and say it smells funny... then I'd say, "I hope its not me!" hehehe Make it a joke or something. Hopefully she gets the hint. I bet the customers are grossed out, as well.
    Have you spoken to her?

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    Default Re:I don't know what to do.

    you are probably talking about me!
    last week i thought i would try something different and bought that crystal stone deoterant and it does NOT work.

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    I like Melonie's idea of a group spray attack.

    I just want to know, how does this girl make any money smelling so bad? And how come she can't notice herself how nasty she smells?

    Is she a newbie dancer or a veteran? Years of experience have taught me that veteran smelly dancer=habitual drug user completely gone out of thier mind.

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    Oh yeah, I didn't think it could be a drug problem, but that makes perfect sense!!! NawtyGirl, the real one, you are good.
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    For the love of god say something nicely to her!

    (Warning: another story ahead!)

    Two years ago on a hot summer night, I was doing particularly well. I had dance after dance all night. Another girl and I were working a table of cute guys. One guy was trying to talk his buddie who I was standing right next to into getting a dance from me. He pointed to the other girl and said (as the music lowered) "no way, she smells better." Praying that he was talking about our body sprays I ran into the locker room and did a pit check. Sure as sh*t I had horrible B.O. It was sooo embarassing! I had no idea. I wish someone would have warned me before the whole room heard that guy. Oh the humility.

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    Oh dear MacKenzie that is embarrassing! I am soooo odor paranoid, I never rely on just deodorant to keep away the smellies. I regularly hose myself throughly with body spray, pits and all. This way even if you're sweaty and the deodorant stops working, the spray can mask it. On a particularly sweaty shift, I'll just wipe the pits (and other areas) down with baby wipes and apply fresh deodorant and spray. I know sometimes it's so busy it's hard to take a break to get back there, so do it after stage, or say, after every $X earned.

    But yeah, I think this girl needs to be told something. Nawty is right though, if she's a veteran dancer she most likely has a bad drug problem and won't be helped. In that case, perhaps solicit the help of some of the more cool regulars. Get them to complain to the manager about Miss Stinky and maybe he'll get something done about it.

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    Default Re:I don't know what to do.

    hey Bridgette,

    this post is off topic, but my private messages aren't working!! ...

    i'm 18, in phx also... i searched for phx and saw that you have danced at many clubs and i need your advice on picking one!! I've had one experience with a club that i'll never go back to.. i'll tell you about it

    please IM me on XxEvolutionzxX93... it's AIM.. i'd really like to talk to you!!!

    thanx
    Alexis

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    Default Re:I don't know what to do.

    You could slip an anonymous note in her locker
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    Default Re:I don't know what to do.

    speaking of B.O... theres this Indian gil at my gym. Shes quite cute and works out like a manaic. Anyway, she doesnt smell of sweat, she smells of B.O. (onions, if you will) and she always seems to come and work out next to me. That shit STICKS. So I look around and try to move away so the others dont think its me.
    Anyway, some people just have really bad B.O. from the fodo they eat. Her white tee shirts are immaculate... no yellow stains or anything, so I just think she smells from the food seeping out of her body. She looks very clean, but smells wretched. YUCK

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    Default Re:I don't know what to do.

    I would say to her..

    "hey (then use a name like sweetie or ma ma or honey cutie baby...blah blah ---so she knows you arent being a bitch) i think you may need a little more deoderant...you have a little BO" but pull her a side so no one heres you say it. just between you and her

    i am sure she will be appreciative..maybe embarressed but deffinatly grateful....



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    Default Re:I don't know what to do.

    I say let her reek and it's one less girl to take your money!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexi link=board=27;threadid=7137;start=msg83488#msg8348 8 date=1079070509
    speaking of B.O... theres this Indian gil at my gym. Shes quite cute and works out like a manaic. Anyway, she doesnt smell of sweat, she smells of B.O. (onions, if you will) and she always seems to come and work out next to me. That shit STICKS. So I look around and try to move away so the others dont think its me.
    Anyway, some people just have really bad B.O. from the fodo they eat. Her white tee shirts are immaculate... no yellow stains or anything, so I just think she smells from the food seeping out of her body. She looks very clean, but smells wretched. YUCK
    I've read a little about sweat and I may be wrong but this is just putting some facts together...

    You said this girl is Indian and at least where I'm at, Indians eat a LOT of their traditional food. Apparently eating curries and the like contribute to smelly sweat leading to bad B.O. if not taken care of properly. It is likely she smells like onions because of her traditional diet I am sure. Exercise sweat should carry no odour so I guess this is the reason.

    However, when you sweat when you are scared, that causes a stink.
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    Hmmm that is an akward situation...I would tell her though, just do it nicely in private so she is not embarrassed...I mean I would want someone to let me know if I reeked! Melonie, I wish we could use that idea for CUSTOMERS...before every dance, the girls surround him with spray cans and let loose! haha, that would make my life a whole lot easier, we get some seriously stinky ones! O and you gotta love the guys that keep on farting the whole time and pretending neither one of you notices! lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Malibu link=board=27;threadid=7137;start=msg83879#msg8387 9 date=1079187229
    Quote Originally Posted by Lexi link=board=27;threadid=7137;start=msg83488#msg8348 8 date=1079070509
    speaking of B.O... theres this Indian gil at my gym. Shes quite cute and works out like a manaic. Anyway, she doesnt smell of sweat, she smells of B.O. (onions, if you will) and she always seems to come and work out next to me. That shit STICKS. So I look around and try to move away so the others dont think its me.
    Anyway, some people just have really bad B.O. from the fodo they eat. Her white tee shirts are immaculate... no yellow stains or anything, so I just think she smells from the food seeping out of her body. She looks very clean, but smells wretched. YUCK
    I've read a little about sweat and I may be wrong but this is just putting some facts together...

    You said this girl is Indian and at least where I'm at, Indians eat a LOT of their traditional food. Apparently eating curries and the like contribute to smelly sweat leading to bad B.O. if not taken care of properly. It is likely she smells like onions because of her traditional diet I am sure. Exercise sweat should carry no odour so I guess this is the reason.

    However, when you sweat when you are scared, that causes a stink.
    Yes, Malibu, thats what I said in my post. I think its the food she eats that causes that, so I was thinking it may be the same thing happening to the girl at the SC. Its very, very strong, right? I always blamed it on the diet. You also mention that if not taken care of properly, it causes b.o.
    I totally agree, because even when I eat all my spicy food and stuff, I never reek. So maybe she (the girl at the SC and the girl at my gym) just need to get better deodorant.

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    Default Re:I don't know what to do.

    some people also aren't aware of proper hygeine techniques. i have a friend (not a dancer or anywhere near one) who was never taught things like that growing up. so she's still learning now. and it's hard for people to inform her of her b.o. issues cause she's such a sweet girl/ young lady no one wants to hurt her feelings. but two women we know who basically carry out the roles of mom and auntie to her plan on having a girl's refresher day with us so to speak. for me so i can learn how to get made up and not be obvious i guess for her to help her out, for us to just relax without the guys around.

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    Mariah you are so naughty!! LOL

    People with normal diets don't have BO until the sweat mixes with bacteria. But people who eat strong food, like in the example, or are alcoholics or something....their body chemistry changes and their sweat and normal oil secretions has a bad smell.

    My mom was an alcoholic, so I can smell one a mile away. It's the most disgusting smell to me.

    My old apartment complex was full of Indian and middle eastern students- it was a place right by campus known by their culture or something. THe place was sworming with foreign students and it always smelled like Currie and other nasty smells. I loved my roommate. She was from Iran and rarely cooked, but the hole apartment complex still had a bad odor to it. Blahhhh. I moved!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mariah link=board=27;threadid=7137;start=msg83868#msg8386 8 date=1079179458
    I say let her reek and it's one less girl to take your money!
    Yep my sentiments exactly, especially if she didn't ask for my advice.

    I know it's jaded. It may seem like a little issue but telling her is kinda going out on a limb and for what? Best case scenario she makes more money. Worst case she gets offended and tells your best regular you fucked her boyfriend for $50. Neither benefit you.
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    Default Re:I don't know what to do.

    If she's a newbie: Next time you're both in the dressing room, something like "what kind of deodorant do you use?" if she says "secret" or ANYTHING, say "oh, that stuff is annoying, you have to wipe down with a babywipe or shower right before using or it never works right! And I always have to re-apply it all night.." etc. Basically, make it sound like you were going to have a conversation on deodorant and got sidetracked. If she says something really naive, like "oh, I don't wear any" THEN say something like "gracious, when you're dancing you HAVE to use it, esp. right after your work shower." emphasize that you should shower before coming into work, all the deodorant in the world could just be covering up what simple hygiene would help.

    If she's a vet and has something like a drug problem, I really don't know...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexi link=board=27;threadid=7137;start=msg83488#msg8348 8 date=1079070509
    speaking of B.O... theres this Indian gil at my gym. Shes quite cute and works out like a manaic. Anyway, she doesnt smell of sweat, she smells of B.O. (onions, if you will) and she always seems to come and work out next to me. That shit STICKS. So I look around and try to move away so the others dont think its me.
    Anyway, some people just have really bad B.O. from the fodo they eat. Her white tee shirts are immaculate... no yellow stains or anything, so I just think she smells from the food seeping out of her body. She looks very clean, but smells wretched. YUCK
    Onions and garlic seep through the skin.. if you ever cut onions up for cooking or garlic, smell your hands... even after you wash them, hours later they still smell.. If someone is taking Garlic pills, or eats a tremendous amount of garlic or onion, you can smell it due to their body releasing it from sweat, etc... Someone can be very very clean, but still smell if this is the case...


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    I don't understand how she manages to keep any customers. Anyway, no it would not be a good idea to talk to her about it. Get a can of room deoderizer and let off a burst when she enters the room.

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