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    has anyone ever become friends with a man they met at work? is it possible? i met a really cool guy at work last night, and i didnt give him any dances and i didnt get any money from him - but i had a good time talking to him and he invited me to hang out with him sometime. would it be unethical for me to do so?

    and while we are on the subject what about dating customers? ive been attracted to customers before but not done anything about it, do you think it would be wrong if someone did?

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    I think if you are going completely off of your feelings. If he didn't give you money and there is something that brings you closer, then go for it. Good luck sweety :-)

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    I wouldn't make it the norm to pick up guys from work--you'll end up with a lot of losers. But if only make exceptions for exceptional guys then yeah, you can find a gem or two.

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    There's nothing unethical about it! Don't feel bad for thinking it. BUT I wouldn't bother. At a bare minimum the guy just wants an ego boost -- there are hotties that you won't meet in the club situation, and they're much more worth your time. And if they don't know you dance to start with, then you know they're not dating you b/c of what you do.
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    Unethical? No. Just by the sheer numbers of people we meet in a given week, we are bound to meet genuine people whom we identify with and could possibly imagine and desire to make long-lasting friendships with. As long as you don't cross your own personal customer/friend boundaries then don't think twice. There are a lot of guys out there who understand us for what we are, not as the stereotype..
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    I have become good friends with a man I met at work. It was clear that something"clicked" between us and he would come see me once aweek and tip me on stage and buy a few dances. Once we decided to see each other outside of work he stopped being my customer though and I am glad. It gets too messy to continue to take money from a good friend and I would rather have him as a friend than a customer.

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    All good answers, but here's a BIG problem. You like a guy and see him outside the club. He turns out to be someone who just wants an ego boost. He tells other dancers he's dating you. You end up with a ho rep in the club and your best regulars want nothing to do with you.

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    I dont think there is anything wrong, but try to remember about how cool he will feel. Unless he is a truly nice guy, remember that a lot of guys will tell their friends they met you at a club as a stripper, etc...
    Just make sure you feel 100% comfortable with being his friend, and that hes not one of the constant guys who asks to "hang out' after work, or whatever because there are many of those.
    Good luck hun

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    I do not think it is unethical. But really it is only your opinion that counts. What is unethical to one person is not to another. It is all realitive really. If you think about it alot of people meet people to date or friends at there job in general. I mean where eles are you going to meet? But I wouldn't make a habit of it. Like Marhah said you could end up with alot of losers. I found most men that frequent strip clubs have alot of issues they need to resolve and are not happy in there lives for some reason ( just in general not everyone!) Well good luck!

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    For what it's worth, my closest friend is a girl I met 7 years ago when she was a stripper and I was her best customer. When she quit we just continued to get together now and then and things just grew, we really hit it off. I doubt if this happens very often but it does happen. And we're both glad it did.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lilac666 link=board=27;threadid=7177;start=msg81543#msg8154 3 date=1078596241
    I found most men that frequent strip clubs have alot of issues they need to resolve and are not happy in there lives for some reason ( just in general not everyone!)
    Agreed. I've found that the same holds true for some dancers (some, not all). I guess we're all messed-up in our own way. Then again, I could think of worse things we could be doing.

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    All good answers, but here's a BIG problem. You like a guy and see him outside the club. He turns out to be someone who just wants an ego boost. He tells other dancers he's dating you. You end up with a ho rep in the club and your best regulars want nothing to do with you.
    Sure, that can happen anywhere. If you mind your own business at the club and don't make friends with anyone anyway, keep your mouth shut, it should not matter.....its ridiculous to scare someone into thinking they cannot date someone they meet at work, or even work with...how do you think people get together these days? We can't all meet our SO in internet chat rooms or pay for their attentions like some of you winners...

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    My guy friends (none of whom know im about to start dancing) have befriended a few dancers and do random trips to Vegas with them... they have a lot of fun with the girls and in theory treat them like friends, but when the girls aren't there the boys completely objectify them. And they tell anyone who asks that they picked them up at a strip club.

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    I have a few friends that were once custies. One used to come in and spend major $$ on me but he kept pushing for something OTC. I told him I was married and he still kept coming in but we developed more of a friendship. He doesn't spend as much money on dances (with me or other girls) but when he comes into town he almost always takes me out to dinner at a pricey restaurant and still tips me very well on stage.

    Another used to lived in my club and got to know everyone there. My husband was a DJ there at the time and he new this. He's not coming in as much anymore but we still hang out and he now plays golf with my husband.

    The third has never really been a big spender but he was consistant. We've known each other for about 5 years and we've definately become friends. He calls me his therapist. He still comes in once a week and gets dances but it's usually us just sitting and talking.

    All three of these men have met my husband.There some of the greatest guys I know.

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