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    Default Only getting dances from one dancer?

    Hi recently a new girl came to our club from another club. She brought a slew of regulars from her other club to ours. I've annoyingly ran into several of them. All times she has been busy somewhere eles and I ask them if they would like a dance to kill the time while they wait for her and they all say they only came to see her. I watch as every pretty girl comes up to them later and they all turn them down. I just don't understand the reasoning of several guys only getting dances from one girl. I mean i understand them getting dances form them when they are available and stuff but arent they there for varity in the first place. Don't they get bored getting dances from the same girl over and over again? I mean they are acting like they are married to this woman. It is just annyoing that i keep running into thease guys and waisting a song talking to them untill they say "is so and so here?" Then i'm like oh god he is not going to get a dance.RARRRRRRRRRRRHHH!

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    Default Re:Only getting dances from one dancer?

    They are probably pretty attached to her if they switched clubs because of her. it isn't fair...but instead of screaming about it, find out what she's doing (and report to us!)

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    Default Re:Only getting dances from one dancer?

    It could also be that she is giving them "incentive extras". One girl at my old club did this. If her guys came in and they didn't get a dance with anyone else...just her, then she would give them a "thank you" extra. Grrrrrrrrr....

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    Some guys are just that pathetic... they believe that if they come in to her see her enough times that maybe she will want him the way he wants her. So he feels if he has any interest in another girl then he might loose any chance with the one he is really infactuated with.
    *She doesn't even have to be one of those "offering" girls.* :/
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    Default Re:Only getting dances from one dancer?

    you know what? i dont see where the problem is here ,...she is new to the club she brought her own customers whats wrong with that?....so what they don't buy dances from other girls if they wanted to buy dances from other girls i'm sure they would have stayed at the other club she was working at .......because someone has a regular customer thats attached by the hip doesn't mean that she is doing extras .....some girls just know how to have a good conversation maybe they enjoy her company .....
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    Default Re:Only getting dances from one dancer?

    A lot of guys patronize strip clubs to only get dances from a particular girl. This new girl has probably been dancing for a while and has accumulated quite a following of regulars. She is probably those guys' favorite and they want to give their money and attention only to her. I am sure many girls here have at least one customer who only gets dances from them...I had a couple, and some other dancers got really catty about it. I'm sure it can be annoying that some of the customers at your club are only holding out for one girl, but there are plenty of customers there who aren't holding out for her too.

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    Default Re:Only getting dances from one dancer?

    I would set it as my goal to get dances from those guys! Thank that girl for bringing customers into the club and start dreaming up ways to get dances from them.

    Sit and talk a minute, go for the dance, and when he says " No I'm waiting for so-and-so" put one hand inside his thigh, stroke his leg, then lean in real close and whisper/purr in his ear: "I'm better. I promise. Let's go." Then grab his hand and pull and see if he goes. And be better!

    Or talk her up, saying how cool it is she's bringing all these new guys into the club and then point out all the guys waiting for her. Maybe they don't know about each other? They do now!

    Try selling him a 2-for-1 as a sample of your wares (IF it won't cost you money) then upsell him by asking if he wants another (full price). Make those first two dances awesome.

    Finally, if that doesn't work, talk to him a bit and find out what he drinks. Buy him a drink and tell him you know he's not going to buy a dance because you know so-and-so's customers are not allowed to get dances from other girls (hit him in his pride). But you are glad he is there because it's nice to see a new face. Alchohol weakens resolve. He may ask you for a dance.
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    This post bothers me, she is new and she has her own regulars....they only get dances from her...SO WHAT? Why is it immediatley the assumption that she must be giving "extras." Here is thought, she just maybe that damn good at what she does. Geez these kinda things is what worries me about about going to audition and beginning to work at a club. Im going to be the new girl, and if by chance I develop a "following" some other dancer is going to come up with the idea that I am doing extra's, paying off the management, something. Sad, very, SAD.
    Are there any clubs where the girls dont spend there time accusing other dancers of this or that? One where the girls even (Oh I dont know) Congratulate each other, instead of hating on each other. Or is this just too much of a ridiculous idea?
    I have gotta wonder

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    There's no deep dark secret here. The guys just enjoy this particular girl's company. And they want to save their money so they can spend as much time as possible with her. I've done it myself because Id rather get to know one girl really well than a bunch of them casually. What's wrong with that, I'm sure you all have your regulars too. If you're nice to these guys and get to know them a little, sooner or later some of them will buy dances from you too.
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    I hear you, it is annoying when you're one of the prettiest and friendliest girls in the club, and Joe Schmo still says "I only get dances from so-and-so." I think to myself, they could at least give me a try! There's really not much you can do to change these guys' minds and make them get a dance from you. Every customer has their favorite girl, and I'm sure that there are guys who only get dances from you as well.

    At least these guys are spending money in the club and getting dances from one girl instead of sitting there milking one beer all night and not tipping or buying dances. Now THOSE are the guys I can't stand, the ones coming in wanting a free show. Also, at least these guys are being honest with you instead of saying "Maybe later." I hate it when guys say "maybe later" when they really mean no.






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    Default Re:Only getting dances from one dancer?

    I just wanted to say that I'd go to my club to see my ATF, and I'd usually just want to spend my money on her. Probably the fact that I didn't have a whole lot to money spread around had something to do with it. She wasn't giving me any "extras", but I knew she appreciated my loyalty and I liked her a lot. I never thought there was anything really negative to this, except maybe getting too attached to a single dancer.
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    The only thing that really bothers me about this is wasting my time talking to them without knowing they won't buy a dance from me anyway. Uhhhh i just hate wasting time even if it is only one song. Practicaly every guy i sit and chat with for a song from me or buys one for his friend sometimes they say no but it is rare really. It just annoys me that i wasted time that is all. I with i had special radar that says " so and so's regular" do not approach!!!

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    Default Re:Only getting dances from one dancer?

    Some girls in my club give regular customers discounted dances because they keep returning. This is against managments rules but they seem to get away with it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PoleKitten21 link=board=27;threadid=7156;start=msg81302#msg8130 2 date=1078525842

    Are there any clubs where the girls dont spend there time accusing other dancers of this or that? One where the girls even (Oh I dont know) Congratulate each other, instead of hating on each other. Or is this just too much of a ridiculous idea?
    Maybe... in a parallel universe. Nature of the business... you can't be 'friends' with everyone. You can strive to be friendly with them however there are just some people you just won't get along with... plus also the politics that is always present when humans work together (be it an office, strip club or other environment).

    I don't socialise with any of the dancers outside of work as they all have dramas that I do not want in my life. Instead, I just act 'chummy' with them. Dancers in the club know which dancers I'm affliated with more than others.



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    What's wrong with having regulars? Don't we all have customers who come into the club to see us? I really don't see why this should upset you more than any other "no." You're never going to sell every single guy. Focus on developing your clientele.

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    I really have to agree with Pan Dah.

    If I go into a restaurant to get a steak and the server spends 2 minutes trying to sell me the King Crab legs and not taking a polite hint that I KNOW WHAT I WANT, I start to get angry and rude.

    Sorry but if my mind is made up, be polite and make a joke or something and maybe I'll remember you favorably when things are too busy. I do not know how many times I have gotten dances from ladies for sales jobs done weeks before, or dancers I have written off before because of rudeness.

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    Default Re:Only getting dances from one dancer?

    This girl sounds cool to me -- better her bringing in her own regulars than taking yours.

    I doubt she's doing extras. It's easy enough for a guy to find a girl who'll do that - why switch clubs? And I doubt it's about any tricks -- if you find yourself getting along well with a customer - naturally -- that's a potential regular. Sounds like she's just got something special about her going on (which may be way more than meets the eye). I'd give her credit for that!

    As for the guys waiting however long for her, it reminds me of a line from "7 Minutes (More or Less)" by Dramarama:

    sometimes she makes you wait in line
    some stupid batman takes his time
    it makes you yell out loud
    hey, ‘I’m so special’

    cool song....
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    Default Re:Only getting dances from one dancer?

    Well Pan Dah, you have to break some eggs to make an omlette, right?

    Lilac, my advice is just to try to put a positve spin on the situation. You can see it as wasted time, or you can realize that more guys in the club mean more guys for you and play the numbers game.

    Chat em up. Try some stuff. See what happens. Not all guys are so sensitive about having pretty girls pay attention to them.

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    Default Re:Only getting dances from one dancer?

    I'm afraid up until recently, I was a one-woman man within a given club, partly because it's simpler. And it's easier to say "no". You also get that consistency of conversation and dance.

    It sounds like your biggest problem is they need T-shirts saying "Property of Dancer X".

    I'd be proud to wear a "Property of Lilac" shirt...lol :o

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    Quote from Lilac
    I just don&#039;t understand the reasoning of several guys only getting dances from one girl. I mean i understand them getting dances form them when they are available and stuff but arent they there for varity in the first place. Don&#039;t they get bored getting dances from the same girl over and over again?
    In a extreme case i&#039;ve heard of a girl f---ing the big spenders outside the club just to have them come in and only spend on her.Dont know why she would do this,maybe for power over the other girls.

    In her defense maybe she is fun to be with at the club and has made alot of friends.Most of the entertainers who&#039;ve danced for me just dont seem to be into it,maybe they&#039;re burnt out or just bored.I&#039;ve only met one or two girls that i would follow to another club or souly spend money on but thats just silly really.

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    Default Re:Only getting dances from one dancer?

    Eventually her regulars will tire of her and move on. It happens to us all. Cultivate them, Lilac, just the same as you would any other non-spender. Is the club slow? Find one and chat him up. Is the club busy? Take thirty seconds out of your time to say hello and remark on how busy it&#039;s been, give a quick hug and say how nice it is to see a familiar face and then tell him to have a good time, you&#039;re off to scout fresh prey.

    Work your business to maximize your long-term money rather than your short term money. Obviously these customers are excellent regulars. Should any of them decide one, three or six months down the road that they need a fresh face, you want them to first think of you. It&#039;s time consuming, but it&#039;s also the difference between $20 right now or $1600 four months from now.

    And I highly recommend you study this dancer and her methods. She&#039;s got game, baby, and picking up a few tricks from a money-making pro is never a bad thing.
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    I also think there&#039;s a price factor to be considered here. If I&#039;m in a club where private dances are inexpensive ($10-15) I&#039;m much more likely to try a different girl while waiting for my favorite. But if the dances are fairly expensive ($20+) I&#039;ll usually save my money for my favorite girl.
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    Just for the record...I wasn&#039;t say that this particular dancer WAS doing extras...I was merely stating what I saw happen in my own club. I know that a lot of guys go to see one particular person and do not buy dances from other girls because they only have x amount of dollars. Not enough to sample the whole club, but just enough to get what they know they enjoy.

    Anyways...just wanted to clear that up.

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    Default Re:Only getting dances from one dancer?

    A lot of good observations here.

    One thing that I&#039;d like to add is even though she brought a slew of regulars with her, she is but ONE person, and can only attend to one of them at a time. Unless she is incredibly organized at scheduling them where they don&#039;t show up at once (in which case I highly recommend following her example), she&#039;s likely to have situations where one or more of them are getting antzy waiting for her to finish with the first regular.

    Nobody likes to be waiting that long, in which case its always good for a customer to have a &#039;B&#039; girl available, when he can&#039;t get to his &#039;A&#039; girl. While I&#039;d avoid cattyness, there&#039;s nothing wrong with some friendly chat or putting a little pizazz into your stage set to remind them of this. If they bring her name up, you should speak well of her, telling them what a great asset she has been since arriving at your club. In a catty environment like that, positive comments tend to stick out. A former favorite of mine always spoke well of her co-workers.

    So don&#039;t think that you&#039;re wasting your time by chatting with these guys. Will you neccesarily sell a dance to them that night, or the next? Probably not. But several weeks down the road, that conversation that you&#039;re giving them now just might pay off big. Remember, she doesn&#039;t OWN those guys. If your friendly efforts raise you to &#039;B&#039; girl status with a customer, and things go sour between him and the &#039;A&#039; girl, then congrats, you&#039;re the top candidate to replace her. Good luck.
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    I brought a regular to my new club and heonlyspends money on me. This is the whole idea of having a regular. It makes your night easy to know you only have to sit in one place. Also I think the customer feels guilty if they get a dance from anither girl because they now the ettiquettebetween dancers which is not to even ask a girls regualr for a dance!!!!!!

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